Class of March 2016 part 51
Hmmm....I never really thought about it that way. Just seems to make sense to me to make sure everyone's safe.
Kiki, you and I have a similar situation and I feel for you.
Here's some things I think I've learned from my own. There are times when my wife drinks and her drinking kind of disgusts me. These are the days when she starts drinking in the morning or becomes mostly incoherent or something like that. On these days, to me, she is not a normal drinker - she is a problem drinker. On these days it's easy for me to not drink. Then there are days when she kind of drinks normally - just a few glasses with dinner. I find on these days I get mad at her for drinking. But I think I am really mad at me for not being a normal drinker. This is what I try and understand - it's my problem, not hers (even though she may have her own problem).
I wish she would just not drink, but she gets to make her own decisions.
Good luck with the counseling and glad you came and posted. That takes some strength.
Here's some things I think I've learned from my own. There are times when my wife drinks and her drinking kind of disgusts me. These are the days when she starts drinking in the morning or becomes mostly incoherent or something like that. On these days, to me, she is not a normal drinker - she is a problem drinker. On these days it's easy for me to not drink. Then there are days when she kind of drinks normally - just a few glasses with dinner. I find on these days I get mad at her for drinking. But I think I am really mad at me for not being a normal drinker. This is what I try and understand - it's my problem, not hers (even though she may have her own problem).
I wish she would just not drink, but she gets to make her own decisions.
Good luck with the counseling and glad you came and posted. That takes some strength.
KK- support to you, why not post next time? How was your meeting?
Casey- the cat lady? She said at the peak of her drinking she ran a consulting company on motivating people to a better way of life through mindfulness. A spiritual meeting tonight with sponsor- I do not think she will be chairing. Probably be adding some more eye of newt to her cauldron.
Casey- the cat lady? She said at the peak of her drinking she ran a consulting company on motivating people to a better way of life through mindfulness. A spiritual meeting tonight with sponsor- I do not think she will be chairing. Probably be adding some more eye of newt to her cauldron.
Hugs Kiki, MITA ~ those who live with others who drink ~ Idk how you do it....I can be triggered by someone on tv having a glass of wine! Lol
So glad to be here with you all.....I need to accept the fact that the av will be hanging around & will just have to ignore it. I've been around plenty of annoying people and have successfully ignored them, so I know it can be done!
Hmmmm, blabbermouth champions? I think we can do that too! We can talk about things like, our favorite music! At the moment no one in particular comes to mind, tho.........
Thanks Dee for the new thread! I'll check in with you guys a lil' later!
So glad to be here with you all.....I need to accept the fact that the av will be hanging around & will just have to ignore it. I've been around plenty of annoying people and have successfully ignored them, so I know it can be done!
Hmmmm, blabbermouth champions? I think we can do that too! We can talk about things like, our favorite music! At the moment no one in particular comes to mind, tho.........
Thanks Dee for the new thread! I'll check in with you guys a lil' later!
you are doing fine, KK. No judgements. A person I know- old,wise sober guy at AA said after a meeting he and I were at that he had to work on his spirituality- because he was so wound up with his daughter hitting a rock-b, when she is thousands of miles away- the 'I should stuff'. I told him- no, he is human. Emotions take over. There is not should, there is acceptance and 'just is' and what we can do to help ourselves. You stopped, you tried, you posted- your human. Your A MARCHER- OUR CLAN.
And once again Casey - the only way you know is how?????? I accidently posted there a few times- just looking at 'class of march' and not the year. I am kind of an honorary tourist.
And once again Casey - the only way you know is how?????? I accidently posted there a few times- just looking at 'class of march' and not the year. I am kind of an honorary tourist.
Morning!
I just may need that caffeine drip this morning Purplrks. I was up most of the night talking to my best friend. He broke up with his boyfriend of eight years and was pretty upset. I did consider more than once during our talk how grateful I was to be sober enough to pick up the phone when he called and not passed out drunk. Small but significant.
Thanks for the new home Dee!!
Kiki - glad you're still here with us. I consider my journey more about progress than perfection....and you have made a lot of progress. Stick around - we need one another. ❤️
Well off to find some startin' fluid...happy hump day!!
I just may need that caffeine drip this morning Purplrks. I was up most of the night talking to my best friend. He broke up with his boyfriend of eight years and was pretty upset. I did consider more than once during our talk how grateful I was to be sober enough to pick up the phone when he called and not passed out drunk. Small but significant.
Thanks for the new home Dee!!
Kiki - glad you're still here with us. I consider my journey more about progress than perfection....and you have made a lot of progress. Stick around - we need one another. ❤️
Well off to find some startin' fluid...happy hump day!!
Good morning, March people!!
I think people leave because they are embarrassed and feel that they let the group down. That is backwards thinking. We are here for you. No judging here. Ever. How could we? This is about support. Not admonishing or judging. Next time it could be me. So, Kiki, glad you're sticking around.
Hey 13th!
Purple - I need that drip following me today.
Sam - glad you could be there for your friend.
1newcreation - you are always welcome to our class.
MITA - someone recently pointed out that I'm lucky that my husband quit drinking. Sure I am. I know it. It also pisses me off a little that he could walk away so easily without a look over his shoulder and I had to join a support group, go to therapy and AA just to do the same thing he did so easily. But you are right, our drinking is our business. No one else controls whether I drink or not. Just me.
PR - glad you got your dirty kids clean. That's such a funny story.
Casey - keep saving the world.
Phoenix - hope you had a great day!
I think that's everyone on this page. Will be around today. You are warned.
Have a great day - March people!
I think people leave because they are embarrassed and feel that they let the group down. That is backwards thinking. We are here for you. No judging here. Ever. How could we? This is about support. Not admonishing or judging. Next time it could be me. So, Kiki, glad you're sticking around.
Hey 13th!
Purple - I need that drip following me today.
Sam - glad you could be there for your friend.
1newcreation - you are always welcome to our class.
MITA - someone recently pointed out that I'm lucky that my husband quit drinking. Sure I am. I know it. It also pisses me off a little that he could walk away so easily without a look over his shoulder and I had to join a support group, go to therapy and AA just to do the same thing he did so easily. But you are right, our drinking is our business. No one else controls whether I drink or not. Just me.
PR - glad you got your dirty kids clean. That's such a funny story.
Casey - keep saving the world.
Phoenix - hope you had a great day!
I think that's everyone on this page. Will be around today. You are warned.
Have a great day - March people!
Thanks so much Bobbie. I am my toughest critic. I guess I just assume that you guys don't want someone who falls on her arse 5,000 times around. Thx for the love!
I mean, when one of us falls, Kiki - you are the first with open arms and hugs and encouragement. Of course you are going to get that right back. We are stronger together.
you are doing fine, KK. No judgements. A person I know- old,wise sober guy at AA said after a meeting he and I were at that he had to work on his spirituality- because he was so wound up with his daughter hitting a rock-b, when she is thousands of miles away- the 'I should stuff'. I told him- no, he is human. Emotions take over. There is not should, there is acceptance and 'just is' and what we can do to help ourselves. You stopped, you tried, you posted- your human. Your A MARCHER- OUR CLAN.
And once again Casey - the only way you know is how?????? I accidently posted there a few times- just looking at 'class of march' and not the year. I am kind of an honorary tourist.
And once again Casey - the only way you know is how?????? I accidently posted there a few times- just looking at 'class of march' and not the year. I am kind of an honorary tourist.
Thanks P. I needed to hear that.
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