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Old 06-07-2017, 03:01 PM
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Dear Suze:
I just want you to know that I've been thinking of you. A lot! I hope that the counseling will put you on an upward path. Nick was candid in saying that his personality changes if he relapses. And that there are blackouts. These are issues that professionals are trained to deal with. Appropriate medication to catch this as early as possible. A visit to a skilled and experienced doctor rather than a chiropractor might have saved the day. Counseling and professional help can save your relationship with Nick. Don't give up. It's an illness. Nick is trying to cope with that. He's worth saving and your future happiness is worth saving. Don't give up. It can be done. Only believe and say to yourself that it will be done. I believe that there is a God. May tears of love rain down from Heaven to ease your pain. May the sun shine upon you and may happiness return. I care so very much. We all care!

Every good wish.

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Old 06-07-2017, 03:25 PM
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(((Suze))) Sending you loads of love and hugs. Friday will be here soon and you can talk with the counselor. I hope that helps.
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Old 06-07-2017, 06:24 PM
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Old 06-07-2017, 07:55 PM
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Old 06-07-2017, 11:53 PM
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Thinking of you and sending love and big hugs
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Old 06-08-2017, 12:09 AM
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You'll both get through this, you know that.

Best wishes to you both.
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Old 06-08-2017, 03:01 AM
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Hello Nick,
I realize coming from the F&F side I'm just whistlin' in the wind here...but I hope you will consider reaching out for all the help you can get. Medical, counseling, SR, and really dig in. You deserve a joyous and peace-filled life...often, that takes extra work.

Suze, good morning! Breathe, sip your tea or coffee, exhale. One moment, one breath at a time.
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Old 06-08-2017, 07:26 AM
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I have had absolutely no privacy to give you a call.

If you are up for a call, say after 11:00 pm, let me know and I will call tonight.
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Old 06-08-2017, 08:13 AM
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Hi Suze, just want you to know I'm thinking of you and wishing you the best. So sorry you are going through this. Love you.
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Old 06-08-2017, 12:23 PM
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Originally Posted by Seren View Post
Hello Nick,
I realize coming from the F&F side I'm just whistlin' in the wind here...but I hope you will consider reaching out for all the help you can get. Medical, counseling, SR, and really dig in. You deserve a joyous and peace-filled life...often, that takes extra work.

Suze, good morning! Breathe, sip your tea or coffee, exhale. One moment, one breath at a time.
I shouldn't speak for Nick, but I am going to.

He is absolutely getting all of the help he needs, and he is absolutely being incredible to me. I have pushed him pretty hard in the last week or so....I kind of lost my mind. The stress of all of this has made me really ill and unable to cope. He is looking after both of us, and I am slowly coming back to me. Slowly. Because it is really hard to battle the world while we try to heal.....and that is all my fault.

I told people what happened and they judged me for wanting to make this work again....well, I'm sorry about that. I have lost friends over this. And it hurts. But ultimately that is the choice I make here....and I do.

This is an amazing man who fell down. He was sick and frightened and made a terrible choice. And we both got very badly hurt.

I don't know what love means to different people, but I do know what it means to me. I am willing to walk through the fire and across the broken glass for Nick, and he is not only willing to do the same, he is willing to carry me.

I feel that I have lost my place in this community now....I feel the pain of people judging me. Gosh that hurts. But it is what it is.

Seren ~ you are kind and caring and compassionate.
Thank you. ♥
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Old 06-08-2017, 12:24 PM
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Originally Posted by Ladybug2 View Post
Hi Suze, just want you to know I'm thinking of you and wishing you the best. So sorry you are going through this. Love you.
Thank you so much ~ I love you too.

Thank you to all of you who are being so kind. s
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Old 06-08-2017, 12:31 PM
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As far as I'm concerned you haven't lost your place in this community. Your one of the leaders here from what I've seen.

You need to do what's right for you, Nick needs to do what's right for him and, the two of you need to do what's right for each other. As others have said there's no judgement from me about the situation.
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Old 06-08-2017, 12:32 PM
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Thank you love. ♥
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Old 06-08-2017, 12:44 PM
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My heart is still on your heart. No matter what. I judge no one.

Forgiveness is the ultimate gift. Love is the ultimate sacrifice.

Peace and serenity to you both.
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Old 06-08-2017, 12:46 PM
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Love you so much Dear Lovely Cat and Hubby .. think of you both for my last breath at night.. prayers hopes and love ardy
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Old 06-08-2017, 01:13 PM
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((((((((dear Suze)))))))))

The season you are in is not the season where you will stay. Everything changes, good and bad, and this is no exception.

You have been through such tremendous changes in such a short time, even if it was smooth sailing I would expect there to be some turmoil and growing pains. I can't imagine the life changes you are going through. It might feel impossible but you are going to prevail. Maybe not today or tomorrow, or next week but you will prevail.

You have shown all of us your resilience and perseverance. We know what you are made of even if you forget once in awhile.

I like the quote "when God closes a door, He opens another one, but it is h*ll in the hallway"

Maybe you are in the hallway now, but you are not gonna stay there.

I wish I could give you a real life hug, but, alas, my cyber hugs will have to suffice.
no, no, no Suze!!!

You have NOT lost your place in this community

You are a beautiful spirit that is an integral part of this community

(((Nick))) and (((Suze)))
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Suze,
I am writing this to express my total support for you and your decisions. I admire a love like yours; so strong and forgiving. We all make mistakes, some obviously bigger than others, but everyone deserves the chance to make things right, in my very humble opinion.
I know wholeheartedly that you are cherished by so many. Your's is one of the first threads I followed religiously when I was still a lurker, because of your compassion and kindness. You have not changed; just your circumstances.
Honey, you do what you think is best for you and Nick. No one knows what you should do better than the two of you. Your love and future together is worth fighting for.
Just remember, " you can't please all of the people all of the time.."
Don't let others deter you from the path you two think is the right one.
Trust your instincts...
Wishing you and Nick a beautiful and exciting future. Do the work and reap the benefits..
Much love and support,
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Originally Posted by 2ndhandrose View Post
((((((((dear Suze)))))))))

The season you are in is not the season where you will stay. Everything changes, good and bad, and this is no exception.

You have been through such tremendous changes in such a short time, even if it was smooth sailing I would expect there to be some turmoil and growing pains. I can't imagine the life changes you are going through. It might feel impossible but you are going to prevail. Maybe not today or tomorrow, or next week but you will prevail.

You have shown all of us your resilience and perseverance. We know what you are made of even if you forget once in awhile.

I like the quote "when God closes a door, He opens another one, but it is h*ll in the hallway"

Maybe you are in the hallway now, but you are not gonna stay there.

I wish I could give you a real life hug, but, alas, my cyber hugs will have to suffice.
Glad you quoted yourself love ~ I missed this.
Thank you.
And thank you for what you just said....
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My heart is still on your heart. No matter what. I judge no one.

Forgiveness is the ultimate gift. Love is the ultimate sacrifice.

Peace and serenity to you both.
Just love you. So much.
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Old 06-08-2017, 01:42 PM
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Originally Posted by Croutie View Post
Suze,
I am writing this to express my total support for you and your decisions. I admire a love like yours; so strong and forgiving. We all make mistakes, some obviously bigger than others, but everyone deserves the chance to make things right, in my very humble opinion.
I know wholeheartedly that you are cherished by so many. Your's is one of the first threads I followed religiously when I was still a lurker, because of your compassion and kindness. You have not changed; just your circumstances.
Honey, you do what you think is best for you and Nick. No one knows what you should do better than the two of you. Your love and future together is worth fighting for.
Just remember, " you can't please all of the people all of the time.."
Don't let others deter you from the path you two think is the right one.
Trust your instincts...
Wishing you and Nick a beautiful and exciting future. Do the work and reap the benefits..
Much love and support,
Croutie
I am really depressed right now ~ I don't feel that I can please anyone.
Not me, not Nick, not the govt here who require such freaking ridiculous lengths to try and stay here....this is just so hard.

I keep telling Nick I want to run, but the truth is that the only place I want to be is with him.

We will do the work. We will find a way. ♥
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