Cheers for Venuscat Part Five
capra laeviculus
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Originally Posted by venuscat 
"And in the end, the love you take
Is equal to the love you make...."
No matter what other people thought I should do, I am the only one who knows the truth of all of this, from beginning to end.
Two recovering alcoholics, two very damaged people who pledged to love and made some awful mistakes.
The choice is whether to move forward from there in faith and love.
That was not an easy choice, but it is the choice I have made.
We both have....now we move forward. One day at a time.
Is equal to the love you make...."
No matter what other people thought I should do, I am the only one who knows the truth of all of this, from beginning to end.
Two recovering alcoholics, two very damaged people who pledged to love and made some awful mistakes.
The choice is whether to move forward from there in faith and love.
That was not an easy choice, but it is the choice I have made.
We both have....now we move forward. One day at a time.
I do not make bad choices because I do not love... I do not make bad choices because I don't care..... but I still make them. Over and Over.
Let me be very clear... The reason it's been so hard for Suze in America is because of me and my choices.
She has put in EVERY effort to make this work. She works hard every day. And I constantly mess up and throw her life into chaos.
The one choice I consistently and correctly make is love. I choose love every single time. And I always will.
And I choose now to be a better person, to make better choices, to make her life easier here. I am SO far from what I want to be. I am SO far from how I want to treat Suze.
But I will *NEVER* stop trying to change, improve, and be a better person.
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Originally Posted by Goat
I am a very damaged person who makes horrible choices very day.
I do not make bad choices because I do not love... I do not make bad choices because I don't care..... but I still make them. Over and Over.
Let me be very clear... The reason it's been so hard for Suze in America is because of me and my choices.
She has put in EVERY effort to make this work. She works hard every day. And I constantly mess up and throw her life into chaos.
The one choice I consistently and correctly make is love. I choose love every single time. And I always will.
And I choose now to be a better person, to make better choices, to make her life easier here. I am SO far from what I want to be. I am SO far from how I want to treat Suze.
But I will *NEVER* stop trying to change, improve, and be a better person.
I do not make bad choices because I do not love... I do not make bad choices because I don't care..... but I still make them. Over and Over.
Let me be very clear... The reason it's been so hard for Suze in America is because of me and my choices.
She has put in EVERY effort to make this work. She works hard every day. And I constantly mess up and throw her life into chaos.
The one choice I consistently and correctly make is love. I choose love every single time. And I always will.
And I choose now to be a better person, to make better choices, to make her life easier here. I am SO far from what I want to be. I am SO far from how I want to treat Suze.
But I will *NEVER* stop trying to change, improve, and be a better person.
♥♥♥♥♥♥♥
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I don't think Nick makes horrible choices over and over at all....I think he is human, just like the rest of us, and we all make mistakes. We both follow the AA program and we both believe that we have the power to change...
We all do I think.
We all do I think.
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No judgment here, I'm in perfect agreement that we're all damaged and doing the best we can. I was curious to hear from Goat, I just used his own words to ask these questions. I may be way off here, but this self-flagellation does not seem constructive, and I hope it comes with ownership for the choices and the way you're being treated. But in the end you're right, only you two know the full extent of what goes on there, and you're the ones to live it. I wish you the healthiest path forward possible. 
capra laeviculus
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I said what I said because I was feeling emotional after an argument, but I agree that self-flagellation serves no purpose.
That said, there are specific things about myself that I am working hard on, and I'll go into more detail on that in the morning when my brain is better rested.
That said, there are specific things about myself that I am working hard on, and I'll go into more detail on that in the morning when my brain is better rested.
Magsie
Join Date: Oct 2013
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Hi Suze and Goat, we know life isn't easy, especially for us guys, we gotta learn a whole new way of living, sober. And on top of that, relationships need work, which is what you are both giving.
It can only get better for you both with the right ingredients used.
Love and peace to you both.♥️
It can only get better for you both with the right ingredients used.
Love and peace to you both.♥️
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Good morning and thank you. ♥ s
We have loads to do right now: we are in the process of getting back on track here, with a lot of adjustments.
It's a lovely day here ~ finally a break from that horrendous heat and humidity.
Gardening right now.....gosh it's a mess out there. ♥
sWe have loads to do right now: we are in the process of getting back on track here, with a lot of adjustments.
It's a lovely day here ~ finally a break from that horrendous heat and humidity.
Gardening right now.....gosh it's a mess out there. ♥
Aren't we all?
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