Cheers for Venuscat Part Five
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Hi Suze,
I know you have so much on your plate right now, and I also k ow that everyone here wants you to be happy, and healthy.
I know from experience how stressful it is to pick up and move thousands of miles from home and to start a new life. Throw the issues you have had since moving on top of that and it is exponentially more difficult.
I also know you are strong, smart, and one of the most caring people I know. You deserve nothing but wonderful days ahead, and I wish that for you whole-heartedly.
You will figure out your next steps, take some time to breathe, and reach out for help on here, through school, counseling, and family and friends.
Sending lots of love and prayers your way.
❤️Delilah
I know you have so much on your plate right now, and I also k ow that everyone here wants you to be happy, and healthy.
I know from experience how stressful it is to pick up and move thousands of miles from home and to start a new life. Throw the issues you have had since moving on top of that and it is exponentially more difficult.
I also know you are strong, smart, and one of the most caring people I know. You deserve nothing but wonderful days ahead, and I wish that for you whole-heartedly.
You will figure out your next steps, take some time to breathe, and reach out for help on here, through school, counseling, and family and friends.
Sending lots of love and prayers your way.
❤️Delilah
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Originally Posted by PhoenixJ 
Hard stuff- to be put under the microscope by others in a community arena like this ON BOTH OF YOU..
G- to bare your soul like that takes true courage. I t certainly not my 'role' to judge anybody. The guy sitting to me at the meeting I go to today is not likely to share such personal stuff. Are alcoholic's worthy of forgiveness...I think we are our own executioners and put ourselves through more hell than any one else possibly could. WHAT RIGHT does anyone have to judge you or Suze...this thread is not a reality TV show- with winners and losers.
This thread is your lives- and I am a guest- just like I would be if invited into someone's home. A difficult time for both of you. You both only have to be accountable, IMO- to yourselves and each other.
My role- therefore as a guest, is to listen and offer support and positive feedback. This is not schadenfreude. This is your lives- which you share for support, given and invited.
Speaking as one whose glass house has all the windows replaced with plastic cling wrap.....just be true to yourselves guys. Do not let others sway your lives. Because they are the only ones any of us get. Do what is good and positive for yourself- for yourselves.
Prayers and support to you both...
G- to bare your soul like that takes true courage. I t certainly not my 'role' to judge anybody. The guy sitting to me at the meeting I go to today is not likely to share such personal stuff. Are alcoholic's worthy of forgiveness...I think we are our own executioners and put ourselves through more hell than any one else possibly could. WHAT RIGHT does anyone have to judge you or Suze...this thread is not a reality TV show- with winners and losers.
This thread is your lives- and I am a guest- just like I would be if invited into someone's home. A difficult time for both of you. You both only have to be accountable, IMO- to yourselves and each other.
My role- therefore as a guest, is to listen and offer support and positive feedback. This is not schadenfreude. This is your lives- which you share for support, given and invited.
Speaking as one whose glass house has all the windows replaced with plastic cling wrap.....just be true to yourselves guys. Do not let others sway your lives. Because they are the only ones any of us get. Do what is good and positive for yourself- for yourselves.
Prayers and support to you both...
♥Love to you, Suze and Goat ♥
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Location: Massachusetts
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Dear Suze and Nick:
A brief note before I turn in for the night. I must get ready for an appointment with my doctor in Plymouth to remove a small cancerous spot on my skin.
Like the folks on SR I have been sorely distressed (an understatement) at your troubles during the last week. No one is entitled to judge, for most have been there, gone through it in some way. Despite the views of some it is an illness, But not without some voluntary elements. The important thing is to live in the now and make a solemn vow with one another that if either or both of you notice an oncoming change, then you, both or separately, get the best medical help possible.You will avoid so much heartache and you will save not only your relationships but your lives,
I have admired you both and worried about you so much since late Fall. Now it seems to have become an obsession, so much that I sense I have been repeating myself perhaps word for word. It just keeps going round and round in my head,
As you know I am old. I have seen much, Have been through much. More than you know. But I have rarely if ever been so concerned about anyone as I am about the two of you.
God’s blessing,then, upon you, May sunshine come to you and with it happiness,
Fondly,
Bill
A brief note before I turn in for the night. I must get ready for an appointment with my doctor in Plymouth to remove a small cancerous spot on my skin.
Like the folks on SR I have been sorely distressed (an understatement) at your troubles during the last week. No one is entitled to judge, for most have been there, gone through it in some way. Despite the views of some it is an illness, But not without some voluntary elements. The important thing is to live in the now and make a solemn vow with one another that if either or both of you notice an oncoming change, then you, both or separately, get the best medical help possible.You will avoid so much heartache and you will save not only your relationships but your lives,
I have admired you both and worried about you so much since late Fall. Now it seems to have become an obsession, so much that I sense I have been repeating myself perhaps word for word. It just keeps going round and round in my head,
As you know I am old. I have seen much, Have been through much. More than you know. But I have rarely if ever been so concerned about anyone as I am about the two of you.
God’s blessing,then, upon you, May sunshine come to you and with it happiness,
Fondly,
Bill
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Originally Posted by PhoenixJ
Hard stuff- to be put under the microscope by others in a community arena like this ON BOTH OF YOU..
G- to bare your soul like that takes true courage. I t certainly not my 'role' to judge anybody. The guy sitting to me at the meeting I go to today is not likely to share such personal stuff. Are alcoholic's worthy of forgiveness...I think we are our own executioners and put ourselves through more hell than any one else possibly could. WHAT RIGHT does anyone have to judge you or Suze...this thread is not a reality TV show- with winners and losers.
This thread is your lives- and I am a guest- just like I would be if invited into someone's home. A difficult time for both of you. You both only have to be accountable, IMO- to yourselves and each other.
My role- therefore as a guest, is to listen and offer support and positive feedback. This is not schadenfreude. This is your lives- which you share for support, given and invited.
Speaking as one whose glass house has all the windows replaced with plastic cling wrap.....just be true to yourselves guys. Do not let others sway your lives. Because they are the only ones any of us get. Do what is good and positive for yourself- for yourselves.
Prayers and support to you both...
G- to bare your soul like that takes true courage. I t certainly not my 'role' to judge anybody. The guy sitting to me at the meeting I go to today is not likely to share such personal stuff. Are alcoholic's worthy of forgiveness...I think we are our own executioners and put ourselves through more hell than any one else possibly could. WHAT RIGHT does anyone have to judge you or Suze...this thread is not a reality TV show- with winners and losers.
This thread is your lives- and I am a guest- just like I would be if invited into someone's home. A difficult time for both of you. You both only have to be accountable, IMO- to yourselves and each other.
My role- therefore as a guest, is to listen and offer support and positive feedback. This is not schadenfreude. This is your lives- which you share for support, given and invited.
Speaking as one whose glass house has all the windows replaced with plastic cling wrap.....just be true to yourselves guys. Do not let others sway your lives. Because they are the only ones any of us get. Do what is good and positive for yourself- for yourselves.
Prayers and support to you both...
I wish I had the gift you have for self expression. I find it hard to express my feelings here sometimes...
My most sincere best wishes,
Croutie
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Originally Posted by PhoenixJ
Hard stuff- to be put under the microscope by others in a community arena like this ON BOTH OF YOU..
G- to bare your soul like that takes true courage. I t certainly not my 'role' to judge anybody. The guy sitting to me at the meeting I go to today is not likely to share such personal stuff. Are alcoholic's worthy of forgiveness...I think we are our own executioners and put ourselves through more hell than any one else possibly could. WHAT RIGHT does anyone have to judge you or Suze...this thread is not a reality TV show- with winners and losers.
This thread is your lives- and I am a guest- just like I would be if invited into someone's home. A difficult time for both of you. You both only have to be accountable, IMO- to yourselves and each other.
My role- therefore as a guest, is to listen and offer support and positive feedback. This is not schadenfreude. This is your lives- which you share for support, given and invited.
Speaking as one whose glass house has all the windows replaced with plastic cling wrap.....just be true to yourselves guys. Do not let others sway your lives. Because they are the only ones any of us get. Do what is good and positive for yourself- for yourselves.
Prayers and support to you both...
G- to bare your soul like that takes true courage. I t certainly not my 'role' to judge anybody. The guy sitting to me at the meeting I go to today is not likely to share such personal stuff. Are alcoholic's worthy of forgiveness...I think we are our own executioners and put ourselves through more hell than any one else possibly could. WHAT RIGHT does anyone have to judge you or Suze...this thread is not a reality TV show- with winners and losers.
This thread is your lives- and I am a guest- just like I would be if invited into someone's home. A difficult time for both of you. You both only have to be accountable, IMO- to yourselves and each other.
My role- therefore as a guest, is to listen and offer support and positive feedback. This is not schadenfreude. This is your lives- which you share for support, given and invited.
Speaking as one whose glass house has all the windows replaced with plastic cling wrap.....just be true to yourselves guys. Do not let others sway your lives. Because they are the only ones any of us get. Do what is good and positive for yourself- for yourselves.
Prayers and support to you both...
Coming here and seeing this when I was/am feeling such complete despair is kind of incredible.
More so even. Thank you. Just so so much. Love. ♥
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Originally Posted by Kris47
Stay close to your sober supports. They are the most important thing in both of your recoveries.
I am here if and when you need me. My friendship reaches out to the both of you.
I am here if and when you need me. My friendship reaches out to the both of you.
Just not managing to keep my head above water right now.
♥
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Originally Posted by Delilah1
Hi Suze,
I know you have so much on your plate right now, and I also k ow that everyone here wants you to be happy, and healthy.
I know from experience how stressful it is to pick up and move thousands of miles from home and to start a new life. Throw the issues you have had since moving on top of that and it is exponentially more difficult.
I also know you are strong, smart, and one of the most caring people I know. You deserve nothing but wonderful days ahead, and I wish that for you whole-heartedly.
You will figure out your next steps, take some time to breathe, and reach out for help on here, through school, counseling, and family and friends.
Sending lots of love and prayers your way.
❤️Delilah
I know you have so much on your plate right now, and I also k ow that everyone here wants you to be happy, and healthy.
I know from experience how stressful it is to pick up and move thousands of miles from home and to start a new life. Throw the issues you have had since moving on top of that and it is exponentially more difficult.
I also know you are strong, smart, and one of the most caring people I know. You deserve nothing but wonderful days ahead, and I wish that for you whole-heartedly.
You will figure out your next steps, take some time to breathe, and reach out for help on here, through school, counseling, and family and friends.
Sending lots of love and prayers your way.
❤️Delilah
I am seeing both the school counsellor tomorrow and a retention specialist to help me get back on track with the semester.
♥
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Originally Posted by PhoenixJ
Hard stuff- to be put under the microscope by others in a community arena like this ON BOTH OF YOU..
G- to bare your soul like that takes true courage. I t certainly not my 'role' to judge anybody. The guy sitting to me at the meeting I go to today is not likely to share such personal stuff. Are alcoholic's worthy of forgiveness...I think we are our own executioners and put ourselves through more hell than any one else possibly could. WHAT RIGHT does anyone have to judge you or Suze...this thread is not a reality TV show- with winners and losers.
This thread is your lives- and I am a guest- just like I would be if invited into someone's home. A difficult time for both of you. You both only have to be accountable, IMO- to yourselves and each other.
My role- therefore as a guest, is to listen and offer support and positive feedback. This is not schadenfreude. This is your lives- which you share for support, given and invited.
Speaking as one whose glass house has all the windows replaced with plastic cling wrap.....just be true to yourselves guys. Do not let others sway your lives. Because they are the only ones any of us get. Do what is good and positive for yourself- for yourselves.
Prayers and support to you both...
G- to bare your soul like that takes true courage. I t certainly not my 'role' to judge anybody. The guy sitting to me at the meeting I go to today is not likely to share such personal stuff. Are alcoholic's worthy of forgiveness...I think we are our own executioners and put ourselves through more hell than any one else possibly could. WHAT RIGHT does anyone have to judge you or Suze...this thread is not a reality TV show- with winners and losers.
This thread is your lives- and I am a guest- just like I would be if invited into someone's home. A difficult time for both of you. You both only have to be accountable, IMO- to yourselves and each other.
My role- therefore as a guest, is to listen and offer support and positive feedback. This is not schadenfreude. This is your lives- which you share for support, given and invited.
Speaking as one whose glass house has all the windows replaced with plastic cling wrap.....just be true to yourselves guys. Do not let others sway your lives. Because they are the only ones any of us get. Do what is good and positive for yourself- for yourselves.
Prayers and support to you both...
First of all -- I have spent too much of my life with my fears and failings held tightly in secret, and it has brought me nothing but pain and suffering. It is time to give them all some air.
Second, those fears and failings are now directly affecting someone I care *very* deeply about. I care about Suze more than I ever thought it was possible to care about another human being, and the longer I hold on to my issues and do not deal with them, the more I hurt her. I simply *CANNOT* hurt her anymore. I *WILL NOT* hurt her anymore, and nothing will stop me from seeking recovery both in my alcoholism and in my health.
Today, I have zero desire to drink. That demon is at bay and I am making sure it stays there. But I am still dealing with health issues that make me feel and act very strangely... it's like I'm not really myself all of the time... And that has to stop.
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