Class of June 2017 Support Thread Part One
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Thanks Tamara. Good on you for getting in to see your therapist and devising a PLAN. I always had a plan on how I was going to drink so I sure as hell believe we all need a plan in place to stay sober.
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Originally Posted by TrapezeFreak 
Thanks Tamara. Good on you for getting in to see your therapist and devising a PLAN. I always had a plan on how I was going to drink so I sure as hell believe we all need a plan in place to stay sober.
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Hi Junies,
My plan fore the day.
After blasting out some music from my computer over coffee and typing this, I'm now off out into the morning mist and cold for a walk, run, trot by the river and around the park which will take about 45 minutes. Then into the garden to pull all the weeds and maybe do some digging and throw some compost on and mow the lawns. Then down to the fruit and vegetable market with Mrs Tyre and super market shopping.
Then back home for some tidying up before another couple come for dinner. He friend won't drink and she will have a few while Mrs Tyre will get tipsy. While happy that I no longer am she doesn't understand and seems to forget all the bad history and so may give me the "just have one" line which I'll need to counter well as I know a bit of me will think - weeelll, maybe..... so I shall prepare a firm no thanks to be pulled out at that moment if needed.
Looking forward to waking up tomorrow Sunday and having a clear head and if Mrs Tyre is OK (read not hungover) we will be off to the Buddhist temple which is great calming start to a day - relaxing and good food . Hope everyone has a good one. Take care. Tyre
My plan fore the day.
After blasting out some music from my computer over coffee and typing this, I'm now off out into the morning mist and cold for a walk, run, trot by the river and around the park which will take about 45 minutes. Then into the garden to pull all the weeds and maybe do some digging and throw some compost on and mow the lawns. Then down to the fruit and vegetable market with Mrs Tyre and super market shopping.
Then back home for some tidying up before another couple come for dinner. He friend won't drink and she will have a few while Mrs Tyre will get tipsy. While happy that I no longer am she doesn't understand and seems to forget all the bad history and so may give me the "just have one" line which I'll need to counter well as I know a bit of me will think - weeelll, maybe..... so I shall prepare a firm no thanks to be pulled out at that moment if needed.
Looking forward to waking up tomorrow Sunday and having a clear head and if Mrs Tyre is OK (read not hungover) we will be off to the Buddhist temple which is great calming start to a day - relaxing and good food . Hope everyone has a good one. Take care. Tyre
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There's a Buddhist monastery in the Scottish Borders which allows tourists to visit and stay for a length of time decided by the individual. You can just stay there and take in the Buddhist lifestyle or you can participate in courses and learn skills. The best thing about it, there are no substances allowed.
I've been meaning to book myself on it. A week spent in idyllic tranquility sounds right up my street.
I've been meaning to book myself on it. A week spent in idyllic tranquility sounds right up my street.
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Cheers TrapezeFreak.
To remove all the noise Tynesider would be great- I'm considering doing a similar week long retreat but will have to wait until some work commitments are finished.
What struck me in the park was all the kids were playing football and rugby, the parents standing on the sideline yelling encouragement (mostly) at them and talking amongst themselves in their little groups.
That is others reality on a Saturday morning whereas mine was something different. It is interesting to see.
To remove all the noise Tynesider would be great- I'm considering doing a similar week long retreat but will have to wait until some work commitments are finished.
What struck me in the park was all the kids were playing football and rugby, the parents standing on the sideline yelling encouragement (mostly) at them and talking amongst themselves in their little groups.
That is others reality on a Saturday morning whereas mine was something different. It is interesting to see.
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Originally Posted by TamraMaew
Well. I'm back again...believe I was part of the February 2017 class, but foolishly thought I could drink here and there an be alright. After a pretty terrible night, I'm back again and stopping for good. We all make mistakes, right?
Last night I went out drinking with a friend...only planned on having one or two (which I had been doing a nice job of lately). That didn't happen. Then I ended up not being able to say no to more booze and a joint after...I have a hard time saying no. I came home and drove my loving, caring, and incredible long time girlfriend crazy (as I have been lately). She's a big part of the reason I'm doing this. I made a list of reasons I want to do this...to be healthy. To be happy again. To be able to be the best employee I can be. To keep my family and girlfriend proud to be around me.
Tomorrow I go see my therapist and make a sobriety plan with her. I think it'll really help to have a plan in place so I, myself, and everyone around me can hold me more accountable. I also firmly believe I can do this.
I know when my Uncle quit he got big into seltzer waters in stuff in the evening to replace the drinking, so that's going to be part of my plan too. Anyone got recommendations for good flavors/brands haha?
It's nice to be back and really mean it. Let's make it through June everyone.
Last night I went out drinking with a friend...only planned on having one or two (which I had been doing a nice job of lately). That didn't happen. Then I ended up not being able to say no to more booze and a joint after...I have a hard time saying no. I came home and drove my loving, caring, and incredible long time girlfriend crazy (as I have been lately). She's a big part of the reason I'm doing this. I made a list of reasons I want to do this...to be healthy. To be happy again. To be able to be the best employee I can be. To keep my family and girlfriend proud to be around me.
Tomorrow I go see my therapist and make a sobriety plan with her. I think it'll really help to have a plan in place so I, myself, and everyone around me can hold me more accountable. I also firmly believe I can do this.
I know when my Uncle quit he got big into seltzer waters in stuff in the evening to replace the drinking, so that's going to be part of my plan too. Anyone got recommendations for good flavors/brands haha?
It's nice to be back and really mean it. Let's make it through June everyone.
For anyone intersted in the states.
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Good morning everyone. I always find with these threads (and I've joined quite a few) so many join it's hard to keep up so apologies if it takes me a while to get used to people.
It was my second night last night. I know the drill it was nightmare night last night. I'm still fuzzy headed and I've always wondered what causes that. I'm still over thinking last week. I know time will be the only thing that will help that.
I'm sorry if I was a little self centred yesterday. I actually e-mailed a councillor but she's not got back to me yet. It's a very selfish thing that we have - when you are drinking you mess everyone up around you as they try and pick up the pieces of your absence but then you stop and it's all about you still as you try and figure things out.
I was worried my eldest wouldn't speak to me for a long time as his childhood was seriously affected by my drinking and he hates me for that but he spoke to me this morning. I had decided to just give him space and not force it. I don't want my younger 2 to be affected in the same way - they were wary of me once I sobered up so I know they saw stuff. My youngest told his friends mum that I was being lazy in bed!
It's Saturday and we have a few errands to do. I have really filled my time with things because a big danger time for me is when I have nothing to do. Everyday normally we are up and out every day by 8.30 with one thing or another. Maybe I try and do too much - I don't really have downtime because there aren't any activities I enjoy to relax to. I do walk a lot though often on my own.
Now time has passed I think I know what triggered the last binge (well the continuation of it anyway). I need to be careful - hopefully if I can get to the councillor they can help with that.
The relapses are exhausting - each time I say that's the last time and every time so far it's not been. Hopefully this time it really will be the last time.
Also I've been pondering this too. I enjoy drinking, in the house on my own, and it's the affect it has on my family that makes me want to stop. I worry that when I eventually end up on my own which will happen once the kids grow up - where I will end up. I wonder if that death is my fate.
It was my second night last night. I know the drill it was nightmare night last night. I'm still fuzzy headed and I've always wondered what causes that. I'm still over thinking last week. I know time will be the only thing that will help that.
I'm sorry if I was a little self centred yesterday. I actually e-mailed a councillor but she's not got back to me yet. It's a very selfish thing that we have - when you are drinking you mess everyone up around you as they try and pick up the pieces of your absence but then you stop and it's all about you still as you try and figure things out.
I was worried my eldest wouldn't speak to me for a long time as his childhood was seriously affected by my drinking and he hates me for that but he spoke to me this morning. I had decided to just give him space and not force it. I don't want my younger 2 to be affected in the same way - they were wary of me once I sobered up so I know they saw stuff. My youngest told his friends mum that I was being lazy in bed!
It's Saturday and we have a few errands to do. I have really filled my time with things because a big danger time for me is when I have nothing to do. Everyday normally we are up and out every day by 8.30 with one thing or another. Maybe I try and do too much - I don't really have downtime because there aren't any activities I enjoy to relax to. I do walk a lot though often on my own.
Now time has passed I think I know what triggered the last binge (well the continuation of it anyway). I need to be careful - hopefully if I can get to the councillor they can help with that.
The relapses are exhausting - each time I say that's the last time and every time so far it's not been. Hopefully this time it really will be the last time.
Also I've been pondering this too. I enjoy drinking, in the house on my own, and it's the affect it has on my family that makes me want to stop. I worry that when I eventually end up on my own which will happen once the kids grow up - where I will end up. I wonder if that death is my fate.
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I don;t think it's ever too late to start chapter two, or to start to write a new ending to your story, charliesworld.
It does mean a little short term pain and discomfort but it really is for long term gain - for both you and your family
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It does mean a little short term pain and discomfort but it really is for long term gain - for both you and your family
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Hi everyone one,
Checking in and struggling with cravings..ugh!!
charliesweorld....I know exactly how you feel with the children. I have relapse many times free years of sobriety. I'm back to this class starting over again.
My kids and my husband have been sooooo angry when th me in the past. My keep dis stop talking to me...often. It hurts so badly.
I let them be and they come around BUt they want to see a sober mom..end of story..by changing my behavior and not drinking, they are happy. I also love drinking alone in my house. It's a hard thing to stop.
Stick with this. I trying also..it's very tough but your kids are worth it!
CUteandgay...I am going to try that Lacroix water..sounds awesome!
Have a great day everyone..
Checking in and struggling with cravings..ugh!!
charliesweorld....I know exactly how you feel with the children. I have relapse many times free years of sobriety. I'm back to this class starting over again.
My kids and my husband have been sooooo angry when th me in the past. My keep dis stop talking to me...often. It hurts so badly.
I let them be and they come around BUt they want to see a sober mom..end of story..by changing my behavior and not drinking, they are happy. I also love drinking alone in my house. It's a hard thing to stop.
Stick with this. I trying also..it's very tough but your kids are worth it!
CUteandgay...I am going to try that Lacroix water..sounds awesome!
Have a great day everyone..
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Good job everyone! The drinking at home alone seems to be
common. Me too!
Day 3 now, made it through Day 2 with slightly drunken GF.
Never notice how loud she gets when she's drinking and
complaining about work - at least not unless I'm drinking too.
Sleep was actually worse tonight - up every 1/2 hours with
a subtle electrical anxiety and ear ringing. But it will pass.
Going to sleep some more then maybe try some LaCroix!
common. Me too!
Day 3 now, made it through Day 2 with slightly drunken GF.
Never notice how loud she gets when she's drinking and
complaining about work - at least not unless I'm drinking too.
Sleep was actually worse tonight - up every 1/2 hours with
a subtle electrical anxiety and ear ringing. But it will pass.
Going to sleep some more then maybe try some LaCroix!
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Good morning everyone! Day 4 for me.
Charlie, I know what you mean about keeping up. I'm not good at posting on forums either. Great at reading them. That's one reason I decided to join this class at the same time I'm seriously trying to quit. I feel that actually posting vs. reading helps keep me accountable. That's what my funny brain tells me!
LoveHoops, count me in as a home alone drinker too. Didn't really go out much to drink. My problem is I would attempt to hide it from my fiancé and my daughter. I'd secretly have a bottle (or the minis usually) stashed and take gulps from them when no one was in the room. I just couldn't bring myself to tell my fiance I wanted to have some drinks. He told me over and over to just tell him if I wanted to drink rather than blindside him when I'm suddenly stumbling and obviously drunk. I just couldn't do it. Even though he'd drink himself many times (and still does). I guess I was/am so ashamed because I know I shouldn't be drinking at all because I can't handle it. I drink too much too fast and I can't control what I say or do.
Last night we both watched a couple episodes of a tv show, Bloodline on Netflix. I bought a box of See's candy on the way home from work as a comfort and also to help with cravings. I'm not really a sweets person, don't ever reach for sweets when I'm hungry, but for right now I'm finding it's helping me get through the nights (when I want to drink).
I'm going to try the LaCroix as well, thank you CuteandGay!
Welcome SoberRunner!
Here's to a wonderful sober day!
Charlie, I know what you mean about keeping up. I'm not good at posting on forums either. Great at reading them. That's one reason I decided to join this class at the same time I'm seriously trying to quit. I feel that actually posting vs. reading helps keep me accountable. That's what my funny brain tells me!
LoveHoops, count me in as a home alone drinker too. Didn't really go out much to drink. My problem is I would attempt to hide it from my fiancé and my daughter. I'd secretly have a bottle (or the minis usually) stashed and take gulps from them when no one was in the room. I just couldn't bring myself to tell my fiance I wanted to have some drinks. He told me over and over to just tell him if I wanted to drink rather than blindside him when I'm suddenly stumbling and obviously drunk. I just couldn't do it. Even though he'd drink himself many times (and still does). I guess I was/am so ashamed because I know I shouldn't be drinking at all because I can't handle it. I drink too much too fast and I can't control what I say or do.
Last night we both watched a couple episodes of a tv show, Bloodline on Netflix. I bought a box of See's candy on the way home from work as a comfort and also to help with cravings. I'm not really a sweets person, don't ever reach for sweets when I'm hungry, but for right now I'm finding it's helping me get through the nights (when I want to drink).
I'm going to try the LaCroix as well, thank you CuteandGay!
Welcome SoberRunner!
Here's to a wonderful sober day!
Last edited by Katsmeeyow; 06-03-2017 at 08:49 AM. Reason: added day 4
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Welcome! Running and Coffee, great ways to get going without
a drink. In fact, gonna go for a run with the dogs in a minute to
shake off the lousy night's sleep!
a drink. In fact, gonna go for a run with the dogs in a minute to
shake off the lousy night's sleep!
Originally Posted by SoberRunner
Hello everyone. I'd like to join the June class... Day 1 for me.
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Originally Posted by blondsober
Day 3 now, made it through Day 2 with slightly drunken GF.
Never notice how loud she gets when she's drinking and
complaining about work - at least not unless I'm drinking too.
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Kats -
Know what you mean. I still don't understand how everything
is fine on a Friday night - a couple glasses and all is well. Then
a little sly drinking Saturday - which I never felt any guilt about -
but coupled with the GF or community drinking - and almost
every weekend I can't remember what happened that night
and kids won't talk to me and GF wants to leave. And these
are really wonderful people and relationships.
That has to stop, will stop. Too much at stake, sounds like
the same for you!
Know what you mean. I still don't understand how everything
is fine on a Friday night - a couple glasses and all is well. Then
a little sly drinking Saturday - which I never felt any guilt about -
but coupled with the GF or community drinking - and almost
every weekend I can't remember what happened that night
and kids won't talk to me and GF wants to leave. And these
are really wonderful people and relationships.
That has to stop, will stop. Too much at stake, sounds like
the same for you!
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