Class of June 2017 Support Thread Part One
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Join Date: Oct 2011
Location: Down Under
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Hi Blondsober,
That no good! - you going to have to pick yourself up and forgive yourself, think about what happened on drink 1 so you can avoid it in the future and get back on the sober bus.
We are all here for you.
Cheers
Tyre
That no good! - you going to have to pick yourself up and forgive yourself, think about what happened on drink 1 so you can avoid it in the future and get back on the sober bus.
We are all here for you.
Cheers
Tyre
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Join Date: Sep 2012
Location: Bay Area, California
Posts: 120
Hi everyone!
Welcome to the new folks and well done to everyone else! And thank you to the folks who stop in to give their words of support and encouragement - it means so much!! THANK YOU!
Trapeze, I am SO sorry for your loss, my heart aches for you during this hard time. If you feel like you absolutely want to numb yourself with drinking (who could blame you, and all of society pushes that concept) please post here first! We all care about you and want the best for you, and we're all fighting this fight together.
Blonde, don't worry, just pick yourself up, dust yourself off and join again. I was in your shoes many times. I'm sorry to hear about the relationships with family, is it because you drank again? Please hang in there and don't leave us, and I thank you for your honesty. We're all here for you!
Welcome to the new folks and well done to everyone else! And thank you to the folks who stop in to give their words of support and encouragement - it means so much!! THANK YOU!
Trapeze, I am SO sorry for your loss, my heart aches for you during this hard time. If you feel like you absolutely want to numb yourself with drinking (who could blame you, and all of society pushes that concept) please post here first! We all care about you and want the best for you, and we're all fighting this fight together.
Blonde, don't worry, just pick yourself up, dust yourself off and join again. I was in your shoes many times. I'm sorry to hear about the relationships with family, is it because you drank again? Please hang in there and don't leave us, and I thank you for your honesty. We're all here for you!
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Join Date: Jan 2013
Location: San Francisco Bay Area, CA
Posts: 349
Thanks Kats,
Yes, it would have been easier to say that it is Day 12 . . . than to tell
the truth. But that doesn't seem right. This June group is so nice . . .
it is a motivation in and of itself.
This coming weekend will be a real challenge with wine tasting and
drunken BBQ going on around me (including my GF). I think I can
do it though . . .
Yes, it would have been easier to say that it is Day 12 . . . than to tell
the truth. But that doesn't seem right. This June group is so nice . . .
it is a motivation in and of itself.
This coming weekend will be a real challenge with wine tasting and
drunken BBQ going on around me (including my GF). I think I can
do it though . . .
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Join Date: Jan 2013
Location: San Francisco Bay Area, CA
Posts: 349
Thank Outon . . .
Yeah, it's not just the weekend days you lose, it's feeling only about 20%
effective at work today. And everything was going so well - blood pressure
down, weight down, kids liking me. Then a few drinks and Boom! down to
the bottom with no one trusting me again.
Yeah, it's not just the weekend days you lose, it's feeling only about 20%
effective at work today. And everything was going so well - blood pressure
down, weight down, kids liking me. Then a few drinks and Boom! down to
the bottom with no one trusting me again.
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Welcome back blond 
I can;t over emphasise the importance of a plan.
It doesn't have to be War and Peace.
thats the basics of a good plan right there - took me a minute.
D
I can;t over emphasise the importance of a plan.
It doesn't have to be War and Peace.
- what can I do to stop myself returning to the default when I'm left alone?
- what can I do when cravings hit?
- what can I do when someone offers me a drink or asks why I'm not drinking?
- make sure you always have an escape plan for any social aituation if things gets slippery
- make sure you have access to sober support - and use it regularly.
thats the basics of a good plan right there - took me a minute.
D
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Join Date: Jun 2017
Location: Baltimore, MD
Posts: 285
Checking in at near the end of my day. I am doing well and spending a lot of free time on sober podcasts (love "since right now" - been on for a while so there are lots to catch up on) and blogs, and of course, checking in here too.
I am also trying to put myself out there on other threads. I know that the more i get to know people on this site, the more important this connection will be come, and the less likely I will do anything to lead me away from it.
Blond - so glad you came right back! We are here for you.
I am also trying to put myself out there on other threads. I know that the more i get to know people on this site, the more important this connection will be come, and the less likely I will do anything to lead me away from it.
Blond - so glad you came right back! We are here for you.
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Welcome, Bethany, and congratulations on your sober time
Blonde, so happy you are back with us.
I'm feeling blue tonight and know this would be a night where I used to drink lots of wine. My husband is here and not drinking either - I suppose I could talk to him, right?
Blonde, so happy you are back with us.
I'm feeling blue tonight and know this would be a night where I used to drink lots of wine. My husband is here and not drinking either - I suppose I could talk to him, right?
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Join Date: Jun 2017
Location: Maryland
Posts: 23
Hi, Inchworm!
Thank you for the kind welcome. Tonight would also be a night where I would find my (old) self drinking a whole bottle of wine. I live with my boyfriend, and while he is not an alcoholic he is trying a month without alcohol. However, I never see him due to his crazy work hours, so I have no one to really talk to.
So glad I found this website!
Thank you for the kind welcome. Tonight would also be a night where I would find my (old) self drinking a whole bottle of wine. I live with my boyfriend, and while he is not an alcoholic he is trying a month without alcohol. However, I never see him due to his crazy work hours, so I have no one to really talk to.
So glad I found this website!
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Join Date: Sep 2012
Location: Bay Area, California
Posts: 120
Hi apple, you're so right! I always read other threads, I just don't post. This thread has been my lifeline, and I think at some point soon I will venture out to other threads. Love your telling us about it! It's so helpful for me, I thank you for that.
Welcome Bethany! Post often, we're all here!
Welcome Bethany! Post often, we're all here!
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Join Date: Sep 2012
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Originally Posted by Dee74 
Welcome back blond
I can;t over emphasise the importance of a plan.
It doesn't have to be War and Peace.
thats the basics of a good plan right there - took me a minute.
D
I can;t over emphasise the importance of a plan.
It doesn't have to be War and Peace.
- what can I do to stop myself returning to the default when I'm left alone?
- what can I do when cravings hit?
- what can I do when someone offers me a drink or asks why I'm not drinking?
- make sure you always have an escape plan for any social aituation if things gets slippery
- make sure you have access to sober support - and use it regularly.
thats the basics of a good plan right there - took me a minute.
D
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Join Date: Apr 2017
Location: Australia
Posts: 374
So sorry for your loss Trapeze. I'm glad you aren't feeling the urge to drink over it.
Good to hear you're back with us, Blond. You CAN do this!
I haven't posted here for a few days. Day 16 for me. I survived a weekend with the in-laws visiting. Everybody else drinking except me. Probably helped that I've been ill and a) felt less like drinking than if I was feeling well and b) could use it as an excuse as to why I wasn't drinking. I'll need to come up with a long term plan when these occasions arise, but for now, being a bit under the weather is a good enough reason. Being in a family of big drinkers is really hard when you're on this journey.
Good to hear you're back with us, Blond. You CAN do this!
I haven't posted here for a few days. Day 16 for me. I survived a weekend with the in-laws visiting. Everybody else drinking except me. Probably helped that I've been ill and a) felt less like drinking than if I was feeling well and b) could use it as an excuse as to why I wasn't drinking. I'll need to come up with a long term plan when these occasions arise, but for now, being a bit under the weather is a good enough reason. Being in a family of big drinkers is really hard when you're on this journey.
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Hi everyone, finally caught up on the thread from the beginning. What a great group. It's nice to see a couple of familiar names as well.
I'm among the drink-at-home-alone crowd. And also can claim membership to the how-fast-can-you-slam-it-down group.
I did well for awhile in March, and then had some issues which started me sliding. But as of yesterday I feel like I'm committed again in a way I was when I first joined the March group. All of your posts have been inspiring.
Just finished reading through a thread I came across when I first started visiting the site a lot. It includes posts about people talking about things they don't miss about drinking:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...dont-miss.html
Today, I cut and pasted a document specific to me that I could refer to as part of my recovery plan.
TrapezeFreak, I am very, very sorry to hear about your loss. My sincerest condolences.
Blond, reading your posts since the beginning, I can see how supportive and thoughtful and forgiving you are of others. Please give yourself that gift now. The past is the past. Today is what matters.
So, technically (1am here), onto Day 3 for me. Glad to be a Junebug (CaseyW, too cute!)
p.s.
As a very late entry to favorite fizzy waters, I finally broke down and bought one of the make-it-yourself types (there are several brands available). I think the cost comes out about the same, but I can set the amount of "fizzy" I want and flavor as I please.
And as for See's, oh...the toffee...they used to sell boxes with huge chunks of the stuff...well, 'nuf said.
I'm among the drink-at-home-alone crowd. And also can claim membership to the how-fast-can-you-slam-it-down group.
I did well for awhile in March, and then had some issues which started me sliding. But as of yesterday I feel like I'm committed again in a way I was when I first joined the March group. All of your posts have been inspiring.
Just finished reading through a thread I came across when I first started visiting the site a lot. It includes posts about people talking about things they don't miss about drinking:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...dont-miss.html
Today, I cut and pasted a document specific to me that I could refer to as part of my recovery plan.
TrapezeFreak, I am very, very sorry to hear about your loss. My sincerest condolences.
Blond, reading your posts since the beginning, I can see how supportive and thoughtful and forgiving you are of others. Please give yourself that gift now. The past is the past. Today is what matters.
So, technically (1am here), onto Day 3 for me. Glad to be a Junebug (CaseyW, too cute!)
p.s.
As a very late entry to favorite fizzy waters, I finally broke down and bought one of the make-it-yourself types (there are several brands available). I think the cost comes out about the same, but I can set the amount of "fizzy" I want and flavor as I please.
And as for See's, oh...the toffee...they used to sell boxes with huge chunks of the stuff...well, 'nuf said.
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