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Old 04-15-2017, 11:12 AM
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Great job Mish and Sunshine! I was pretty nervous reading your posts, but the fact that you two didn't give in is a huge accomplishment! This should really boost your confidence and prove you can get by these tough times completely sober.

I just looked at my join date and realized I've been battling this thing for a pretty long time. So, if you think about it, I'm an old veteran at this. "Yeah, it's really easy to stop drinking, I've done it dozens of times."

I tried to "wing it" for that time with predictable results. Just like everyone else who has slipped, my confidence and self-esteem suffered greatly during these times. But, you know the old saying that you haven't failed until you've stopped trying. I think everyone joining in this battle deserves a great deal of credit. Just keep in mind there are many people who never even seek help.

I have a busy weekend planned, so I'm confident I'll be sober all weekend and come out on the other side on day 19. I've been here before, full of confidence and strutting around only to fall into the dark abyss. This is then followed by me dropping off SR for a while out of embarrassment and shame.

Last night I had a fleeting thought of drinking while I was watching a movie and feeling down. Fortunately, I abruptly put an end to it by turning off the TV and went on to do something else. I just flat out refuse to entertain any thoughts of drinking. Nope, I don't drink, I don't like to drink, I will not drink, drinking makes me feel like crap, makes for bad decisions, and has done nothing but harm me physically and emotionally and has never solved any of my problems.

Here's to a sober and fun weekend!
LOL, Frank, your second paragraph just killed me with laughter. So funny. But it's really this whole post (in particular paragraphs three onwards) is exactly what I was wanting to write. My exact feelings right now.
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Old 04-15-2017, 11:47 AM
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Plus I wanted to add...

1. I just had AV try to get me. I opened the fridge and there were all these cold beers and out of force of habit my go to thought was to have one. What with the long day I've had, baby is now safe in bed, etc. I quickly shut that down and poured myself yet another cup of tea.

2. Two days ago was supposed to be when I quit sugar (in tea, coffee, etc). I was going to post about that decision and oh so great turning point in my life on here but before I even realized it, I'd already, almost robotically, poured myself the tea with three teaspoons in it! Aaaargh! Well, two days later I haven't worked up my resolve to even think again about quitting yet. But I figure, it's ok to take these things one step at a time. Starving myself too much will likely make it easier to fail at one or all resolutions.

Then, this afternoon, while thinking about the sugar thing I thought, oh well, at least it's not as bad as smoking (not being insensitive to smokers - my husband smokes, my mum smokes, my almost sister in law smokes....) but I can truly thank God that I don't. I did smoke a little bit when I had started dating my now husband. It was just for fun and really I started the habit late in life so it was unlikely to stick. However, after over two years of not so much as touching a cigarette, (I stopped even lighting up cigarettes for my H) last night, while enviously watching my H sip his whiskey and then light up, I thought to have a smoke. The smell was somewhat alluring to me. At the same time I thought, gosh, how much easier it would be to quit drinking if only I smoked (works for my mum). But I quickly shushed those thoughts as well. Classic AV. I clearly (as if it wasn't obvious) still have a long way to go.

Anyways, it's 9:45pm Saturday night here. H is on his way home from a meeting. I'll say goodnight to you all. Till tomorrow.
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Old 04-15-2017, 01:03 PM
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Day 35. Heading to an Early Easter dinner with my family. Have a great sober holiday everyone.
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Old 04-15-2017, 05:20 PM
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I was a ninja today fighting off cravings left and right north and south... I'm safely in my home on my couch on my laptop. I know from the past that this is just a phase of having all of these cravings/urges. If I can make it to 90 days then I believe it will be the ultimate change and when the cravings end and true acceptance of a new way of life is born again in my mind.
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Old 04-15-2017, 05:44 PM
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Keep fighting guys

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Old 04-15-2017, 06:12 PM
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Checking in with three weeks sober. They say after 2-3 weeks you are physically free of alcohol. Good decisions , a solid recovery plan, and a little willpower I suppose are in order... Everyone doing ok?
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Guys, I drank today. I got swept up in the festive mood of dinner with my family at a restaurant. I had a glass of wine with dinner, and then my visiting son and I split a bottle of wine.

I can't stop at a glass of wine with dinner. I'm done-- today was very enlightening.

It sucks.
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Old 04-15-2017, 08:05 PM
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Originally Posted by Bebrave View Post
Guys, I drank today. I got swept up in the festive mood of dinner with my family at a restaurant. I had a glass of wine with dinner, and then my visiting son and I split a bottle of wine.

I can't stop at a glass of wine with dinner. I'm done-- today was very enlightening.

It sucks.
Yes today is done. Tomorrow is day one. I made the mistake of not getting right back on the horse last year after 4 months sober. Went on a Carribean vacation and when my toes hit the sand down my pie hole the beers went. 8 months later I am back here at SR. I should have been back after I slipped. Tried to moderate but you know how that goes.

Just let today's slip go and pick up where you were for 35 days.

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Old 04-15-2017, 09:27 PM
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It's good you're back here, Bebrave, that's critical. So shake it off, and make today day one.
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Old 04-15-2017, 09:39 PM
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It's hard to walk away from traditions, expectations and it's hard not wanting to face questions about why you're not drinking, BeBrave.

I think you would have enjoyed the evening as much,if not more, without the wine.

Take this as a learning experience and save it as ammunition the next time you're faced with a choice.

You can do this

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Old 04-16-2017, 06:08 AM
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Happy Easter to all. Bebrave I think my slips have made my desire and will to stop stronger. When I had 18 months sober I was so curious to see if I could be a normal drinker. It took me wasting the last 18 months of on again off drinking to realize that I can't. Sometimes it's all good. But it's like Russian Roulette. And once that buzz kicks in and I'm feeling good...it's on... and then the hangover... the dreadful aftermath. Brush yourself off and get back in the game.
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Thanks everyone. As expected, I feel crappy and didn't sleep well. You're right Dee, I was sticking with the memories of how celebrations should go. It's very rare for my two kids to be together as one lives several hours away. And then when son came home to spend the night I purposely stopped for a bottle of wine. DH didn't question or argue -- wise man. Because I learned the lesson myself.

I'm back-- day one. I may not count days every day because I don't want to discount the 35 day school I had. What do you think?

Thanks again for all the words of encouragement. I really appreciate it.
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Hope you stay in March Class. Your story will help those of us fantasizing about the drink realize it is not worth it. I've had major cravings this weekend. So it helps to see someone gave in and regrets it. So that is the positive spin on things I suppose.
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Old 04-16-2017, 11:23 AM
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I'm definitely sticking here! Morning Easter activities are done. I think I'm going to take a nap since I didn't sleep well and cook a healthy dinner for me and my husband.
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Yes Bebrave, get right back on the bus. You said it was very enlightening so use it to further enforce the need for a sober life. I think it's fine not to always count days. 36 out of 37 days is great. Keep it going...99 out of 100, 364 out of 365 etc.
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Last night was a rough one with the misses. An old friend happened to be around and texted to see if I wanted to meet up (this always means for a few beers and food, but he knows that I'm not drinking). My wife then became her irrational self and said crazy stuff like "go out with your girlfriend." We had absolutely no plans, I'm always around and have been faithful, but it was upsetting of course.

Anyway, we dyed eggs with my daughter who's now 11 and doesn't believe in the Easter-bunny, but it was fun. I then went out for a couple hours, watched the Mets lose, drank cranberry/ seltzer and came home before they were even asleep. Fighting is exhausting and we usually never come to a resolution.

Well on to happier thoughts, today is day 30 for me and we've somewhat made up. Heading out to my Mother's for Easter.

Let's stay strong and keep rockin' sober Marchers
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hey all, sorry I've been a quiet, plug still in the jug :o)

met someone special (who doesn't drink :o) so been rather preoccupied - all good and much strength going out to you all :o)
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Old 04-16-2017, 02:03 PM
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JCNY! Congrats on 30 days!

I'm sorry about your wife. Is she perhaps just scared that you'll drink and doesn't know how to just say it? Either way, upsetting I'm sure.

Napster1, so nice to meet a new special someone!
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Good morning all. Waking up to day 30! It feels good. My body is still adjusting to the new job and sobriety. Hubby and a friend were drinking again at our house last night. No real cravings but I decided to go to the bathhouse and get a massage instead. It was amazing. My body felt like a rock before I went.
Sorry you drank bebrave. How did you feel before the Easter lunch? It's easy to get swept up in the moment. Glad to see you back and your 35 days most definitely counts towards a healthier body.
Russian roulette is a great way to explain this, Sunshine. It's exactly how I feel and I don't desire something that will eventually lead to my death. Scary thought but very real.
Have a great sober day everyone. 😊
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