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Old 01-28-2017, 08:29 PM
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And what about you Plenny? Everything going OK?
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Old 01-29-2017, 11:45 AM
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Morning everyone. Hope ya'll doin' good

Made a real breakthrough yesterday in terms of asserting myself. I feel a real lightness of spirit since putting my foot down such as I have never felt before, and it was big, because it entails both my family and my housing. Don't care, I'm doing this for me this time.

I know 100% that I would never have been able to do it if I were drinking, angry and drunk would have been how it played out, and again, I would have been in the back seat and handing my power to others. Low self esteem and guilt can do this to a person.

I'm now in the driver's seat even if I've only got my Learner's Permit.

My love to all.
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Old 01-29-2017, 12:14 PM
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Way to go Steely onwards and upwards.

I'm also doing much better since Saturday and Sunday. I have come to realise my low moods don't last forever and it's so great to trudge through them without the plonk.

81 days, 9 days to my next milestone. Haven't gone this long without a drink since my teen years. WOOT WOOT!!
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Old 01-29-2017, 01:01 PM
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WOOT WOOT you Poppy! We are all doing so great, trudging and learning as we go. Yay, us!

You made me smile when you used the word plonk. Are Australians the only one who use that term?

And the longest time ever since your teens, that is truly wonderful.

The trudge, not the plonk, hey Poppy!
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Ker-plunk to the plonk
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Old 01-29-2017, 04:26 PM
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Congratulations guys and really glad your feeling better Steely. X
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Thanks Kimmy. Yikes! It was really scary.

Just gotten back from a really cool visit to my GP with all blood tests, heart, BP, coming in normal. I am usually really self conscious and anxious when I go see him, even though I like him very much. He's a Christian but doesnt bible bash, he is so very kind. Funny hey, he's a Christian and I'm an atheist, and we both like each other.

He said, "you are on fire", and asked what was the reason? He knows that I have given up the grog, and I told him that this (giving up the grog), was the very reason.

He smiled at me and said, "the real you is shining through", and, "you have done it all yourself". With that I put my hands to my face in happiness, walked outside and started crying. Man, that was gold.

I haven't done it all myself, I've done it with all of you, my dearest Nobenders. And this is just the beginning.
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Old 01-29-2017, 05:41 PM
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Pretty sure Brits use the word plonk too. I could be wrong.
But I do find the word fitting. It's not a nice sounding word and alcohol is not a nice liquid.
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Thank you for shouting out. Yes everything is going ok. Off to a good start. Just feeling exhausted. I was triggered pretty hard this weekend. My family has been contacting me and contrary to popular interpretation, thats not a good or supportive thing. I tend to relapse when I have contact with them. And apparently my mother has been going off the charts again recently and I can only hope it's enough to get her noticed so she can get some help

But I'm hermiting and trying to drown them out and shut them out. So I can stay sober and meditate and move through this

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Good morning, folks.

Steely - I like how your Dr said "the real you is shining through"; I'm beginning to see how that is true for all of us who stay sober.

Today is 90 days, and slowly but surely the real me is coming out from a dark hibernation. My skin is smoother, my eyes are brighter, I've lost 30 pounds, I'm beginning to run again (albeit, much slower than I used to, but it's a start!), I care again about the food I'm putting in my body.

Of course, this is the just the beginning, and I am conscious of the potential pitfalls that are ahead. I don't post often, but I do visit SR every day. When I don't know what to say, I tend to say nothing at all. I think I learned that while growing up with 4 sisters! This place does make a huge difference; knowing that you're not alone, and that there are others on the road with you...some behind, some beside, and some calling out directions from far ahead.

Hope you're all well.
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Old 01-30-2017, 05:16 AM
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Steely, so great to hear. You must be happy with the clean bill of health. X
Hi Plenny, thinking of you. X
tnek97, Wow, your doing so well. Congratulations. X
Bug hugs to everyone. X
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Old 01-30-2017, 08:53 AM
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Tnek, congratulations on 90 days!!!

Steely, your doctor sounds like a good one. I'm so glad to hear that you're feeling better.

Poppy, happy to see that you made it through a hard weekend. It's so good to know that the negative feelings and cravings go through a cycle and it always gets better.

Plenny, family is such a trigger for so many of us. Stay strong! Do what you need to in order to take care of yourself. Big hugs!

Kimmy & PhoenixJ, hope you are both doing well today.

Did I miss anyone?? Oh...Dee, hello!
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Old 01-30-2017, 09:37 AM
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Hey Nobenders! Long time since I've posted in this thread. I have been so busy this past week. My daughter depends on my help so much. She's a single mom with 3 kids... no help from deadbeat dad. I do what I can to help her, but OMG those kids can make me so tired. There's a reason 50 year-olds don't have babies. I need sleep!

My sober clock tells me that I am on Day 63... or 2 months, 2 days, 12 hours, and 5 minutes!! I'm pretty proud of that.

Hope everyone is doing well. I think of you guys often and I'm so happy we stick together. Love to all.
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Congrats tnek!!!

So happy for your newfound assertiveness Steely!!

Plenny im so glad your feeling better as well.

Im still wallowing in emotions over here. I dont want to lose my job, i dont want to give up my apartment, i dont want to move closer to my ex, i dont want my kids in daycare any longer than they are now, i dont want to commute 2.5 hours a day, i dont want a random part time job, i dont want to stay up late thinking anymore. Thing is i cant have all of that at the same time. Some things gotta give. Aaaaaaarrrgggghhh. I know this too shall pass. But uncertainty is a mean mistress.
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Have just read everyone's posts, but was wondering first of all, how you went with your blood tests Poppy?

Sorry for not asking yesterday, but you know how it is, head sometimes fuzzy. Good news, yes?!
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I hope you can work out the best possible scenario from that LLG.

Congrats on 90 days tnek and you on 63 days abriella

I hope everyone else is doing ok today

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Too good on your 91 days tnek. You sound to be doing great, and losing 30lbs is phenomenal. We're shining through...poster girls for sobriety haha. Really great stuff tnek.

Good to see you there Kimmy, shine on you crazy diamond. Hope you don't leave our class for January. We need you too...

Thanks too rainy, for your good wishes. Let's stick together, seeing as I've been abandoned by society at large. but really,

More of the same to you Abriella, and fully good on 64 days. Do I ever relate to caring for grandkids. When my daughter became ill I had to care for her 3 kids and it was truly exhausting. You are doing great, 'cause it ain't easy, and you have every reason to be proud. I am. Yay!

Oh LiveLikeGold, I don't want to get all political here, but the *system* sucks. On the one hand we are supposed to be nurturing stay at home mothers, yet to survive financially we HAVE to work, and yes, we want to work, but no provision is made for affordable child care, nor our work environments structured to meet the needs of working mothers. It's a big fat guilt tripping nightmare, and I don't like it. Free Mum, Free Dad, Free Day Care....and flexible work hours.

For what it's worth, instead of stressing out (barely possible), at least try to view your situation objectively. You are facing a brick wall of unhelpfulness, not of your making.

What will be, will be LLG (ha I made a rhyme) and just try to chill, be kind (true) to yourself, and don't let *them* get you down, you are a good mother and a good worker.

I can remember my psychiatrist saying to me once that 'not knowing' can be the worst, so yes, a very "cruel mistress". But you're not!

Take it a day at a time in the big chill. Something will "give" LLG, and we'll take it from there
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Old 01-30-2017, 04:05 PM
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Hey Steely, I haven't called the doc as yet. Freaking out big time.
Will call soon, when I sum up some courage. Aaaagh
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Hi everybody. Just wanted to say goodnight as I'm having an early one.
Your not getting rid of me that easy Steely!! I'm sticking around here with you guys for sure. X
Good luck with the blood results poppy. X
Thinking of you all, lots of love. Xx
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Well I've decided I'm not going to let mean management force me out of a career that I actually love doing each day. After reading about commute times all over the world I feel a lot less bad about my commute. I'm going to make it work to keep my job and hopefully within a year I can tell you guys I got another promotion to the office closer to my house. But after having a great day at work today I realized what's the point of having a job right next to my house if I don't even know if I'll like it as much as i like what I do now. I have a long history of jumping from job to job because nothing ever felt right but this job does feel right helping my customers feels right them telling me God bless you and that I helped them so much feels right and that's the part that I need to focus on. I always change my mind a lot so don't mind me if I come in here singing a different tune another day. But for today I feel really good about holding onto what I have. Went to the gym after work with the kids.. the kids have their own little group of friends at the gym daycare so it's really a nice place for all of us. Going to sleep feeling so much better than I have the last couple of days. Thank you for everyones support good night all
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