Class of September 2016 Part 4
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Join Date: Sep 2016
Posts: 61
Sending you good wishes, Windancer. As someone in my AA group told me when I relapsed, no post-mortems - draw a line in the sand and continue on your journey.
Strength also to anyone else here who may be having a tough time. x
Strength also to anyone else here who may be having a tough time. x
Living the life
Join Date: Sep 2016
Location: Ontario, Canada
Posts: 1,211
Good morning folks.
Four weeks today
(still right behind you, Martin 
)
Feeling strong, although I know that weak moments can and do pop up suddenly, strongly and with no warning so I am not allowing myself to get cocky. I recognize that it is still very early days for me.
It's been nice seeing so many checking in over the last couple of days. I know for myself that regularly checking in on this site has been the cornerstone of my sobriety.
Have a good one everyone
Four weeks today
(still right behind you, Martin )Feeling strong, although I know that weak moments can and do pop up suddenly, strongly and with no warning so I am not allowing myself to get cocky. I recognize that it is still very early days for me.
It's been nice seeing so many checking in over the last couple of days. I know for myself that regularly checking in on this site has been the cornerstone of my sobriety.
Have a good one everyone
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Join Date: Sep 2016
Posts: 61
Hi September folks!
I have 60 days today. I just looked at some of my posts from the time of my relapse and I could not be happier to be inching further and further away from those feelings, one day at a time.
It hasn't been easy but it has been so worthwhile. I feel like I'm becoming a better person in many ways. I hope it lasts.
I have 60 days today. I just looked at some of my posts from the time of my relapse and I could not be happier to be inching further and further away from those feelings, one day at a time.
It hasn't been easy but it has been so worthwhile. I feel like I'm becoming a better person in many ways. I hope it lasts.
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Join Date: Sep 2016
Location: Massachusetts
Posts: 697
Ok, 74 days sober today and for some reason I am feeling like having a drink more than ever. My husband has been working late on a big job for the last two weeks so I have barely seen him. That's when I use to drink the most, when my husband would be working late for extended periods of time. I've tried to keep busy. Took a long walk with the dog, talked with some friends, worked out, cooked and ate a nice dinner. Then I went out into the garage where I know my husband hide some liquor, opened a bottle of whisky and just smelled it. I really miss it. Something's wrong with that!
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Stay with us Brabs - plenty of people to talk to and pass the time with - much better than drinking. I'd make thge garage a nogo area maybe?
Congrats bikube
Have a good sober weekend everyone
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Congrats bikube
Have a good sober weekend everyone
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Join Date: Jan 2014
Location: Bucks County, PA
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Barbs, it sounds to me as if you're caught up in the nostalgia of drinking, and you're romanticizing the act. That's your AV speaking LOUD and CLEAR.
Step away and clear your mind with something else. 74 days is an amazing accomplishment...stop and think how disappointed you would be if you woke up tomorrow and had to start the clock again. Stay strong, and stay with us!
Let us know how you do....you CAN get through this sober!
Step away and clear your mind with something else. 74 days is an amazing accomplishment...stop and think how disappointed you would be if you woke up tomorrow and had to start the clock again. Stay strong, and stay with us!
Let us know how you do....you CAN get through this sober!
F*** the Zero
Join Date: Oct 2016
Location: London
Posts: 410
hi everyone. we're starting to get some serious sober time behind us all. well done
ive stopped taking my SSRI after tapering. its been a week, got some withdrawals floating around. upset stomach, vivid dreams, and brain zaps.
beats drinking and the hangovers though
all very weird and uncomfortable. could be worse, anxiety is the most common and that's not struck yet so fingers crossed it wont. the anxiety before I started them almost had me committed. I'm hoping that was just due to destroying my neurotransmitter balance with the drink and its recovered now. we will see...
ive stopped taking my SSRI after tapering. its been a week, got some withdrawals floating around. upset stomach, vivid dreams, and brain zaps.
beats drinking and the hangovers though
all very weird and uncomfortable. could be worse, anxiety is the most common and that's not struck yet so fingers crossed it wont. the anxiety before I started them almost had me committed. I'm hoping that was just due to destroying my neurotransmitter balance with the drink and its recovered now. we will see...
Living the life
Join Date: Sep 2016
Location: Ontario, Canada
Posts: 1,211
Good morning folks.
Congrats Martin on your 30 days yesterday Mine is today. I'm impressed with so many big numbers here, and I am also impressed with the lower numbers that keep coming back
Busy Saturday here, so just a flyby visit.
Have a good one everyone.
Congrats Martin on your 30 days yesterday
Mine is today. I'm impressed with so many big numbers here, and I am also impressed with the lower numbers that keep coming back Busy Saturday here, so just a flyby visit.
Have a good one everyone.
Living the life
Join Date: Sep 2016
Location: Ontario, Canada
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Hi Folks.
I just got home from a memorial service for the wife of a good friend/former co-worker. I absolutely wanted to be there for him because we are all like family. I knew a bunch of my former co-workers would also be there and it would be good to see them all. Having said that, this group of former co-workers, mostly guys and my best girlfriend, are also all my former drinking buddies. I've known some of them for more than thirty years, and we have supported each other through triumphs and tragedies, drinking all the way.
I also knew there would be drinking at this function. I wasn't overly concerned because I am feeling pretty good at the moment about my sobriety and also my girlfriend is also in sobriety now, but for the guys they only know me as a drinker. One of them was heading up to the bar and asked if I wanted anything. I said yes, I'll have a soda with cranberry. He seemed unsure and said "with vodka?" I said "no, just like that" and smiled. That was it. No one paid any attention (that I could see) that I didn't have a beer or a glass of wine in my hand. My friend who got my drink seemed so proud that they had what I asked for lol. Our group got to our usual point of telling old work war stories (that often involved alcohol) that always have us all laughing hard ("remember the time when...") and I thoroughly enjoyed myself. I didn't find it triggering, although it made me glad that the days we were laughing about were so long ago and almost in a different life. But probably more importantly I didn't feel left out because I wasn't drinking. I haven't done many social situations since quitting drinking so I just wanted to share that.
Have a good one everyone.
I just got home from a memorial service for the wife of a good friend/former co-worker. I absolutely wanted to be there for him because we are all like family. I knew a bunch of my former co-workers would also be there and it would be good to see them all. Having said that, this group of former co-workers, mostly guys and my best girlfriend, are also all my former drinking buddies. I've known some of them for more than thirty years, and we have supported each other through triumphs and tragedies, drinking all the way.
I also knew there would be drinking at this function. I wasn't overly concerned because I am feeling pretty good at the moment about my sobriety and also my girlfriend is also in sobriety now, but for the guys they only know me as a drinker. One of them was heading up to the bar and asked if I wanted anything. I said yes, I'll have a soda with cranberry. He seemed unsure and said "with vodka?" I said "no, just like that" and smiled. That was it. No one paid any attention (that I could see) that I didn't have a beer or a glass of wine in my hand. My friend who got my drink seemed so proud that they had what I asked for lol. Our group got to our usual point of telling old work war stories (that often involved alcohol) that always have us all laughing hard ("remember the time when...") and I thoroughly enjoyed myself. I didn't find it triggering, although it made me glad that the days we were laughing about were so long ago and almost in a different life. But probably more importantly I didn't feel left out because I wasn't drinking. I haven't done many social situations since quitting drinking so I just wanted to share that.
Have a good one everyone.
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Join Date: Sep 2016
Location: Massachusetts
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Well I made it through last night by reading a lot of posts here, talking with an old friend and then reading Between Breaths by Elizabeth Vargas. Spent today with my 85 year old mother while my husband worked all day. Just found out he will be working late again tonight. I'll be glad when this job is done. It will be another long night.
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I hope everyone is having a lovely weekend.
I did a 5k run in the forest with my dad this morning, I found it tough but he matched his pace to mine for moral support. Went to a meeting afterwards and did some gardening. It was a nice, uneventful Saturday but busy enough to keep me occupied - I'm not working at present, so the days are often long and boring.
Helen, congratulations on getting through your function! This has been something that I've been a little cautious about too. I haven't really socialised much or even been around alcohol since beginning my recovery. I watched a movie with my mother this evening and beforehand she asked me if it would bother me if she drank wine during it. I said that was fine, and I actually barely thought about it during the film.
Grateful that my parents are supportive and considerate towards my sobriety.
I did a 5k run in the forest with my dad this morning, I found it tough but he matched his pace to mine for moral support. Went to a meeting afterwards and did some gardening. It was a nice, uneventful Saturday but busy enough to keep me occupied - I'm not working at present, so the days are often long and boring.
Helen, congratulations on getting through your function! This has been something that I've been a little cautious about too. I haven't really socialised much or even been around alcohol since beginning my recovery. I watched a movie with my mother this evening and beforehand she asked me if it would bother me if she drank wine during it. I said that was fine, and I actually barely thought about it during the film.
Grateful that my parents are supportive and considerate towards my sobriety.
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