One Year and Under Club Part 56
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Glee--I feel bad for you. I've been hired, fired, and rejected. and I want to say
it has made me a better person. and I don't think I'm done learning the lessons in life yet. I agree that there is a reason for every thing and every thing happens for a reason. Big, Big hugs to you. You will come back from this and even bigger !
Babs
it has made me a better person. and I don't think I'm done learning the lessons in life yet. I agree that there is a reason for every thing and every thing happens for a reason. Big, Big hugs to you. You will come back from this and even bigger !
Babs
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I decided to take the day off to clear my head - and my supervisor told me off. He was pretty scathing, asking how I could be upset about not being chosen for a manager position if I'm not able to accept senior leaderships decisions and go in and lead my team when I disagree with senior management. Then he told me that he was upset with my text. Honestly it felt like he was kicking me while I was down. I ended up deciding to go in at lunchtime. He works from home on Fridays and he never acknowledged the message I left regarding that.
I don't think taking a day off after a personal/professional setback is unreasonable. I woke up crying in the middle of the night. Im disappointed. I was not in a good frame of mind this morning.
I think his comments were unreasonable. He could have encouraged me to rethink my decision to take the day off, but instead he cut me up. His comments upset me more than being passed over for the opportunity.
I went to work, half focused, and stayed positive for my team. I provided some new hires data showing how much they've improved in 2 weeks. I showed a seasoned staff person the value of following a procedure that I completely disagree with. I know I'm a leader.
Believe it or not I think today's terrible conversation is a lesson that I needed. I can be strong in the face of adversity. Also I can be very sharp tongued and critical of others, although I work to curb it. I'm sure I've been guilty of what he did.
I am going to forgive my boss. I don't agree with his assessment of me, and I think he was mean, but I'm not going stonewall him in anger or hold a grudge. I'm going to make sure he knows I am ok with him, too, by smiling and being pleasant and helpful. Hopefully this experience makes me a nicer, lighter hearted leader.
I don't think taking a day off after a personal/professional setback is unreasonable. I woke up crying in the middle of the night. Im disappointed. I was not in a good frame of mind this morning.
I think his comments were unreasonable. He could have encouraged me to rethink my decision to take the day off, but instead he cut me up. His comments upset me more than being passed over for the opportunity.
I went to work, half focused, and stayed positive for my team. I provided some new hires data showing how much they've improved in 2 weeks. I showed a seasoned staff person the value of following a procedure that I completely disagree with. I know I'm a leader.
Believe it or not I think today's terrible conversation is a lesson that I needed. I can be strong in the face of adversity. Also I can be very sharp tongued and critical of others, although I work to curb it. I'm sure I've been guilty of what he did.
I am going to forgive my boss. I don't agree with his assessment of me, and I think he was mean, but I'm not going stonewall him in anger or hold a grudge. I'm going to make sure he knows I am ok with him, too, by smiling and being pleasant and helpful. Hopefully this experience makes me a nicer, lighter hearted leader.
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Hello, may i join in?
I'm at 10 months on Tuesday and find the shares in this group very helpful.
gleefan.....I just read your post in the Overs and your grace in handling the work situation is very inspiring. Sorry you didn't get the promotion.
I'm at 10 months on Tuesday and find the shares in this group very helpful.
gleefan.....I just read your post in the Overs and your grace in handling the work situation is very inspiring. Sorry you didn't get the promotion.
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Stargazer - I love your comment about alcoholics not having much experience dealing well with disappointment or frustration!!
Dee - I think experiencing disappoiments sober is growing my faith that things will work out, and that other opportunities will present themselves if I keep doing the right thing.
Kopfan - I gained a ton of weight in sobriety. I found that the dieting and exercise strategies I used in active addiction highly triggered my cravings for booze. To me it was a priority to be sober, and I backed off diet and exercise.
It took quite a bit of time before I could focus on diet and exercise without triggering -- like 2 and a half years!! I'm back in a place where I can focus on it. For me it's been a significant learning experience that I couldn't have everything I want as soon as I wanted it. Building authentic motivation for success in various areas of my life, and being able to accept set backs, while still moving forward, is taking time. Keep doing the right things and you'll find yours too.
To the new posters in this thread -- welcome!! It's great to have you here!!
Have a great Saturday!!
Dee - I think experiencing disappoiments sober is growing my faith that things will work out, and that other opportunities will present themselves if I keep doing the right thing.
Kopfan - I gained a ton of weight in sobriety. I found that the dieting and exercise strategies I used in active addiction highly triggered my cravings for booze. To me it was a priority to be sober, and I backed off diet and exercise.
It took quite a bit of time before I could focus on diet and exercise without triggering -- like 2 and a half years!! I'm back in a place where I can focus on it. For me it's been a significant learning experience that I couldn't have everything I want as soon as I wanted it. Building authentic motivation for success in various areas of my life, and being able to accept set backs, while still moving forward, is taking time. Keep doing the right things and you'll find yours too.
To the new posters in this thread -- welcome!! It's great to have you here!!
Have a great Saturday!!
Living and Loving Life at Last
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Welcome Bandicoot and congratulations on ten months going strong.
Kopfan, yeah we always need to keep HALTS in mind ( I add the S for stress!) I found always carrying a bottle of water around helps to assuage hunger pangs and chewing gum can help with the temptation to eat things at the wrong times!
Glee, yup, instead of dealing with those nasty old negative emotions we all ran to our BFF the bottle, and found someone else to blame!! Of course now we all have to be real grown ups and deal - just like everyone else!!
You are doing a great job coping with the current disappointments, especially given the lack of fact and consideration from you so called superiors!
Kopfan, yeah we always need to keep HALTS in mind ( I add the S for stress!) I found always carrying a bottle of water around helps to assuage hunger pangs and chewing gum can help with the temptation to eat things at the wrong times!
Glee, yup, instead of dealing with those nasty old negative emotions we all ran to our BFF the bottle, and found someone else to blame!! Of course now we all have to be real grown ups and deal - just like everyone else!!
You are doing a great job coping with the current disappointments, especially given the lack of fact and consideration from you so called superiors!
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Join Date: Jun 2011
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I'm digging William Bell's great Stax sound...
Last night I had a dream
And there were three of me
There was the man I was the man I am And the man I want to be
ooh
The three of me The three of me I've got to figure out who I wanna be
Last night I had a dream
And there were three of me
There was the man I was the man I am And the man I want to be
ooh
The three of me The three of me I've got to figure out who I wanna be
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