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Old 09-16-2016, 08:13 AM
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Morning Eveyone
Elle,
Glad to hear you haven' t looked at fb. Your posts kinda make me think you are going through a fight in your head? Buddha said we all have 83 problems. In my humble opinion, delete facebook and make room for one that matters in your life.

SSG, Glad to hear your hanging in. sounds like you are looking forward to the weekend. Thats a good thing.

Ooona, love the post. I have been reading some of your posts in newcomers, you come across so caring & helpful. Now I know why, you are such a strong person.

Chan, if your reading this, let us know how you are

Have a great day A-teamers
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Old 09-16-2016, 08:24 AM
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Elicia,
That was Awsome. Thank You. Have a great weekend.
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Old 09-16-2016, 09:11 AM
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Elicia,
That was Awsome. Thank You. Have a great weekend.
You too!!
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Old 09-16-2016, 10:07 AM
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Hey Elle that's pretty impressive-social media is the worst. I've just deleted the apps on my phone. They triggered a whole downward spiral for me last weekend and the end result was I beat myself up so much I thought eff-it! Social media has a lot of heartache to answer for!!

Ooona-yep totally with you on the Friday pangs of longing. But it was so long ago that I'd just enjoy a few drinks with friends and toddle off home a little drunk. My drinking has progressed waaaay beyond that point. Any feeling sorry for myself is just reinforcing I'm missing out. But I'm not-I'm missing out when I opt out of life and drink.

Elicia-thanks for your kind words of empathy. I've got a long road ahead of retraining my negative self talk. I just don't know where to start. I'm thinking that by practicing self care my self talk will change to be less venomous!

On my way home from work now. I'm very tired. Looking forward to some Netflix!! Rock and roll!!

Big love to the A Team!
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Old 09-16-2016, 11:49 AM
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Elicia - thanks for asking after me.
Like Miss Mapp, " I have always led a very quiet life in my little house, with my sweet flowers for my companions" so I don't have a lot to report here. But I check SR every day and follow everyone's progress with interest.
I'm doing alright: next project health-wise is tidying up the diet, reducing weight, and undertaking commitment to some gentle exercise programmes and routines (Lucia's “Ideal System of Calisthenics for those no longer Young” perhaps!)
Best wishes to all
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Old 09-16-2016, 03:14 PM
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Hi all,

I haven't been around for a couple of days..very busy and computer problems. I have a few minutes to check in.
Glad to see everyone is okay.
I agree with the staying off fab. Actually I don't have fb because I tend to be a stalker on it. Stay away..bad trigger!!!

I'm still here, sober and doing okay. I have not been able to catch up with all of the posts but I am thinking of all of you xoxo happy friday
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Old 09-16-2016, 03:49 PM
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Hey everyone!

So I now finally have internet and battery after camping for nearly two weeks! It s been an amazing trip, lots of quality time with the family in some beautiful places! It was my first sober holiday in almost 20 years!

This is just a quick post to check in and say I missed you guys! Tomorrow I ll catch up with the recent posts and get back to the proper A-team style.

For now all I can say is that it feels nice to end day 37 laying down on a proper bed after a proper decent shower!

Hope everyone is well!

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Old 09-16-2016, 04:04 PM
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Motivated to exercise, weight bearing would be helpful and it will be good to have an activity, totally new for me to go to a gym. This is to counteract my current habit of being on the coach with this iPad. Least I'm drinking water with pomegranate syrup"........
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Old 09-16-2016, 04:06 PM
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Originally Posted by MrPL View Post
Hey everyone!

So I now finally have internet and battery after camping for nearly two weeks! It s been an amazing trip, lots of quality time with the family in some beautiful places! It was my first sober holiday in almost 20 years!

This is just a quick post to check in and say I missed you guys! Tomorrow I ll catch up with the recent posts and get back to the proper A-team style.

For now all I can say is that it feels nice to end day 37 laying down on a proper bed after a proper decent shower!

Hope everyone is well!

Mr P
Welcome back Mr P! So happy to hear you had a great holiday. We have missed you, glad to have you back
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Old 09-16-2016, 04:19 PM
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Hi A-team it's now 11.30 pm in UK and today I have not looked at FB and today I have not picked up a drink! Miracles happen!!!
Spent the morning cleaning my house for a couple of viewings, depressed and crying, in one of his wedding pictures he's lifted her up in the air, their faces smiling, a picture of absolute joy..... Felt like my heart had been torn out and stamped on. I know you're all gonna say I did to myself and I did, I don't have to look at FB the image is indelibly seared on my brain.
Spiralled into total self loathing and self pity, comparing myself to her, my capacity for self hate knows no bounds.
The first viewing was at 12.30 so don't ask me why, I got in my car with the sole purpose of going to the pub for a drink, I had decided it didn't matter, no point fighting anymore just wanted to shut my head off and complete oblivion and this is where the miracle happened as if on automatic pilot call it divine intervention I found myself at an AA meeting instead!
To my absolute joy the speaker was a man I absolutely adore, he is the epitome of a man living his life in peace and grace, a spiritual guru, I could listen to him for hours and bask in his serenity. Before the meeting started, as always he stopped to talk to me and through tears I said I think God has turned his face away from me. Then came his chair... The wisdom poured out of him and as he talked I realised God hasn't abandoned me he took me to that meeting so that I could hear what that wonderful man had to say. He talked about when he meets his creator there will be 2 lines of people waiting, in the first line will be all the people who loved and supported him in his life and in the other line will be All the people who have harmed him and caused him pain. The people in the latter line would be the ones he would hug and thank the most for without the lessons they had taught him he would not have grown and become a better, stronger person. Wow - he talked of forgiveness and letting go with love and gratitude...... I pondered this and when I do my step 9 I know that I will have to pray for my ex, pray for his happiness and let him go with love and only then will my wounds begin to heal. A modicum of peace returned.
Tonight I went to a fashion show in London, it's fashion week, lots of super skinny people about ha ha note to self lose some weight!! It was the first time in a very long time that I glammed up, wore make and looked fractionally like the woman I used to be, actually took my first selfie in eons but it's pretty hideous so won't be sending it to anyone lol.
Note to self keep saying I am absolutely perfect just as I am....
Sorry gone on but after you have all been so amazingly kind and supportive, I wanted to share my day with you. I share my pain with you and you only show me encouragement, no judgement, oneday I hope to be able to share my joy with you.
So happy to be in the A team love reading all of your posts admire your honesty. Elle X
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Old 09-16-2016, 04:21 PM
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Welcome back Mr PL - and you too lovehoops

enjoy the weekend, gang

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Old 09-16-2016, 06:01 PM
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Hi A-team it's now 11.30 pm in UK and today I have not looked at FB and today I have not picked up a drink! Miracles happen!!!
Spent the morning cleaning my house for a couple of viewings, depressed and crying, in one of his wedding pictures he's lifted her up in the air, their faces smiling, a picture of absolute joy..... Felt like my heart had been torn out and stamped on. I know you're all gonna say I did to myself and I did, I don't have to look at FB the image is indelibly seared on my brain.
Spiralled into total self loathing and self pity, comparing myself to her, my capacity for self hate knows no bounds.
The first viewing was at 12.30 so don't ask me why, I got in my car with the sole purpose of going to the pub for a drink, I had decided it didn't matter, no point fighting anymore just wanted to shut my head off and complete oblivion and this is where the miracle happened as if on automatic pilot call it divine intervention I found myself at an AA meeting instead!
To my absolute joy the speaker was a man I absolutely adore, he is the epitome of a man living his life in peace and grace, a spiritual guru, I could listen to him for hours and bask in his serenity. Before the meeting started, as always he stopped to talk to me and through tears I said I think God has turned his face away from me. Then came his chair... The wisdom poured out of him and as he talked I realised God hasn't abandoned me he took me to that meeting so that I could hear what that wonderful man had to say. He talked about when he meets his creator there will be 2 lines of people waiting, in the first line will be all the people who loved and supported him in his life and in the other line will be All the people who have harmed him and caused him pain. The people in the latter line would be the ones he would hug and thank the most for without the lessons they had taught him he would not have grown and become a better, stronger person. Wow - he talked of forgiveness and letting go with love and gratitude...... I pondered this and when I do my step 9 I know that I will have to pray for my ex, pray for his happiness and let him go with love and only then will my wounds begin to heal. A modicum of peace returned.
Tonight I went to a fashion show in London, it's fashion week, lots of super skinny people about ha ha note to self lose some weight!! It was the first time in a very long time that I glammed up, wore make and looked fractionally like the woman I used to be, actually took my first selfie in eons but it's pretty hideous so won't be sending it to anyone lol.
Note to self keep saying I am absolutely perfect just as I am....
Sorry gone on but after you have all been so amazingly kind and supportive, I wanted to share my day with you. I share my pain with you and you only show me encouragement, no judgement, oneday I hope to be able to share my joy with you.
So happy to be in the A team love reading all of your posts admire your honesty. Elle X
This made my night!! Ive been struggling with a headache all afternoon so kind of in a funk mood but this brought a HUGE smile to my face!!
Thanks!!
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MrP - you're back!!!! missed you! I started getting worried a couple days ago and had to go back and see when it was you left. tell us all about it tomorrow.
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yay, Elle! that is so awesome about the man at the meeting! and, a fashion show in London sounds sooooo glamorous! But, you had me at London....
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Day 28

Haven't felt tempted to drink too much, but I'm also feeling very anxious and guarded about it. Fortunately, whenever I DO think about beer, I remember how much I hate hangovers. That, more than anything, has been my motivator.
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on August 18th I made a decision to finally end the madness. Almost a month later I'm still sober and feeling great. I guess you could say I found rock bottom finally, and knew something had to change. It only took a five day binge plus a trip to the ER. I've been attending AA meetings regularly and have kept myself busy so far.
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Old 09-16-2016, 09:21 PM
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Elle,,, that was such a great post to read, I'm happy for you.
AJJ,,, welcome to the A-Team.
MrP,,, welcome back
Night everyone.
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Morning Bit of an iffy moment last night, but luckily all the shops were closed by then. SO glad now
Hope you're all having a good weekend. Shields UP

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Old 09-17-2016, 04:50 AM
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Good morning, A-team!! Welcome back, Mr. P!! We missed you! Lovehoops and mklove, so good to see you! And welcome to the group, AJJ. SUper grateful today to be awake, sober, not hungover--ready and able to help my sis with her amazing kiddos. Enjoying a cup of coffee on the deck in the quiet, peaceful countryside. Soon the kiddos will all be awake and running. Football practice, soccer practice, kiddo football game and college football game with friends later. It's gonna be a great day!!
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