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Old 10-10-2016, 11:17 AM
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Oh Mariah! Thank you for passing that on.
It's lovely to hear (read) your voice again. Hope all's well with you too!
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Old 10-10-2016, 04:10 PM
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Thanks for passing that on Mariah
Thinking of you Tops

Obo I don't think I could put it any better than FreeIn did.
You can absolutely do this

As for elections..we've always survived US elections before and I trust we will this time too.

Don;t borrow trouble, y'know?
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Old 10-10-2016, 09:41 PM
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Yes, hard to believe those two are our choice for President of our Country. Shook my head through the debate last night. I do think Trump would defend our Men in Blue who are under attack right now & in a better position to fix our economy here & deal with the threat from ISIS. He's not running for President because He needs the money, maybe the fame but I do believe as he's said he loves this County & is tired of watching it go down the tubes, which it is, sad to say.

Good to hear TS this am....nice to hear a voice behind one of the Fools

Big day at the casino tomorrow so better get some sleep....good, sober sleep. The best thing about sobriety. Good Night All
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Old 10-10-2016, 10:59 PM
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Hope you have a good night's sleep Mariah.

I have my supervision today at work - I 've not even looked at the list of objectives I should have tackled! I've felt bogged down with just getting the basic job done without all the extras. I'm fairly sure my boss thinks I should do some work in my own hours, but I'm fighting against doing that. I believe that work should be left at work. When I've continued to work at home in the past, it caused me so much angst and stress, and didn't really take any pressure off at work either. Basically even more was expected. So I don't want to go down that line again.

Perhaps I should be seriously looking for a different job?

It might go well today, who knows?

UP, how did your volunteering go yesterday? That's a great step forward. It'll be a wonderful way to get back in to a work routine (that can be one of the most difficult things after a while off work imo). I hope it was a good experience, and you're feeling inspired.

Have a great day all.
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Old 10-11-2016, 03:59 AM
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Morning Fools

It wasn't too bad free. I was really sore yesterday evening. I wasn't feeling too bad after the volunteering but went to PT immediately after and that was a horrible idea. I survived though. I'm going back this morning to help out at the food closet. It is where needy people can come get some donated food.

I think I might need a nap this afternoon though, didn't get much sleep last night. Got some disturbing and depressing news last night. I don't really want to share it publicly here for the whole world to see. Not that I don't want to share it with you guys.

Smart choice on not wanting to let them take advantage of you at work free.

Hope you all have a good day.
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Old 10-11-2016, 08:24 AM
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I think it's great your volunteering Up....a great resource for job search & doing something to help others is good medicine!
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Old 10-11-2016, 12:05 PM
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Sorry you've had some bad news, UP. Hope it's not too serious.

My supervision was pretty much as expected! - it's probably time to look around for something different. It would definitely do me good to have a change. I wrote a list of things I'd like to do, and just looking at it made me quite feel quite excited. But there's nothing I could really just jump in to, it will take a bit of time and preparation, but it might be fun just working towards something.

How's it going Obo?
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Old 10-11-2016, 03:21 PM
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Glad you're volunteering UP but sorry about your bad news.

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Old 10-11-2016, 06:27 PM
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Hard for words to describe the damage around here on the island. Thousands of trees down,.......was able to borrow a gas chain saw to clear several trees on the drive into my place Sat.
Almost knee deep in branches on half an acre, but very little damage to the cottage.

Been burning in a large concrete fire pit since yesterday morning,..... making a little dent ,....maybe 20% done . Fireman came this afternoon and said there's a county ban because they have no hydrant pressure, ......

Lucky to have thought about the refrigerator this afternoon Charlie uses in my shop. Freezer was stuffed full of fish, dairy, venison sausage, ..etc ,....so spent a couple hours clearing and cleaning all that before it got out of hand. Thankfully our dumpsters aren't full at work.

Lost some tin on the roof, but was able to cannibalize some of the material Saturday to get it dried in anyway.

Don't know how long this connection will last , so will send this on, ...it ( the connection ) ,......... comes and goes
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Old 10-11-2016, 07:14 PM
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Hi Fools,
I thought I'd check in on you all.
I'm glad you came back, Noolan, and it's wonderful to see how well you are doing. I hope you have a really successful school year.
Freein, you've expressed dissatisfaction with your job for a long time, maybe it is a good time to explore your options. Have you ever considered seeing a career counselor? It's never too late to do something entirely different. My childhood neighbor decided to go to law school when she was in her 50s, and practiced into her 80s.
Obo, I'm sorry your return home has brought all your monsters out from under the bed. I know how hard it can be to turn off a negative loop in your mind, I struggle with it too. I try to deal with my reactions to things as they come up by questioning them on the spot-why do I feel so strongly about this, is there anything to be gained from the way I am responding to this, can my reaction/feelings about this alter the outcome in a beneficial way, or at all, what is the other person's perspective, rationale, story, and is it truly of lesser importance than mine, am I being the kind of person that I want to be in this situation... I am often surprised by how differently I feel about something after I've evaluated my reaction to it, and what's behind that reaction. I hope you find some peace within yourself.
Up, I like your new name, and it sounds like you are moving in a positive direction with the physical therapy and volunteer work. I hope your news isn't too terribly bad.
Mariah, I'm glad you've finally found a job that suits you. I know it doesn't pay as well as you'd like, but feeling good about what you do, and enjoying your work are so incredibly important. I hope you're enjoying the change of seasons down there.
Izzy, moving is one of my least favorite activities, so you have all my sympathies right now. I hope all the dominoes fall in a smooth and timely way, and that you can get settled quickly. I hope you are proud of yourself for reevaluating your needs, and making the changes in your life that are required for you to meet them. It's not easy to do that. I think it will be wonderful for you to get to live in town with your kids in school. Your options really are wide open. I also think it's good for your kids to see you taking steps for your own benefit, it both teaches them, and gives them permission, to advocate for themselves, an incredibly important skill.
I hope you're doing well, Dee.
I'm glad your house didn't blow away, Topspin.
I'm doing pretty well. It's been 2 1/2 years since I stopped taking opiates, and they rarely enter my thoughts these days. I used to wonder if that would ever be possible...
I started gardening again this year, after many years off. I spent a couple of months clearing blackberries, cutting them down and digging up their roots, and then built raised beds, and a few in ground beds, about 550 sq/ft in all, and planted a ton of stuff. I still have a lot of food, flowers, herbs, and veggies growing, I even still have some strawberries,, though it's time to pull a bunch of old stuff and get fall and winter stuff in. I forgot how much I enjoy growing things. I need to have some storage and preservation plans and space figured out before next spring, because I had enough to feed myself through much of the winter, I just wasn't prepared.
I also finally did a massive purge of most of my house, the studio/shop areas not included, and got rid of several truck loads of stuff, which felt wonderful, and was years overdue. I even kept the house clean for a while after that, but it's a mess again, though it's a manageable one.
I had to put one of my dogs down, which always sucks, but was still the best thing I could do for her at that point, so now my ex and I are only sharing one dog. I have mixed feelings about having just one dog, but a lot of them are positive...
I'm starting to get mentally prepared for my holiday production season, it all starts this month. I really need to do well this time, it's been a challenging year for my business so far, and I've taken on some side work here and there. I'm lucky to have had opportunities come up, but I liked it better when I didn't need them.
I don't know why I haven't posted in months. I do still look in and read the forum, though, and the fools are often in my thoughts. I'm always rooting for all of you.
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Old 10-11-2016, 08:10 PM
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Good to see you Adna.

Glad things aren't too bad tops.

Have a good night all.
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Hi Adna.....!
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Old 10-11-2016, 10:36 PM
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Good to hear from you Adna - I'm really sorry about your dog but it sounds like life is generally good. Good self analysis tool there too. I find that kind of thing useful too.

Good to hear from you too Tops. I'm sorry for the devastation but I'm glad you and yours are ok.

Hope everyone else is kicking goals

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Old 10-11-2016, 10:41 PM
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Lovely to hear how you're doing Adna. Thank you for the encouragement on the job front.

Tops, I'm relieved to hear that the cottage is pretty much ok, but my goodness, it sounds like you still have an awful lot of work on your hands, with all the tree damage. You are very hardy folk out there, that's for sure. I'm sorry it's been such an horrendous time for you, and I hope it all gets cleared, and all the services are back in place very soon.
It makes me grateful for our relatively mild mannered weather here.

Seeing the dentist for a check up this morning - that's one thing in life that comes round far too quickly !
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Old 10-11-2016, 10:44 PM
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Hi Dee!
Hope all's well with you too.
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Old 10-11-2016, 11:00 PM
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doing ok freein

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Old 10-12-2016, 04:38 PM
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Ada- Glad you're doing well! Keep it up.

Tops- Holy ****, glad you're ok and the cottage survived alright!

Ups- I think that's awesome you're volunteering! My recovery early on and being unemployed bred procrastination, and set me up in a holding pattern I didn't know I was in. Getting active in anything helps me tremendously in recovery.

Freein- Sorry to hear about your Mother. I know there is a lot that goes into that decision. Stay Strong.

Marirah- I too watched the debate and was ready to pull my hair out, except I'm bald and it wouldn't fix anything! I'm voting third party, but I still don't know anymore.

Obs- I'm sorry those old demons came back to light. I had to come to terms with my own. It's not until I was ready to face them sober was I able to deal with them. I watched this everyday in treatment and I hope you can find something from it.


Great day overall. I got off early and decided to hit a random meeting. Bumped into my grandfather there. He is in recovery and it happens from time to time. It's always a highlight, but I was sad to hear my cousin left treatment after a week and is claiming he is changed. I hope it's that easy for him, I honestly do.

At the meeting I shared the story I posted last week about the fear that rose up in me after posting my first assignment for class. That fear and inadequacy that came out of nowhere. Someone pointed out in the meeting that it was an "emotional relapse" of sorts. For me that was dead on. I felt exactly as I did when I was in active addiction.

That's why I have to grind. There are no days off in recovery. I mean, I still binge on netflix and relax, but emotionally, when I process what I'm feeling, why I feel the fear, it vanishes.

Anyways, I am going to work out, cook some fish, and turn in another assignment. Here's hoping I don't freak out again. Even if I do, I know I don't need drugs or alcohol to solve my problems. #inforthebargain
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Old 10-12-2016, 10:44 PM
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That's interesting, Noolan, about the "emotional relapse". I've been feeling something similar recently. my confidence seems to be ebbing away. I wonder if it's a culmination of job stress and worry over my Mum. I've been trying to ignore it or fight it, but perhaps what I should do is allow myself to feel it fully. Emotions are tricky things aren't they?

Tops, hope the clearing up process is going well.

Have a great sober day everyone.
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Adna, ....good to see you back !
Sounds like all the hard work you've invested in the new garden is paying off.
Really like your thoughts on evaluating initial personal reactions that may be self sabotaging . Fascinating stuff.

Slept most of the day at the resort,....hopeful to find a contact thru one of the local help lines to see if the county or state , or federal help can direct me someone to tackle the " snag" over my roof.
A *snag * is when a limb breaks , but gets hung up in the tree before it comes down. Mine is up about 40 ft, ....and it really needs to be handled out of a bucket truck . It looks too sketchy for a climber where it's wedged.

Several grocery stores are back open and the internet seems to be up solidly at work, ....still no cable tv, ...but I never watch it anymore.
They let folks back on the island yesterday.

Freein, ...you have some great ideas on changing up your work schedule !
I will either change employment to some PT day job or go PT here in about 5 months. It's been nice working 4 days instead of 5, but finally scraped together enough money to not be *forced* to work FT another week for the rest of my days in a straight gig .
If I get involved with glasswork next year, .... have to stay aware not to go crazy working long hours again.

You're firing on all cylinders Noolan . Never look back brother.


When the cottage had no power for 5 days, the starry sky has never looked so deep and clear. It's been a great , experience overall,.......

Look forward to burning again, ..... will call the fire dept. tomorrow to see if they've lifted the ban, so us poor folks can get on with it !?!!
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Old 10-13-2016, 10:53 PM
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Hope you'll be able to remove that "snag" asap Tops, I would think it's a bit disconcerting having that hanging over the roof.
I'm with you on the PT work thing. Next year could be a year of job changes for a few of us.

Have a great end to the week everyone, I'm in for the Bargain.
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