One Year and Under Club Part 55
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Join Date: Jan 2013
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Hi Undies
Kopfan - It sounds like you're making nice progress and seeing the cumulative positive effects of sobriety in action.
Like Saskia, and many others, my work in recovery is ongoing. I was invited to a cocktail party last night. I have fun at these get togethers. I like hanging out with people, mingling, laughing, sharing stories, etc., but I had to make a plan to be sober.
I went into the evening choosing to be a sober person. I go with a drink in my hand. I've found that people don't offer me drinks when I've got a big cup filled with coffee or seltzer.
Second, I planned to say "all set" first when invited to drink, follows by "no, thanks" then if they insisted "I don't drink." Usually "all set" is enough but I didn't know this crowd well and sure enough a couple of people were pushy with shots and other novelty drink treats.
Third, I planned to not let that throw me off course. They mean well; they are trying to share the fun. I owe it to myself, though, to do what's right for me, stand my ground, and say no. It was a great night, and I'm grateful that I can remember everything the next morning.
There was one guy there who was drunk to the point of being incomprehensible after 1 or 2 drinks. It's a stark reminder of what active alcoholism looks like.
When I was active in my addiction last night would have annoyed me because I would have had to moderate, but here's no telling if I would have ended up keeping that promise or losing control. If I kept that promise I'd have felt frustrated from missing out on my buzz the whole night. If I lost control I would have had to listen to my husband list everything I did that embarrassed me and annoyed him. I would have had to backtrack my conversations to piece together what I said. I would have lost most of today in a hangover.
Being a non drinker doesn't always get me invited back to these types of things but in recovery I have so much more. I have real joy, peace, happiness, and serenity that comes from a clear conscience from doing the right thing.
Kopfan - It sounds like you're making nice progress and seeing the cumulative positive effects of sobriety in action.
Like Saskia, and many others, my work in recovery is ongoing. I was invited to a cocktail party last night. I have fun at these get togethers. I like hanging out with people, mingling, laughing, sharing stories, etc., but I had to make a plan to be sober.
I went into the evening choosing to be a sober person. I go with a drink in my hand. I've found that people don't offer me drinks when I've got a big cup filled with coffee or seltzer.
Second, I planned to say "all set" first when invited to drink, follows by "no, thanks" then if they insisted "I don't drink." Usually "all set" is enough but I didn't know this crowd well and sure enough a couple of people were pushy with shots and other novelty drink treats.
Third, I planned to not let that throw me off course. They mean well; they are trying to share the fun. I owe it to myself, though, to do what's right for me, stand my ground, and say no. It was a great night, and I'm grateful that I can remember everything the next morning.
There was one guy there who was drunk to the point of being incomprehensible after 1 or 2 drinks. It's a stark reminder of what active alcoholism looks like.
When I was active in my addiction last night would have annoyed me because I would have had to moderate, but here's no telling if I would have ended up keeping that promise or losing control. If I kept that promise I'd have felt frustrated from missing out on my buzz the whole night. If I lost control I would have had to listen to my husband list everything I did that embarrassed me and annoyed him. I would have had to backtrack my conversations to piece together what I said. I would have lost most of today in a hangover.
Being a non drinker doesn't always get me invited back to these types of things but in recovery I have so much more. I have real joy, peace, happiness, and serenity that comes from a clear conscience from doing the right thing.
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Join Date: Mar 2013
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thanks for all the congrats ! Just got back and glad to be home. I was visiting my only sister and we always stay up late and have pajama talk. My H came later this week-end and picked me up. She lives about 4 hours from here so, it was nice that he would drive to get me. I took the train to her town.
How is everyone ? I can't believe it's been 4 months and like I have said before I have gone longer but, it's ODAAT. and it's working for me.
Going to bed early this eve. didn't get much sleep--- talk more tomorrow
Hugs
Babs
How is everyone ? I can't believe it's been 4 months and like I have said before I have gone longer but, it's ODAAT. and it's working for me.
Going to bed early this eve. didn't get much sleep--- talk more tomorrow
Hugs
Babs
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thanks OT---
I have a Drs. apt this morning---all this doctoring should be over soon.
I'm just not a dr. gal so, hope this will do it for awhile.
I'm feeling pretty darn good for a Monday. I'm not doing anything special
just clean up around the house today. Just glad to be sober.
How is everyone doing?
Have a Great Day Everyone !
Hugs
Babs
I have a Drs. apt this morning---all this doctoring should be over soon.
I'm just not a dr. gal so, hope this will do it for awhile.
I'm feeling pretty darn good for a Monday. I'm not doing anything special
just clean up around the house today. Just glad to be sober.
How is everyone doing?
Have a Great Day Everyone !
Hugs
Babs
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Location: England
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Hello everyone!
Hope the doctors went well Babs.
I'm preparing for my birthday celebrations at the moment. Also got a promotion at work so training for that. AND preparing to start college in two weeks time. Very busy!
Hope the doctors went well Babs.
I'm preparing for my birthday celebrations at the moment. Also got a promotion at work so training for that. AND preparing to start college in two weeks time. Very busy!
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OT - Happy Birthday! I've been wondering how you're doing. It's great to hear from you, and I'm glad that everything is going so well.
Babs - I'm glad you had so much fun spending time with your sister. You sound like you're doing awesome.
Have a great day everyone!
Babs - I'm glad you had so much fun spending time with your sister. You sound like you're doing awesome.
Have a great day everyone!
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Hello undies -----
today I have a dex scan---God, when is this going to stop? Just kidding---
I know it needs to be done but, I'm sure tired of going to the dr. Ugh.
It's really humid today---I have AA at noon so, don't plan on doing a whole
heck of a lot.
have a good day everyone !
Babs
today I have a dex scan---God, when is this going to stop? Just kidding---
I know it needs to be done but, I'm sure tired of going to the dr. Ugh.
It's really humid today---I have AA at noon so, don't plan on doing a whole
heck of a lot.
have a good day everyone !
Babs
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Join Date: Feb 2015
Location: Central Texas
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Good morning everyone .Today starts a much needed four day weekend for me and I'm going to enjoy it sober of course. It is getting much easier now and I'm so glad I found the courage and the will to start this sober journey- and stick with it. Staying sober is the way to go and taking just one sip of that stuff is not going to be an option for me.
Have a good day everyone!
Have a good day everyone!
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Join Date: May 2012
Location: US East Coast
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WWS, good that you will have a four-day weekend :-) and happy to hear it's getting easier.
My just completed second year flew by so fast and though I can't say I never think about alcohol, it's mild now and so much easier to say 'no' to.
My just completed second year flew by so fast and though I can't say I never think about alcohol, it's mild now and so much easier to say 'no' to.
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