Class of March 2016 Support Part 10
would taking a shower help or a bubble bath? Maybe a walk by yourself?
I clean when I'm upset not the normal cleaning liked dep cleaning I go,through the junk drawers the office desk, sort my kids Legos and toys wipe down cabinets. My husband knows when im mad because I tar the house up cleaning and usually end up,it's a bigger mess in the end but it keeps me busy.
I clean when I'm upset not the normal cleaning liked dep cleaning I go,through the junk drawers the office desk, sort my kids Legos and toys wipe down cabinets. My husband knows when im mad because I tar the house up cleaning and usually end up,it's a bigger mess in the end but it keeps me busy.
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He has been telling me that he wants to know how I feel, especially when I'm feeling down, but I don't want to worry him. Tonight I tried to tell him, and he immediately made it all about him and got angry with me. No matter how I tried to explain, he didn't (want to) understand, and thus confirmed the thoughts and fears I had about him. I've been struggling so hard to be the wife and mother my family deserve, and I'm out of energy. I thought that I could talk to him about this, but I saved this tool for last. My toolbox is empty and now that this last tool failed, I don't know what to do.
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Keets, I can't walk by myself, he will immediately suspect that I'm walking into town and I bet he won't let me out of the house. It's 9.30 pm, and I can't start too much cleaning either, because the kids are asleep. And this headache is killing me.
You can't control other people's behavior. You can control your reaction to his behavior. I know that it hurts that he is not more understanding, but you are stronger than that hurt. Marriage hurts a lot. We always let each other down. You are so much more than someone else's reaction. You have come so far in a month. I'm sorry that he didn't see that, but that doesn't mean you should go backwards.
He has been telling me that he wants to know how I feel, especially when I'm feeling down, but I don't want to worry him. Tonight I tried to tell him, and he immediately made it all about him and got angry with me. No matter how I tried to explain, he didn't (want to) understand, and thus confirmed the thoughts and fears I had about him. I've been struggling so hard to be the wife and mother my family deserve, and I'm out of energy. I thought that I could talk to him about this, but I saved this tool for last. My toolbox is empty and now that this last tool failed, I don't know what to do.
Sorry I don't have any advice but I get it too
I forgot where you were, it's only 1:46pm here
Hi guys, I'm just checking in for the first time today. We took our son on a college visit all day & I'm exhausted from walking what seemed like 10 miles! I'm gonna take a nap & check back in later.
Fabela, I'm sorry you are struggling so much today. Just hang on! Each time you get through days like today without drinking your sober muscles will get stronger!
Lofty, I'm sorry you drank. Don't beat yourself up! Just move forward!
I'll check in after my nap. :-)
Fabela, I'm sorry you are struggling so much today. Just hang on! Each time you get through days like today without drinking your sober muscles will get stronger!
Lofty, I'm sorry you drank. Don't beat yourself up! Just move forward!
I'll check in after my nap. :-)
You can't control other people's behavior. You can control your reaction to his behavior. I know that it hurts that he is not more understanding, but you are stronger than that hurt. Marriage hurts a lot. We always let each other down. You are so much more than someone else's reaction. You have come so far in a month. I'm sorry that he didn't see that, but that doesn't mean you should go backwards.
Scream in here Fabela. As much as you'd like. That's what we're here for.
I'm sorry you're hurting right now and that your talk with your husband didn't go well. Is there a quiet part of the house you can go to and just sit? Maybe your knitting would keep your hands and mind busy for a few minutes? Does Tylenol or ibuprofen help your headaches any? A nice hot bath? Just thoughts, sorry if none of them help any, wish I could do something more.
I'm sorry you're hurting right now and that your talk with your husband didn't go well. Is there a quiet part of the house you can go to and just sit? Maybe your knitting would keep your hands and mind busy for a few minutes? Does Tylenol or ibuprofen help your headaches any? A nice hot bath? Just thoughts, sorry if none of them help any, wish I could do something more.
Hi all, 530am can't sleep. Sorry to hear there's some of my lovely classmates struggling right now. Still half asleep and going to try to sleep again, but wanted to let you all know I'm thinking of you.
Hugs to you guys. ❤️
Hugs to you guys. ❤️
People from every corner of the world caring about each other. Even if you're not liking yourself too much right now, we've all got a great group of people who do like you and need you. Pretty amazing stuff here.
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I've just watched an entire episode of Grey's Anatomy, and DH came sneaking closer and closer and suddenly he was rubbing my feet. I'm not angry anymore, but I'm sad and very tired. Earlier this evening I arranged a playdate for DD2 tomorrow afternoon, which means that I set myself up for total sobriety tomorrow - until 7 pm. I'll worry about tomorrow evening later.
I love you guys so much... *happycry*
I love you guys so much... *happycry*
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