24 Hour Recovery Connections Part 122
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Checking in tonight. Going for another 24 ht 5:25p CST.
Congratulations today to azure808, Supertired, and Soberjoy1 and Siesta on reaching new milestones today! To celebrate your magnificent accomplishments, tonight we have a White Mocha Cake with Espresso Caramel Buttercream! Keep up the great work!
Vee-sending lots of hugs your way and hoping you're feeling better soon.
Kris-hoping you're feeling better soon. You are very much missed, but I am glad to see you checking in each day.
Soberleigh-look forward to you having more time soon. Your presence is missed too.
Arbor-I like that....icing on the cake.
McFlurry-that is super awesome you got to see Muse!
Congratulations today to azure808, Supertired, and Soberjoy1 and Siesta on reaching new milestones today! To celebrate your magnificent accomplishments, tonight we have a White Mocha Cake with Espresso Caramel Buttercream! Keep up the great work!
Vee-sending lots of hugs your way and hoping you're feeling better soon.
Kris-hoping you're feeling better soon. You are very much missed, but I am glad to see you checking in each day.
Soberleigh-look forward to you having more time soon. Your presence is missed too.
Arbor-I like that....icing on the cake.
McFlurry-that is super awesome you got to see Muse!
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Originally Posted by Ladybug2 
5:18pm, late checking in as I have had a wicked stomach bug for last 24 hours. No chance of AV bugging me today.
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Well done to the milestoners, one and all ! We're all in this together and united we are strong ! Keep moving forward.
A small note about early days as I've read some recent posts on relapses. I know in my early days I felt like I was bombarded with the messages: 'one day at a time'; 'dont give up'; 'have a plan'; 'forgive yourself'; and 'you're not a failure'. I remember that these phrases usually went over my head. They felt condescending and plastic. At that time, the usual thoughts streaming through my head was: 'I am struggling'; 'why does the world hate me'; 'why am I such a useless piece of crap'; 'why cant I stop'; 'I dont deserve love or compassion'.
Over time and with reflection, I came to the realisation that the messages of support as above are essentially true and that the negative thoughts were without substance. But I had to get through the early days (the first month) to gain that realisation. And it was hard, no ifs and buts about it. What got me through was having a plan, having lots of support from family, friends, professionals, SR and AA (basically anyone who was nice to me
), resolve (not the epic type rather the gritting your teeth, pacing the floor and constantly repeating the phrase 'it will pass' like a mantra type) and basic rules of operation.
By plan, I mean a recovery plan. It took months to figure out something that worked for me. I adopted a shotgun approach and tried almost everything ranging from AA, AVRT, psychologists (CBT), psychiatrists, D&A specialists, Buddhism, meditation, exercise. Eventually I whittled it down to a daily/weekly routine. The plan has also changed over time, eg, at the beginning I went to AA meetings at least 5 times a week and now I go 1-2 times per week. It is really really important to have a plan.
Support is also super important. And by that I mean POSITIVE support. Folks who recognized that my negative thoughts and self loathing were a figment of my twisted imagination. Folks who knew that I was really a worthy person and helped me to gain that realisation. Find those folks, stick to them like glue.
Finally, by basic rules of operation I had to follow very very simple processes. Do not go back to my old haunts. When walking pass a liquor store, make sure I walk 30 steps beyond the entrance before looking back. Stay in the bus from point of entry to destination (do not get off early). Do not pick up the first drink, etc,etc. Nowadays they look kinda dumb but I needed these rules badly in the first month.
So, I do get it when I hear about relapses and the struggle of early sobriety. Its not easy. It does get better. Never, never, never give up.
I hope this helps.
Another 24 hours of loving kindness, gratitude and sobriety pls. Its 11:14am here !
A small note about early days as I've read some recent posts on relapses. I know in my early days I felt like I was bombarded with the messages: 'one day at a time'; 'dont give up'; 'have a plan'; 'forgive yourself'; and 'you're not a failure'. I remember that these phrases usually went over my head. They felt condescending and plastic. At that time, the usual thoughts streaming through my head was: 'I am struggling'; 'why does the world hate me'; 'why am I such a useless piece of crap'; 'why cant I stop'; 'I dont deserve love or compassion'.
Over time and with reflection, I came to the realisation that the messages of support as above are essentially true and that the negative thoughts were without substance. But I had to get through the early days (the first month) to gain that realisation. And it was hard, no ifs and buts about it. What got me through was having a plan, having lots of support from family, friends, professionals, SR and AA (basically anyone who was nice to me
), resolve (not the epic type rather the gritting your teeth, pacing the floor and constantly repeating the phrase 'it will pass' like a mantra type) and basic rules of operation. By plan, I mean a recovery plan. It took months to figure out something that worked for me. I adopted a shotgun approach and tried almost everything ranging from AA, AVRT, psychologists (CBT), psychiatrists, D&A specialists, Buddhism, meditation, exercise. Eventually I whittled it down to a daily/weekly routine. The plan has also changed over time, eg, at the beginning I went to AA meetings at least 5 times a week and now I go 1-2 times per week. It is really really important to have a plan.
Support is also super important. And by that I mean POSITIVE support. Folks who recognized that my negative thoughts and self loathing were a figment of my twisted imagination. Folks who knew that I was really a worthy person and helped me to gain that realisation. Find those folks, stick to them like glue.
Finally, by basic rules of operation I had to follow very very simple processes. Do not go back to my old haunts. When walking pass a liquor store, make sure I walk 30 steps beyond the entrance before looking back. Stay in the bus from point of entry to destination (do not get off early). Do not pick up the first drink, etc,etc. Nowadays they look kinda dumb but I needed these rules badly in the first month.
So, I do get it when I hear about relapses and the struggle of early sobriety. Its not easy. It does get better. Never, never, never give up.
I hope this helps.
Another 24 hours of loving kindness, gratitude and sobriety pls. Its 11:14am here !
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Originally Posted by LillianGish
Kane IS amazing!)
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Originally Posted by LillianGish
Signing up for another 24 hours please. 6:56 pm Pacific Standard time USA.
And I'm grateful for the last 24 hours.
And I'm grateful for the last 24 hours.
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Kaneda, that is a great post! Maybe you should post something in the "Stories of Recovery" section. Those who have more than one year in recovery may post their story here.
Stories of Recovery - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information
For those of you who haven't seen it, here's Dee's story:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...-part-one.html
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...-part-2-a.html
Stories of Recovery - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information
For those of you who haven't seen it, here's Dee's story:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...-part-one.html
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...-part-2-a.html
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