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Old 03-11-2016, 10:45 AM
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Last drink was Saturday night and I'm feeling better and better each morning when I wake up. It helps to have a place to come to with people sharing similar experiences.

Happy Friday all!
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Old 03-11-2016, 10:51 AM
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glad you made it goingnowhere! :-) good habits are worth reinforcing and will become second nature with time.

Kind of a rainy day here, muddy paw season for our dog. Starting to think about what I want to start in the garden this year, but I know it's way too early to start anything indoors. Radishes and greens do well in the cold so I might start a patch of those this weekend.

Not a whole lot going on here otherwise. Entering my second sober weekend, feelng good but knowing I might need help. There is a very active weekend thread in the main newcomers forum for anyone who needs it. Chat gives me anxiety, so I personally don't logon to the SR chat or know when it is busy.

Stay close to sr if you need it! Have a great day everyone!
I am too entering my second sober weekend!! Congrats!

I wasn't feeling too well as of last night and this morning. I didnt drink but did find myself falling back into my porn addiction and beating myself up over it. I over ate and really feel like a crap but am pulling myself out of it. I havent been going to any meetings in about a week, things are kind of rocky. I need help!!
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Old 03-11-2016, 11:34 AM
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Hi! I am on day 1. Feeling awful. Tired of this cycle. I want to live a better life but keep failing.
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Old 03-11-2016, 11:42 AM
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Rah555: I felt like that 4 days ago... another Day #1, horrible hangover, and felt that I totally sucked at life. Stick close to SR... read and post often. It helps a great deal. Hang in there. We're all in this together.
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Old 03-11-2016, 11:44 AM
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Originally Posted by BayAreaBob View Post
Last drink was Saturday night and I'm feeling better and better each morning when I wake up. It helps to have a place to come to with people sharing similar experiences.

Happy Friday all!
Welcome BayAreaBob!
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Old 03-11-2016, 01:22 PM
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Day 12 here. Any sober date buddies? Leap year day. I post in February too.

I feel stronger than any other time before, BUT I have a few things going on causing me to feel angry, so I'm treading carefully this afternoon and evening because I know how fast AV can take over.

Ladybug and FaBL I can totally relate. I'm trying to immerse myself in my kiddos right now to avoid any secret drinking. But then.....man can that cause it's own stress and feelings haha. I haven't yet wrapped my head around a good bedtime routine for 6, 4, and infant, often without hubby. Plus - oh yeah - he's leaving town Sunday - Wednesday which is a big temptation for me.

Let's all stay close!

Any good movie recommendations? Preferably on Netflix or Amazon so I don't have to rent?
You,know,what I think I might be a day off because my sons b day was the 29th and I drank the day before but not on the 29th.
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Old 03-11-2016, 01:35 PM
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I am totally disgusted with myself. I have been struggling with binge drinking for several years. There's lots of things that contribute to my situation. I have tried to stop drinking in the past and do well for a bit but then I start thinking "oh, you can have 1" and then I moderate successfully for a while then I blow it. I've had a bad spell recently, 7 binge episodes since Feb 1. I need to get this taken care of now. This has to be the time I get through this and stick with a sober lifestyle.
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Old 03-11-2016, 02:14 PM
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So I just realized I am on Day 6, not Day 5 - not that it really matters, I have been here a million times. Fighting my AV today ... a bunch of triggers ... it's Friday, the weather is beautiful and unseasonably warm, daughter is sleeping over at my Mom's tonight .... Going to go back and read how I felt on this last Day 1. I won't drink this weekend. It's just not worth it.
Ladybug that's funny because when I read your earlier post I thought that you were one day ahead of me! You know are triggers are similar and my kids aren't home right now either and it's Friday and it's warm ... So many triggers. But as contrite as it sounds.. Nothing changes if nothing changes. If we drink tonight we are back to the same old shame and guilt. Think about how you will feel tomorrow morning, well rested and proud of yourself for moving forward with the change you want for yourself instead. You know you get stronger as you build up time as well. You can do this, we both can .
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Old 03-11-2016, 02:27 PM
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Day 6 for me. It supposed to rain here today and I thought to myself I better go get some wine before my husband goes to work. Uh huh the stupid AV tried to slip that one in there. I don't think so sister!!! I'm a little concerned she is starting to wake up. My husband will be out of town over night one day next week then gone for 4 days the following week. That is always a weakness for me.
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Old 03-11-2016, 03:09 PM
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Forabetterlife - I screen shot your playing the tape thru. That was so me too. Gonna read it regularly! Thanks.

PeacefulRain - yikes. When the cats away! That's another one that was me so many times. Don't let the ship sink when he goes out of town. (;

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Old 03-11-2016, 03:25 PM
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Originally Posted by Ladybug2 View Post
So I just realized I am on Day 6, not Day 5 - not that it really matters, I have been here a million times. Fighting my AV today ... a bunch of triggers ... it's Friday, the weather is beautiful and unseasonably warm, daughter is sleeping over at my Mom's tonight ....
Going to go back and read how I felt on this last Day 1. I won't drink this weekend. It's just not worth it.
I'm with you on that weather trigger, Ladybug, but I'm not going to drink either. Imagine how great we will feel all weekend long!
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Old 03-11-2016, 04:01 PM
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Hi, I'm new here. It's end of day 2 for me and I can't sleep. Today was hard, reading SR helped me get through the day. Thank you all!
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Old 03-11-2016, 04:10 PM
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Hi, I'm new here. It's end of day 2 for me and I can't sleep. Today was hard, reading SR helped me get through the day. Thank you all!
Hi Sumi - SR is a lifesaver when we are having tough days. I am two weeks in and having a little bit of a rough patch this evening as well. Spending some time reading various threads here is helping. I may go to the movies though, just to get out the house.

Good luck and stay strong!
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Old 03-11-2016, 04:21 PM
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Welcome BayAreaBob and Rah

congrats again on last night GN - and congrats to you 5upersonic, Charles G and anyone else hitting double figures.

I'm glad to see everyone here, no matter what day you're on.

Fridays can be tough in the beginning, but you can get through them and get through them sober. Everytime you do that, the next Friday will be a little easier

Friday nights used to be my trigger time too - not any more...

It can be done

This link may be helpful
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...-cravings.html

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Old 03-11-2016, 06:02 PM
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Originally Posted by ManInTheArena View Post
Hi Sumi - SR is a lifesaver when we are having tough days. I am two weeks in and having a little bit of a rough patch this evening as well. Spending some time reading various threads here is helping. I may go to the movies though, just to get out the house.

Good luck and stay strong!
Thanks MITA, and same to you 💪 😊
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Old 03-11-2016, 06:03 PM
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Welcome Sumi, BayAreaBob, and Rah.
Rah, I am coming to believe that drinking is as much a "thinking" problem as it is anything else. We get so used to thinking a certain way and telling ourselves that we can now moderate, or that we deserve it, or whatever...that we literally have to fight off those irrational thoughts in our mind until they dissipate (and hopefully all but disappear).

Peaceful- be sure to have a plan in place for when your husband is gone, if that's your trigger. I know I need to keep myself busy with things that fill up my time so before I know it, the night is almost over. I know every single time my daughters are not home or that I end up in the car by myself, my mind immediately goes to drinking or buying a bottle of wine- because I CAN, that's my stupid rationale.

Tomorrow morning my 14 year old daughter and I are attending a memorial service for classmate of hers and a former student of mine who committed suicide last week. Sweet, quiet, incredibly smart boy - I still can't wrap my head around it. I cannot even begin to imagine his family's pain. Such a heartbreaking tragedy. It surely puts things in perspective.

Hugs and strength to everyone tonight.
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Old 03-11-2016, 06:14 PM
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Welcome to a new thread!

We're heading into another weekend. Be sure to strengthen your quit by preparing. Don't go blindly into weekends for a while. And don't go in with only the same plan you used last weekend. It's best to keep adding to your plan for a while.

My tip of the day:
Keep a trigger log.
I used the notes app on my phone to create a few notes.

I found it useful to have one note as a place to quickly add a trigger along with what it triggered: craving, depression, anxiety.

Then I had a note for each major trigger where I would drop in ideas for prevention / resolution.

That process helped me in several ways.
- I felt in control for starters. And as you may guess by my avatar, that provided a bunch of relief all by itself.
- It reinforced the idea that what ever I was feeling was temporary and I just needed to tough it out a little bit.
- forced me to keep finding different solutions. Continuously adding new tools was probably THE most important thing I did.
- It made each craving, each WD symptom, each depressive or anxiety state, much more manageable.
- It helped a ton by "moving" something from my mind to "paper". It allowed my mind to move on quicker to other matters.

You guys and gals are doing great. I love to see the sharing that goes on in here. SR is an awesome community, isn't it?

In case you did not already know, SR has live chat meetings Tuesday and Friday evenings @ 9pm eastern. It's a great place to share and learn. And an awesome place to be on a Friday night. My new work schedule prevents me from attending any more, otherwise you'd see me there! Great bunch of people.

Have a great weekend, and QUIT ON!
Thank you. I like this idea.
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Old 03-11-2016, 06:38 PM
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Just got home after a ten hour drive to end my vacation. Going to go crash in bed pretty soon. Ending day two. I'll catch up with everyone's posts this weekend.
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Old 03-11-2016, 07:07 PM
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FABL, that is so sad about your former student - things like that really do put things in perspective don't they?

I am going to bed sober on a Friday night. My daughter didn't end up going to my Mom's tonight because she was too tired from being at a play date all day. But, now she is going tomorrow night so I'm guessing my stupid AV will show up again with the same lame pitch on why I should drink. Will go to an AA meeting in the morning and post here.

Hope everyone is doing well tonight and going to bed sober. That really is the best feeling - that and waking up without a hangover and all of the regret.
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Old 03-11-2016, 08:27 PM
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Thanks for all of the great advice Incontrol. Kiki, you got this. Tomorrow will be easier.
Thank you Bobbie! I DID make it through the day sober & was quite productive. I appreciate your support! :-)
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