Class of March 2016 Support Thread Part 2
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glad you made it goingnowhere! :-) good habits are worth reinforcing and will become second nature with time.
Kind of a rainy day here, muddy paw season for our dog. Starting to think about what I want to start in the garden this year, but I know it's way too early to start anything indoors. Radishes and greens do well in the cold so I might start a patch of those this weekend.
Not a whole lot going on here otherwise. Entering my second sober weekend, feelng good but knowing I might need help. There is a very active weekend thread in the main newcomers forum for anyone who needs it. Chat gives me anxiety, so I personally don't logon to the SR chat or know when it is busy.
Stay close to sr if you need it! Have a great day everyone!
Kind of a rainy day here, muddy paw season for our dog. Starting to think about what I want to start in the garden this year, but I know it's way too early to start anything indoors. Radishes and greens do well in the cold so I might start a patch of those this weekend.
Not a whole lot going on here otherwise. Entering my second sober weekend, feelng good but knowing I might need help. There is a very active weekend thread in the main newcomers forum for anyone who needs it. Chat gives me anxiety, so I personally don't logon to the SR chat or know when it is busy.
Stay close to sr if you need it! Have a great day everyone!
I wasn't feeling too well as of last night and this morning. I didnt drink but did find myself falling back into my porn addiction and beating myself up over it. I over ate and really feel like a crap but am pulling myself out of it. I havent been going to any meetings in about a week, things are kind of rocky. I need help!!
Rah555: I felt like that 4 days ago... another Day #1, horrible hangover, and felt that I totally sucked at life. Stick close to SR... read and post often. It helps a great deal. Hang in there. We're all in this together.
Day 12 here. Any sober date buddies? Leap year day. I post in February too.
I feel stronger than any other time before, BUT I have a few things going on causing me to feel angry, so I'm treading carefully this afternoon and evening because I know how fast AV can take over.
Ladybug and FaBL I can totally relate. I'm trying to immerse myself in my kiddos right now to avoid any secret drinking. But then.....man can that cause it's own stress and feelings haha. I haven't yet wrapped my head around a good bedtime routine for 6, 4, and infant, often without hubby. Plus - oh yeah - he's leaving town Sunday - Wednesday which is a big temptation for me.
Let's all stay close!
Any good movie recommendations? Preferably on Netflix or Amazon so I don't have to rent?
I feel stronger than any other time before, BUT I have a few things going on causing me to feel angry, so I'm treading carefully this afternoon and evening because I know how fast AV can take over.
Ladybug and FaBL I can totally relate. I'm trying to immerse myself in my kiddos right now to avoid any secret drinking. But then.....man can that cause it's own stress and feelings haha. I haven't yet wrapped my head around a good bedtime routine for 6, 4, and infant, often without hubby. Plus - oh yeah - he's leaving town Sunday - Wednesday which is a big temptation for me.
Let's all stay close!
Any good movie recommendations? Preferably on Netflix or Amazon so I don't have to rent?
I am totally disgusted with myself. I have been struggling with binge drinking for several years. There's lots of things that contribute to my situation. I have tried to stop drinking in the past and do well for a bit but then I start thinking "oh, you can have 1" and then I moderate successfully for a while then I blow it. I've had a bad spell recently, 7 binge episodes since Feb 1. I need to get this taken care of now. This has to be the time I get through this and stick with a sober lifestyle.
So I just realized I am on Day 6, not Day 5 - not that it really matters, I have been here a million times. Fighting my AV today ... a bunch of triggers ... it's Friday, the weather is beautiful and unseasonably warm, daughter is sleeping over at my Mom's tonight .... Going to go back and read how I felt on this last Day 1. I won't drink this weekend. It's just not worth it.
Day 6 for me. It supposed to rain here today and I thought to myself I better go get some wine before my husband goes to work. Uh huh the stupid AV tried to slip that one in there. I don't think so sister!!! I'm a little concerned she is starting to wake up. My husband will be out of town over night one day next week then gone for 4 days the following week. That is always a weakness for me.
Forabetterlife - I screen shot your playing the tape thru. That was so me too. Gonna read it regularly! Thanks.
PeacefulRain - yikes. When the cats away! That's another one that was me so many times. Don't let the ship sink when he goes out of town. (;
Olivia
PeacefulRain - yikes. When the cats away! That's another one that was me so many times. Don't let the ship sink when he goes out of town. (;
Olivia
So I just realized I am on Day 6, not Day 5 - not that it really matters, I have been here a million times. Fighting my AV today ... a bunch of triggers ... it's Friday, the weather is beautiful and unseasonably warm, daughter is sleeping over at my Mom's tonight ....
Going to go back and read how I felt on this last Day 1. I won't drink this weekend. It's just not worth it.
Going to go back and read how I felt on this last Day 1. I won't drink this weekend. It's just not worth it.
Good luck and stay strong!
Welcome BayAreaBob and Rah
congrats again on last night GN - and congrats to you 5upersonic, Charles G and anyone else hitting double figures.
I'm glad to see everyone here, no matter what day you're on.
Fridays can be tough in the beginning, but you can get through them and get through them sober. Everytime you do that, the next Friday will be a little easier
Friday nights used to be my trigger time too - not any more...
It can be done
This link may be helpful
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...-cravings.html
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congrats again on last night GN - and congrats to you 5upersonic, Charles G and anyone else hitting double figures.
I'm glad to see everyone here, no matter what day you're on.
Fridays can be tough in the beginning, but you can get through them and get through them sober. Everytime you do that, the next Friday will be a little easier
Friday nights used to be my trigger time too - not any more...
It can be done
This link may be helpful
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...-cravings.html
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Hi Sumi - SR is a lifesaver when we are having tough days. I am two weeks in and having a little bit of a rough patch this evening as well. Spending some time reading various threads here is helping. I may go to the movies though, just to get out the house.
Good luck and stay strong!
Good luck and stay strong!
Welcome Sumi, BayAreaBob, and Rah.
Rah, I am coming to believe that drinking is as much a "thinking" problem as it is anything else. We get so used to thinking a certain way and telling ourselves that we can now moderate, or that we deserve it, or whatever...that we literally have to fight off those irrational thoughts in our mind until they dissipate (and hopefully all but disappear).
Peaceful- be sure to have a plan in place for when your husband is gone, if that's your trigger. I know I need to keep myself busy with things that fill up my time so before I know it, the night is almost over. I know every single time my daughters are not home or that I end up in the car by myself, my mind immediately goes to drinking or buying a bottle of wine- because I CAN, that's my stupid rationale.
Tomorrow morning my 14 year old daughter and I are attending a memorial service for classmate of hers and a former student of mine who committed suicide last week. Sweet, quiet, incredibly smart boy - I still can't wrap my head around it. I cannot even begin to imagine his family's pain. Such a heartbreaking tragedy. It surely puts things in perspective.
Hugs and strength to everyone tonight.
Rah, I am coming to believe that drinking is as much a "thinking" problem as it is anything else. We get so used to thinking a certain way and telling ourselves that we can now moderate, or that we deserve it, or whatever...that we literally have to fight off those irrational thoughts in our mind until they dissipate (and hopefully all but disappear).
Peaceful- be sure to have a plan in place for when your husband is gone, if that's your trigger. I know I need to keep myself busy with things that fill up my time so before I know it, the night is almost over. I know every single time my daughters are not home or that I end up in the car by myself, my mind immediately goes to drinking or buying a bottle of wine- because I CAN, that's my stupid rationale.
Tomorrow morning my 14 year old daughter and I are attending a memorial service for classmate of hers and a former student of mine who committed suicide last week. Sweet, quiet, incredibly smart boy - I still can't wrap my head around it. I cannot even begin to imagine his family's pain. Such a heartbreaking tragedy. It surely puts things in perspective.
Hugs and strength to everyone tonight.
Welcome to a new thread!
We're heading into another weekend. Be sure to strengthen your quit by preparing. Don't go blindly into weekends for a while. And don't go in with only the same plan you used last weekend. It's best to keep adding to your plan for a while.
My tip of the day:
Keep a trigger log.
I used the notes app on my phone to create a few notes.
I found it useful to have one note as a place to quickly add a trigger along with what it triggered: craving, depression, anxiety.
Then I had a note for each major trigger where I would drop in ideas for prevention / resolution.
That process helped me in several ways.
- I felt in control for starters. And as you may guess by my avatar, that provided a bunch of relief all by itself.
- It reinforced the idea that what ever I was feeling was temporary and I just needed to tough it out a little bit.
- forced me to keep finding different solutions. Continuously adding new tools was probably THE most important thing I did.
- It made each craving, each WD symptom, each depressive or anxiety state, much more manageable.
- It helped a ton by "moving" something from my mind to "paper". It allowed my mind to move on quicker to other matters.
You guys and gals are doing great. I love to see the sharing that goes on in here. SR is an awesome community, isn't it?
In case you did not already know, SR has live chat meetings Tuesday and Friday evenings @ 9pm eastern. It's a great place to share and learn. And an awesome place to be on a Friday night. My new work schedule prevents me from attending any more, otherwise you'd see me there! Great bunch of people.
Have a great weekend, and QUIT ON!
We're heading into another weekend. Be sure to strengthen your quit by preparing. Don't go blindly into weekends for a while. And don't go in with only the same plan you used last weekend. It's best to keep adding to your plan for a while.
My tip of the day:
Keep a trigger log.
I used the notes app on my phone to create a few notes.
I found it useful to have one note as a place to quickly add a trigger along with what it triggered: craving, depression, anxiety.
Then I had a note for each major trigger where I would drop in ideas for prevention / resolution.
That process helped me in several ways.
- I felt in control for starters. And as you may guess by my avatar, that provided a bunch of relief all by itself.
- It reinforced the idea that what ever I was feeling was temporary and I just needed to tough it out a little bit.
- forced me to keep finding different solutions. Continuously adding new tools was probably THE most important thing I did.
- It made each craving, each WD symptom, each depressive or anxiety state, much more manageable.
- It helped a ton by "moving" something from my mind to "paper". It allowed my mind to move on quicker to other matters.
You guys and gals are doing great. I love to see the sharing that goes on in here. SR is an awesome community, isn't it?
In case you did not already know, SR has live chat meetings Tuesday and Friday evenings @ 9pm eastern. It's a great place to share and learn. And an awesome place to be on a Friday night. My new work schedule prevents me from attending any more, otherwise you'd see me there! Great bunch of people.
Have a great weekend, and QUIT ON!
FABL, that is so sad about your former student - things like that really do put things in perspective don't they?
I am going to bed sober on a Friday night. My daughter didn't end up going to my Mom's tonight because she was too tired from being at a play date all day. But, now she is going tomorrow night so I'm guessing my stupid AV will show up again with the same lame pitch on why I should drink. Will go to an AA meeting in the morning and post here.
Hope everyone is doing well tonight and going to bed sober. That really is the best feeling - that and waking up without a hangover and all of the regret.
I am going to bed sober on a Friday night. My daughter didn't end up going to my Mom's tonight because she was too tired from being at a play date all day. But, now she is going tomorrow night so I'm guessing my stupid AV will show up again with the same lame pitch on why I should drink. Will go to an AA meeting in the morning and post here.
Hope everyone is doing well tonight and going to bed sober. That really is the best feeling - that and waking up without a hangover and all of the regret.
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