Class of February 2016 Support Thread Part 7
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Congrats on 13 days! If you're like me you kind of kick yourself for getting into such a dumb situation like addiction, but in a way I'm glad I went through what I went through. I'd rather have my alcoholism reach a crisis point and force me to stop instead of just continuing to "maintain" at a lower level. In other words, I'm really glad to not drink at all and just be done with it.
Yes! I don't even know where to begin in terms of replying to y'all [is that our class' favorite word, or what? ], but this has been a fun day. And it's only half over for me! LOL
I've started to look at other stuff on this site -- OMG, there's a lot besides posts.
Thought Stopping: A Technique to Quiet the Negative Voice in Your Head
knb, I'm so glad I was able to help someone today [your new Netflix!!]. Might be a first for me on SR? Which step is that, again?
OOTT, it's ok to admit to 'ghetto' drinking. Wine might sound all high falutin', and I'm pretty sure very many people are in denial who are addicted to it, but trust me, I used to drink hard stuff, just not at home. Long Island Iced Teas were a favorite of mine at dance clubs [very quick buzz], and I only recently gave up tequila, though I still bought the 'good stuff' [añejo].
I'm starting to understand the early sobriety brain fog that I've read about here. Today when I wanted to make room on the stove for my homemade chicken stock, I grabbed the espresso pot [Italian type -- prepared on the stovetop] while it was still hot, and sort of burned my hands. Normally I would have only done this drunk, and probably barely felt any pain until the next day, but today I immediately grabbed a ton of ice! Yikes. My brain is definitely in a bit of fog… just like the city not far from here.
I've started to look at other stuff on this site -- OMG, there's a lot besides posts.
Thought Stopping: A Technique to Quiet the Negative Voice in Your Head
knb, I'm so glad I was able to help someone today [your new Netflix!!]. Might be a first for me on SR? Which step is that, again?
OOTT, it's ok to admit to 'ghetto' drinking. Wine might sound all high falutin', and I'm pretty sure very many people are in denial who are addicted to it, but trust me, I used to drink hard stuff, just not at home. Long Island Iced Teas were a favorite of mine at dance clubs [very quick buzz], and I only recently gave up tequila, though I still bought the 'good stuff' [añejo].
I'm starting to understand the early sobriety brain fog that I've read about here. Today when I wanted to make room on the stove for my homemade chicken stock, I grabbed the espresso pot [Italian type -- prepared on the stovetop] while it was still hot, and sort of burned my hands. Normally I would have only done this drunk, and probably barely felt any pain until the next day, but today I immediately grabbed a ton of ice! Yikes. My brain is definitely in a bit of fog… just like the city not far from here.
That movie is good, " into the wild".
It's sad to me though, however it's based on a true story
Don't be jealous of a vacation, JL. A good salary does NOT a good marriage make. Love, effort and support DOES, and I was very glad to read that you are trying. Your wife will come to appreciate it. Trust me, I did. My DH was a bit late, but better late than never. *hug*
Oh, I just had another thought! It's not going to be realistic to "remove" ourselves from exposure to alcohol; it permeates our society. It's everywhere. I ran a 10k race last October and afterwards the people I was with all went out and most of them ordered champagne and orange juice, and the same thing will happen this year and again temptation will be there. I just have to learn to deal with it because it's going to be there.
If that's your darkest secret OOTT, then WOW, you're free!! I'll add you to my inspirations list.
Now *I'm* jealous. I have too many secrets to reveal. What if someone's lurking? [looks around nervously]
Now *I'm* jealous. I have too many secrets to reveal. What if someone's lurking? [looks around nervously]
Ugh I can relate KNB. I have several places around town that I have to avoid because of my drunken behavior....thankfully not a problem when you no longer drink
I know, I got off lucky. Kept my job, no DUI, never hit anyone. I effed up about three relationships and put on weight, but that's about it. Nothing wildly crazy. I feel like I'm a better person now and I like being honest with myself and others for a change. In a way, I'm glad I went through this crappy experience because I've come out a better man.
Good on you, OOTT. I haven't had a DUI yet either, but I was still thrown in the slammer, on my son's 11th birthday. There, I said it.
Hope to feel some relief for having admitted it, rather than anguish. I just wish the cops had taken me to detox, instead.
I love me some cops [USA slang, sorry to the Limey grammarians ]; used to give them $$ donations. No more.
Hope to feel some relief for having admitted it, rather than anguish. I just wish the cops had taken me to detox, instead.
I love me some cops [USA slang, sorry to the Limey grammarians ]; used to give them $$ donations. No more.
OOTT, I had to laugh at two of your recent comments--the one about the Motley Crue production guy and also re: the beer you drank, unnamed because "so deep is my shame." Hilarious. I would drink pretty much anything btw.
Graced, I so relate! "It must be hard to have this falling down drunk in your life year after year and then surprise! she is all of sudden sober. A whole new ball game." My husband is really confused right now. He even tried to cut down his own drinking, but that didn't last long. I've been kind of a basket case for over a month. Unpredictable and moody. But nothing could be as bad as the verbally abusive a**hole I became when in a blackout!
Graced, I so relate! "It must be hard to have this falling down drunk in your life year after year and then surprise! she is all of sudden sober. A whole new ball game." My husband is really confused right now. He even tried to cut down his own drinking, but that didn't last long. I've been kind of a basket case for over a month. Unpredictable and moody. But nothing could be as bad as the verbally abusive a**hole I became when in a blackout!
This is a big cooking day. Homemade dog food, chili relleno and chick pea masala dinners. I make a bunch and put them in the freezer. The only thing left are chocolate orange cookies. It's a new recipe, I'll let ya'll know how they turn out.
Peace, doodles.
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Oh, I just had another thought! It's not going to be realistic to "remove" ourselves from exposure to alcohol; it permeates our society. It's everywhere. I ran a 10k race last October and afterwards the people I was with all went out and most of them ordered champagne and orange juice, and the same thing will happen this year and again temptation will be there. I just have to learn to deal with it because it's going to be there.
OOTT, I had to laugh at two of your recent comments--the one about the Motley Crue production guy and also re: the beer you drank, unnamed because "so deep is my shame." Hilarious. I would drink pretty much anything btw.
Graced, I so relate! "It must be hard to have this falling down drunk in your life year after year and then surprise! she is all of sudden sober. A whole new ball game." My husband is really confused right now. He even tried to cut down his own drinking, but that didn't last long. I've been kind of a basket case for over a month. Unpredictable and moody. But nothing could be as bad as the verbally abusive a**hole I became when in a blackout!
Graced, I so relate! "It must be hard to have this falling down drunk in your life year after year and then surprise! she is all of sudden sober. A whole new ball game." My husband is really confused right now. He even tried to cut down his own drinking, but that didn't last long. I've been kind of a basket case for over a month. Unpredictable and moody. But nothing could be as bad as the verbally abusive a**hole I became when in a blackout!
Right, I mean, don't go out to bars. I just mean that there's booze ads everywhere, booze in the stores, and unless you live in a cave, booze at social occasions. I mentioned the 10k thing because I didn't expect my friends to order drinks at 11 a.m. on a Sunday morning. I wasn't prepared for that. Even back in October I was tapering down, so I said no thanks without much problem, but still, I can tell it's going to be a lifelong struggle.
Hmmm, this whole music industry thing is new for me, on this thread, though my DH has been thrown into this business [sound engineer].
Ccc, the book I linked, "Look Me in the Eye" -- he was the engineer behind KISS' exploding guitars, and he was an Aspie!! Please try to look at your son's strengths, rather than his differences. It has taken me a lot to do this, but having grown up in a world of science nerds, it makes it easier. The good news in Silicon Valley is, if you're a nerd, you WILL succeed.
Ccc, the book I linked, "Look Me in the Eye" -- he was the engineer behind KISS' exploding guitars, and he was an Aspie!! Please try to look at your son's strengths, rather than his differences. It has taken me a lot to do this, but having grown up in a world of science nerds, it makes it easier. The good news in Silicon Valley is, if you're a nerd, you WILL succeed.
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