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Old 03-06-2016, 09:04 AM
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Still trying to make heads and tails out of posts I've missed.
Dee, I'm sorry for your loss bud.
Also coco, sorry to hear loss news also.
I'm not keeping it together well at all. It's a weekend so lots of really violent ups and downs going on at home. Since lurking occurs apparently, I'm not going to go into it.
Let's just say we've got a lot of healing to do, and there's more sacrifices to be made. We've lived for a while " just dealing". Can't do it anymore.
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Old 03-06-2016, 09:10 AM
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Hi. Life is hard. But still far, far better than continuing to add drinking. I started the day in a rather rough way with my spouse. He is very angry at times with me, even though I am now completely sober. It must be hard to have this falling down drunk in your life year after year and then surprise! she is all of sudden sober. A whole new ball game. But day by day it is getting easier for us both to be around each other. In fact, as I type this, I am smiling.
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Old 03-06-2016, 09:15 AM
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Originally Posted by Cococo View Post
I never claimed to be the only person struggling. I guess there are degrees of it though.
Not everyone divulges all that they are struggling with [me, for example]. I've chewed on the worst of it too much for ~3 years, and if I divulge all at once, I will surely drive to the liquor store. I know that about me now.

I'm really working on staying positive, but it's not easy. Wish I'd found this site sooner when I was in the depths of despair, but I was in denial about the EtOH. I despair more when I drink, and I need to remind myself of that, everyday, probably for the rest of my life.

I haven't even admitted to what SHOULD have been where my rock bottom was to any of my counselors [yet], and not sure I will here. Let's just say it involved the police and unwanted time away from my family.

So let's all try to re-group and not have any hard feelings. I mean, I could feel bad about what you said about gardening, but I won't. It is medicine for some of us, and maybe Dee was just trying to support that. It's a positive thing -- unless done drunk, which I have many times, and have the injuries to prove it!

Happy Sunday, y'all. It's not Mother's Day in the USA, but what the heck, I can celebrate it twice.

Coco, I am SO very sorry about your loss. I did not know that. I haven't read the thread from the beginning; perhaps I should. I got a late start here in Feb. Dee, safe travels and wishing you strength in your bereavement.
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Old 03-06-2016, 09:26 AM
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Originally Posted by beerbgone View Post
Here's something I copied from another post. My apologies for not remembering who posted it!

AV Suggestions

1. Play the tape forward. What will happen when you have that first drink? How will you feel about having that drink after you promised yourself to quit? How will you feel the next day? What are all the things that could go wrong?

2. Start retraining your mind. It won't happen immediately, and you might not even believe yourself, but start telling yourself how much you hate it. Why do you hate it? What exactly to you hate about it? What are the repercussions from drinking? Repeat them. Especially when you want to drink.

3. Meditate. When your mind is stuck on the infinite loop of wanting to drink, you can stop the loop with meditation. Search YouTube for self guided meditations. You can even find some for alcoholism. You can find some designed to put your mind at peace. It REALLY helps. In a HUGE way.

4. Journal. But do it differently than you might expect. Simply write what is on your mind. Don't worry about punctuation, grammar, paragraphs. You can...but just focus on writing down what's on your mind. But here's the deal...you MUST fill 3 pages worth of notes. Do NOT stop until you have all 3 pages.

You can even write "I don't know what to write anymore" if that's the only thing on your mind. You can write "I want to drink" over and over if that's all that's on your mind. Simply move those thoughts from your brain to the paper.

Then destroy them. Rip them up. Burn them. Shred them. All of the above.

That form of journaling will clear your mind. It's like emptying a sink of dirty water. Now it's free to fill up again with DIFFERENT thoughts. And it WILL!

Tip: do that journaling every morning. And if you feel the need, do it again when needed.
Thank you for this. I'm going to print it out!
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Old 03-06-2016, 09:54 AM
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GardenGal I copied it to a file and have it saved on my desktop so I can get to it quickly!
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Old 03-06-2016, 10:05 AM
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Evening class. I know a few of you are struggling and I send you inner strength to pull through. Thank you all for welcoming me back. :-))

I just want to get on with it and beat this AV to the ground., together as a team xx
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Old 03-06-2016, 10:06 AM
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Lots of new members..hi to the newcomers
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Old 03-06-2016, 10:10 AM
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Originally Posted by Auggie View Post
That's me, as well, Lee. That is what makes this quit the final quit, for me. I have finally acknowledged that I will not/can not drink in moderation for very long. It starts with a glass of wine with dinner and nothing for a few days or weeks but eventually it turns into small amounts of daily consumption and eventually I'm out of control, again. In some ways I think it's easier this time. The question of to drink or not to drink is simply, no longer on the table. Drinking is no longer an option. I took Dee's advice and made a plan, it's still a work in progress. No matter my triggers, no matter what life throws at me, drinking is not an option. Welcome to the class of Februdoodles!
Thinking the same Lee and Auggie. Spent too many long years trying to drink normally. Had a few patches of moderation but it always ended with drinking daily like an alcoholic. I feel at peace to know that I am powerless over alcohol cause now I know what I need to do.

But that word forever frightens the pants off me so I would rather take it every 24 hours.
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Old 03-06-2016, 10:53 AM
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But that word forever frightens the pants off me so I would rather take it every 24 hours.
I had to say it on Wed. because I decided to share at my 3rd AA meeting, and who introduces themselves without saying that word? One of the hardest things ever. But sort of liberating, in a way. Somewhere, deep down in the depths of denial [dddd -- hey, new acronym?], I still wonder if I can someday go back to being a wine hoarder/ 'conisseuress'/occasional enjoyer rather than a daily wine-o.

Guys, we're all in this boat together. It isn't a competition [who suffers most, who is strongest in sobriety, etc.] -- we're a team! With one common goal: to end the suffering caused by alcohol.

Mondays are always my worst days. Serenity tomorrow!
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Old 03-06-2016, 11:25 AM
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Thanks to Dee for his tireless effort and patience. Sorry for your loss too, D.

Also that is a sweet command station you've got!

Another sober day! I took a hot yoga class earlier, and will soon head outside for a walk in the sun! It's going to be nice today! Hugs all.
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If I've learned anything here, it's that I can't even think about drinking in moderation. It seems to be a major problem and I can tell I won't have any beer luck than anyone else has had, plus my willpower is probably WORSE than most people here. I've survived this month by removing triggers, sometimes by going to ridiculous lengths to do so, rather than willpower.
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Old 03-06-2016, 11:32 AM
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GG - That is ONE thing that has stopped in its tracks since I got rid of the alcohol on my life., suffering caused by alcohol. It's too easy to forget what it was like. I battle with cravings, yearn for a few drinks, annoyed that I can't , but who cares. It's way better than being drunk, hungover, angry , frightened , wasting my life and so forth,

No comparison.
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Old 03-06-2016, 11:32 AM
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It is beautiful today here in the SE too.
3 hrs and I'm off til Tuesday !
I'm craving a grape soda of some type today , day 13.
Yesterday was bannana split day.
I sure have some strange cravings, but who cares, if I'm sober, right.
Hoping for no more crashes at the track today and we can **** down emergency services for the day.
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Old 03-06-2016, 11:35 AM
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I posted at the one year thread about my ghetto grocery store. I never realized how hard they push the booze there. There are beer and even vodka displays in every aisle. I bought vast amounts of booze there, now I can see why. I liked place because it was cheap, but now I can see I'm going to have to go to place that doesn't push the liquor so much. That's an example of removing triggers that seems to work for me.
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Originally Posted by Outonthetiles View Post
If I've learned anything here, it's that I can't even think about drinking in moderation. It seems to be a major problem and I can tell I won't have any beer luck than anyone else has had, plus my willpower is probably WORSE than most people here. I've survived this month by removing triggers, sometimes by going to ridiculous lengths to do so, rather than willpower.
Yep. Me too. My friends keep asking me to go out for a drink but I am not ready for this. Especially now when I kind of feel "curious".
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Originally Posted by JL2014 View Post
It is beautiful today here in the SE too.
3 hrs and I'm off til Tuesday !
I'm craving a grape soda of some type today , day 13.
Yesterday was bannana split day.
I sure have some strange cravings, but who cares, if I'm sober, right.
Hoping for no more crashes at the track today and we can **** down emergency services for the day.
Hey! Like the new avatar JL. That's you !
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Old 03-06-2016, 11:38 AM
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I wrote "beer luck". I meant "better luck." That's an AV for ya!!!
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Sorry for your loss Dee. You're an amazing blessing to SR and this class.

KNB yay! You're back! So happy miss thang! Ur beautiful!
Hugs *jobei*
Coco I miss the ole spunky you! You're a lovely person and I can tell. We'll all get through these bad days , hours, minutes together.
Welcome to the new people! This is only the best class EVER
Day 15.
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CNGY nice work on 15 days keep up the good work!
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I've noticed how alcohol is offered/ pushed. Big buisness, though.
Tonight I hope download the couch to 5k program. I'll be starting it indoors on my treadmill as I'm ridiculously obese, in my opinion. Feeling a little stronger for once, in a LONG time.
Good to see posts today from ppl. Feeling alone for some reason.
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