Class of February 2016 Support Thread Part 7
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Originally Posted by Cococo 
Hi class
It's 11am and I'm driving home now. Im in a township having morning tea before I head home. I do get internet reception here.
Welcome back knb.
Welcome PamperingMe. Despite a few posters hinting that you should move to the March thread because you're starting on day 1, please know that you can post in whichever thread you feel comfortable. We DO need to feel comfortable actually. What benefit is a member going to get from posting in a thread where they don't feel comfortable?
I'm doing ok. If anybody cares. Thanks for the well wishes - not! I posted that I was struggling and it was completely overlooked! There were even members and SR administrators online at the same time, but nothing. Is it a hint **** off to March thread or elsewhere.
It's 11am and I'm driving home now. Im in a township having morning tea before I head home. I do get internet reception here.
Welcome back knb.
Welcome PamperingMe. Despite a few posters hinting that you should move to the March thread because you're starting on day 1, please know that you can post in whichever thread you feel comfortable. We DO need to feel comfortable actually. What benefit is a member going to get from posting in a thread where they don't feel comfortable?
I'm doing ok. If anybody cares. Thanks for the well wishes - not! I posted that I was struggling and it was completely overlooked! There were even members and SR administrators online at the same time, but nothing. Is it a hint **** off to March thread or elsewhere.
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Originally Posted by Cococo
You are not the only one that has had that fantasy. Unfortunately I've been really struggling with it big time for the past 3 weeks. Sigh it's very draining.
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Originally Posted by Cococo
Knb, thanks, but don't worry about it. I really don't care. Ultimately, I'm the only person who is going to support me. I've got to get driving now.
Have a great day. And enjoy your cakes :-)
Have a great day. And enjoy your cakes :-)
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I'm going to bed now guys, early meeting tomorrow and a girl needs her beauty sleep. My cat's sleeping on my pyjamas right now but she's gonna have to move, I need them!
Coco - I'm sure no one meant to overlook your post Coco, this class can get rather busy. Have a safe journey!
knb - Your sponsor's still not speaking much to you? Mine told me today that she was giving me space because newbie's get easily overwhelmed and don't like being phoned. I had to show my interest in meeting her before it actually happened. Do you call/text your sponsor often?
Coco - I'm sure no one meant to overlook your post Coco, this class can get rather busy. Have a safe journey!
knb - Your sponsor's still not speaking much to you? Mine told me today that she was giving me space because newbie's get easily overwhelmed and don't like being phoned. I had to show my interest in meeting her before it actually happened. Do you call/text your sponsor often?
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Originally Posted by OldTomato
I'm going to bed now guys, early meeting tomorrow and a girl needs her beauty sleep. My cat's sleeping on my pyjamas right now but she's gonna have to move, I need them!
Coco - I'm sure no one meant to overlook your post Coco, this class can get rather busy. Have a safe journey!
knb - Your sponsor's still not speaking much to you? Mine told me today that she was giving me space because newbie's get easily overwhelmed and don't like being phoned. I had to show my interest in meeting her before it actually happened. Do you call/text your sponsor often?
Coco - I'm sure no one meant to overlook your post Coco, this class can get rather busy. Have a safe journey!
knb - Your sponsor's still not speaking much to you? Mine told me today that she was giving me space because newbie's get easily overwhelmed and don't like being phoned. I had to show my interest in meeting her before it actually happened. Do you call/text your sponsor often?
Sleep well OT. It's getting late too. Going to sleep
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Originally Posted by Cococo
I'm doing ok. If anybody cares. Thanks for the well wishes - not! I posted that I was struggling and it was completely overlooked! There were even members and SR administrators online at the same time, but nothing. Is it a hint to bugger off to March thread or elsewhere.
It really hit me this week that it's "out there" for me. I read "EtOH abuse" in my online medical files and it really made me start to worry. I hope I don't have issues with my medical insurance, etc. It's a disease, right? But one with a certain stigma. I guess that's why so many people hide it from their docs. How was I supposed to get Campral, without fessing up?
Anyway Coco, please don't leave us. And knb, no worries! I saw what you went through on the other thread. Nice new photo -- lovely hair!
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Originally Posted by knb02
Sigh. I think I am on the hunt fir another sponsor
I'm going to my private counselor shortly. Need to think back on the week's events...
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Originally Posted by GardenGal
Is it bad ju-ju to do that? How long do most folks take to choose a sponsor?
I'm going to my private counselor shortly. Need to think back on the week's events...
I'm going to my private counselor shortly. Need to think back on the week's events...
What's your councellor like? I think mine is hopeless. She was referred to by my doctor. I basically rattle on about my week while she writes notes. Nods her head every now and then writes more notes. Says well done when it's appropriate. Writes some more notes. She might be drawings houses for all I know? Six weeks later she only now asks me if I would like some coping techniques to combat triggers. Duh! Ofcourse I do and I did six weeks ago.
Iam so glad I am not paying for these sessions.
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Mine are quite good [I have 2], but I pay them…
One is an addiction specialist, the other [today] is an all around specialist, and she doesn't take notes.
My shrink takes a lot of notes, but she also talks to me/ helps.
My previous shrink died in an alcohol-involved crash not long ago. Lovely, eh? It devastated me. I'd poured out my whole life to her, then had to start all over.
I haven't revealed [on SR] the worst stuff that brought me to where I am today, and not sure I will. It's too painful. I'm supposed to move on from past and take one day at a time, right?
I should probably start reading [and posting] in the grateful thread. I know that I have much to be thankful for, but somehow seeing it got lost in so much negativity.
One is an addiction specialist, the other [today] is an all around specialist, and she doesn't take notes.
My shrink takes a lot of notes, but she also talks to me/ helps.My previous shrink died in an alcohol-involved crash not long ago. Lovely, eh? It devastated me. I'd poured out my whole life to her, then had to start all over.
I haven't revealed [on SR] the worst stuff that brought me to where I am today, and not sure I will. It's too painful. I'm supposed to move on from past and take one day at a time, right?
I should probably start reading [and posting] in the grateful thread. I know that I have much to be thankful for, but somehow seeing it got lost in so much negativity.
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Originally Posted by GardenGal
Mine are quite good [I have 2], but I pay them…
One is an addiction specialist, the other [today] is an all around specialist, and she doesn't take notes. My shrink takes a lot of notes, but she also talks to me/ helps.
My previous shrink died in an alcohol-involved crash not long ago. Lovely, eh? It devastated me. I'd poured out my whole life to her, then had to start all over.
I haven't revealed [on SR] the worst stuff that brought me to where I am today, and not sure I will. It's too painful. I'm supposed to move on from past and take one day at a time, right?
I should probably start reading [and posting] in the grateful thread. I know that I have much to be thankful for, but somehow seeing it got lost in so much negativity.
One is an addiction specialist, the other [today] is an all around specialist, and she doesn't take notes.
My shrink takes a lot of notes, but she also talks to me/ helps.My previous shrink died in an alcohol-involved crash not long ago. Lovely, eh? It devastated me. I'd poured out my whole life to her, then had to start all over.
I haven't revealed [on SR] the worst stuff that brought me to where I am today, and not sure I will. It's too painful. I'm supposed to move on from past and take one day at a time, right?
I should probably start reading [and posting] in the grateful thread. I know that I have much to be thankful for, but somehow seeing it got lost in so much negativity.
Live and let live. Let it go. Live in the present. Accept the things you cannot control...sigh. Not always easy. I prefer to react instantly , wreck everything, get absolutely hammered and deal with it the next day. Living sober is changing your whole mindset to living. It's a long continuous process
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Originally Posted by GardenGal
I care!! I was struggling a lot this week too, and it's a whirlwind to keep up here. I'm sorry if I overlooked you. You and I have a lot in common! I thought you were out of town.
It really hit me this week that it's "out there" for me. I read "EtOH abuse" in my online medical files and it really made me start to worry. I hope I don't have issues with my medical insurance, etc. It's a disease, right? But one with a certain stigma. I guess that's why so many people hide it from their docs. How was I supposed to get Campral, without fessing up?
Anyway Coco, please don't leave us. And knb, no worries! I saw what you went through on the other thread. Nice new photo -- lovely hair!
It really hit me this week that it's "out there" for me. I read "EtOH abuse" in my online medical files and it really made me start to worry. I hope I don't have issues with my medical insurance, etc. It's a disease, right? But one with a certain stigma. I guess that's why so many people hide it from their docs. How was I supposed to get Campral, without fessing up?
Anyway Coco, please don't leave us. And knb, no worries! I saw what you went through on the other thread. Nice new photo -- lovely hair!
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Ugh, I don't know. I'll see what my husband says -- he deals with all the insurance stuff, as I'm too flaky with boring paperwork.
I'm off now to get the Campral from a different pharmacy, yippee! My doc said it might make me very tired. Tonight, that wouldn't be a bad thing!
I'm off now to get the Campral from a different pharmacy, yippee! My doc said it might make me very tired. Tonight, that wouldn't be a bad thing!
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GG - I'm so sorry to hear you have the sickies. Pho soup should help. I love Pho soup. But, I moved to the sticks and the closest restaurant that serves it is over 40 miles away. I looked up a recipe and, it turns out, the store that carries the spices necessary to make it, also 40 miles away.
Cute - Excellent job on the 2 weeks!
knb - It's so nice to see your pretty face again. Congratulations on 40 days!
Coco - I care about you. I've been waiting to hear from you since you said that you would be out of range.
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Greetings and best wishes to all the doodles!!!!
Cute - Excellent job on the 2 weeks!
knb - It's so nice to see your pretty face again. Congratulations on 40 days!
Coco - I care about you. I've been waiting to hear from you since you said that you would be out of range.
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Awww Cococo I think it's safe to say we all or most of us care! If you are in a very hard moment be sure to maybe post in the main forum too if you don't get a timely response.
I know my availability on here is so unknown. I take what I can get. Big big hugs!!
Anything in particular you want to chat or vent about?
I know my availability on here is so unknown. I take what I can get. Big big hugs!!
Anything in particular you want to chat or vent about?
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I did my taxes today. It's normally the sort of thing that would bring on an anxiety attack and lead me straight to the liquor store. But not this day. I was oddly calm and rational and moved straight into, "What can I do to improve my financial situation." mode. The things I can do, I have a plan for, and the things I can't do, I accept.
I think the main reason that I'm not panicking is that being sober has allowed me to really focus on work. Not only have I created a plan but I'm acting on that plan daily. In the past, I create a plan and work the plan when I'm not too drunk or hung over to do so. The past couple of weeks, I'm fully present every day.
This is what I see first thing in the morning. It's on my bedroom mirror.
I think the main reason that I'm not panicking is that being sober has allowed me to really focus on work. Not only have I created a plan but I'm acting on that plan daily. In the past, I create a plan and work the plan when I'm not too drunk or hung over to do so. The past couple of weeks, I'm fully present every day.
This is what I see first thing in the morning. It's on my bedroom mirror.
I made so much more progress in one year by doing a few small things consistently than I did in thirty years of overthinking and massive to-do lists. I saw that my tendency to want things perfect meant spending most of my time pining for results or feeling overwhelmed by my own inaction. Ishita Gupta
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Cococo I care !!!
I'm skipping around trying to post but ppl are crying, I'm hearing about things I've done to hurt my wife and underneath it all I'm trying to stay strong and her get a plan going. Gotta get better before we can work on us. It's very hard, very painful, and we both feel alone. Now when we have alone time, one of cries and gives a list of things the other one has done, and apparently were not forgiving one another enough, or at all. I told her once again therapy is in order because we've put things above "us" in importance til there literally is no "us" there. We both feel hurt and alone. This is horrible and I literally would rather kill myself than knowingly do this to a person. If I had done this on purpose and saw that, I'd be gone before anyone knew it.
Today is horribly sad, and I'm damn tired of sad.
It'll work out, but it'll take both of us, laying aside our beat down tools we use on each other either wittingly or unknowingly.
I feel like I'm in a bad place, but I'm just recognizing that being in a bad place drunk or DTing, is far far worse. I've had enough of that.
Sorry for the dark tone. Life is hard and feeling alone sucks. We've both done that to each other.
Sober sober sober
I'm skipping around trying to post but ppl are crying, I'm hearing about things I've done to hurt my wife and underneath it all I'm trying to stay strong and her get a plan going. Gotta get better before we can work on us. It's very hard, very painful, and we both feel alone. Now when we have alone time, one of cries and gives a list of things the other one has done, and apparently were not forgiving one another enough, or at all. I told her once again therapy is in order because we've put things above "us" in importance til there literally is no "us" there. We both feel hurt and alone. This is horrible and I literally would rather kill myself than knowingly do this to a person. If I had done this on purpose and saw that, I'd be gone before anyone knew it.
Today is horribly sad, and I'm damn tired of sad.
It'll work out, but it'll take both of us, laying aside our beat down tools we use on each other either wittingly or unknowingly.
I feel like I'm in a bad place, but I'm just recognizing that being in a bad place drunk or DTing, is far far worse. I've had enough of that.
Sorry for the dark tone. Life is hard and feeling alone sucks. We've both done that to each other.
Sober sober sober
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JL -(((Big Hug))) It sounds like you are moving in the right direction with things. It takes time and commitment to make any relationship work. But you've already taken the hardest, most important step with your sobriety.
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