24 Hour Recovery Connections Part 111
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Originally Posted by martina12 
Thanks Venus yes I have hit 2 sober months today and feel great 
Onwards to month 3!
I have just read Kaneda's link to an article on resilience. I wanted to make it a quote here but couldn't for some reason but it was absolutely spot on.
I was especially interested in how we can learn to overcome challenges in a positive way in life as I really need to start doing this rather than dwelling on the past. Thank you Kaneda for posting it!
I am going to try and paste it here instead:
How People Learn to Become Resilient - The New Yorker
Hope that the paste worked
Onwards to month 3!
I have just read Kaneda's link to an article on resilience. I wanted to make it a quote here but couldn't for some reason but it was absolutely spot on.
I was especially interested in how we can learn to overcome challenges in a positive way in life as I really need to start doing this rather than dwelling on the past. Thank you Kaneda for posting it!
I am going to try and paste it here instead:
How People Learn to Become Resilient - The New Yorker
Hope that the paste worked
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Hi everyone, I would like to commit to 24 hours sober. It is 15:25 here and I am glad I am checking in at this hour. I have found if I can get past lunchtime without taking the first drink I can resist and fight harder in the evenings.
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Originally Posted by martina12
Thanks Venus yes I have hit 2 sober months today and feel great
Onwards to month 3!
I have just read Kaneda's link to an article on resilience. I wanted to make it a quote here but couldn't for some reason but it was absolutely spot on.
I was especially interested in how we can learn to overcome challenges in a positive way in life as I really need to start doing this rather than dwelling on the past. Thank you Kaneda for posting it!
I am going to try and paste it here instead:
How People Learn to Become Resilient - The New Yorker
Hope that the paste worked
Onwards to month 3!
I have just read Kaneda's link to an article on resilience. I wanted to make it a quote here but couldn't for some reason but it was absolutely spot on.
I was especially interested in how we can learn to overcome challenges in a positive way in life as I really need to start doing this rather than dwelling on the past. Thank you Kaneda for posting it!
I am going to try and paste it here instead:
How People Learn to Become Resilient - The New Yorker
Hope that the paste worked
Martina, thanks for reposting it.
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Originally Posted by mcflurry
24 for me please!
Cococo- I'm so sorry to hear about your mum. It sounds like she just doesn't get it. She sounds very quick to judge- bit like my MIL and SIL. How awful, her using you saying about your plans to stop drinking to 'prove' you are an 'alky'. Like its a competition between her and her friends to say 'I told you so.' She's obviously got nothing better to do with her life. Over time you may pity her, but I totally get your anger/upset. And well done for not drinking- an evening with my inlaws was a HUGE trigger for me.
Many people do have the perception that alcoholics are weak willed losers. And yes, when someone is an active alcoholic they may behave in a way that is embarrassing, unreliable and lets people down. So we can understand why that perception may be there.
Thing is, it's not true. Alcoholism is an illness and it is not selective. I have not met anyone on SR who I would consider a 'loser.' I am a doctor and have met many alcoholic patients, active and sober. I would not call any of them 'losers.' And I too am an alcoholic and I wouldn't call myself a 'loser' either! It can affect anyone. It is not down to 'willpower'. If that was the case, there wouldn't be so many of us here. It is an illness, just like diabetes or asthma.
Whether you choose to describe yourself as 'alcoholic' or not is irrelevant. Personally I don't think it's anything to be ashamed of. It's not your fault. The main thing is that you are now SOBER. That is something to be proud of. And as time passes you will feel better and better.
If your mum can't be happy and proud for you too, forget about her.
Wishing you all the best and sending you hugs xx
Cococo- I'm so sorry to hear about your mum. It sounds like she just doesn't get it. She sounds very quick to judge- bit like my MIL and SIL. How awful, her using you saying about your plans to stop drinking to 'prove' you are an 'alky'. Like its a competition between her and her friends to say 'I told you so.' She's obviously got nothing better to do with her life. Over time you may pity her, but I totally get your anger/upset. And well done for not drinking- an evening with my inlaws was a HUGE trigger for me.
Many people do have the perception that alcoholics are weak willed losers. And yes, when someone is an active alcoholic they may behave in a way that is embarrassing, unreliable and lets people down. So we can understand why that perception may be there.
Thing is, it's not true. Alcoholism is an illness and it is not selective. I have not met anyone on SR who I would consider a 'loser.' I am a doctor and have met many alcoholic patients, active and sober. I would not call any of them 'losers.' And I too am an alcoholic and I wouldn't call myself a 'loser' either! It can affect anyone. It is not down to 'willpower'. If that was the case, there wouldn't be so many of us here. It is an illness, just like diabetes or asthma.
Whether you choose to describe yourself as 'alcoholic' or not is irrelevant. Personally I don't think it's anything to be ashamed of. It's not your fault. The main thing is that you are now SOBER. That is something to be proud of. And as time passes you will feel better and better.
If your mum can't be happy and proud for you too, forget about her.
Wishing you all the best and sending you hugs xx
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Originally Posted by ManInTheArena
I am just a few days into this return trip to sobriety as well. It's 6:10am and I'd like 24 more hours.
I'm posting for the first time from my iPhone and I'm beginning to feel that my iPhone is now somehow my HP. Haha.
Have a great day everyone.
MITA
I'm posting for the first time from my iPhone and I'm beginning to feel that my iPhone is now somehow my HP. Haha.
Have a great day everyone.
MITA
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Originally Posted by mcflurry
24 for me please!
Cococo- I'm so sorry to hear about your mum. It sounds like she just doesn't get it. She sounds very quick to judge- bit like my MIL and SIL. How awful, her using you saying about your plans to stop drinking to 'prove' you are an 'alky'. Like its a competition between her and her friends to say 'I told you so.' She's obviously got nothing better to do with her life. Over time you may pity her, but I totally get your anger/upset. And well done for not drinking- an evening with my inlaws was a HUGE trigger for me.
Many people do have the perception that alcoholics are weak willed losers. And yes, when someone is an active alcoholic they may behave in a way that is embarrassing, unreliable and lets people down. So we can understand why that perception may be there.
Thing is, it's not true. Alcoholism is an illness and it is not selective. I have not met anyone on SR who I would consider a 'loser.' I am a doctor and have met many alcoholic patients, active and sober. I would not call any of them 'losers.' And I too am an alcoholic and I wouldn't call myself a 'loser' either! It can affect anyone. It is not down to 'willpower'. If that was the case, there wouldn't be so many of us here. It is an illness, just like diabetes or asthma.
Whether you choose to describe yourself as 'alcoholic' or not is irrelevant. Personally I don't think it's anything to be ashamed of. It's not your fault. The main thing is that you are now SOBER. That is something to be proud of. And as time passes you will feel better and better.
If your mum can't be happy and proud for you too, forget about her.
Wishing you all the best and sending you hugs xx
Cococo- I'm so sorry to hear about your mum. It sounds like she just doesn't get it. She sounds very quick to judge- bit like my MIL and SIL. How awful, her using you saying about your plans to stop drinking to 'prove' you are an 'alky'. Like its a competition between her and her friends to say 'I told you so.' She's obviously got nothing better to do with her life. Over time you may pity her, but I totally get your anger/upset. And well done for not drinking- an evening with my inlaws was a HUGE trigger for me.
Many people do have the perception that alcoholics are weak willed losers. And yes, when someone is an active alcoholic they may behave in a way that is embarrassing, unreliable and lets people down. So we can understand why that perception may be there.
Thing is, it's not true. Alcoholism is an illness and it is not selective. I have not met anyone on SR who I would consider a 'loser.' I am a doctor and have met many alcoholic patients, active and sober. I would not call any of them 'losers.' And I too am an alcoholic and I wouldn't call myself a 'loser' either! It can affect anyone. It is not down to 'willpower'. If that was the case, there wouldn't be so many of us here. It is an illness, just like diabetes or asthma.
Whether you choose to describe yourself as 'alcoholic' or not is irrelevant. Personally I don't think it's anything to be ashamed of. It's not your fault. The main thing is that you are now SOBER. That is something to be proud of. And as time passes you will feel better and better.
If your mum can't be happy and proud for you too, forget about her.
Wishing you all the best and sending you hugs xx
Fantastic post, mcflurry!!!!
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Originally Posted by DoctorEis
It took me 20+ years to understand that I can't control my drinking. I drink to get drunk. I've been sober for one week and I'm not turning back now.
#inforanother24
#inforanother24
Congrats on a most beautiful 1 week of sobriety, Doctor!!!!!!!
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Originally Posted by tokidoki
It is sunny today in the driftless zone. Yay- the sun is a much-needed friend right now.
Hugs to those who are having difficulties and congrats to the milestoners.
Stay close Neo.
24 more hours, please.
Hugs to those who are having difficulties and congrats to the milestoners.
Stay close Neo.
24 more hours, please.
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Originally Posted by ManInTheArena
I am just a few days into this return trip to sobriety as well. It's 6:10am and I'd like 24 more hours.
I'm posting for the first time from my iPhone and I'm beginning to feel that my iPhone is now somehow my HP. Haha.
Have a great day everyone.
MITA
I'm posting for the first time from my iPhone and I'm beginning to feel that my iPhone is now somehow my HP. Haha.
Have a great day everyone.
MITA
Welcome to the thread, MITA; so glad that you are here!!!!!
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Originally Posted by Meraviglioso
Hi everyone, I would like to commit to 24 hours sober. It is 15:25 here and I am glad I am checking in at this hour. I have found if I can get past lunchtime without taking the first drink I can resist and fight harder in the evenings.
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Originally Posted by DoctorEis
It took me 20+ years to understand that I can't control my drinking. I drink to get drunk. I've been sober for one week and I'm not turning back now.
#inforanother24
#inforanother24
One week is great; keep on, DoctorEis.
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