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Old 02-28-2016, 06:23 AM
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Originally Posted by martina12 View Post
Thanks Venus yes I have hit 2 sober months today and feel great

Onwards to month 3!

I have just read Kaneda's link to an article on resilience. I wanted to make it a quote here but couldn't for some reason but it was absolutely spot on.

I was especially interested in how we can learn to overcome challenges in a positive way in life as I really need to start doing this rather than dwelling on the past. Thank you Kaneda for posting it!

I am going to try and paste it here instead:

How People Learn to Become Resilient - The New Yorker

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So very Happy for you Martina!!
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Hi everyone, I would like to commit to 24 hours sober. It is 15:25 here and I am glad I am checking in at this hour. I have found if I can get past lunchtime without taking the first drink I can resist and fight harder in the evenings.
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Originally Posted by martina12 View Post
Thanks Venus yes I have hit 2 sober months today and feel great

Onwards to month 3!

I have just read Kaneda's link to an article on resilience. I wanted to make it a quote here but couldn't for some reason but it was absolutely spot on.

I was especially interested in how we can learn to overcome challenges in a positive way in life as I really need to start doing this rather than dwelling on the past. Thank you Kaneda for posting it!

I am going to try and paste it here instead:

How People Learn to Become Resilient - The New Yorker

Hope that the paste worked
Fantastic article, Kaneda.

Martina, thanks for reposting it.
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Old 02-28-2016, 06:25 AM
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Originally Posted by mcflurry View Post
24 for me please!

Cococo- I'm so sorry to hear about your mum. It sounds like she just doesn't get it. She sounds very quick to judge- bit like my MIL and SIL. How awful, her using you saying about your plans to stop drinking to 'prove' you are an 'alky'. Like its a competition between her and her friends to say 'I told you so.' She's obviously got nothing better to do with her life. Over time you may pity her, but I totally get your anger/upset. And well done for not drinking- an evening with my inlaws was a HUGE trigger for me.

Many people do have the perception that alcoholics are weak willed losers. And yes, when someone is an active alcoholic they may behave in a way that is embarrassing, unreliable and lets people down. So we can understand why that perception may be there.

Thing is, it's not true. Alcoholism is an illness and it is not selective. I have not met anyone on SR who I would consider a 'loser.' I am a doctor and have met many alcoholic patients, active and sober. I would not call any of them 'losers.' And I too am an alcoholic and I wouldn't call myself a 'loser' either! It can affect anyone. It is not down to 'willpower'. If that was the case, there wouldn't be so many of us here. It is an illness, just like diabetes or asthma.

Whether you choose to describe yourself as 'alcoholic' or not is irrelevant. Personally I don't think it's anything to be ashamed of. It's not your fault. The main thing is that you are now SOBER. That is something to be proud of. And as time passes you will feel better and better.

If your mum can't be happy and proud for you too, forget about her.
Wishing you all the best and sending you hugs xx
Amen!
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Old 02-28-2016, 06:27 AM
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Originally Posted by martina12 View Post
Thanks Venus yes I have hit 2 sober months today and feel great

Onwards to month 3!

Congrats, again, on your milestone, Martina!!!!
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Old 02-28-2016, 06:27 AM
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Originally Posted by Neo36 View Post
10:42am...24 for please..Day 1
Keep trying. We're all plugging for you! Never give up. Stay with us, Neo! It'll stick!
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Old 02-28-2016, 06:30 AM
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Originally Posted by Neo36 View Post
10:42am...24 for please..Day 1
(((Neo))); so glad that you are here.

Have you seen Dee's thread on the importance of plans.

I'll post it here in a minute.
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Old 02-28-2016, 06:31 AM
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Originally Posted by ManInTheArena View Post
I am just a few days into this return trip to sobriety as well. It's 6:10am and I'd like 24 more hours.

I'm posting for the first time from my iPhone and I'm beginning to feel that my iPhone is now somehow my HP. Haha.

Have a great day everyone.

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Welcome and Glad you're here, Man! Whatever works, works! We do it together.
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Old 02-28-2016, 06:32 AM
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Neo; here is the link:

http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...highlight=psst
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Old 02-28-2016, 06:33 AM
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Originally Posted by mcflurry View Post
24 for me please!

Cococo- I'm so sorry to hear about your mum. It sounds like she just doesn't get it. She sounds very quick to judge- bit like my MIL and SIL. How awful, her using you saying about your plans to stop drinking to 'prove' you are an 'alky'. Like its a competition between her and her friends to say 'I told you so.' She's obviously got nothing better to do with her life. Over time you may pity her, but I totally get your anger/upset. And well done for not drinking- an evening with my inlaws was a HUGE trigger for me.

Many people do have the perception that alcoholics are weak willed losers. And yes, when someone is an active alcoholic they may behave in a way that is embarrassing, unreliable and lets people down. So we can understand why that perception may be there.

Thing is, it's not true. Alcoholism is an illness and it is not selective. I have not met anyone on SR who I would consider a 'loser.' I am a doctor and have met many alcoholic patients, active and sober. I would not call any of them 'losers.' And I too am an alcoholic and I wouldn't call myself a 'loser' either! It can affect anyone. It is not down to 'willpower'. If that was the case, there wouldn't be so many of us here. It is an illness, just like diabetes or asthma.

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If your mum can't be happy and proud for you too, forget about her.
Wishing you all the best and sending you hugs xx

Fantastic post, mcflurry!!!!
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Old 02-28-2016, 06:33 AM
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Originally Posted by DoctorEis View Post
It took me 20+ years to understand that I can't control my drinking. I drink to get drunk. I've been sober for one week and I'm not turning back now.

#inforanother24
It took me 30 years + and I'm living proof it can work for all of us!

Congrats on a most beautiful 1 week of sobriety, Doctor!!!!!!!
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Originally Posted by tokidoki View Post
It is sunny today in the driftless zone. Yay- the sun is a much-needed friend right now.

Hugs to those who are having difficulties and congrats to the milestoners.

Stay close Neo.

24 more hours, please.
Toki, yes!
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Originally Posted by Meshelly View Post
5:23 Oregon
60 days!! =)
Made it though vacation. <3
Another 24 please

Taking it one day at a time.
See the Smiles!!! Right on, Friend!
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Originally Posted by venuscat View Post


Love you Neo.

Bump; thanks, venuscat.
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Originally Posted by arbor View Post
in for 24.

Today i won't drink. Just for today.
bump!
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Originally Posted by ManInTheArena View Post
I am just a few days into this return trip to sobriety as well. It's 6:10am and I'd like 24 more hours.

I'm posting for the first time from my iPhone and I'm beginning to feel that my iPhone is now somehow my HP. Haha.

Have a great day everyone.

MITA

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Originally Posted by Meraviglioso View Post
Hi everyone, I would like to commit to 24 hours sober. It is 15:25 here and I am glad I am checking in at this hour. I have found if I can get past lunchtime without taking the first drink I can resist and fight harder in the evenings.
Hello Mera! Do what works!
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Originally Posted by DoctorEis View Post
It took me 20+ years to understand that I can't control my drinking. I drink to get drunk. I've been sober for one week and I'm not turning back now.

#inforanother24

One week is great; keep on, DoctorEis.
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24 more please Dear God, with humility.
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Old 02-28-2016, 06:42 AM
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Originally Posted by Meshelly View Post
5:23 Oregon
60 days!! =)
Made it though vacation. <3
Another 24 please

Taking it one day at a time.

Congrats, Meshelly!!!!
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