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Old 02-29-2016, 01:36 PM
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Originally Posted by safeandsound View Post
Hi, everyone. Feeling a bit sad today. I have a cold and had to miss my recovery group. Just generally feel run down, plus I made the mistake of looking at my jewelry with the idea of selling some of it. Most of it is from my parents, who are both gone, and some from my ex, so it just made me feel horrible.

Guess selling it will have to wait.

But in better news, whenever I was sick before and had no responsibilities on a certain day, I would be drinking by now.

Day 6.
It's weird how many of us had had a cold/flu this month. I've been fighting a cold almost the entire time I've been in this Class. I wonder if stopping drinking and getting sick are somehow related.
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Originally Posted by Outonthetiles View Post
I need a list of excuses, and back up excuses to have at the ready:
"No thanks, alcohol interferes with my heart medication."
"No thanks, alcohol interferes with my Prozac."
"No thanks, alcohol interferes with my brain function."
The exercise excuse: drinking is not compatible with the kind and amount of exercise I do. My friends clearly understand this fact even without an explanation of the big picture. Most of my friends, if they knew the big picture reasoning, would start a big debate on the pros and cons of drinking which I would find upsetting and exhausting.
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Ughhh, Monday... I have zero motivation for anything. I feel like eating all day long and laying in bed watching shows on my phone. I NEED to do stuff.... edit photos, rewrite my resume, clean up. I have no gumption for anything. I don't even want to exercise today. I feel passively like drinking.... but nooooo.

I live in a world of small towns where my drinking career was pretty well known. So it won't be very hard for me to turn it down in public situations. Towards the end my drinking was all done in secret and I'd go well out of my way to go gamble, buy booze, got to bars etc when I did.

Now I enjoy sneaking off to mcdonalds for a value menu chicken burger or to tim horton's for a delicious double double cooofffeee.... mmmm coooofffeee.

Reasons I can think of for not drinking:
"I don't drink alcohol, it makes me see funny faces."
"I don't drink alcohol, it makes my clothes fall off."
"I don't drink alcohol, it makes my phones and doors break."
"I don't drink alcohol, it makes me drive and walk erratically."
"Alcohol breaks my toilet paper budget."
"I'll skip the drink and go straight to detox thanks."
"I don't drink unless you're ready to become my psychotherapist for the next 6 hours"
Lol... ohhh the things I did when I drank. I was such a self-centred, fly off the handle, resentful, obnoxious *******. I thought I was SO smart, and SO insightful, and SO bloody entitled to all my ****** feelings and actions.
I'm just going to stick to "no thanks, I'm good" with a sincere smile, and if pressed for reasons, I'll decide then and there what and how much I'm going to share. My sobriety is nobody's business but my own and those I choose to let in in a supportive capacity. Only I can make it or break it and don't feel the need to justify to anyone outside of me. And well my counselors and lawyer.
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Originally Posted by Mel12 View Post
The exercise excuse: drinking is not compatible with the kind and amount of exercise I do. My friends clearly understand this fact even without an explanation of the big picture. Most of my friends, if they knew the big picture reasoning, would start a big debate on the pros and cons of drinking which I would find upsetting and exhausting.
Yep this is why I want it to be as much of a non-issue as possible for me. We spent enough time beating ourselves up with booze and self-recriminations long enough to get to a more positive point in our lives. Best to surround ourselves with as much positivity as possible, and shut down the negatives that serve us not at all and how to deal with that which we must.
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Originally Posted by Cococo View Post
I believe Old T lives with her parents.

Hey knb is that you in the photo? Youre gorgeous!
Thanks Cococo. Yes it is me. Not sure if it's a good idea using the real me as an avatar as I am worried that someone will recognize me. But what are the chances of that?!

How are you feeling today?
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Old 02-29-2016, 02:03 PM
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Originally Posted by Delizadee View Post
Ughhh, Monday... I have zero motivation for anything. I feel like eating all day long and laying in bed watching shows on my phone. I NEED to do stuff.... edit photos, rewrite my resume, clean up. I have no gumption for anything. I don't even want to exercise today. I feel passively like drinking.... but nooooo.

I live in a world of small towns where my drinking career was pretty well known. So it won't be very hard for me to turn it down in public situations. Towards the end my drinking was all done in secret and I'd go well out of my way to go gamble, buy booze, got to bars etc when I did.

Now I enjoy sneaking off to mcdonalds for a value menu chicken burger or to tim horton's for a delicious double double cooofffeee.... mmmm coooofffeee.

Reasons I can think of for not drinking:
"I don't drink alcohol, it makes me see funny faces."
"I don't drink alcohol, it makes my clothes fall off."
"I don't drink alcohol, it makes my phones and doors break."
"I don't drink alcohol, it makes me drive and walk erratically."
"Alcohol breaks my toilet paper budget."
"I'll skip the drink and go straight to detox thanks."
"I don't drink unless you're ready to become my psychotherapist for the next 6 hours"
Lol... ohhh the things I did when I drank. I was such a self-centred, fly off the handle, resentful, obnoxious *******. I thought I was SO smart, and SO insightful, and SO bloody entitled to all my ****** feelings and actions.
I'm just going to stick to "no thanks, I'm good" with a sincere smile, and if pressed for reasons, I'll decide then and there what and how much I'm going to share. My sobriety is nobody's business but my own and those I choose to let in in a supportive capacity. Only I can make it or break it and don't feel the need to justify to anyone outside of me. And well my counselors and lawyer.
Ha ha loved this post. That made me smile... It makes my clothes fall off...ha ha.

How about "I don't drink alcohol, it makes the ground slap my face"
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Old 02-29-2016, 02:07 PM
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Originally Posted by Outonthetiles View Post

It's weird how many of us had had a cold/flu this month. I've been fighting a cold almost the entire time I've been in this Class. I wonder if stopping drinking and getting sick are somehow related.
Hmmm. Interesting. You would think we would be healthier not drinking. I usually don't catch stuff and I'm in and out of Dr's offices all day long. Maybe it's a coincidence, idk? Haven't felt so crummy (except for a hangover) in a long while.

Any of us sickies outside the U.S.?
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Originally Posted by knb02 View Post
Ha ha loved this post. That made me smile... It makes my clothes fall off...ha ha.

How about "I don't drink alcohol, it makes the ground slap my face"
Baahahaha!

Also, I was reading in a article another use for the term dry drunk. People who are sober but have the appearance of being drunk; stumbling, slurring words, dropping things etc. At my worst, when I'd sober up for a few days this was definitely the case for me. It was different than the clumsiness of being in withdrawal. It felt like I was drunk even tho I knew I hadn't consumed any for days and wasn't experiencing withdrawals.

Alcohol also makes me forget where the walls were. Apparently it's also spilled over into sobriety... I'm still walking into walls, dropping things, and falling up the stairs. And I choke on my own spit at least every other day.

Went 10 pin bowling totally sober a week ago. Threw the ball backwards instead of down the alley.

It takes some real skill to be me and survive in this world.
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Originally Posted by Sadie1 View Post
Hmmm. Interesting. You would think we would be healthier not drinking. I usually don't catch stuff and I'm in and out of Dr's offices all day long. Maybe it's a coincidence, idk? Haven't felt so crummy (except for a hangover) in a long while.

Any of us sickies outside the U.S.?
I used to get sick as a dog every single winter. I don't know what the difference is this time around as I started drinking again right after Christmas. But I'm guessing that since my intake was considerable less and I had some healthy time in between, this contributed to me not being sick so far. *touch wood*

Hope you guys all feel better soon!
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Originally Posted by Outonthetiles View Post
I need a list of excuses, and back up excuses to have at the ready:

"No thanks, alcohol interferes with my heart medication."
"No thanks, alcohol interferes with my Prozac."
"No thanks, alcohol interferes with my brain function."
I went to my 2nd AA meeting today. Two women accosted me at the end, and we we ended up blabbing in the ladies' room for 30 minutes, LOL.

As for excuses, one said she tells people she's allergic to alcohol. Ok, I guess I can't say that to people who know I'm something of a wine buff, but I liked it.

I didn't say a word at the meeting; she told me it took her FIVE YEARS to speak. That must be a world record! They told me that in the old days of AA, if you were new, you were told to "take the cotton out of your ears and stuff it in your mouth." I intend to do that, and just blab here.
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Originally Posted by Delizadee View Post
Baahahaha!

Also, I was reading in a article another use for the term dry drunk. People who are sober but have the appearance of being drunk; stumbling, slurring words, dropping things etc. At my worst, when I'd sober up for a few days this was definitely the case for me. It was different than the clumsiness of being in withdrawal. It felt like I was drunk even tho I knew I hadn't consumed any for days and wasn't experiencing withdrawals.

Alcohol also makes me forget where the walls were. Apparently it's also spilled over into sobriety... I'm still walking into walls, dropping things, and falling up the stairs. And I choke on my own spit at least every other day.

Went 10 pin bowling totally sober a week ago. Threw the ball backwards instead of down the alley.

It takes some real skill to be me and survive in this world.
Ha ha. I have booked many times and never threw the ball backwards. You are most certainly uniquely skillful
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Originally Posted by Outonthetiles View Post
It's weird how many of us had had a cold/flu this month. I've been fighting a cold almost the entire time I've been in this Class. I wonder if stopping drinking and getting sick are somehow related.
Ontt I have not been ill since I stopped drinking. I always had colds before. So I don't know
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Just generally feel run down, plus I made the mistake of looking at my jewelry with the idea of selling some of it. Most of it is from my parents, who are both gone, and some from my ex, so it just made me feel horrible.

Guess selling it will have to wait.

Day 6.
Don't do it!! I love antiques, especially family heirlooms [and jewelry!]. You can never get them back, but you CAN get sober.

Congrats on day 6.
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I went to my 2nd AA meeting today. Two women accosted me at the end, and we we ended up blabbing in the ladies' room for 30 minutes, LOL.

As for excuses, one said she tells people she's allergic to alcohol. Ok, I guess I can't say that to people who know I'm something of a wine buff, but I liked it.

I didn't say a word at the meeting; she told me it took her FIVE YEARS to speak. That must be a world record! They told me that in the old days of AA, if you were new, you were told to "take the cotton out of your ears and stuff it in your mouth." I intend to do that, and just blab here.
GG someone told me that you shouldn't speak till after six months of sobriety but I speak everything I go to a meeting. All newcomers do.
Infact people love newcomers because it reminds people what it was like when they tried to give up.
I cry alot when I share
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I'm just going to stick to "no thanks, I'm good" with a sincere smile, and if pressed for reasons, I'll decide then and there what and how much I'm going to share. My sobriety is nobody's business but my own and those I choose to let in in a supportive capacity. Only I can make it or break it and don't feel the need to justify to anyone outside of me. And well my counselors and lawyer.
I like it!!
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Also, I was reading in a article another use for the term dry drunk. People who are sober but have the appearance of being drunk; stumbling, slurring words, dropping things etc.
That would potentially be a type ONE diabetic, which I am. The genetic kind, normally childhood onset. I got it in my 40s. My boss got it at age 50.

Yep, you can look drunk when your sugar level goes so low, you can die. I've been taken away in an ambulance for that more than once. I'm now the "Bionic Woman" with high tech devices that beep and text people when this is about to happen.

It sucks to have this, trust me, and it was part of my downward spiral with wine [and sometimes tequila].
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I tell people that I have problems with my liver. That shuts them up.
Good point. And when you start to feel complacent, remember you could feel like we all do on Day 1. That fear of taking another few years to get back the strength to fight against alcohol is keeping me here.
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It's weird how many of us had had a cold/flu this month. I've been fighting a cold almost the entire time I've been in this Class. I wonder if stopping drinking and getting sick are somehow related.
I wonder the exact same thing. Also I'm wondering if damage to our brains and our thinking will heal if we stay sober. I've drank for 20 yrs so it's gonna be a scary road for me I think. I feel like I can't function sometimes. Like I'm ultra stupid or "drunk", even.
This is NOT a good feeling at day 8.
Just more realization of what I've done to myself
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Hi, everyone. Feeling a bit sad today. I have a cold and had to miss my recovery group. Just generally feel run down, plus I made the mistake of looking at my jewelry with the idea of selling some of it. Most of it is from my parents, who are both gone, and some from my ex, so it just made me feel horrible.

Guess selling it will have to wait.

But in better news, whenever I was sick before and had no responsibilities on a certain day, I would be drinking by now.

Day 6.
Hope you feel better! When I am sad, and yes this is hokey, sometimes I just watch something silly for 5 minutes on YouTube. Silly puppies, and old comedy skit, etc. Something to take myself out of my head. Will be thinking of you.
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Ughhh, Monday... I have zero motivation for anything. I feel like eating all day long and laying in bed watching shows on my phone. I NEED to do stuff.... edit photos, rewrite my resume, clean up. I have no gumption for anything. I don't even want to exercise today. I feel passively like drinking.... but nooooo.

I live in a world of small towns where my drinking career was pretty well known. So it won't be very hard for me to turn it down in public situations. Towards the end my drinking was all done in secret and I'd go well out of my way to go gamble, buy booze, got to bars etc when I did.

Now I enjoy sneaking off to mcdonalds for a value menu chicken burger or to tim horton's for a delicious double double cooofffeee.... mmmm coooofffeee.

Reasons I can think of for not drinking:
"I don't drink alcohol, it makes me see funny faces."
"I don't drink alcohol, it makes my clothes fall off."
"I don't drink alcohol, it makes my phones and doors break."
"I don't drink alcohol, it makes me drive and walk erratically."
"Alcohol breaks my toilet paper budget."
"I'll skip the drink and go straight to detox thanks."
"I don't drink unless you're ready to become my psychotherapist for the next 6 hours"
Lol... ohhh the things I did when I drank. I was such a self-centred, fly off the handle, resentful, obnoxious *******. I thought I was SO smart, and SO insightful, and SO bloody entitled to all my ****** feelings and actions.
I'm just going to stick to "no thanks, I'm good" with a sincere smile, and if pressed for reasons, I'll decide then and there what and how much I'm going to share. My sobriety is nobody's business but my own and those I choose to let in in a supportive capacity. Only I can make it or break it and don't feel the need to justify to anyone outside of me. And well my counselors and lawyer.
Love the "being my psychotherapist" one!! That is priceless. Thank you. Agree on the amazing ability to think I am so brilliant and can solve the world's problems when I drink too much. I know everything about movies, theater, art - such an authority. Then I wake up and realize I misquoted a zillion things and sounded like a moron. Glad to skip that and just be wrong (or right) without the pretension making it impossible to giggle away my imperfection.
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