Class of February 2016 Support Thread Part 4
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Youre Welcome Sansa
What time is it right now where you are?
Ive got heaps of reasons why I stopped drinking too. But basically can be summed to "I didn't like the drinking Cococo person. I wasn't who I wanted to be".
Do you need to tell your friend why you wont be drinking? Up to you I guess. If I felt as though I had to tell her/him I would just sum it up with a 1 liner "Drinking alcohol is no good for me, so Ive stopped it permanently".
Its good that your health is improving. That's very important.
What time is it right now where you are?
Ive got heaps of reasons why I stopped drinking too. But basically can be summed to "I didn't like the drinking Cococo person. I wasn't who I wanted to be".
Do you need to tell your friend why you wont be drinking? Up to you I guess. If I felt as though I had to tell her/him I would just sum it up with a 1 liner "Drinking alcohol is no good for me, so Ive stopped it permanently".
Its good that your health is improving. That's very important.
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Old T
Re: Job. Its really your call hun. Only you know your financial status and needs. If I needed the money to pay for rent, mortgage, bills etc. then yeah Id have to get a job. But IF I could wait another 3 weeks until I was 1 month sober it would probably be better for me.
If I threw myself back into full time employment right now, after being out of work for so long (been at stay at home mum for 8 years), AND so soon after going cold stoned sober only 5 days ago, I would most likely have a semi nervous breakdown which might start me off drinking again. I would need to build up to that. Id start with 10 hours per week for 6 months and increase hours from there.
Could you get another part time job for the next few weeks/months, like just enough so you can survive on (paying bills etc) plus a bit more for spending?
Re: Job. Its really your call hun. Only you know your financial status and needs. If I needed the money to pay for rent, mortgage, bills etc. then yeah Id have to get a job. But IF I could wait another 3 weeks until I was 1 month sober it would probably be better for me.
If I threw myself back into full time employment right now, after being out of work for so long (been at stay at home mum for 8 years), AND so soon after going cold stoned sober only 5 days ago, I would most likely have a semi nervous breakdown which might start me off drinking again. I would need to build up to that. Id start with 10 hours per week for 6 months and increase hours from there.
Could you get another part time job for the next few weeks/months, like just enough so you can survive on (paying bills etc) plus a bit more for spending?
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Thanks for the list Cococo its brilliant its really going to help keep me accountable next week. Well from Friday onwards first big test going out with work friends luckily I have a good excuse of a 5 hour train ride on saturday dont fancy having an hangover for that.!!!
Sorry didnt post yesterday think like knb have hit some type of wall just been tired last 2 days when I have got home its taking all my strenth to ping something in microwave (still no kitchen latest update electrians wife has had baby so more delays definatly wont be ready before hols ) and crawl into bed. Not had this since the second weekend wondering if its paws will look it up later. Anyway still much better than having an hangover every day thats for sure.
Hope you all have a great day JL hope you are better soon.
Sorry didnt post yesterday think like knb have hit some type of wall just been tired last 2 days when I have got home its taking all my strenth to ping something in microwave (still no kitchen latest update electrians wife has had baby so more delays definatly wont be ready before hols ) and crawl into bed. Not had this since the second weekend wondering if its paws will look it up later. Anyway still much better than having an hangover every day thats for sure.
Hope you all have a great day JL hope you are better soon.
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Youre welcome tiredofme
Don't worry about the kitchen. All reno's never go exactly to plan. No use worrying about it. You cant change what you cant change, so why worry. That's my theory.
In the bigger picture, to have the kitchen finished by the holidays, is not the most important thing going on really, is it? So, its still going to be worked on during the holidays, oh well, its only a kitchen hun. Concentrate on staying sober and sleeping (if youre tired). THATS the most important thing going on at the moment.
I just hovered down a massive bowl of dark (really dark) Ghana chocolate and peppermint ice cream. Its a take off a dark peppermint chocolate bar obviously. OH YES! I'll be getting that again.
11.30pm here, all alcoholic outlets are closed now. Im completely safe now. So I know I can finish this day in 30 minutes sober and wake up tomorrow sober for day 6.
Stay sober everyone!
Don't worry about the kitchen. All reno's never go exactly to plan. No use worrying about it. You cant change what you cant change, so why worry. That's my theory.
In the bigger picture, to have the kitchen finished by the holidays, is not the most important thing going on really, is it? So, its still going to be worked on during the holidays, oh well, its only a kitchen hun. Concentrate on staying sober and sleeping (if youre tired). THATS the most important thing going on at the moment.
I just hovered down a massive bowl of dark (really dark) Ghana chocolate and peppermint ice cream. Its a take off a dark peppermint chocolate bar obviously. OH YES! I'll be getting that again.
11.30pm here, all alcoholic outlets are closed now. Im completely safe now. So I know I can finish this day in 30 minutes sober and wake up tomorrow sober for day 6.
Stay sober everyone!
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Sansa - It depends how comfortable you are with this friend and how much you want them to know. Don't feel pressured to turn up with a detailed list of reasons you decided to quit if you don't want to go there. Just don't order an alcoholic drink, if they question it then just explain that drinking is no good for you so you've decided to quit. Or you can open up to them if you that's what you want. It's completely up to you!
Coco - I'm having to watch my money, but I had to move back in with my parents and drop out of college because of my drinking so I don't have financial worries right now. I'd be getting a job so I can put aside some money for a flatshare and another attempt at education. I'm torn because I'm bored, and boredom is a big trigger for me, but then my daily drinking habits started because I was in a job I hated. I don't want to be rushing into things.
tiredofme - Thanks for sharing that, I had no idea what PAWS so I googled it, something to keep in mind. Hope you feel better soon, keep us updated.
Coco - I'm having to watch my money, but I had to move back in with my parents and drop out of college because of my drinking so I don't have financial worries right now. I'd be getting a job so I can put aside some money for a flatshare and another attempt at education. I'm torn because I'm bored, and boredom is a big trigger for me, but then my daily drinking habits started because I was in a job I hated. I don't want to be rushing into things.
tiredofme - Thanks for sharing that, I had no idea what PAWS so I googled it, something to keep in mind. Hope you feel better soon, keep us updated.
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Originally Posted by bluedog97 
One thing that has worried me is continuing to have racing thoughts, even long after quitting. I can remember having them as a teenager before I even started drinking. I think it's a one reason I started.
When I got sober I just faced the fact I had to deal with my racing brain., I dealt with the negative thinkling (counselling helped a little).
I actually like my racing brain now, strange to say.
I can do what I do here at SR every day thanks to it for example.
I also have a balance in my life now so that at least part of my day is doing something I want to do like playing guitar, composing or whatever.
It needn't be a burden or something to be scared of so long as you can learn to channnel it.
Originally Posted by OldTomato
Morning all! I'm feeling good about today. Thinking about looking into taking a class and starting a job search. I do have a job but my hours are getting lower and lower and will probably soon be nonexistent. What do you guys think? Too soon? (I'm a week sober.)
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Dee - Jobs are definitely stressful for me. I've been volunteering at a charity shop for the past year and a half, and I help a woman with her English once a week, but Saturdays, Sundays and Mondays are still wide open for me. You've got me thinking that maybe I could look into some voluntary work that's not in retail. Working retail clearly isn't my forte. I like the sound of this. Thanks for replying! 
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Old T - I do believe you answered your own question "I don't want to rush into things". You are very young. You have the world at your feet. Youre lucky. Im mid forties - yikes!
And you liked Dee's suggestions - brilliant.
Dee is full of sound advice. What would we do without him.
And you liked Dee's suggestions - brilliant.
Dee is full of sound advice. What would we do without him.
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So true Cococo its not going to be finished so I just as well get on with looking forward to holidays. The kitchen started out having to deal with a lot of damp to having floors dig up chimney brest down and all walls and ceiling hacked off brrr well least its done now and starting to look good old houses can throw up lots of unexpected *treats* lol.
That ice cream sounds dreamy I love dark chocolate umm think i treat myself to some nice dessert tonight and try to stay awake long enough to enjoy it haha.
That ice cream sounds dreamy I love dark chocolate umm think i treat myself to some nice dessert tonight and try to stay awake long enough to enjoy it haha.
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Coco - You're right, I need to stop getting frustrated and looking for a quick fix. I'm extremely lucky to have caught my addiction at such a young age, I need to learn how to deal with it now - I still have my whole life ahead of me. I don't want to spend it killing myself with alcohol.
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Just 1 quick thing for those who are tired.
My specialist said almost all alcoholics suffer from low vitamin B and whilst recovering suffer low iron because alcohol immensely helps in the uptake of iron. So an alcoholic whilst drinking would only need a very small amount of iron to be have normal iron. But when they stop drinking their iron levels fall because theres no help from the alcohol anymore. My doctor gave me vit B, vit D and iron. And I take other stuff...zinc, selenium, magnesium
May pay to get a blood work up done.
My specialist said almost all alcoholics suffer from low vitamin B and whilst recovering suffer low iron because alcohol immensely helps in the uptake of iron. So an alcoholic whilst drinking would only need a very small amount of iron to be have normal iron. But when they stop drinking their iron levels fall because theres no help from the alcohol anymore. My doctor gave me vit B, vit D and iron. And I take other stuff...zinc, selenium, magnesium
May pay to get a blood work up done.
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Originally Posted by tiredofme
So true Cococo its not going to be finished so I just as well get on with looking forward to holidays. The kitchen started out having to deal with a lot of damp to having floors dig up chimney brest down and all walls and ceiling hacked off brrr well least its done now and starting to look good old houses can throw up lots of unexpected *treats* lol.
That ice cream sounds dreamy I love dark chocolate umm think i treat myself to some nice dessert tonight and try to stay awake long enough to enjoy it haha.
That ice cream sounds dreamy I love dark chocolate umm think i treat myself to some nice dessert tonight and try to stay awake long enough to enjoy it haha.
is all you will do lol
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Originally Posted by OldTomato
Coco - You're right, I need to stop getting frustrated and looking for a quick fix. I'm extremely lucky to have caught my addiction at such a young age, I need to learn how to deal with it now - I still have my whole life ahead of me. I don't want to spend it killing myself with alcohol.
Don't end up looking at life pass you by through the bottom of glass.
WHAT I would do to be 20 again! Almost anything (except drink of course). But as we all know I don't look back, I look forward. Im pretty big on that mindset. So on old fart like me just has to make every single day count, and be a sober, good, happy and healthy day.
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Originally Posted by OldTomato
Coco - You're right, I need to stop getting frustrated and looking for a quick fix. I'm extremely lucky to have caught my addiction at such a young age, I need to learn how to deal with it now - I still have my whole life ahead of me. I don't want to spend it killing myself with alcohol.
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Originally Posted by Cococo
Go got it. You have a long life ahead of you.....education, career, youre own flat/apt, nice sober or normal drinking partner, travel, children maybe if you want, house - don't F it up on a bottle
Don't end up looking at life pass you by through the bottom of glass.
WHAT I would do to be 20 again! Almost anything (except drink of course). But as we all know I don't look back, I look forward. Im pretty big on that mindset. So on old fart like me just has to make every single day count, and be a sober, good, happy and healthy day.
Don't end up looking at life pass you by through the bottom of glass.
WHAT I would do to be 20 again! Almost anything (except drink of course). But as we all know I don't look back, I look forward. Im pretty big on that mindset. So on old fart like me just has to make every single day count, and be a sober, good, happy and healthy day.
I'm 44, and not Iiking the aches and pains starting up at all. Got 3 boys 17, 7 ,and 2. I think I wont have many elderly hobby or age distraught yrs, from being a late bloomer, but you never know. Fighting to keep my 2 jobs and family together is too much sometimes, I feel like.
Had to call in to work today. Pretty certain I've the flu.
I'm really gonna lysol the house today as I'm afraid of my kids getting sick and being out of work like that will cost me my job. They really care nothing about family where I work. All jobs have ups and downs though.
I'm sure I wouldn't get sick as much if I can stay sober.
Doesn't alcohol hurt your immune system?
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Waking up on day three feeling better. I like the vitamin idea, I'm going to get some today.
Sansa, I've worried before about what to tell people about why I don't drink, and found out that most people don't think twice about it. I just ordered tea and didn't say anything and they didn't seem to notice or care. Lots of people don't drink or only drink on occasion.
As for the going to work thing, I would love to not have to go but I do have to. My job is super stressful and takes my whole life, leaves me little or no time for anything else. That may get better as I stay sober and am able to get things done better since I'm not sick. But for now I'm stuck with it and have to make the best of it. I pray and ask for strength, and I'm trying to get it all sorted out so that I can get the job done with less stress and time. But I'm open to changing fields completely if things don't get better. I don't want to give my whole life to this job!
I hope everyone has a wonderful sober day! I'm so glad you are all here. I love reading your posts, it helps so much! Here's to all of us going to bed sober tonight!
Sansa, I've worried before about what to tell people about why I don't drink, and found out that most people don't think twice about it. I just ordered tea and didn't say anything and they didn't seem to notice or care. Lots of people don't drink or only drink on occasion.
As for the going to work thing, I would love to not have to go but I do have to. My job is super stressful and takes my whole life, leaves me little or no time for anything else. That may get better as I stay sober and am able to get things done better since I'm not sick. But for now I'm stuck with it and have to make the best of it. I pray and ask for strength, and I'm trying to get it all sorted out so that I can get the job done with less stress and time. But I'm open to changing fields completely if things don't get better. I don't want to give my whole life to this job!
I hope everyone has a wonderful sober day! I'm so glad you are all here. I love reading your posts, it helps so much! Here's to all of us going to bed sober tonight!
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30 days today!!!! 30 days today!! 30 days today!!
So guys I have reached a milestone of 30 days with the support of SR, AA, private addiction counselling and my desire to stop drinking. I shall be celebrating with lots of sugar ( AGAIN!!) tonight lol.
I want to remind myself how far I have come and I would like to describe what my last drunken weekend looked like. My mum decided to have my son for that particular weekend and said she would pick him up from school on friday and I was to collect him Sunday early evening. Freedom right? I had the opportunity to do whatever I wanted. I could have gone to the cinema or go shopping and have a nice lunch somewhere..or catch up with friends.
But this is what I did instead.
FRIDAY –
4pm. Finished work. Went to the supermarket and bought four bottles of wine. Decide to cook something fabulous later
5pm.Started drinking as soon as I got home. Checked that all doors were locked and I have set my alarm for tomorrow
6pm. Still drinking. Feeling tipsy. Planning what I was going to do for the weekend..maybe go to the shopping mall on Sunday and buy some new clothes. Grab a bite to eat at a sushi bar. The world is my oyster
7pm. On the phone crying to friends. Sad cause I am lonely, single, not married
8pm. Opened bottle number two. Find anything to eat in the fridge cause I cant be bothered to cook
9pm .Texting exes of mine. Angry that they left me. Getting angry and sad
10pm. Woke up cause I had passed out on the sofa. Drink some more and pass out again.
SATURDAY
8.30am-Hungover and annoyed. Cant look at myself in the mirror.Got to go to work
4pm. Finished work. It was a killer as the day dragged and I had no patience. My hands were shaking, bad breath , paranoid that customers could smell it.
4.15pm. Get home and drink cause I need it. My body is screaming for alcohol.
6pm .Food I bought is forgotten and I order a takeaway instead. Cant be bothered to cook.I buy stuff off ebay. Chat with friends on the phone. Feeling miserable and lonely. Trying to analyse why my life has gone so wrong
9pm.Feel ill and I pass out on the sofa. I somehow broke my wine glass and spilt wine on the carpet
SUNDAY
2am.woke up feeling ****. Drank what was left in the glass. Then decided to drink another two glasses cause I couldn’t sleep. May as well finish the rest of the wine. Makes sense to me
10am- woke up hungover. I drink another glass of wine. I know that I am not going anywhere today. Except to the supermarket to buy more wine. I go to another shop so they don’t talk as I have already bpought four bottles. I get home and I drink another few glasses and then go back to sleep
2pm- woke up feeling so ill. I call my mum and tell her that my car is not starting ( I lied). So could she please drop my son back to me. She says she will and but I need to get my car sorted cause this is the third time my car has broken down in six months ( omg. I lied that many times )
I drink all afternoon. Feeling goddamn awful. Body and head hurts
5pm-my mum arrives with my son. I hide my wine in a coffee cup. She doesn’t notice that I am drunk as my tolerance is very high. I tell her that I am under the weather and cant chat . She leaves early
9pm. My son goes to bed. We have hardly talked because I just wanted to drink and felt too ill to chat. Just did what was necessary.
When he is in bed I start to cry and cant stop. I am drinking and crying. I don’t want to drink but cant stop. Hating my drinking but still cant stop. Immense fear inside me.I cannot live like this. I will die early if I don’t stop. I will never see my son grow up nor see his children. I am so sad. So depressed…hate myself.
MONDAY
I accept that I have an addiction. Enough is enough
Start of my sobriety
I have come a long way! If I can do this then so can each and everyone of you in this class
So guys I have reached a milestone of 30 days with the support of SR, AA, private addiction counselling and my desire to stop drinking. I shall be celebrating with lots of sugar ( AGAIN!!) tonight lol.
I want to remind myself how far I have come and I would like to describe what my last drunken weekend looked like. My mum decided to have my son for that particular weekend and said she would pick him up from school on friday and I was to collect him Sunday early evening. Freedom right? I had the opportunity to do whatever I wanted. I could have gone to the cinema or go shopping and have a nice lunch somewhere..or catch up with friends.
But this is what I did instead.
FRIDAY –
4pm. Finished work. Went to the supermarket and bought four bottles of wine. Decide to cook something fabulous later
5pm.Started drinking as soon as I got home. Checked that all doors were locked and I have set my alarm for tomorrow
6pm. Still drinking. Feeling tipsy. Planning what I was going to do for the weekend..maybe go to the shopping mall on Sunday and buy some new clothes. Grab a bite to eat at a sushi bar. The world is my oyster
7pm. On the phone crying to friends. Sad cause I am lonely, single, not married
8pm. Opened bottle number two. Find anything to eat in the fridge cause I cant be bothered to cook
9pm .Texting exes of mine. Angry that they left me. Getting angry and sad
10pm. Woke up cause I had passed out on the sofa. Drink some more and pass out again.
SATURDAY
8.30am-Hungover and annoyed. Cant look at myself in the mirror.Got to go to work
4pm. Finished work. It was a killer as the day dragged and I had no patience. My hands were shaking, bad breath , paranoid that customers could smell it.
4.15pm. Get home and drink cause I need it. My body is screaming for alcohol.
6pm .Food I bought is forgotten and I order a takeaway instead. Cant be bothered to cook.I buy stuff off ebay. Chat with friends on the phone. Feeling miserable and lonely. Trying to analyse why my life has gone so wrong
9pm.Feel ill and I pass out on the sofa. I somehow broke my wine glass and spilt wine on the carpet
SUNDAY
2am.woke up feeling ****. Drank what was left in the glass. Then decided to drink another two glasses cause I couldn’t sleep. May as well finish the rest of the wine. Makes sense to me
10am- woke up hungover. I drink another glass of wine. I know that I am not going anywhere today. Except to the supermarket to buy more wine. I go to another shop so they don’t talk as I have already bpought four bottles. I get home and I drink another few glasses and then go back to sleep
2pm- woke up feeling so ill. I call my mum and tell her that my car is not starting ( I lied). So could she please drop my son back to me. She says she will and but I need to get my car sorted cause this is the third time my car has broken down in six months ( omg. I lied that many times )
I drink all afternoon. Feeling goddamn awful. Body and head hurts
5pm-my mum arrives with my son. I hide my wine in a coffee cup. She doesn’t notice that I am drunk as my tolerance is very high. I tell her that I am under the weather and cant chat . She leaves early
9pm. My son goes to bed. We have hardly talked because I just wanted to drink and felt too ill to chat. Just did what was necessary.
When he is in bed I start to cry and cant stop. I am drinking and crying. I don’t want to drink but cant stop. Hating my drinking but still cant stop. Immense fear inside me.I cannot live like this. I will die early if I don’t stop. I will never see my son grow up nor see his children. I am so sad. So depressed…hate myself.
MONDAY
I accept that I have an addiction. Enough is enough
Start of my sobriety
I have come a long way! If I can do this then so can each and everyone of you in this class
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