Class of October 2014 Part 27
02.27.15 :): ▽VII△VIII
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I know, Phoebe. Clearly we get something out of these old habits that we think we need. For me it seems like I need the sense of control I felt when I was anorexic. I need the validation and approval I gave myself when I lost more weight. A big challenge for me is learning to give myself love and approval without having to earn it. I'm struggling with cultivating a sense of inherent value and a belief that I deserve to exist simply because I'm alive. I made some strides toward this in the past couple months, but right now I'm backsliding. But there's a Japanese proverb that goes: "Fall seven times, stand up eight."
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Originally Posted by venuscat 
(((Briar))) ♥
Yes, a good night's sleep sounds good. But maybe a cup of nice relaxing tea first.
And I know you feel out of control love, I really do.
But you are actually doing brilliantly. It seems to me that you have taken control in every area of your life.
♥
EDIT: 7 days to go...and then you have one whole year sober. Pretty awesome, huh?
Yes, a good night's sleep sounds good. But maybe a cup of nice relaxing tea first.
And I know you feel out of control love, I really do.
But you are actually doing brilliantly. It seems to me that you have taken control in every area of your life.
♥EDIT: 7 days to go...and then you have one whole year sober. Pretty awesome, huh?
Totally, totally awesome, Briar!!!!!!!
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Originally Posted by Briar
I know, Phoebe. Clearly we get something out of these old habits that we think we need. For me it seems like I need the sense of control I felt when I was anorexic. I need the validation and approval I gave myself when I lost more weight. A big challenge for me is learning to give myself love and approval without having to earn it. I'm struggling with cultivating a sense of inherent value and a belief that I deserve to exist simply because I'm alive. I made some strides toward this in the past couple months, but right now I'm backsliding. But there's a Japanese proverb that goes: "Fall seven times, stand up eight."
I love that Japanese saying, Briar. It is so wise for so many things but, I think, especially for us.
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Originally Posted by phoebe64
I am puzzled why we want to hang on to these unhealthy habits, as I struggle myself with a permanent change of attitude and mindset.
It takes time. LOTS of time.
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Originally Posted by Arbor
It's all reprogramming the brain I suppose. Imagine never brushing your teeth again. Tough, right? It's a mindless act at this point. But with my four year old if I didn't initiate the daily chore he wouldn't do it. I'm programming his brain until it sinks in!!!
It takes time. LOTS of time.
It takes time. LOTS of time.
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^^^ I didn't know that was a Japanese proverb, I know it as a Paulo Coelho quote:
“The secret of life, though, is to fall seven times and to get up eight times.”
― Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist
Love and good morning all. ♥
“The secret of life, though, is to fall seven times and to get up eight times.”
― Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist
Love and good morning all. ♥
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How is the weather there now Briar?
Can you take A for a romp in the woods....are there any berries to pick right now?
Maybe you will be inspired to take some photos.
I'm just thinking out loud. ♥
Can you take A for a romp in the woods....are there any berries to pick right now?
Maybe you will be inspired to take some photos.
I'm just thinking out loud.
♥
02.27.15 :): ▽VII△VIII
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I actually did take her for a walk earlier, but it was way too much stimulus coming into my mind. I want total dark, quiet, alone right now. Everything seems turned up to 10, and not in a good way.
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Originally Posted by Briar
I actually did take her for a walk earlier, but it was way too much stimulus coming into my mind. I want total dark, quiet, alone right now. Everything seems turned up to 10, and not in a good way.
Take a long, warm, aromatic bath - maybe just a candle for light.
Perhaps a call to your doctor in the morning would be a good thing.
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