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Old 02-17-2016, 04:03 PM
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Originally Posted by Chinaski View Post
Definitely some thoughts of drinking going on here. Coming in here to try and make myself more accountable. Even though it's not even 6 o'clock yet, I'm already in my pajamas and I will not be leaving the house no matter what. I don't really want to drink. I don't really need to drink. I really do want to stay sober.
Aaack! Chinaski, don't do it! Do you remember your advice to someone else (sorry I forget who) that it just brings us back to the old (horrible) place? I am in your corner
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Old 02-17-2016, 04:12 PM
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Thanks Dee. Going to look through the list now. Anything to make a better plan to get through this.
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Old 02-17-2016, 04:24 PM
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Originally Posted by Oroszlan View Post
Anyone else finding themselves worried about future events and relationships with friends? I know it is all part of my AV but it really gets me anxious. I just keep questioning how I will have fun and enjoy things without drinking?
I'm a little worried. There's some things coming up where I'll get together with friends where drinking is mandatory. I'm going to have to be extra vigilant, because I am NEVER going back to what I was.
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Old 02-17-2016, 04:32 PM
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Evening all. I agree, nights are tough. It's like being caught in between not wanting to drink but not wanting to be sitting here sober. Probably just a result of brain chemistry out of whack and will clear up with time.

I'll say I'm already ready for spring, daylight savings, and warmer weather.
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Old 02-17-2016, 04:34 PM
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Originally Posted by Oroszlan View Post
Anyone else finding themselves worried about future events and relationships with friends? I know it is all part of my AV but it really gets me anxious. I just keep questioning how I will have fun and enjoy things without drinking?
Yep, I worry about this. For now, I'm just focusing on today and having trust things will get better as long as I don't drink.
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Old 02-17-2016, 04:40 PM
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Wow! I treated this Feb class thread as "a book" and was reading it as my only SR reading now for the last 3 days as I had time...and I'm finally caught up. Now I have at least read of all our class' posts, although that doesn't mean I'll recall everything everyone posted.

For example, someone posted about the movie "Days of Wine and Roses"...I watched that after seeing that post and it was moving...very moving.

Congratulations to all of you that I've caught up with for staying strong and for coming back after setbacks!
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Old 02-17-2016, 04:47 PM
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Originally Posted by Outonthetiles View Post
I'm a little worried. There's some things coming up where I'll get together with friends where drinking is mandatory. I'm going to have to be extra vigilant, because I am NEVER going back to what I was.
The bottom line is I had to make drinking not mandatory for me... or find new friends.

In fact I really urge you to consider not being around boozefests until you're 110% secure in your choice to stay sober.

A few months is a great investment in your future.

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Old 02-17-2016, 04:54 PM
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Originally Posted by Chinaski View Post
Definitely some thoughts of drinking going on here. Coming in here to try and make myself more accountable. Even though it's not even 6 o'clock yet, I'm already in my pajamas and I will not be leaving the house no matter what. I don't really want to drink. I don't really need to drink. I really do want to stay sober.
I'm counting on you to stay sober tonight, Chinaski.
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Old 02-17-2016, 04:55 PM
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It took me a few months, four or five, to feel secure in my sobriety, but now living sober is second nature to me and feels comfortable. As to being around people who are drinking, well, that depends. Sometimes I find drunks to be very annoying and not at all fun company. I prefer the company of my dogs and cats to a crowd of rowdy drunks.

Stay sober, it's so worth it. And waking up feeling good never gets old.
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Old 02-17-2016, 05:07 PM
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Originally Posted by Dee74 View Post
The bottom line is I had to make drinking not mandatory for me... or find new friends.

In fact I really urge you to consider not being around boozefests until you're 110% secure in your choice to stay sober.

A few months is a great investment in your future.

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I would say that I'm fragile right now. I feel confident to go the grocery store and not buy beer, I feel confident not to pick up beer on the way home from work each night, and I went out on VD without any problem. I haven't faced my boozy friends yet. The first such gathering will be in July, so I have a lot of time to get ready. But you're right, I'm not 100 percent secure yet. I was wobbly last night because I felt bad from a cold, and I can see taking a "polite drink" with my friends, just to fit in. What I've learned is that I can't even risk that first drink, or this whole devastating cycle may start over again.
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Old 02-17-2016, 05:21 PM
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Thanks everyone. I'm doing OK. Thoughts of drinking are pretty much gone. I've kept to my vow to stay in my PJs in my house. Reading right now, about to catch up on some television shows.
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Old 02-17-2016, 05:22 PM
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Glad to see you all here! I hope you don't drink Chinaski. If I can not drink, ANYONE can not drink. Sometimes I feel like drinking is all I had, now I have nothing. Not to sound maudlin but that's how it feels at the moment. I had a very hard and very long day at work. Now, what do I get as a reward? Some tylenol and a hot bath to help get the aches and pains out. I know, it's better than what more than fifty percent of the earth's population can hope for, but it doesn't measure up to getting so plowed that I don't remember going to bed. Oh, and I do have a good movie planned. I can't sleep much at night anyway, and I've sworn off Benadryl as well as alcohol so there's not that to turn to, so I may as well watch a good movie. And I have a good book "The Courage to Change" to read if I'm not asleep at the end of the movie. So, I guess I really have it pretty good. Maybe it will feel like that later. I hope so. Right now I feel like crap and wish I could do a presto chango with some of my old fake friend, alcohol. But not really. Just saying it seems to make it go away. Thanks for listening! Tempted to erase now but I won't.
On another note, I couldn't wait for my son to try and get my computer set up so that I can get into chat, so I tried to do it myself and ended up downloading a bunch of malware. He's gotten it removed, but I was very worried there for a while. I had to turn off my computer this morning because I was watching some crazy program go through all my files. Scary! Next time I'll wait. He's going to try to set it up for me in the next couple of days. Movie time! I think I'll pop some popcorn. I feel better, thanks!
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Hope everyone has a pleasant evening/morning/afternoon whatever time of day it may be in your area of the world!

I have a ton of studying to do
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Hey Chinaski, glad you came here and didn't drink!

Least: I love the line about waking up sober never getting old. So true.

Night all, day three in the books.

Lots of positivity going on here. I'm looking forward to tomorrow! Mthanks for the great posts!
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Last night my husband suggested we go to a local buffet restaurant for dinner. I had been feeling fine, then WHAM, the offer stopped me in my tracks. I felt my throat tighten as if I was going to cry. Whenever go there, I have a couple of pints then drink more when I get home. I said "I can't go there- it will make me want to drink". We left it, and it was all fine in the end.

It shocked me how that knocked me off kilter. I am used to my AV creeping up on me not hitting me between the eyes. I think it would be easier to react to that sudden feeling of losing out, or being deprived, and giving in. I will need to watch out for that.
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Last night my husband suggested we go to a local buffet restaurant for dinner. I had been feeling fine, then WHAM, the offer stopped me in my tracks. I felt my throat tighten as if I was going to cry. Whenever go there, I have a couple of pints then drink more when I get home. I said "I can't go there- it will make me want to drink". We left it, and it was all fine in the end.

It shocked me how that knocked me off kilter. I am used to my AV creeping up on me not hitting me between the eyes. I think it would be easier to react to that sudden feeling of losing out, or being deprived, and giving in. I will need to watch out for that.
WOW! How strong were you!

Great going Carly
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I forgot my phone yesterday and felt lost not having SR on tap got through another day though. Its getting easier now just to go home straight from work with no detours to shops.

Hope you are all doing well.
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Starting Day #4. Hope everyone has a good day and stay the course.
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Hey guys...just popping in to wish everybody another good day.

Let's keep fighting the good fight!
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Morning class.

I know a few of you are struggling but its soooooo worth the fight. Kill that AV cause life DOES get better.

Need to update you on my progress because I feel really different this week...I almost feel normal ( whatever that is).I am just over three weeks sober and I feel I have hit a turning point... less cravings, less obsession with drink and sleeping much better. My AV is still there, hasn't left my side but it feels "normal" not to drink everyday. Still early days and I don't trust myself still but things are clicking into place. I am loving my clarity in thinking! No interruptions of self hatred or self loathing the next morning. Its like being on a spiritual holiday! My energy is slowly coming back too :-)))

woop woop!

I use to drink two bottles of wine daily. My life evolved around my drinking. It made me depressed, anxious and hopeless. No more. I am living the life I want to lead. Its joyful. I feel so damn happy today

Come on guys. Lets smash this addiction cause drinking is shite
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