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Old 02-08-2016, 01:31 AM
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Hope you're doing great Mav.. I reckon send that email- might mean the world them that you've acknowledged them.... Xx
You were right I sent a quick 'congrats' email etc (and told him about my own sobriety) and I got a nice email back this morning thanking me and wishing me well also.
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Old 02-08-2016, 02:24 AM
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You were right I sent a quick 'congrats' email etc (and told him about my own sobriety) and I got a nice email back this morning thanking me and wishing me well also.
That's fantastic news!!!! So glad it turned out so well!!!! I'm really happy for you Mav- and proud of you too..that would have taken some courage xxx
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Old 02-08-2016, 03:20 AM
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I am also struggling a little at the moment. Yesterday I drove to the drive-thru bottle shop with the intention of buying alcohol but thankfully being Sunday it was still closed. By the time it would have been open-that awful craving had passed.x
Oh Nic- I am so glad that store was closed. We gotta learn to beat that AV downs!! Are you reading RR? I can't remember. Are you able to distinguish that the voice isn't really you? I am so glad you were able to ride out the craving- that's the thing about them, they ALWAYS pass! We gotta remember that.. I wonder if you could play some affirmations in the car when driving, to keep the AV at bay?
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Old 02-08-2016, 03:22 AM
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I've been getting the nasty morning headaches the past few days. I call them the anti-hangover. Not much fun. Especially as I thought I quick drinking to stop getting them! NO FAIR! :p
I'm getting them too MAV- really annoying!
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Old 02-08-2016, 03:32 AM
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Good morning my sober friends~

Nice and quiet at 6:23 am. I gotta get ready soon for the gym.
Still have this awful hacking cough which is annoying the crap out of me! It's also causing a lot of pain in my lower back which I am starting to think is a real injury- not just muscular. This is the one time in my life I do not have insurance and of course now I am having all sorts of things happen (weird rashes, back pain, splitting morning headaches). Ugh. I was reading Dr. Google and am thinking it's a bulging disc or something- I need to stop doing that.

Today is I get some "me time" and am going to a matinee movie to see The Big Short . I think that last time I saw a movie by myself I was 23 and living in Greece! Although I wish I had someone to go with, this sure beats sitting in the house all day. Going to splurge on a big a$$ diet coke and stay away from the junk food. Re-starting my low carb diet today so staying out of the house will be perfect (I tend to overeat at home).

Feeling great to be sober- really enjoying waking up with a clear head these days. Still reading RR and at one point you have to say outloud, "I will never drink again and I will never change my mind." Holy hell, that is some heavy stuff. So many emotions came up as expected but I am getting better at recognizing my AV and knowing that it isn't truly me, but rather "it". Well "it" can fantasize all "it" wants, I know that being sober is the best choice in the world, no matter how scary the thought of never drinking again is.

Happy Sober Monday...

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Old 02-08-2016, 03:32 AM
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I woke up at 3:30 am (female troubles, yay me) and as I was cracking open the bottle of ibuprofen, all I could think is that it was so nice to know that I would not be waking up hungover just a few hours later. I definitely had many 3:30 am wake ups where I would get up, still drunk, and take some preventative painkillers, knowing I had yet another day of feeling miserable ahead of me. But instead, aside from some cramps, I feel great!

Day 21 here - three weeks! Woohoo!
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Old 02-08-2016, 03:38 AM
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Morning all

Day 35 today. I have been feeling better these past few days - cravings are much better and I'm trying for even just 20minutes on the tread mill every day. Considering how much I was eating and sitting, this is a big step for me. The scale is reacting positively - but it's a long long way to go.

I was looking at old pictures from anywhere between 10 years ago to just 3 years ago - I was such a pretty woman! Gosh, I remember seeing those pics when they were taken and saying how ugly and fat I was. Now, I look back and think: what was wrong with me? I was a good looking woman! Alas, the 60 pounds I've gained from drinking in the last 3 years has robbed me of that ... But maybe I can get there again. I know drinking won't get me there.

Tomorrow is a big day for me: flying to NYC for a final interview with the executive. I'm a bit nervous, but I have two other opportunities at different firms so I'm trying to not get crazy like I usually do. I have to believe that what's meant to be, will be. At least I know I'm going into this sober and will make decisions with a clear mind. I'm still not over my regret that I quit my job in the middle of a bender before the holidays and all those bridges I burned there, but that's the past and I have to look forward.

Drinking robbed me of career, self worth and friends. It won't win or be in my life anymore. I deserve better.

Sorry for the long post, this is the only place I can come and be open and free. You guys are amazing and are a part of the reason I'm sober for over a month. Couldn't have done it without you.

Congrats to all who are reaching 30 today, this week and to everyone who is taking it one minute at a time.
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Old 02-08-2016, 04:51 AM
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Originally Posted by StrongBird View Post
I woke up at 3:30 am (female troubles, yay me) and as I was cracking open the bottle of ibuprofen, all I could think is that it was so nice to know that I would not be waking up hungover just a few hours later. I definitely had many 3:30 am wake ups where I would get up, still drunk, and take some preventative painkillers, knowing I had yet another day of feeling miserable ahead of me. But instead, aside from some cramps, I feel great! Day 21 here - three weeks! Woohoo!
Awesome feeling isn't it!? Congrats on 21 days Bird!
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Old 02-08-2016, 05:08 AM
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Lulu, you sure do deserve better, I am glad you can see that clearly now. Let the past be the past. My guess is that your career is going to flourish now that you are sober.

Good luck with the interview tomorrow!! It's great that you have so many options right now and I do also believe that the right job will come to you. Have a wonderful day!
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Old 02-08-2016, 05:51 AM
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Originally Posted by Sunflowerlife View Post
Oh Nic- I am so glad that store was closed. We gotta learn to beat that AV downs!! Are you reading RR? I can't remember. Are you able to distinguish that the voice isn't really you? I am so glad you were able to ride out the craving- that's the thing about them, they ALWAYS pass! We gotta remember that.. I wonder if you could play some affirmations in the car when driving, to keep the AV at bay?
I'm willing to try anything positive right now. I'm going to AA which helps. I have lots of positive books of affirmations, the big book, the 12 steps, and have also been reading a bit about RR too..micpxed bag lol!! Yesterday just came out of left field. Woke up crappy and literally it was like I was possessed. Anyway someone was looking out for me with the shop being shut and the craving had passed soon after.
Just had a fantastic meeting with my sponsor. She's so straight to the point but cares so much. I'm one lucky lady.
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Old 02-08-2016, 05:54 AM
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Awesome feeling isn't it!? Congrats on 21 days Bird!
Best feeling in the world!!! I used to wake up 3.30 am without fail, either vomiting or dry retching,,, ewwww... That's when I started the shots of vodka to get me through until my alarm went off for work at 6.. It's no life...
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Old 02-08-2016, 06:03 AM
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Good Morning and Happy Monday!!

It is so nice to have enjoyed the Super Bowl yesterday, and to wake up sober today!!! This weekend turned out to be really busy, and I didn't get much rest, but I am ready for the work week. One added bonus is that his is a four day week, followed by a four day weekend for me!! Somehow, that makes Monday a little less daunting.

Day 39 for me, I am really proud of the sober time that is adding up, but I also know I need to remain vigilant and stick to my plan!! I am reading "Mrs D. Is Gojng Without," it is a memoir, and good so far.

Have a great day everyone!!!

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Old 02-08-2016, 06:27 AM
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Hi - I'm not sure anyone will remember me but I was one of the first joiners on here. Last drink was the early hours of new years eve so I actually saw the new year in sober and so far haven't touched a drop. I do come on here every few days and read through the posts - see how everyone is doing. I was struggling a couple of weeks ago. I was really low and eating loads of crappy food. I put on a few pounds in January which I was so annoyed at myself about. I always turn to things in excess and once the alcohol has gone it's food.

Anyway I'm trying to be good today and have got a healthy tea planned. I'm trying to get back into running and am dying to get outside but anyone living in the UK will know how cr*p the weather has been this year. It's just awful. I went out for a run on friday last week and it was a waste of time it was just too muddy. I can't wait for the lighter nights and dryer weather to come back.

I have an issue this weekend. I have a party to go to that I can't get out of. It's fancy dress which makes me uncomfortable anyway. My OH will be wanting me to have a drink - it doesn't always turn into a binge for me and we rarely go out as a couple. I can drive which will save us money but I'm not looking forward to it at all.

Blimey look at the time - I have to pick the kids up lol.
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Old 02-08-2016, 06:38 AM
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Hi Charlie! I remember you! Glad to see you're doing so well. Keep it up!

Rooting for you Lulu - bummer that you burned bridges but oh well, press on. Make amends as necessary.

Nic - please share any helpful comments from your sponsor if you would.

Happy Monday to everyone!

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Old 02-08-2016, 06:46 AM
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Morning Sunflower -- thanks for the link to the great story! Really enjoyed it and for me the most powerful part was at the end.

"In that spirit, if you've ever thought about quitting drinking and you are wondering if you should, I would ask yourself the question someone asked me once: "Do you want to keep repeating the same story every few months, or do you want to change your life?" 

Yes, I want to change my life and Yes, I AM changing my life! Feels good

PS. We saw the Big Short last week and it's a great movie---Enjoy your Me time!
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Old 02-08-2016, 07:01 AM
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Hi Charliesworld, I can totally relate. I have 40 days now and I feel great. I'm worried because I have my anniversary and birthday coming up in a couple weeks and my husband always takes that week off so we can celebrate. (booze it up) I don't want to drink and have mentioned it to him a couple times, but I don’t think he thinks I mean it. How many times I've said never again! But I think I really mean it. Well anyhow he wants to take me to the casino for a couple nights since we're going to have some extra money. but ugh just sounds too scary for me.
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Old 02-08-2016, 07:11 AM
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Hi all. Thanks for the sweet PMs and for thinking of me. I am fine, sober, just really busy. Our main computer was having issues and my tablet died, so I have been mostly offline.

I wish I had time to catch up, but I gotta fly. Love to you all. Stay strong, stay sober, it is worth it!
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Old 02-08-2016, 07:15 AM
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Morning everyone!

Nic - Wow, someone is looking out for you....So glad that store was closed and you didn't take that one first drink again! I remember one of your early posts and how heart wrenching it was for you to hear from one of your boys that he really wanted you to Stop drinking. Good for you--you are doing this for you and for your boys! Stay strong and use all your tools

MAV & Sunflower - For the last week I've been waking up to a headache. Not sure what's going on, maybe more detox? It seems odd at this stage - Day 39, but maybe not considering the beating my body and liver took for so long. Do you take anything for your headaches?

Lulu- Good luck with your NYC interview....SOBER YOU will do great! Please keep us posted!
In a recent interview process, I landed in the top 2 and they went with the other candidate. I was disappointed but after talking about it with close friends and my long time sober brother, we all agreed it was for the best as work stress is one of my triggers. This gives me more time to build my sober muscles and I know a top job is out there just waiting for me.

Hiya charliesworld! Good to see you here posting! You'll do fine if you stick with your plan...it's just another event and it will only last for a few hours. If offered a drink, just say No thanks or I'll have a diet whatever or sparkling water please. Since starting my sobriety journey I've slogged through at least 3 major social events (all involving large amounts of alcohol) and it's become somewhat of a game to watch how other people change as they drink. Plus you'll wake up the next day feeling good, remember everything that happened and be the designated driver. All good stuff!

Congrats on everyone's milestones today! And thanks for being here---SR and our Jan. class is a huge part of my recovery�� Wishing everyone a great Sober day!
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Old 02-08-2016, 07:26 AM
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Congrats Meshelly on Day 40--that's a great achievement!! Good luck with your upcoming b-day and anniversary. Maybe a different talk with your hubby? Long, deep and heartfelt? This is your life, your health and your sanity!

I had that talk with my hubby just yesterday and he's sad that he lost his drinking buddy but proud of my choice.

Good luck and keep posting
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Old 02-08-2016, 07:29 AM
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Hi all. Thanks for the sweet PMs and for thinking of me. I am fine, sober, just really busy. Our main computer was having issues and my tablet died, so I have been mostly offline.

I wish I had time to catch up, but I gotta fly. Love to you all. Stay strong, stay sober, it is worth it!
Hi SH---Good to see you posting and glad everything is OK!!
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