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Old 02-04-2016, 11:58 AM
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Where's this Amy special available?

If anyone has Amazon Prime I watched Lipstick and Liquor about women and alcoholism.

I like to try to read and watch recovery-related media in the early days.
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Old 02-04-2016, 12:05 PM
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And...I never regret NOT drinking. That's the gem right there for me. Get through that moment...get past that feeling...go to bed....and I won't be waking up wishing I had had a drink. Nope, I'll wake up thankful I didn't.
^^^^^ Also a good pep talk for the rest of us. Thanks for posting this. I've heard it before but always need to hear it again. ^^^^^

I think Amy is available for free on Amazon Prime. Not sure about Netflix or Hulu.
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Morning All

Glad to see most everyone is doing well, those struggling "May the Force be with you today", because we 'The Januarians 2016" are.

6:15am, drinking some cold water and psyching myself to get to the clinic that opens at 6:30am for my blood test. I hate needles.

Oh well! Here goes. Hope I don't faint, LOL.
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Old 02-04-2016, 12:26 PM
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Tired of me,
My wife was the main caregiver for her father, out of the 7 children. Couple of yrs worth until he passed from lymphoma, last month.
I'm very sorry for your kiss, as I'm seeing it front row, from the spouse view. Any ideas on how to be there for her during this time?
She is all over the place and I can't seem to keep up with the changing situations of her grief. It's hard !
Just keep doing what you are doing give her time and space to work through it her own way whilst being there for support and to listen when she wants to talk. It takes time but you will both get there hugs to you both its hard.
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Old 02-04-2016, 12:52 PM
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Thanks for all the great posts everyone. Hugs to those having a bad day. A bad sober day is NOT made better by drinking (I have to keep telling myself that). Hope it gets better. I'm on day 4 and hanging in there. A bit numb. This weekend will be tough, but I'm assembling a plan, and I'll be here. Reading if not posting. Starting to get hit with a lot of the emotional waves that are normally drowned out, hence the numbness. I'm on the weekend thread too and people start posting about their sober activities. Would love to hear what everyone has planned. This will be my first one is to long. I did good last weekend, until Sunday.
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Old 02-04-2016, 02:25 PM
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ChrisBen- I know what you mean about the emotional waves. I am feeling very self absorbed, but you are dead right, drinking doesn't help anything.

My plan for the weekend in a non-drinking family night out on Friday (forest light show). Thereafter, I am going away for a few days with my young son. I normally drink at home with my husband, so am taking myself away for the first weekend. What do you have planned?
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Old 02-04-2016, 02:48 PM
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Welcome tiredofme and Camryn - I agree it doesn't have to be ice cream - something nourishing and yummy could even be better

has everyone been planning for the weekend?

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Fridays usually aren't too bad because I have an exercise class I like to get up for on Saturday. Housework mostly. Might take the kids swimming if they want. Saturday and Sunday the have sports during the day. So I'm thinking of jumping into rereading either lord of the rings or game of thrones. The weather is supposed to be mildish, so some outside work as well.
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Friday will just be pizza and board games with the kids, maybe a movie. My oldest has soccer on Sat morning then a birthday party to go to that afternoon. So I will be busy with that and occupying my younger two (hubby is out of town). Then we are attending a Super Bowl party at a friends house on Sunday, it is a mom friend of mine and lots of kids will be there so not a real big drinking environment, most of the adults will probably just have a beer or two. I will bring along some sparkling water to drink.

ChrisBen - LOVE both Lord of the Rings and Game of Thrones, I definitely want to reread GOT right before the next book comes out (will it ever happen?! I thought I heard it was supposed to be published this year sometime, I sure hope so)
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Old 02-04-2016, 04:56 PM
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I have to work sat, at racetrack on ambulance (emt- part time job).
I would imagine Saturday night will be hard. Life's far too crazy to make any kind of plan. Gotta floor sanding project in mind, though. 7 yr old in bed w me, 2 yr olds in baby jail ( his crib bed).
Were watching special agent oso ??
I'm WAY too old to be watching, so posting. I got kids watching 1966 spiderman cartoons one day. They ate it up !
I'm exhausted from work, stretched my back out ( sweet pain), and now eating to fight off the urge. Wife is off by herself doing something in another room. Giving her space.
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Old 02-04-2016, 05:01 PM
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Life's far too crazy to make any kind of plan.
I mean this gently, but you know this is a cop out, right?

I reckon a lot of your problem is you want to fix things and it freaks you out when you can't. I was like that too..

Your av freakin' loves it when things go awry because it's a long established situation where you drink.

I'm not saying you can ever plan for unexpected things - but things like yearly fees for example, really can be planned for. yeah?

Cut the stress - even if you have to make payment plans...

and I say that as someone who actually lives below the poverty line - I get having very little disposal income.

give yourself a chance JL

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Good morning, day 4! Feeling good, but wary about the weekend upcoming.
I too check and post from my phone. I am reading everything, but not always responding. I am very proud of us all!

Is anyone reading anything good lately?

Stay strong.
Applekat, I'm reading two books at once, both of which are excellent. One is called "Unwasted" by Sacha Scoblic, which is one woman's story of recovery that I relate to a lot. It mainly focuses on the first year and what she goes through to remain sober. It's funny and smart and well-written. The other is called "Okay, I quit. Now what?" by Mark Tuschel. He offers excellent advice about how to navigate the new and strange sober world. I like it because he is very blunt, and his advice is practical. Not a lot of abstraction or theorizing, just tips that work. That book has really helped me not to drink.
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Applekat, I'm reading two books at once, both of which are excellent. One is called "Unwasted" by Sacha Scoblic, which is one woman's story of recovery that I relate to a lot. It mainly focuses on the first year and what she goes through to remain sober. It's funny and smart and well-written. The other is called "Okay, I quit. Now what?" by Mark Tuschel. He offers excellent advice about how to navigate the new and strange sober world. I like it because he is very blunt, and his advice is practical. Not a lot of abstraction or theorizing, just tips that work. That book has really helped me not to drink.
I've read Unwasted!
I'll check out the other one sometime too!
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Sorry I meant a weekend plan for something that will ensure not drinking. Those plans (for me) have zero success, simply because I live in a nuthouse, most of the time, lately. I've got to get tougher on the going to the store times, usually Friday after work or Saturday when I goto town. Only time I ever purchase alcohol.
Going sleep. Long workday tomorrow and I'm crosseyed tired. Hope for big sleep ! Whoo hoo !!
Gnite folks
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"Applekat -- I read a lot. Like at least two books at a time and sometimes three or four. I have a pretty wide range of tastes in books. Right now I'm reading Born With Teeth, a memoir by actress Kate Mulgrew. It's just OK, not great. I think women or parents might get more of it than I am as a lot of it is focused on the pain/anguish she went through for years after giving up her first child for adoption. That's not something I can really identify with. I'm also reading Cormac McCarthy's first novel The Orchard Keeper. Just barely started it but so far it's good. I recently read the first Hannibal Lecter book Red Dragon and enjoyed it, so now I'm re-reading The Silence of the Lambs. I'm enjoying it but I remember it and the movie pretty well so I find myself skimming at times. What type of books do you like to read?"

Chinaski - I just got done reading The Martian, and am about to start a book called The Good Girl as recommended by a friend. I had a month long hospital stay before baby number 3 and got lots of reading in, I'll have to check the list of titles. Two by the author of Gone Girl. Room was a disturbingly intriguing book too - a movie now, with some noms!
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Chinaski - I just got done reading The Martian, and am about to start a book called The Good Girl as recommended by a friend. I had a month long hospital stay before baby number 3 and got lots of reading in, I'll have to check the list of titles. Two by the author of Gone Girl. Room was a disturbingly intriguing book too - a movie now, with some noms!
I thought The Martian was pretty entertaining and also liked all of the Gillian Flynn books. Actually I think Gone Girl was my least favorite of the three but I still liked it too. I just really liked the other two more. I still haven't seen the movie version of it, need to do so soon.

Like I said, I read a whole lot. I've got some OCD issues and have kept a spreadsheet of all the books I've read since late 2009. Just checked it and it's at 1,014 books or 331,800 pages. Though a lot of that number is skewed because I didn't work for most of 2009/2010 and all I did was read.

I'm going to the beach for a week next month and pretty much all I'll do then is sit in the sun and read while the rest of the family does more traditional beach activities. Not drinking though, that's not this part of the family's style. Can't wait for that vacation.

It's been a nice day off. I haven't done much of anything too productive but that's ok. I've read some, watched a little television, napped. I cooked a pretty tasty sausage and onion and pepper sandwich for dinner. Well, actually, it wasn't a sandwich as I ended up using tortillas instead of bread, so a sausage and onion and pepper taco or wrap, I guess.

I have to be at a work meeting early tomorrow morning so starting to wind down now. Going to put on an episode of Mystery Science Theater 3000 and laugh for a bit before bed.

Hope everyone is having a nice, sober night!
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Hey everyone,

Trying my best to keep up with the posts on here. Past two days have been super busy. Welcome to everyone who has joined in today!

I am just winding down day 3. I have had nasty headache all day. Other than that doing good. Looking forward to another sober night of much needed sleep.

Stay strong guys
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Cam - how goes it tonight?

FABL - have a fabulous sober day off tomorrow! Check in!

Everyone get some rest and wrap your heads around solid Friday night plans!
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Hi, Applekat. I've made it through sober. Thanks for asking. Anxiety has been hitting me hard in waves. Along with paranoia and serious cravings.

I ended up eating some leftover Thai food and a bowl of super sugary cereal. That seems to have helped the cravings. I'm more than likely going to take some Benadryl to help me sleep tonight.

I really enjoyed reading all your posts. It helps knowing I'm not alone in this. Thanks to all of you for helping me get through this first day.

Goodnight.
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Glad to hear you're finishing up day one successfully, Camryn. That's the only thing I'm judging my days on for the time being--if I don't drink, it's a win. Thanks for checking in!
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