Blogs


Notices

Class Of January 2016 Support Thread part 4

Old 01-26-2016, 03:41 PM
  # 121 (permalink)  
Member
 
VirginiaWoof's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2015
Location: Lincolnshire, UK
Posts: 440
Blog Entries: 1
Originally Posted by illi1111 View Post

Yesterday was rough... My dad told me he has prostate cancer. From what he told me and I read on line it isn't the worse case scenario. It is the first time I have had to deal with cancer in my family. I'm realizing how short life really is...

My dad was diagnosed with prostate cancer in 2010 and like in your case his was the first instance of cancer in the family. He had to have radiotherapy daily for a number of weeks. At the end of it the tumour, although still there, had shrunk so much that the consultant told him (in my dad's words) that old age will get him before it grows back enough to be a worry.

At first my dad had to go back every 6 months for tests, that became an annual thing and at his last visit the consultant said, in the nicest possible way, that he didn't want to see him again.

I really hope your dad's is like this.

Well, pathetic day. I had a grocery delivery and there was a bottle of wine there - the whole point of having them delivered is that I'm not tempted in the shop so placing an order while drinking wasn't wise!! That bottle turned in to a walk down the shop for another one.

Anyway, the delivery turned up at 9am although I had had a text saying it would be between 10-11am. I was still in my dressing gown and had just read a really sad story online so I was in floods of tears!

The good news is my car is fixed so I CAN get to my first AA meeting tomorrow night (Wednesday), I also self referred myself to AddAction (agin) so at their team meeting on Friday I will get allocated a case worker. I did say I had been before and that I didn't really 'click' with the young girl who I saw as she couldn't relate to my life experiences in any way, shape or form. The girl I spoke to this morning understood and also understood I wasn't questioning the girls professionalism at all.

So, I have AA tomorrow, a referral to AddAction, an assessment appointment on Monday for talking therapy for depression, this forum and a pile of print outs of hints and tips on stopping drinking. And I KNOW the only thing holding me back is me.

Because I've failed at so much in my life (personally and professionally) I keep telling myself that I'm going to fail at this too. I went through school being told I was a failure (back in the 80s when teachers could say whatever they wanted!!) and I believed that and as a result didn't try as hard as I should (what's the point in trying if you're only going to fail?).

I HAVE to work on riding myself of that voice and replacing it with a voice!

Apologies for the thinking out loud ramble x
VirginiaWoof is offline  
The Following 12 Users Say Thank You to VirginiaWoof For This Useful Post:
beerbgone (01-27-2016), Bekindalways (01-26-2016), ClearCut (01-27-2016), dickensen (01-27-2016), lisatryingagain (01-27-2016), Meshelly (01-27-2016), Mish (01-26-2016), Odelle (01-26-2016), Olivia2011 (01-26-2016), SillyHuman (01-26-2016), Thumpalumpacus (01-26-2016), TinkerB (01-26-2016)
Old 01-26-2016, 03:52 PM
  # 122 (permalink)  
Alive in the Superunknown
 
Thumpalumpacus's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2010
Location: 30.47N, 98.15W
Posts: 1,460
You are going to succeed, Virginia.
Thumpalumpacus is offline  
The Following 13 Users Say Thank You to Thumpalumpacus For This Useful Post:
bandicoot2 (01-26-2016), beerbgone (01-27-2016), Bekindalways (01-26-2016), Dee74 (01-26-2016), lisatryingagain (01-27-2016), Meshelly (01-27-2016), Mish (01-26-2016), NZK9Lady (01-26-2016), Odelle (01-26-2016), Olivia2011 (01-26-2016), SillyHuman (01-26-2016), TinkerB (01-26-2016), VirginiaWoof (01-26-2016)
Old 01-26-2016, 03:55 PM
  # 123 (permalink)  
Member
 
Pedro1234's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2013
Posts: 729
Blog Entries: 39
Originally Posted by Nic233 View Post
So glad to hear that you're still sober... I am too... Although can hear Aussie day partying all around me. I've got my iPad and a decaf cappuccino X
Australia day is not an easy day to live through without alcohol. Well done Nic.
Pedro1234 is offline  
The Following 14 Users Say Thank You to Pedro1234 For This Useful Post:
beerbgone (01-27-2016), Bekindalways (01-26-2016), ClearCut (01-27-2016), Dee74 (01-26-2016), lisatryingagain (01-27-2016), Meshelly (01-27-2016), Mish (01-26-2016), Nic233 (01-27-2016), Odelle (01-26-2016), Olivia2011 (01-26-2016), SillyHuman (01-26-2016), Thumpalumpacus (01-27-2016), TinkerB (01-26-2016), VirginiaWoof (01-26-2016)
Old 01-26-2016, 04:04 PM
  # 124 (permalink)  
You can have reasons, or you can have results, but you can't have both.
 
SoberinSyracuse's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2015
Location: Syracuse, NY
Posts: 1,232
Good job you survivors of Aussie day! I guess that must be like St. Patrick's day here in the US. It's all about the alcohol.

Today was my first day back at work and it went quite well. Got a lot done, and several people remarked that I was looking very well.
SoberinSyracuse is offline  
The Following 15 Users Say Thank You to SoberinSyracuse For This Useful Post:
bandicoot2 (01-26-2016), beerbgone (01-27-2016), Bekindalways (01-26-2016), ClearCut (01-27-2016), Dee74 (01-26-2016), lisatryingagain (01-27-2016), Meshelly (01-27-2016), Mish (01-26-2016), Nic233 (01-27-2016), Odelle (01-26-2016), Olivia2011 (01-26-2016), Pedro1234 (01-27-2016), SillyHuman (01-26-2016), TinkerB (01-26-2016), VirginiaWoof (01-26-2016)
Old 01-26-2016, 04:25 PM
  # 125 (permalink)  
Alive in the Superunknown
 
Thumpalumpacus's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2010
Location: 30.47N, 98.15W
Posts: 1,460
That's great, SiS.

Okay day here, I have the next two days off and work is going well tonight.

Welcome to the new guys sneaking in!
Thumpalumpacus is offline  
The Following 12 Users Say Thank You to Thumpalumpacus For This Useful Post:
bandicoot2 (01-26-2016), beerbgone (01-27-2016), Bekindalways (01-26-2016), CarrieBradshaw (01-26-2016), Dee74 (01-26-2016), Meshelly (01-27-2016), Mish (01-26-2016), Odelle (01-26-2016), Olivia2011 (01-26-2016), SillyHuman (01-26-2016), TinkerB (01-26-2016), VirginiaWoof (01-26-2016)
Old 01-26-2016, 04:35 PM
  # 126 (permalink)  
Administrator
Thread Starter
 
Dee74's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Australia
Posts: 188,609
Blog Entries: 1
Australia day used to be big for me too, but I spent yesterday quietly at home.
Change really is possible

D
Dee74 is offline  
The Following 14 Users Say Thank You to Dee74 For This Useful Post:
bandicoot2 (01-26-2016), beerbgone (01-27-2016), ClearCut (01-30-2016), lisatryingagain (01-27-2016), Meshelly (01-27-2016), Mish (01-26-2016), Nic233 (01-27-2016), Odelle (01-26-2016), Olivia2011 (01-26-2016), Pedro1234 (01-27-2016), SillyHuman (01-26-2016), Thumpalumpacus (01-26-2016), TinkerB (01-26-2016), VirginiaWoof (01-26-2016)
Old 01-26-2016, 06:22 PM
  # 127 (permalink)  
Member
 
KiKi0615's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2015
Location: USA
Posts: 5,250
Hi guys!

I'd like to join your January 2016 class if that's OK. I'm also a November 2015 class member but relapsed on Saturday after 2 + months of sobriety. :-( I am really attached to the people in November so I would like to be a part of BOTH classes. :-)

It's a long story as to why I slipped but I need extra support right now.

I hope it's ok to join you guys!

Thanks!

Kiki
KiKi0615 is offline  
The Following 18 Users Say Thank You to KiKi0615 For This Useful Post:
bandicoot2 (01-26-2016), beerbgone (01-27-2016), Caramel (01-26-2016), ClearCut (01-27-2016), Dee74 (01-26-2016), dickensen (01-27-2016), JL2014 (01-26-2016), JulySeaCoast (01-26-2016), lisatryingagain (01-27-2016), Meshelly (01-27-2016), Nic233 (01-27-2016), Odelle (01-26-2016), Olivia2011 (01-27-2016), Pedro1234 (01-27-2016), SillyHuman (01-26-2016), Thumpalumpacus (01-26-2016), TinkerB (01-26-2016), VirginiaWoof (01-26-2016)
Old 01-26-2016, 06:23 PM
  # 128 (permalink)  
Member
 
SillyHuman's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2016
Posts: 324
Originally Posted by VirginiaWoof View Post

Because I've failed at so much in my life (personally and professionally) I keep telling myself that I'm going to fail at this too.
Success is simply getting up one more time than you fall down.

You can do this.
SillyHuman is offline  
The Following 11 Users Say Thank You to SillyHuman For This Useful Post:
beerbgone (01-27-2016), Dee74 (01-26-2016), KiKi0615 (01-26-2016), lisatryingagain (01-27-2016), Meshelly (01-27-2016), Nic233 (01-27-2016), Odelle (01-26-2016), Olivia2011 (01-27-2016), Thumpalumpacus (01-26-2016), TinkerB (01-26-2016), VirginiaWoof (01-26-2016)
Old 01-26-2016, 06:36 PM
  # 129 (permalink)  
not a greeter
 
gypsytears's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2006
Location: padmasana
Posts: 13,811
Blog Entries: 2
Quick check in, too tired to go back and read what I missed. Day 12 for me. Yes, I did a little yoga today after work. Some moon salutations, sun salutations, couple of arm balances, headstands and other stuff I'm working my way back to doing slowly. Work was good, my kids have turned the house into what looks like a bomb went off in the kitchen and living room and I spent the night doing all their dishes. Bed now, I'll try and catch up tomorrow after work.

Namaste!
gypsytears is offline  
The Following 14 Users Say Thank You to gypsytears For This Useful Post:
bandicoot2 (01-26-2016), beerbgone (01-27-2016), ClearCut (01-27-2016), Dee74 (01-26-2016), KiKi0615 (01-26-2016), lisatryingagain (01-27-2016), Meshelly (01-27-2016), Odelle (01-26-2016), Olivia2011 (01-27-2016), Pedro1234 (01-27-2016), SillyHuman (01-26-2016), Thumpalumpacus (01-26-2016), TinkerB (01-26-2016), VirginiaWoof (01-26-2016)
Old 01-26-2016, 06:49 PM
  # 130 (permalink)  
On the road of happy destiny
 
StrongBird's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2008
Location: OHIO
Posts: 210
Day 8 here. I am feeling some mental sharpness come back. Out of curiousity, I looked at my heart rate on my Fitbit over the past week, and it's been steadily declining. I feel a lot better physically.

I'm not sure how I feel emotionally. I'm not anxious right now (which is great). I guess... I feel introspective.

At this point, I'm 100% committed to doing a 30 day break. I still haven't resolved in my head whether this is it or not. I wish I could put on that ideal sober person face and say, that's it, I'm NEVER drinking again... but I'm not there yet. I am debating even posting this, but I think honesty needs to beat out being a good student in this case.

At this point, I'm comfortable just putting off the decision for at least 22 days. I'll reevaluate as time goes by. I suppose it isn't something I need to have resolved in my mind tonight. All that's really needed right now is resolve to not drink TODAY, and I'm good with that.
StrongBird is offline  
The Following 14 Users Say Thank You to StrongBird For This Useful Post:
beerbgone (01-27-2016), benice (01-27-2016), ClearCut (01-27-2016), Dee74 (01-26-2016), dickensen (01-27-2016), gypsytears (01-27-2016), KiKi0615 (01-26-2016), lisatryingagain (01-27-2016), Meshelly (01-27-2016), Odelle (01-26-2016), Olivia2011 (01-27-2016), SillyHuman (01-26-2016), Thumpalumpacus (01-27-2016), VirginiaWoof (01-26-2016)
Old 01-26-2016, 07:09 PM
  # 131 (permalink)  
Member
 
SillyHuman's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2016
Posts: 324
Today, I learned that we have a "zen center" in town that offers tea, chanting and sitting meditation everyday, at no charge. Since I am loving the mindfulness and Buddhist approach, I am very excited! It starts at 6:30 a.m. What a great way to start the day! Many times today, especially when I get frustrated, I silently repeat, "I take refuge in the Buddha, I take refuge in the Dharma, I take refuge in the Sangya." It has become my mantra.

This is the first time I have worked the steps without having to begin with a lie, or trying to fake myself out, which never worked. This is rigorously honest and real.

Smoking did not go great because my vape ran out of power. I bought a pack, but only had a few while it recharged. Now I am back on the pen, and tomorrow is another day. It feels really good to be looking forward to tomorrow. That is not something that ever happened when I was drinking or using!

Congrats to everyone who survived Australia Day. It sounds like the American Independence Day on steroids.

Hi new people and old friends. Hope everyone has a good and sober night/day.
SillyHuman is offline  
The Following 14 Users Say Thank You to SillyHuman For This Useful Post:
bandicoot2 (01-26-2016), Dee74 (01-26-2016), dickensen (01-27-2016), gypsytears (01-27-2016), KiKi0615 (01-27-2016), lisatryingagain (01-27-2016), Meshelly (01-27-2016), Nic233 (01-27-2016), Odelle (01-26-2016), Olivia2011 (01-27-2016), Sunflowerlife (01-27-2016), Thumpalumpacus (01-27-2016), TinkerB (01-26-2016), VirginiaWoof (01-26-2016)
Old 01-26-2016, 07:57 PM
  # 132 (permalink)  
Member
 
Odelle's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2013
Location: California
Posts: 2,644
Great to have you onboard with us Kiki!

Strongbird, hopefully you will see such an improvement in how you look, think and feel at the end of 30 days, you won't need to test the polluted waters again.

Wrapping up day 19, and day 1 of no nicotine or caffeine, so far so good!
Odelle is offline  
The Following 15 Users Say Thank You to Odelle For This Useful Post:
bandicoot2 (01-26-2016), beerbgone (01-27-2016), ClearCut (01-27-2016), Dee74 (01-26-2016), dickensen (01-27-2016), gypsytears (01-27-2016), KiKi0615 (01-27-2016), lisatryingagain (01-27-2016), Meshelly (01-27-2016), Nic233 (01-27-2016), NZK9Lady (01-26-2016), Olivia2011 (01-27-2016), SillyHuman (01-26-2016), Thumpalumpacus (01-27-2016), VirginiaWoof (01-26-2016)
Old 01-26-2016, 08:30 PM
  # 133 (permalink)  
Member
 
emme99's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2015
Location: USA
Posts: 2,288
Blog Entries: 5
Hi everyone~
Welcome to everyone new

Virginia, you can do this. I have failed a lot in my life too, but it doesn't mean I can't do this, and it doesn't mean you can't either

Today was a good day. It was busy at work and I have to be in early tomorrow for a conference call so I will be going to bed soon . I am glad to be on day 23 and glad to be a part of this class.

Thanks everyone for posting and have a great Wednesday
emme99 is offline  
The Following 12 Users Say Thank You to emme99 For This Useful Post:
bandicoot2 (01-27-2016), beerbgone (01-27-2016), ClearCut (01-27-2016), Dee74 (01-26-2016), gypsytears (01-27-2016), KiKi0615 (01-27-2016), lisatryingagain (01-27-2016), Meshelly (01-27-2016), Olivia2011 (01-27-2016), Sunflowerlife (01-27-2016), Thumpalumpacus (01-27-2016), VirginiaWoof (01-26-2016)
Old 01-26-2016, 08:43 PM
  # 134 (permalink)  
Administrator
Thread Starter
 
Dee74's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Australia
Posts: 188,609
Blog Entries: 1
Welcome Kiki

StrongBird I hope you'll find, like I did, that a return to drinking looked increasingly mad the more I built a sober life I loved

D
Dee74 is offline  
The Following 9 Users Say Thank You to Dee74 For This Useful Post:
bandicoot2 (01-27-2016), beerbgone (01-27-2016), ClearCut (01-27-2016), KiKi0615 (01-27-2016), lisatryingagain (01-27-2016), Meshelly (01-27-2016), Olivia2011 (01-27-2016), Thumpalumpacus (01-27-2016), VirginiaWoof (01-26-2016)
Old 01-26-2016, 10:05 PM
  # 135 (permalink)  
Member
 
Join Date: Jan 2016
Posts: 10
Originally Posted by StrongBird View Post
Day 8 here. I am feeling some mental sharpness come back. Out of curiousity, I looked at my heart rate on my Fitbit over the past week, and it's been steadily declining. I feel a lot better physically.
Mine too! Mine has dropped nearly 20 bpm since I stopped drinking, I still can't really get over how much I was affected physically, even when I didn't drink that day.

Hope everyone is doing well, good luck with your meetings Virginia
NZK9Lady is offline  
The Following 11 Users Say Thank You to NZK9Lady For This Useful Post:
bandicoot2 (01-27-2016), beerbgone (01-27-2016), ClearCut (01-27-2016), Dee74 (01-27-2016), gypsytears (01-27-2016), KiKi0615 (01-27-2016), lisatryingagain (01-27-2016), Meshelly (01-27-2016), Nic233 (01-27-2016), Olivia2011 (01-27-2016), VirginiaWoof (01-26-2016)
Old 01-26-2016, 10:20 PM
  # 136 (permalink)  
Member
 
SandyO's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2015
Posts: 345
Hello everyone and thank you for your posts. Sorry to hear about people struggling but it's great that you are right back here and willing to try again.
My plan of sleeping in and waking up more refreshed failed miserably. I was in and out of sleep this morning then woke up too late and had to rush to work. And of course I'm disorganized (yet another by-product of my drinking habit) so feel like I've been catching up all day. Blah!
I'm now enjoying a cafe cream at my favourite coffee shop before I start to rush again.
Good luck to all and thanks for the great advice coming in.
Take care.
SandyO is offline  
The Following 11 Users Say Thank You to SandyO For This Useful Post:
bandicoot2 (01-27-2016), beerbgone (01-27-2016), ClearCut (01-27-2016), Dee74 (01-27-2016), gypsytears (01-27-2016), KiKi0615 (01-27-2016), lisatryingagain (01-27-2016), Meshelly (01-27-2016), Olivia2011 (01-27-2016), Sunflowerlife (01-27-2016), VirginiaWoof (01-26-2016)
Old 01-26-2016, 11:52 PM
  # 137 (permalink)  
Member
 
TigerLili's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2008
Location: Australia
Posts: 3,597
Blog Entries: 20
9

out of sorts and tired. long, stressful day.
TigerLili is offline  
The Following 11 Users Say Thank You to TigerLili For This Useful Post:
bandicoot2 (01-27-2016), beerbgone (01-27-2016), benice (01-27-2016), ClearCut (01-27-2016), Dee74 (01-27-2016), KiKi0615 (01-27-2016), lisatryingagain (01-27-2016), Meshelly (01-27-2016), Olivia2011 (01-27-2016), Sunflowerlife (01-27-2016), Thumpalumpacus (01-27-2016)
Old 01-27-2016, 01:01 AM
  # 138 (permalink)  
Member
 
Join Date: Jan 2016
Location: Melbourne
Posts: 120
Hi Everyone. Welcome Haris, Proud Penguin, Kiki and Carrie and everyone else new.

Virginia Wolf I prefer long posts, so please don't apologise for long ones (all posts are great posts though).

Strong Bird thankyou for your honesty, truthfully a part of me feels like you do. Never is a long time, but then continuing in the same fashion as I have been isn't very appealing either. If nothing changes, nothing changes.

Silly human thanks for the info on Buddhism, there is a place near me that does Tibetan meditation on a Fri night that I am keen to try too.

I had a good day at work today. My job is very stressful, but today was a good day. I am very aware that if I had drunk yesterday I would not have had the positive day today that I had. I am grateful for that.

When I get into bed each night I tell myself the things I did well that day. They are simple basic things. I read about it in the book Hardwiring Happiness I think (its a really good book). Anyway forcing myself to have positive conversations with myself sounds a bit dicky, but its helpful to me in quietening the unrelenting critic that wants to dominate my thoughts.
lisatryingagain is offline  
The Following 10 Users Say Thank You to lisatryingagain For This Useful Post:
bandicoot2 (01-27-2016), beerbgone (01-27-2016), ClearCut (01-27-2016), Dee74 (01-27-2016), gypsytears (01-27-2016), KiKi0615 (01-27-2016), Meshelly (01-27-2016), Olivia2011 (01-27-2016), Sunflowerlife (01-27-2016), VirginiaWoof (01-27-2016)
Old 01-27-2016, 01:08 AM
  # 139 (permalink)  
Member
 
VirginiaWoof's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2015
Location: Lincolnshire, UK
Posts: 440
Blog Entries: 1
Originally Posted by TigerLili View Post
9

out of sorts and tired. long, stressful day.
Hope you feel better soon x
VirginiaWoof is offline  
The Following 5 Users Say Thank You to VirginiaWoof For This Useful Post:
bandicoot2 (01-27-2016), beerbgone (01-27-2016), Dee74 (01-27-2016), gypsytears (01-27-2016), Meshelly (01-27-2016)
Old 01-27-2016, 03:33 AM
  # 140 (permalink)  
Member
 
Olivia2011's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2015
Location: Missouri
Posts: 515
Welcome KiKi! Great to get to share you with the November class! You are a very strong gal and I like how you are modifying your approach. The "wave " has broken on the shore (ten days of constant AV harassment is just too intense ). Let's go!

Strongbird- funny I woke up this am and the first thing I checked was my BP and pulse. I was concerned. I was up at 80 resting pulse. I am now 69! Yay!!!! Woot woot! My husband doing the 30 day thing too. I really don't think he'll go back to fairly heavy drinking. He can turn it off tho. I can't seem to. Therefore, he'd also rather not drink so that neither if us do.

Been really busy with my granddaughter and aunt.

Hi Odelle (and everyone ). No cigs now either ! Good for you!

Sandy - Grease is the word!!! Japan - I'd love to visit there sometime!

Gonna start my new book "Rewired" again. No time to read lately.

Have a good day! Stay strong.

Olivia
Olivia2011 is offline  
The Following 9 Users Say Thank You to Olivia2011 For This Useful Post:
bandicoot2 (01-27-2016), beerbgone (01-27-2016), ClearCut (01-27-2016), Dee74 (01-27-2016), KiKi0615 (01-27-2016), Meshelly (01-27-2016), SandyO (01-27-2016), Sunflowerlife (01-27-2016), VirginiaWoof (01-27-2016)

Currently Active Users Viewing this Thread: 1 (0 members and 1 guests)
 
Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off




All times are GMT -7. The time now is 02:27 PM.