Class Of January 2016 Support Thread part 4
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Join Date: Feb 2013
Location: California
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Hey Lulu, I think most people get a bad case of the jitters before an interview, I know I do! I upped my strategy recently and googled "interview questions" and prepared in advance. Some basic questions include a) what are your greatest strengths; weaknesses b) what are workplace stressors for you? c) what is/was your greatest accomplishments at your current/last job?
The list goes on with lots of suggestions. I prepared my responses and reviewed them before the interview, it really helped me tremendously. Here is a link to the one I liked best - Interview Questions and Answers
Best of luck to you!
The list goes on with lots of suggestions. I prepared my responses and reviewed them before the interview, it really helped me tremendously. Here is a link to the one I liked best - Interview Questions and Answers
Best of luck to you!
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Join Date: Jan 2016
Posts: 324
Morning all. I wrote out this long post, hit the wrong key on the keyboard and *poof* it's all gone.
Short version:
Hi all. Happy Monday.
I hope you get him to hear you, Sunflower. That is his job as spouse, IMO.
I can already see the trajectory of my marriage. My husband will sit home evenings, drink beer and play video games. I will get a life with people in it, and we will slowly drift apart due to having nothing in common. He is already so boring when drunk that I work at kindness in my responses to him. How many times can two people have the exact same conversation? Drunks sure love repetition.
Over the weekend, and on the encouragement of someone at an AA meeting, I decided to try an Alanon meeting tonight. She warned me that it might be whiney, but it is mostly female, involves the same 12 steps and tends to be less religious. I qualify for attendance at any rate. It will be nice to have another choice of meetings too.
But there is a noon meeting that I am committed to attend every day, at least until I have a job. That meeting is my home group from now on. Neat group of people, high functioning, open-minded and very welcoming. There are two other atheists who attend the group intermittently, which is cool.
Quitting cigs again today. Yikes! I can become such a neurotic b*tch, it scares me. I decided to stop screwing around with the vape pen and put on a patch. There was a dumb moment of me thinking that it was bad to waste the cigs. Then I soaked them down with water and threw them away. The plan: there is a tray of crunchy veggies leftover from the game, so I will reach for those when cravings bug me, and still have the vape pen available. SR has me trained.
My dad died of lung cancer. My mom died of COPD (emphysema - terrible way to go). I HAVE to do this!
Hope everyone has a good Monday. Hugs all around.
Short version:
Hi all. Happy Monday.
I hope you get him to hear you, Sunflower. That is his job as spouse, IMO.
I can already see the trajectory of my marriage. My husband will sit home evenings, drink beer and play video games. I will get a life with people in it, and we will slowly drift apart due to having nothing in common. He is already so boring when drunk that I work at kindness in my responses to him. How many times can two people have the exact same conversation? Drunks sure love repetition.
Over the weekend, and on the encouragement of someone at an AA meeting, I decided to try an Alanon meeting tonight. She warned me that it might be whiney, but it is mostly female, involves the same 12 steps and tends to be less religious. I qualify for attendance at any rate. It will be nice to have another choice of meetings too.
But there is a noon meeting that I am committed to attend every day, at least until I have a job. That meeting is my home group from now on.
Neat group of people, high functioning, open-minded and very welcoming. There are two other atheists who attend the group intermittently, which is cool. Quitting cigs again today. Yikes! I can become such a neurotic b*tch, it scares me. I decided to stop screwing around with the vape pen and put on a patch. There was a dumb moment of me thinking that it was bad to waste the cigs. Then I soaked them down with water and threw them away. The plan: there is a tray of crunchy veggies leftover from the game, so I will reach for those when cravings bug me, and still have the vape pen available. SR has me trained.
My dad died of lung cancer. My mom died of COPD (emphysema - terrible way to go). I HAVE to do this!
Hope everyone has a good Monday. Hugs all around.
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Join Date: Jul 2012
Posts: 754
Day 1. But I'm back.
I allowed myself to let too many obstacles collide:
1. I posted that my heart isn't in to this
2. Went out to dinner with friends who always by wine by the bottle for the table
3. Did not cope well with extreme stress
4. Stayed away from SR
5. Said I would read my old posts, but didn't
So I am back and I am adding to my plan. When I start to feel like I'm not in to this, I need to read or call my sober buddy. I will tell my dear friends we go out to dinner with that I quit drinking.
I don't have an answer to my stress. I own a business and I have to finish a challenging contract that's loosing lots of money. The contractor is a bully and lies. Drinking will not make him go away...sigh...
I allowed myself to let too many obstacles collide:
1. I posted that my heart isn't in to this
2. Went out to dinner with friends who always by wine by the bottle for the table
3. Did not cope well with extreme stress
4. Stayed away from SR
5. Said I would read my old posts, but didn't
So I am back and I am adding to my plan. When I start to feel like I'm not in to this, I need to read or call my sober buddy. I will tell my dear friends we go out to dinner with that I quit drinking.
I don't have an answer to my stress. I own a business and I have to finish a challenging contract that's loosing lots of money. The contractor is a bully and lies. Drinking will not make him go away...sigh...
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Join Date: Feb 2013
Location: California
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Hi SH. I think many people have some relationship issues in early recovery. You are doing so well, try to stay in the moment and continue your journey. What may happen in the future very well may not happen too.
Good luck with the smoking cessation; you lead the way and maybe I’ll gather the willpower to join you soon!
You may want to check out the nicotine cessation thread on SR - Nicotine/Smoking - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information
Welcome back Benice. The good news is that you caught yourself before the relapse spiraled out of control. Live, learn and move on!
Good luck with the smoking cessation; you lead the way and maybe I’ll gather the willpower to join you soon!
You may want to check out the nicotine cessation thread on SR - Nicotine/Smoking - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information
Welcome back Benice. The good news is that you caught yourself before the relapse spiraled out of control. Live, learn and move on!
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Mmmm, coffee.
Having a fake-hangover day, somewhat irritating but I'll live. I've grown to love my clear-headed mornings, and feel cheated today. It doesn't help that I slept hard enough that I didn't change positions, and my body is stiff for it. I have a bone disease in my hip which imparts constant pain, and the still sleep has it singing especially loud today.
The Veteran's Administration offered me oxy for it a few years ago, but I turned that down. Prescription-strength naproxen (Aleve) will take the edge off the pain.
Anyway, despite the rough start, headed into today with my back up and my face set forward. No looking back.
Having a fake-hangover day, somewhat irritating but I'll live. I've grown to love my clear-headed mornings, and feel cheated today. It doesn't help that I slept hard enough that I didn't change positions, and my body is stiff for it. I have a bone disease in my hip which imparts constant pain, and the still sleep has it singing especially loud today.
The Veteran's Administration offered me oxy for it a few years ago, but I turned that down. Prescription-strength naproxen (Aleve) will take the edge off the pain.
Anyway, despite the rough start, headed into today with my back up and my face set forward. No looking back.
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Back after my 3 hour nap. I can't beleive I napped that long!
Lulu, I hope the interview goes well!
SillyHuman, good luck with quitting cigarette's. I switched to vaping last year. I only smoked when I drank. So I'm nicotine free day 2 also. I think the leftover veggies are a fabulous idea. I quit smoking my first time with baby carrots. That was years ago. I'm always Grateful to not have the smell lingering on me too.
Benice, welcome back. I'm just back again myself. We can do this.
JL, I hope the knee heals quickly. My hubby just sprained his ankle yesterday. I'm glad he doesn't have to keep up with a 2 year old today! Good luck!
I'm missing a ton of you. Sorry about that. I'm think of you and wishing you a fantastic day/night!
Lulu, I hope the interview goes well!
SillyHuman, good luck with quitting cigarette's. I switched to vaping last year. I only smoked when I drank. So I'm nicotine free day 2 also. I think the leftover veggies are a fabulous idea. I quit smoking my first time with baby carrots. That was years ago. I'm always Grateful to not have the smell lingering on me too.
Benice, welcome back. I'm just back again myself. We can do this.
JL, I hope the knee heals quickly. My hubby just sprained his ankle yesterday. I'm glad he doesn't have to keep up with a 2 year old today! Good luck!
I'm missing a ton of you. Sorry about that. I'm think of you and wishing you a fantastic day/night!
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Originally Posted by Thumpalumpacus 
Mmmm, coffee.
Having a fake-hangover day, somewhat irritating but I'll live. I've grown to love my clear-headed mornings, and feel cheated today.
Having a fake-hangover day, somewhat irritating but I'll live. I've grown to love my clear-headed mornings, and feel cheated today.
Sorry to hear your hips been giving you trouble. Hope things improve. I've hit day 24 and apart from my usual 'let's buy a bottle' thoughts on the way home I'm winning the battle. 😜
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Made it through the interview ... Was a little off my game. I think the lack of sleep is catching up to me. Anyway, he mentioned it could be several weeks until I hear if they want to proceed.
I can't deny that when I hung up because I didn't get the warm fuzzy feeling from the interviewer, one of my first thoughts was "I should get a bottle" to make me feel better.
I'm not going to drink today / but I really really need to start being so critical and tough on myself. Hmmm. Have to think about that one.
I can't deny that when I hung up because I didn't get the warm fuzzy feeling from the interviewer, one of my first thoughts was "I should get a bottle" to make me feel better.
I'm not going to drink today / but I really really need to start being so critical and tough on myself. Hmmm. Have to think about that one.
Lulu, I hope it went better than you think. I am often very critical of myself also. I'm glad you aren't going to drink today. Stick close to us!
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Join Date: Jul 2011
Location: Florida
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Day 14 here. Feel so much better. Trying to keep the reasons for quitting booze front and center - health, relationships, self-respect, hours gained in a day, money, freedom from the addiction, etc. Wish the best for everyone.
SH: Good luck with quitting both cigarettes and booze at the same time. Smoking cessation got a lot easier for me after 72 hours.
SH: Good luck with quitting both cigarettes and booze at the same time. Smoking cessation got a lot easier for me after 72 hours.
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Join Date: Jan 2016
Location: Melbourne
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Morning everyone.
Day 9 here. I have had 3 of my best sleeps the last 3 nights, only waking once and getting about 6 or so hours in total. That's really good for me.
Exercising every day really helps with my sleep. Sometimes when I go to the gym regularly I worry that other people there will see me there and know I have no life, all I do is go to work and the gym. Is that stupid or what? God knows I self sabotage so badly. Its like I love to hit myself over the head with a big stick
Anyway its a public holiday today and there is a 10.40am yoga class. I am going to go. and to hell with what people thing, right!!!
Have a good day everyone
Day 9 here. I have had 3 of my best sleeps the last 3 nights, only waking once and getting about 6 or so hours in total. That's really good for me.
Exercising every day really helps with my sleep. Sometimes when I go to the gym regularly I worry that other people there will see me there and know I have no life, all I do is go to work and the gym. Is that stupid or what? God knows I self sabotage so badly. Its like I love to hit myself over the head with a big stick
Anyway its a public holiday today and there is a 10.40am yoga class. I am going to go. and to hell with what people thing, right!!!
Have a good day everyone
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Join Date: Jan 2016
Location: AZ
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Didn't realize this thread existed. Day 12 after battling horrible withdrawals for months. Finally went to detox the morning of 1/13. I can't say day 12 is all that great, but it's a hell of a lot better than where I was.
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Thanks Odelle, so very true. I'm going to do 20 min of easy cardio, then the yoga class.
I feel a bit depressed and sad right now. Its not terrible, but I have a mountain of a job to try to build a good life for myself, and some very heavy **** from my past that I have to find a way to deal with and leave behind me. And I know that after I exercise I feel better. I feel less hopeless and less overwhelmed, and I will feel calmer.
I was addicted to benzos (washed down with a lot of booze) for a year about 3 years ago. Exercise makes me feel a bit like the benzos did, I'm just not as bothered by stuff afterwards. And that to me is a miracle.
I feel a bit depressed and sad right now. Its not terrible, but I have a mountain of a job to try to build a good life for myself, and some very heavy **** from my past that I have to find a way to deal with and leave behind me. And I know that after I exercise I feel better. I feel less hopeless and less overwhelmed, and I will feel calmer.
I was addicted to benzos (washed down with a lot of booze) for a year about 3 years ago. Exercise makes me feel a bit like the benzos did, I'm just not as bothered by stuff afterwards. And that to me is a miracle.
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