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Old 03-01-2016, 06:23 AM
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Hi knb02! All are welcome here!

For me, acknowledging that I couldn't drink safely was a turning point. I became willing to do whatever it took NOT to drink.

For me, AA was a place to go where drinking was not an option. What folks said there didn't make a whole lot of sense to me, but they understood my demons, that addictive voice telling me I should drink, and their companionship was a comfort. Eventually what they said made sense - and helps keep me sober.
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Welcome, knb! The early days can be very rough but you can get through them with thoughtful effort. Eventually it does get much easier and I think you will find as I have that life sober is infinitely better :-)

Please let us know if there is anything specifically that we can do to help.

We have a whole range of sobriety time on this thread. The aim is for under one year but there are some of us with over one year who come here to visit, cheer you all on, hopefully share some things that worked for us and at the same time we strengthen our own sobriety.
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Welcome knb!

Vegas was a success. Won a few hundred dollars and then hit a concert back in my town on the way home last night. I'm super tired and off to womp but glad I got away and finally had some fun.

Have a great day undies!
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Old 03-01-2016, 08:08 AM
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Afternoon everyone
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hey folks. I have posted in this group before. Yes I have been around for a while.

I had some success this past January however joined the February 2016 group for support. Yesterday was 30 days for me. The longest in a long time.

So I would like to post again in this group. I am moving forward one day at a time. I think I am in zone which is dangerous as my AV keeps telling me I have made it 30 days (so what problem?).

I want to make it to 60 days, one day at a time, and hopefully have the cravings get a bit weaker.
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Old 03-01-2016, 09:49 AM
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Nice to see you again SJ ----stay close.
that darn old AV does come into my house a lot too.
Being here daily helps me a lot.
Have a great March everyone !!
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Old 03-01-2016, 10:50 AM
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Welcome back, SJ! Try to remind yourself that each day is another day sober. One foot in front of the other. Have you tried AA or one of the more secular groups? An addiction counselor? I found that I kept on relapsing over and over until I finally got what was enough help for me. I am so happy to be sober :-)
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Old 03-01-2016, 10:52 AM
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Hello, folks! I have attempted sobriety on my own so many times and posted here with my new starts, but they never lasted long. Every time I got a bit of time (2-3 months) I got that "I don't have a problem...I can drink now" thought and sobriety flew right out the window and I was back to square 1. This time, I made my family and myself a promise (I know..done that before), that it would stick. This time, I decided to try AA. I found a couple of really good women's meetings and am happy to say this Sunday will be 3 months. I got a sponsor and know that it is 1 day at a time and that I can not ever drink again. Not sure why during all those other attempts, I was so scared to give AA a try, but am so glad I finally did.
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Old 03-01-2016, 10:56 AM
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Welcome Purplelily! Congrats on nearing 3 months :-). I'm happy to hear you decided to get extra help - some of can stay sober without it but some of us need additional help - I sure did. After nearly 19 months sober I can honestly say that I never want to go back.
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I think I am handle my cravings OK..I eat sweet stuff, call AA online, my sponsor, AA friends. I post on Sr, go to AA meetings l, meet with an addiction councellor once a week and meet up with an addiction group once a week

Any other hints anyone can give me? I nearly drank tonight. Was very close
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Hi KNB, I found Urge Surfing helped me immensely in the early days, following the thought of drinking through to its conclusion. Would I stop at one drink? Er... No! Would I stop at just drinking today? Er....No! Would I be in control of my life? ER....No! I came here because I had an unhealthy relationship with alcohol, basically I was not in charge, it was. And every time I thought of drinking, I knew that it wasn't me having the thought, rather it was AV whispering nasty temptations in my ear. Be Strong you are doing great.

SJ , good to see my favourite Puffin has 30 days! Yeppers, 30 days is a great time for AV to decide we can't possibly be alkies if we can go that long without a top up. Fact is if we weren't alkies, the thought of going that long or longer without a drink wouldn't even register. Normies don't count the drinks, or the days between them. Only alkies are obsessed with alcohol. Ergo, I am an alkie, albeit on in recovery and working daily to remain that way.

Purplelily, good to see you.

Carlos you old reprobate, what a lovely thing to say! xx

Keep on keeping on Undies
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LS great to hear from you! And I am so happy to hear such good news, Congratulations on your first year! How are things going? You had just moved and started a new job when last we heard from you? I'd love an update.
Thanks toots! It's been a year with a lot of ups and downs but it's been a year of progress for sure, parents getting divorced, moving flat twice, relationship breakdown so on and so on, I've learned that you don't need alcohol to help you 'cope' or 'deal' with any of the ups and downs of life, in fact, you can handle everything so, so much better without it. I've recently been promoted to a managerial position which is proving to be stressful, I find AVRT, mindfulness and Eckhart Tolle's work proving infinitely useful in not getting too wound up over things. As much as I don't see eye to eye with the AA program, I can see why acceptance is such a fundamental aspect of sobriety.

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SJ welcome back!

I went to a meeting last night with 2 friends. I was super uncomfortable for about the first 30mins. Debating if I should just try and walk home as I looked around and saw how clicked up everyone was there and how everyone was friends and felt like an outsider big time. I am glad I stayed but it def made me feel a little left out and lonely.

Super tired but off to another busy womp day.
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welcome knb! something that has helped me was to have a list of ready to go distractions whenever that nasty AV hits. Anything like taking a walk, calling someone, a cup of tea or anything that works until the craving passes. Toots also mentioned urge surfing and that has helped me too. Developing a tool kit of strategies is essential. And finally it does get better!!

Welcome back Jim!! Congratulations on 30 days on your new path to recovery.
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Hey Undies,

SJ, welcome back and kudos on your 30-day accomplishment.

Welcome, knb. It really looks like you are working a strong program. I find it hard to tell people what or what not to do to stay sober. The best I can do is offer what has worked for me, and not pass any judgement on programs that I do not follow, agree or disagree with. Consequently, one of the beauties of SR for me is the diversity.

So many things that I heard and read early on that were so foreign to what I thought I believed are now staples in my recovery process today. I have the SR community to thank for helping me to broaden my recovery scope in various ways. #nolimits

My goal is has been to achieve a level of sobriety that goes beyond simply not picking up - physically, emotionally and spiritually. I've found that by applying the principals of AA in all of my affairs, that my life has found a joy and freedom that I never knew existed.

Yes, freedom not only from the obsession to drink but, a freedom from self. Changing my alcoholic thinking has been a long involved process, but not as difficult a road as I expected.

Fact is, the #3 in your signature is exactly what I did this time around. Your quote, "3rd attempt..fingercrossed. Support from AA, SR and private addiction counselling". That combination has worked wonders for me.

Sooo, my only advice is: Keep Coming Back

Toots, guilty as charged.

BF, how is that sponsor search going? I am doing the same search now following my move to Florida and hope to soon have a new sponsor.

Welcome, purple. I too fought off AA for many years. On June 3rd of 2013 I walked into a mtg and decided that it was time to align and no longer look for the ways it didn't work for me. I take what I need and leave the rest - (on a shelf). Haha, and over time I've found myself going back to pick up a few things on that shelf. Nice to have you on board!

Babs, so good to see you checking in regularly.

I once heard a guy say that he goes to regular meetings regularly. I guess we are all are seeking some form of regularity - right, Toots?

Must dash off on that note - best to all...

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Thank you Carlos----I have reread your posts several times. You always make me think about what I want to do with the rest of my life and I find your posts very comforting. They (don't ask me who) have said don't look back---well, I do and I will tell you why---I don't want to be that sick and hung over person and so out of control with myself---I've been told what a different person I'm now that I don't drink and I'm proud of that. I'm glad when I'm in control and not the alcohol ---I hate it when the AV tries to sneak in and that's why I look back ----just a darn good reminder of how I acted and looked. ish---glad to be sober.
thanks again ---ODAAT---for sure.
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SJ welcome back!

I went to a meeting last night with 2 friends. I was super uncomfortable for about the first 30mins. Debating if I should just try and walk home as I looked around and saw how clicked up everyone was there and how everyone was friends and felt like an outsider big time. I am glad I stayed but it def made me feel a little left out and lonely.

Super tired but off to another busy womp day.
I felt the same but I felt more and more relaxed after every meeting. I think it's just first time nerves
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welcome knb! something that has helped me was to have a list of ready to go distractions whenever that nasty AV hits. Anything like taking a walk, calling someone, a cup of tea or anything that works until the craving passes. Toots also mentioned urge surfing and that has helped me too. Developing a tool kit of strategies is essential. And finally it does get better!!

Welcome back Jim!! Congratulations on 30 days on your new path to recovery.
Someone else mentioned urge surfing..ah it was Toots.....I need to get into my exercise as well.
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Carlos thanks for your post too. I am glad I have a good tool kit
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Hey folks. Checking in. Day 32 and my AV is still acting up. I know once I get home and have a bite to eat it will get better.

Have a good Wednesday everyone
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