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Old 02-15-2016, 07:55 AM
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I have a bit of a attitude today----you know when you wake up and are not
sure what kind of mood your in ? well, I need to change that and soon. and I will. Have a great day everyone !


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Old 02-15-2016, 08:17 AM
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Yes, Babs - now that I've been sober awhile, I realize how much and fairly easily I can change my mood from blech or blah to happy!
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Old 02-15-2016, 08:28 AM
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Yes Sass just coming here and putting it down in writing helps. It makes a person stop feeling so sorry for them selves.
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Old 02-15-2016, 11:22 AM
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Goid morning everybody. Have a great Monday!!!!
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Old 02-15-2016, 11:48 AM
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Oh, my big worry about the 4 day weekend was really for naught. I cancelled the Valentines dinner with the other couples because I really just didn't want to go.
My son and I had a great time at the beach. I drank water in my insulated cup (which is what I generally filled with wine) and I'm pretty sure everybody just assumed I was drinking with them. It was never discussed and we all just chatted and watched the kids play.
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Old 02-15-2016, 12:27 PM
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Originally Posted by tootsl1 View Post
I guess that is all any of us can ask for Thumpa.

I have learned over time to accept that what will be, will be. I wasted so much energy in the past worrying over things I couldn't change, or worrying about things before they did or didn't happen. Now I leave it all in the hands of fate.
This really is it, for me -- accepting what I can't change, making sure that the focus is on my recovery, and trusting that as I better myself as a person, I will draw the people in my life who add to my happiness and not my angst.
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Old 02-15-2016, 06:23 PM
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Originally Posted by Keepnitreal View Post
Oh, my big worry about the 4 day weekend was really for naught. I cancelled the Valentines dinner with the other couples because I really just didn't want to go. My son and I had a great time at the beach. I drank water in my insulated cup (which is what I generally filled with wine) and I'm pretty sure everybody just assumed I was drinking with them. It was never discussed and we all just chatted and watched the kids play.
I'm glad that you had a nice extended weekend. One of the most meaningful parts of my journey has been getting over the fear of missing out with my friends, and doing things that I authentically enjoy.

My crowd was used to me throwing em back but I found that when I didn't drink, no one ever questioned why. In fact people didn't notice, or at least say anything to me. Who knows, maybe for them, it was about hanging out with me - whereas in my mind drinking was the priority.

I wish I could say my weekend was filled with beaches and sunshine. Mine was filled with sub zero temps, frozen pipes, and assorted broken household items.

It's frustrating dealing with one unexpected expense after another, and losing all the time to take care of everything. I faced it. I managed to stay in the moment most of the time stay in the solution, rather than blame or self pity. Staying positive!

This week is a short one, but the short ones are somehow the busiest!! Have a great week, Undies!!
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Old 02-15-2016, 11:57 PM
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Good stuff, Glee. It feels good to handle business, doesn't it?
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Hey guys! Just touching base. I just caught up with the posts from over the weekend.
Nice perspective Toots!
Congrats on 5 months KIR!

Right! Off to work!!!
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Good morning. the long weekend is over and it is back to work. Ugh.

KIR yes I pulled the same wine in the water bottle trick myself. I just use it for water now!

Glee - Wishing you a better week and better weather..
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Old 02-16-2016, 07:44 AM
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I put vodka in the water bottle---can't imagine how I could even think
of pulling that one off. duhhh
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Old 02-16-2016, 09:58 AM
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I used to keep empties in a guitar case! Glad I don't do that anymore. For me the deception was one of the hardest things about being an alcoholic and it's been one of the hardest to forgive myself for.

So much happier now I keep it simple
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Old 02-16-2016, 10:39 AM
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I also hid them in a old suitcase that we didn't use.
It's so nice to throw all that stuff. yuk!
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I got thrown out of a chorus with whom I was singing when my "water bottle" spilled and the straight vodka went all over the floor. They were not amused, I didn't care. Thought a couple times of re-auditioning and see if anyone would remember, or believe I was actually not drinking any more.
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I used to keep empties in a guitar case! Glad I don't do that anymore. For me the deception was one of the hardest things about being an alcoholic and it's been one of the hardest to forgive myself for.

So much happier now I keep it simple
I was young and stupid enough to be proud of them ... we lined 'em up on the ledge in my home studio, and called it "Murderer's Row."
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hey you guys !!! we sure didn't get any trophies for those stunts did we?
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Toots - Nice way of explaining alcoholism, that one drink will flip a switch to a life of misery. So true.

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This really is it, for me -- accepting what I can't change, making sure that the focus is on my recovery, and trusting that as I better myself as a person, I will draw the people in my life who add to my happiness and not my angst.
Thumpa - That's happening for me! You know that cliche misery loves company? I'm not drawn in by misery like I used to be! When I keep doing the right thing, and the right things happen.

WWS - Thanks for the kind wishes. You are really cruising along, aren't you? I sense such a calmness to you!

Drake - It's a real treat to see you!! Drake was approaching his first year sober when I was newly sober. We undies shared so many ups and downs, and liberal doses of encouragement, all day and night due to our varying time zones. It helped me make it through some very hard times.

Babs - I'm glad you're doing well. One of my friends who's dying of alcoholism accidentally spilled his "water" bottle at a summer party. I don't know who he thought he was fooling; everyone could see that his drink was a different consistency than water. Needless to say, the contents were not water, and he took a spill down a hill in front of everyone. Sad, sad stuff.


Today I completed my first round of the 12 Steps. The steps are not something I intended to do when I stopped drinking. I never intended to go to AA; I went because I didn't know what else to do! During my first few months I was puzzled why folks kept talking about the steps. I didn't understand the hype, but I kept going to meetings because the development of a life outside of drinking had languished in active addiction and I didn't have anywhere else to go where booze wasn't front of mind.

At AA I liked some of what I heard, and related to some people, too. Plus some of the regular contributors to the Undies thread at that time were in the program. I found a meeting where I felt comfortable not far from my home. The chair person's remarks made me feel less alone, I was given a bunch of women's phone numbers, and was even invited to a sober ladies' pool party on my first visit.

I didn't go to the pool party, and I never picked up the phone to call anyone, but I kept going. Listening. I met my first sponsor there. I broke up with my first sponsor there. I took the coffee commitment. I went when life was going smoothly and when I had bumps in the road. I developed a deeper appreciation for the program and its principles. The miracles started rolling in though when I was guided through the steps by my current Sponsor.

You don't have to start right away. I was over a year sober before I started them. You don't have to do them fast. I started my first step last July. You should do them in order with someone you trust.

I feel unbelievably blessed to have had this experience, but like Saskia always says, recovery is an ongoing process. It's not a one and done procedure!

Of course there is more than one way to recover. This is just what I did so far to find a life filled with peace and serenity that's joyous, happy and free. I respect, honor, and appreciate all the different paths to health and freedom that we are all taking, and I learn something special from each and every one of you.
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Hi undies.
Finally got all caught up on posts. I really need to make a better effort of getting on here every day, I've been slacking for weeks.
My mom moved back in and it's been absolute hell. I'm actually looking to move out for my own sanity, just going to take some time to figure out how to get money together for rent somewhere when my mom still needs me to pay part of the mortgage on a house I will no longer be living in. Being around her makes me want to drink really bad but I've been staying busy for the most part hanging out with a friend and working 6 days this week so getting some good overtime hours!
Hang in there!

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I had the same issue using a food tracking app. When I was hugely under calories each day, my weight loss stopped. I think the body goes into starvation mode and conserves every ounce of body fat it can. It's a paradox, but eating more helped me lose weight. I read that one needs to cut 3500 calories a week to burn a pound of body fat. So your goal is really to end each day 500 calories under your daily limit. That's a lot more food than you realize. Alcohol really ate up a lot of my daily calories, as I ended up drinking meals many days.
Total agreement.

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Yes, Babs - now that I've been sober awhile, I realize how much and fairly easily I can change my mood from blech or blah to happy!
This was sort of the topic at my last meeting. Crap happens--it's life--it's knowing how to handle it...
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Glee--I'm just starting the steps in earnest too. Am struggling with step 4 but with a sponsor, (new) internet and the help of the big book am getting it.
I've really found a great group that I call my home group now and am in charge of books lol. I have a sponsor that I also carpool with to the meeting and I love her she's great-- a lesbian originally from texas who has been sober 10 years. I'm not afraid to show her my resentments at all when I'm done this week.
Got through "the big one' pretty well and have decided I finally am starting to know what I'm doing with my job! My instincts were good and did pretty well. Had a difficult moment when the guy I was suicidal over --my crush at work-bought flowers for his girlfriend but I've come to realize how much I extended my misery because I used it as an excuse to drink...Anyway just catching up quick. Susan.
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I don't always post, Gleefan, but I keep up with the Undies.
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