Class Of January 2016 Support Thread part 3
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Hi SillyHuman.
And good night. Again lol.
I have a question...we have an AA meeting in town tonite but I live in a very very small country town and have a job that holds a lot of status. I really really want to go to a meeting but am so worried that it will get out in town that I'm an alcoholic and then my job will be affected. It's a very clicky town and I would hate for that to happen. Has anyone had any negative experiences going to a meeting and then people who attended betraying the anonymity and talking outside the group?
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What you hear here,
When you leave here,
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Great to hear that you are sober, Pat, you’ve had a lot to deal with what with your father-in-law’s passing. You are stronger than you realize!
M1A1, Great choice in staying in to watch the game, it gives you time to build your sobriety muscles! Those afternoon naps through off my sleep schedule too. Well, tomorrow night you shouldn’t have any trouble falling to sleep!
Good to see you posting while I’m awake, Pedro, haha, maybe not for much longer though. Wishing you a happy, sober day!
M1A1, Great choice in staying in to watch the game, it gives you time to build your sobriety muscles! Those afternoon naps through off my sleep schedule too. Well, tomorrow night you shouldn’t have any trouble falling to sleep!
Good to see you posting while I’m awake, Pedro, haha, maybe not for much longer though. Wishing you a happy, sober day!
WHID, it's good to see you feeling positive after last night.
Welcome to all the newcomers. You'll like it here ... it's a source of strength.
Good to see you in the chat last night, Mish!
Welcome to all the newcomers. You'll like it here ... it's a source of strength.
Good to see you in the chat last night, Mish!
Mish, I would think that if anyone in the room outed you, they would also be outing themselves, wouldn’t they? I haven’t been to AA, but if you were to see anyone there you recognized, rest assured, they are probably there for the same reason and probably have the same concern.
I’m glad your meeting went well, Gypsytears, and I hope tomorrow’s meeting will be as lighthearted.
I’m glad your meeting went well, Gypsytears, and I hope tomorrow’s meeting will be as lighthearted.
Hi everyone
Checking in before I go to bed. It is the end of day 21. I wanted to drink again tonight, although it wasn't as bad as Friday. I have a lot of ideas & suggestions on things to do when I have cravings and I need to work on actually doing them. I know cravings are temporary but they are so hard to get through sometimes. I drank about a liter of Mountain Dew to get me through it, and it wasn't diet. I will probably regret that tomorrow but at least I am still sober. Have a great day/night everyone
Checking in before I go to bed. It is the end of day 21. I wanted to drink again tonight, although it wasn't as bad as Friday. I have a lot of ideas & suggestions on things to do when I have cravings and I need to work on actually doing them. I know cravings are temporary but they are so hard to get through sometimes. I drank about a liter of Mountain Dew to get me through it, and it wasn't diet. I will probably regret that tomorrow but at least I am still sober. Have a great day/night everyone
What time zone are you in Pedro? I'm usually in the Twilight Zone : no matter what time it is . Hi, in real time if you're still on.
Mish, I see you've liked a bunch of posts. How are you feeling?
Hi to all the new peeps... though you're all pretty new to me still.
Training was team building and gathering the whole place together tonight. Fun, fun, fun. I hope tomorrow is as fun. So far, so good. Have a good night peeps.
Mish, I see you've liked a bunch of posts. How are you feeling?
Hi to all the new peeps... though you're all pretty new to me still.
Training was team building and gathering the whole place together tonight. Fun, fun, fun. I hope tomorrow is as fun. So far, so good. Have a good night peeps.
Welcome newest classmates, Dickensen, ChickChick, Ironwoman, VirginiaWoof and SandyO! I’m looking forward to getting to know you and others in this very large class.
ChickChick, one day at a time begins with Day 1, you’ll get through this!
Bandi, could you put a lock on the cellar door with hubby having the only key? If it were me, I would request a big padlock and a safety door!
Congratulations on 30 days illi.
Congrats on 2 weeks, SiS! You are really working the program; I’ve followed your threads and applaud your recovery successes. Safe travels tomorrow!
Congratulations on 1 week, Whathaveidone, and on the opening dialog with your wife! I really hope things keep improving with you and for you!
Congratulations on 3 weeks, Santilove, I agree with you, that first week it seemed like there were 48 hours in a day, now time is moving along at full steam!
ChickChick, one day at a time begins with Day 1, you’ll get through this!
Bandi, could you put a lock on the cellar door with hubby having the only key? If it were me, I would request a big padlock and a safety door!
Congratulations on 30 days illi.
Congrats on 2 weeks, SiS! You are really working the program; I’ve followed your threads and applaud your recovery successes. Safe travels tomorrow!
Congratulations on 1 week, Whathaveidone, and on the opening dialog with your wife! I really hope things keep improving with you and for you!
Congratulations on 3 weeks, Santilove, I agree with you, that first week it seemed like there were 48 hours in a day, now time is moving along at full steam!
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Thanks for the warm welcome everyone, and the confirmation that 'this too shall pass' Already I am feeling better than I was on the weekend which is a relief. I have been trying to practice at least one meditation from The Meditation Podcast each day to help process all those buried emotions and set me up with some healthy coping mechanisms for the future
Plenny - I tried to watch Maron and just couldn't get into it - he is still such a messed up person despite the sobriety! Pretty hypocritical of me I'm sure haha!
I hope that everyone on this thread is still trucking along, whether it be a smooth road, or a little more bumpy. Stay strong everyone, if nothing else you've all inspired me today
Plenny - I tried to watch Maron and just couldn't get into it - he is still such a messed up person despite the sobriety! Pretty hypocritical of me I'm sure haha!
I hope that everyone on this thread is still trucking along, whether it be a smooth road, or a little more bumpy. Stay strong everyone, if nothing else you've all inspired me today
I wanted to drink last night but I didn't. I was thinking about drinking while sitting in a meeting. I just ate too much for dinner instead lol.
This morning, I drove an hour to get to a meeting someone highly recommended and when I got there, I couldn't find it! So I got too many snacks and drove home. I'll go to a meeting tonight that I know where it is. I thought about drinking on my way home from the missing meeting.
This morning, I drove an hour to get to a meeting someone highly recommended and when I got there, I couldn't find it! So I got too many snacks and drove home. I'll go to a meeting tonight that I know where it is. I thought about drinking on my way home from the missing meeting.
Your're right Gypsy, SH and Odelle I will go.
The nearest major town is about 800kms/500miles away otherwise I would go there first. I was worried because my job involves me having a lot of responsibility and other meeting attendees may in fact rely on me in my professional capacity outside of AA....i must sound like such an idiot trying to explain why I'm worried others will find out given the annonymity thing....stupid really. Sometimes i have trouble putting my thought down without sounding like a dick.
I've only been to one meeting a couple of years ago when I lived in Perth and spent the whole meeting crying so didn't really absorb the whole thing...and I got there late. I remember a lady saying that her child's friends mothers found out she was alcoholic and had basically blacklisted their children from socialising with her...which is hearbreaking for the child. I guess they wouldn't have found out from her attendance at AA.
The town I live in is so small and remote there's no way I won't know at least someone there....which will probably be a blessing in disguise....as i wont feel so alone and like I'm the only alcoholic in town.
The nearest major town is about 800kms/500miles away otherwise I would go there first. I was worried because my job involves me having a lot of responsibility and other meeting attendees may in fact rely on me in my professional capacity outside of AA....i must sound like such an idiot trying to explain why I'm worried others will find out given the annonymity thing....stupid really. Sometimes i have trouble putting my thought down without sounding like a dick.
I've only been to one meeting a couple of years ago when I lived in Perth and spent the whole meeting crying so didn't really absorb the whole thing...and I got there late. I remember a lady saying that her child's friends mothers found out she was alcoholic and had basically blacklisted their children from socialising with her...which is hearbreaking for the child. I guess they wouldn't have found out from her attendance at AA.
The town I live in is so small and remote there's no way I won't know at least someone there....which will probably be a blessing in disguise....as i wont feel so alone and like I'm the only alcoholic in town.
The support you receive will do wonders for you, Mish. Glad you're going!
AV was quiet tonight. I've made my peace with the events in my personal life, and am busy right now ploughing through some Wheat Thins and olive hummus, washed down by sparkling water. I'm getting my balls back, and life is good.
AV was quiet tonight. I've made my peace with the events in my personal life, and am busy right now ploughing through some Wheat Thins and olive hummus, washed down by sparkling water. I'm getting my balls back, and life is good.
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Hi Everyone, its great to read how everyone is going, and welcome to the new people . Mish I totally understand your concerns, they are very understandable. But I know for me worrying too much about what other people think of me has been a part of my problem, maybe try to put your immediate needs first, rather than worrying about the what ifs? (advice I need to give myself too). And goodness knows in Australia I think about one in 3 of us could go to AA ... so many of us drink too much.
Sunflowerlife my new supplements include a mix with zizyphus, kudzu, passionflower and magnolia called NeuroCalm ; something else called AdrenoEnhance with withania, rehmania and other ingredients; and Intestaclear. I know another person who feels like Neurocalm helps them also.
I also take a probiotic, fish oil, flax seed oil, evenprimrose, turmeric, a multi V, and Glucosamine chronidontron for joint pain.
Its really nice being at work and not worrying so much about what other people think about me, eg do I look dehydrated and tired etc from the alcohol. I'm coping with the smaller stresses better at work too I think.
Its Australia Day here tomorrow. A public holiday. I'm going to a family BBQ. There will be lots of alcohol . But I won't drink. Thankyou everyone for the posts you are sharing. I looked forward to coming home tonight and seeing what was happening for you all.
Sunflowerlife my new supplements include a mix with zizyphus, kudzu, passionflower and magnolia called NeuroCalm ; something else called AdrenoEnhance with withania, rehmania and other ingredients; and Intestaclear. I know another person who feels like Neurocalm helps them also.
I also take a probiotic, fish oil, flax seed oil, evenprimrose, turmeric, a multi V, and Glucosamine chronidontron for joint pain.
Its really nice being at work and not worrying so much about what other people think about me, eg do I look dehydrated and tired etc from the alcohol. I'm coping with the smaller stresses better at work too I think.
Its Australia Day here tomorrow. A public holiday. I'm going to a family BBQ. There will be lots of alcohol . But I won't drink. Thankyou everyone for the posts you are sharing. I looked forward to coming home tonight and seeing what was happening for you all.
Hi All! Another long one as this thread just grows and grows!!!
Not sure about being the Matriarch of the thread SillyHuman and Olivia but I do like to touch base with everyone when I can!
Welcome to SR all the Newbies or those returning again Dickensen, Chickchick, Ironwoman, VirginiaWoof, and Sandy (so sorry if I've missed anyone...) Stay close to SR .. It's a great forum..
* WhathaveIdone-- Please don't ever stay away.Come here and whinge and complain,moan and groan-and at least we can be there for you. We've all done it, and sometimes once we have it off our chest we feel so much better. You are never pathetic.. far from it.. I'm so glad that you're sober.. Well done on 1 week. I am glad to hear you're starting to feel a little better..
Thumpa- Hope you're feeling a bit better today. Just keep staying as positive as you can and get those sober days under your belt!! You deserve this for you.
Sunflower-- FIrstly I have to say that I think that you are a fabulous Mum. Trying to get sober is hard enough with Teens or no kids, but I really really admire anyone who can manage sobriety with young dependent Children. Please stop being so harsh on yourself. We all yell, scream, swear and have our little mummy meltdowns at times..That's just Motherhood(or Parenthood) I can relate to you cherishing the peace and quiet before the Family wake up...Isn't it just sacred!! Then BOOM! lol HAHA
I also live with the fear that the shame, embarrassment and sickness that I felt when using alcohol will become a distant memory and lead me to believe that I can drink again one day... Hopefully we can keep reminding each other just how ugly life is when we drink.. That's the beauty of this forum i think,. We don't need to do any of this alone. xx
LULU-- Well done on so many sober days. It's fantastic-keep it going as you're doing so amazing!!
I can't believe you have so many interviews lined up! Go YOU!!! You deserve this so don't need luck but I will send lots of luck and love anyway!!! Keep us posted how you get on..
LoopyLou-- You've got this hun! 3 weeks is absolutely AMAZING. Way to go! You'll probably find that you just need lots and lots of water and I doubt that some extra rest would hurt either! We've spent so long filling our bodies full to the brim with so much fluid (of the wrong type of course)-it has to t ake it's toll. Take care of yourself and listen to your body. Let it heal.. It will get better xx
Struggling Jim Hope you are starting to feel better. Day 20 is such a great achievement already. One day at a time and don't forget you will always find support on these threads. Take care
OPTIMIST-- Almost a week!! YAY -- 5 days is fab!! I was so touched to read about your Grandson. It must have made this all feel worthwhile. I know for myself, I wasn't able to leave the house at all oonce I got in from work as I was already a drunken skunk!!! If we ran out of milk-the kids had to have toast for breakfast.. Now i'm dashing to the late night supermarket at all hours, just because i CAN!! haha Sad hey!! xxx
Strongbird-- Well done on Day 6! Sleep can make all the difference can't it? Don't overdo things right now.. Baby steps and small tasks until you feel like you can manage more. Hope you had a wonderful Sunday!
SillyHuman!! DOn't EVER apologise for neglecting us. Not possible anyway!!!! I feel your pain using a tablet. I've ditched the ipad and hijacked the kids computer for that same reason!!(You can imagine how impressed they are right now with me lol)
As long as you are doing ok and staying well hun. Please shout out if you're not....
I'm glad to hear you're doing lots of meetings and reading lots. I've been doing much the same..as many evening meetings as I can, and reading random bits and pieces here and there..nothing specific but educating myself all the same!
And yes girlie sobriety does rock!!! So do you!
Plenny- Hope you are feeling well today.. It really is difficult to keep up with this thread as it moves so damn fast. I reckon it's a good thing we are all so actively posting!! I'm always so afraid I've missed out on acknowledging someone -That would be awful, although never intentional.
Having 17 sober days is so so great! I'm a couple of days behind me so make sure you never let me catch up to you!! I can't wait to hear what you are going to spend your wine-o-bank on... Make sure you really treat yourself... You certainly deserve it.
GYPSY YAY for double digits!!! ALmost 2 weeks. Keep on going! When I reached 2 weeks, something in my head really shifted. It's till tough but nowhere like it was.. I'm now day 15 and excited about life again!!
Rally--- Well done on getting to day 11. The first 10 days for me were the hardest. They were actually hell! Glad to hear that you got yourself through yesterday. It's so hard when w are feeling so lousy to pull ourselves back out again.
You have to make a big decision about socialising with your friends. It has to be your choice for the right reasons for you. Personally I wouldn't be able to be around my friends who were drinking alcohol just yet. I thinkit could unhinge me completely or just unsettle me that little bit in a way that it could affect my sobriety. Whatever decision you make stay strong and stay safe. You've come so far already.. You're doing so amazing! We are always here if you need some support or a friendly ear. x
Illi- 30 Days is awesome. I can't wait until I reach that milestone again. Our AV is sneaky and can really take over if we don't reach out or keep it in check. SR is a great place to ask for help when you're feeling tempted. We are all on a similar path to a better life. Even just a small delay to read a few posts from others or post yourself can save you relapsing. Stick close to us, we are here with you. I'm still fighting a daily battle after many previous relapses.. I can honestly say that Soberrecovery has been the best thing to happen to me in years. It's a raw and emotional journey and a very long process... If only we had a magic wand hey?
Thinking of you and sending you strength x
SoberinSyracuse- CONGRATULATIONS on 2 weeks!! Super proud of you. There's no luck about it either... You've done all the hard work... x
Tigerlili-- Sorry irrelevent but i just love this username!!!! lol- Anyway Well done on 1 week. Fantastic work!! Keep on coming back x
Shantilove-- 21 days is huge!!! Great job x x
Bandicoot--- Night night and sweet dreams! Seems strange as it's only 6.15pm here!! Hope you're well and enjoying another sober night
Mish-- How are you going honey? Go to that meeting!! I'm also in a small-ish city. It's always concerning that someone might walk in who we recognise. No-one visits AA for the fun of it though so if anyone you know is there-they are there for the same reasons that you are!!! My local baker goes to a couple of my meetings and we just say a casual Hi to each other when I buy my bread!!! Keep going hun,.AA is really helping me combined with SR of course. Sending love xx
Venus- Haven't seen you.. Hope you're feeling better babe. Thinking about you xxxxxx
Lisa- Hope you have a great Australia Day tomorrow. Just keep your guard up at all times!! (or else!!) I've decided to stay home for the first Aus day that I can remember. Not feeling strong enough just yet. Usually spend it out on my Parents boat with the kids and boxes of champagne!! Might get the blow up pool out instead haha!!! Let me know how your day goes..
Sorry I've taken up 100 pages with my posts!! Just want everyone to know i am thinking of you all and am so honoured to be on the same journey as all of you
Once again- I am soooo sorry if i missed anyone.. x x
Nicola
Not sure about being the Matriarch of the thread SillyHuman and Olivia but I do like to touch base with everyone when I can!
Welcome to SR all the Newbies or those returning again Dickensen, Chickchick, Ironwoman, VirginiaWoof, and Sandy (so sorry if I've missed anyone...) Stay close to SR .. It's a great forum..
* WhathaveIdone-- Please don't ever stay away.Come here and whinge and complain,moan and groan-and at least we can be there for you. We've all done it, and sometimes once we have it off our chest we feel so much better. You are never pathetic.. far from it.. I'm so glad that you're sober.. Well done on 1 week. I am glad to hear you're starting to feel a little better..
Thumpa- Hope you're feeling a bit better today. Just keep staying as positive as you can and get those sober days under your belt!! You deserve this for you.
Sunflower-- FIrstly I have to say that I think that you are a fabulous Mum. Trying to get sober is hard enough with Teens or no kids, but I really really admire anyone who can manage sobriety with young dependent Children. Please stop being so harsh on yourself. We all yell, scream, swear and have our little mummy meltdowns at times..That's just Motherhood(or Parenthood) I can relate to you cherishing the peace and quiet before the Family wake up...Isn't it just sacred!! Then BOOM! lol HAHA
I also live with the fear that the shame, embarrassment and sickness that I felt when using alcohol will become a distant memory and lead me to believe that I can drink again one day... Hopefully we can keep reminding each other just how ugly life is when we drink.. That's the beauty of this forum i think,. We don't need to do any of this alone. xx
LULU-- Well done on so many sober days. It's fantastic-keep it going as you're doing so amazing!!
I can't believe you have so many interviews lined up! Go YOU!!! You deserve this so don't need luck but I will send lots of luck and love anyway!!! Keep us posted how you get on..
LoopyLou-- You've got this hun! 3 weeks is absolutely AMAZING. Way to go! You'll probably find that you just need lots and lots of water and I doubt that some extra rest would hurt either! We've spent so long filling our bodies full to the brim with so much fluid (of the wrong type of course)-it has to t ake it's toll. Take care of yourself and listen to your body. Let it heal.. It will get better xx
Struggling Jim Hope you are starting to feel better. Day 20 is such a great achievement already. One day at a time and don't forget you will always find support on these threads. Take care
OPTIMIST-- Almost a week!! YAY -- 5 days is fab!! I was so touched to read about your Grandson. It must have made this all feel worthwhile. I know for myself, I wasn't able to leave the house at all oonce I got in from work as I was already a drunken skunk!!! If we ran out of milk-the kids had to have toast for breakfast.. Now i'm dashing to the late night supermarket at all hours, just because i CAN!! haha Sad hey!! xxx
Strongbird-- Well done on Day 6! Sleep can make all the difference can't it? Don't overdo things right now.. Baby steps and small tasks until you feel like you can manage more. Hope you had a wonderful Sunday!
SillyHuman!! DOn't EVER apologise for neglecting us. Not possible anyway!!!! I feel your pain using a tablet. I've ditched the ipad and hijacked the kids computer for that same reason!!(You can imagine how impressed they are right now with me lol)
As long as you are doing ok and staying well hun. Please shout out if you're not....
I'm glad to hear you're doing lots of meetings and reading lots. I've been doing much the same..as many evening meetings as I can, and reading random bits and pieces here and there..nothing specific but educating myself all the same!
And yes girlie sobriety does rock!!! So do you!
Plenny- Hope you are feeling well today.. It really is difficult to keep up with this thread as it moves so damn fast. I reckon it's a good thing we are all so actively posting!! I'm always so afraid I've missed out on acknowledging someone -That would be awful, although never intentional.
Having 17 sober days is so so great! I'm a couple of days behind me so make sure you never let me catch up to you!! I can't wait to hear what you are going to spend your wine-o-bank on... Make sure you really treat yourself... You certainly deserve it.
GYPSY YAY for double digits!!! ALmost 2 weeks. Keep on going! When I reached 2 weeks, something in my head really shifted. It's till tough but nowhere like it was.. I'm now day 15 and excited about life again!!
Rally--- Well done on getting to day 11. The first 10 days for me were the hardest. They were actually hell! Glad to hear that you got yourself through yesterday. It's so hard when w are feeling so lousy to pull ourselves back out again.
You have to make a big decision about socialising with your friends. It has to be your choice for the right reasons for you. Personally I wouldn't be able to be around my friends who were drinking alcohol just yet. I thinkit could unhinge me completely or just unsettle me that little bit in a way that it could affect my sobriety. Whatever decision you make stay strong and stay safe. You've come so far already.. You're doing so amazing! We are always here if you need some support or a friendly ear. x
Illi- 30 Days is awesome. I can't wait until I reach that milestone again. Our AV is sneaky and can really take over if we don't reach out or keep it in check. SR is a great place to ask for help when you're feeling tempted. We are all on a similar path to a better life. Even just a small delay to read a few posts from others or post yourself can save you relapsing. Stick close to us, we are here with you. I'm still fighting a daily battle after many previous relapses.. I can honestly say that Soberrecovery has been the best thing to happen to me in years. It's a raw and emotional journey and a very long process... If only we had a magic wand hey?
Thinking of you and sending you strength x
SoberinSyracuse- CONGRATULATIONS on 2 weeks!! Super proud of you. There's no luck about it either... You've done all the hard work... x
Tigerlili-- Sorry irrelevent but i just love this username!!!! lol- Anyway Well done on 1 week. Fantastic work!! Keep on coming back x
Shantilove-- 21 days is huge!!! Great job x x
Bandicoot--- Night night and sweet dreams! Seems strange as it's only 6.15pm here!! Hope you're well and enjoying another sober night
Mish-- How are you going honey? Go to that meeting!! I'm also in a small-ish city. It's always concerning that someone might walk in who we recognise. No-one visits AA for the fun of it though so if anyone you know is there-they are there for the same reasons that you are!!! My local baker goes to a couple of my meetings and we just say a casual Hi to each other when I buy my bread!!! Keep going hun,.AA is really helping me combined with SR of course. Sending love xx
Venus- Haven't seen you.. Hope you're feeling better babe. Thinking about you xxxxxx
Lisa- Hope you have a great Australia Day tomorrow. Just keep your guard up at all times!! (or else!!) I've decided to stay home for the first Aus day that I can remember. Not feeling strong enough just yet. Usually spend it out on my Parents boat with the kids and boxes of champagne!! Might get the blow up pool out instead haha!!! Let me know how your day goes..
Sorry I've taken up 100 pages with my posts!! Just want everyone to know i am thinking of you all and am so honoured to be on the same journey as all of you
Once again- I am soooo sorry if i missed anyone.. x x
Nicola
I am looking forward to getting my memory back!! I have lost a the cashpoint card to the account with money in and there isn't a branch in my town.
I did a transfer of some funds to another account last night and they say the funds should clear by close of business today but I'm panicking as that's my petrol money to get to my first AA meeting tonight. I've left a message at the second bank for a call back so I can double check the funds will clear in time.
We live in a small 2 bedroom bungalow/single story house. How on earth I manage to lose so much stuff I have no idea - well, I have ...... alcohol!!!
I did a transfer of some funds to another account last night and they say the funds should clear by close of business today but I'm panicking as that's my petrol money to get to my first AA meeting tonight. I've left a message at the second bank for a call back so I can double check the funds will clear in time.
We live in a small 2 bedroom bungalow/single story house. How on earth I manage to lose so much stuff I have no idea - well, I have ...... alcohol!!!
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