Soberpotamus's Oral Surgery Recovery Support & Journal Part 2
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It overwhelmed me because I felt unsafe thinking if he could let this happen, what's to stop him from burning the house down? He started a kitchen fire in October. And being physically weakened right now, it feels much worse, like I might not be able to protect myself and the dogs.
But last night, I did. I did all I could do.
But last night, I did. I did all I could do.
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Originally Posted by MidnightBlue 
Can you work on you business right now, this moment?.
I might be ok to get back into my work now.
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Not wearing the bands all night must've allowed me to relax my jaw in my sleep. I can see something is different today when I look in the mirror. I can see my teeth more and can see my mouth opens easier and further.
My face is coming back too.
I can see more cheekbone today and less chipmunk cheek.
I was able to brush more surface area of my teeth.
The swelling is mostly gone! Still some just under the jawline around my upper neck.
My face is coming back too.
I can see more cheekbone today and less chipmunk cheek.I was able to brush more surface area of my teeth.
The swelling is mostly gone! Still some just under the jawline around my upper neck.
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Originally Posted by Soberpotamus
I think he is clueless about cleaning. And he seems to lack some common sense. I'm going to try to let this go now.
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There's no simple answer, Trach. I think you must know that already.
Starting out, I believed he was a good person. As we've gone along, I see more of his faults. And I see how he is rigid and resistant to change. That is his worst fault. And that he refuses to accept responsibility for anything, doesn't like to make decisions, likes to place blame, doesn't show sympathy or empathy very well, and sees the down side to everything. He also has temper tantrums and blows up easily.
EndGame once pointed out Brian is angered by my ability to adapt. I can see that might be happening. Brian says I am "stubborn." I am much less stubborn than he realizes. He means that he hates my confidence, tenacity, and resoluteness. Because he lacks in those areas.
Starting out, I believed he was a good person. As we've gone along, I see more of his faults. And I see how he is rigid and resistant to change. That is his worst fault. And that he refuses to accept responsibility for anything, doesn't like to make decisions, likes to place blame, doesn't show sympathy or empathy very well, and sees the down side to everything. He also has temper tantrums and blows up easily.
EndGame once pointed out Brian is angered by my ability to adapt. I can see that might be happening. Brian says I am "stubborn." I am much less stubborn than he realizes. He means that he hates my confidence, tenacity, and resoluteness. Because he lacks in those areas.
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Part of me feels defensive in response to your question.
Apparently, a mistake was made, and I own 50% (although it feels like 100%) of that. It's tough to see and to admit that I judged poorly, or married for reasons that didn't serve me well in the end.
I put off marriage until my mid-30's and had been very independent as a young adult. I had detached from my family early, or was trying hard to do so. So when he asked me for marriage, multiple times, at age 35, I approached it more like an "experiment" as I would with most things. I guess it's been a not-so-pleasant experiment.
I was also still drinking at the time. But I was also "getting sober." Multiple attempts during that time. It took a year and a half into the marriage begore I finally stayed sober.
Those years (age 33-35) were the pivotal moment for me. Mom's suicide, me quitting my job, starting to freelance, meeting Brian, marriage, and getting sober.
I've read a few books on habit change, and it's quite common to see a person make multiple changes, one after another, all starting with one huge change.
Apparently, a mistake was made, and I own 50% (although it feels like 100%) of that. It's tough to see and to admit that I judged poorly, or married for reasons that didn't serve me well in the end.
I put off marriage until my mid-30's and had been very independent as a young adult. I had detached from my family early, or was trying hard to do so. So when he asked me for marriage, multiple times, at age 35, I approached it more like an "experiment" as I would with most things. I guess it's been a not-so-pleasant experiment.
I was also still drinking at the time. But I was also "getting sober." Multiple attempts during that time. It took a year and a half into the marriage begore I finally stayed sober.
Those years (age 33-35) were the pivotal moment for me. Mom's suicide, me quitting my job, starting to freelance, meeting Brian, marriage, and getting sober.
I've read a few books on habit change, and it's quite common to see a person make multiple changes, one after another, all starting with one huge change.
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One more milestone... first independent shower! I did it just now.
The meds made me lose my balance easily, so I didn't trust myself alone in there on them. I have slight vertigo as well, like when going up a ladder.
The meds made me lose my balance easily, so I didn't trust myself alone in there on them. I have slight vertigo as well, like when going up a ladder.
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Thanks, Trach.
One way to describe it is living with a small thorn in your side all your life, to use that cliche. An annoyance that wears on you. Day after day, year after year.
I wanted it gone!
One way to describe it is living with a small thorn in your side all your life, to use that cliche. An annoyance that wears on you. Day after day, year after year.
I wanted it gone!
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Jen, now that I'm thinking about it, I was 34, not 35. Just realized that. I guess things start to run together. Well, I have zero suggestions or advice regarding marriage. I think I am as clueless about it now as before I did it. Lol.
I'm still surprised I was willing to marry. I guess I tried it and it just doesn't work for me.
Well, I have zero suggestions or advice regarding marriage. I think I am as clueless about it now as before I did it. Lol.I'm still surprised I was willing to marry. I guess I tried it and it just doesn't work for me.
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Originally Posted by Soberpotamus
Jen, now that I'm thinking about it, I was 34, not 35. Just realized that. I guess things start to run together. Well, I have zero suggestions or advice regarding marriage. I think I am as clueless about it now as before I did it. Lol.
I'm still surprised I was willing to marry. I guess I tried it and it just doesn't work for me.
Well, I have zero suggestions or advice regarding marriage. I think I am as clueless about it now as before I did it. Lol.I'm still surprised I was willing to marry. I guess I tried it and it just doesn't work for me.
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