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Old 01-15-2016, 02:43 AM
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[QUOTE=SillyHuman;5740507]Morning all.



Tink, I would like to smack your other half. Stay with us. Now that the booze is gone, relationships will heal. You will see.
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Old 01-15-2016, 02:46 AM
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Morning all.



Tink, I would like to smack your other half. Stay with us. Now that the booze is gone, relationships will heal. You will see.
Me too! Well it's all a little confusing
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Old 01-15-2016, 03:22 AM
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I hope you can consider the possibility that you can deal with your underlying issue by getting sober... not that you have to deal with the underlying issue to be sober? Trust me on this. Our AV loves it when there's an underlying issue we can't readily fix and we 'have' to drink over.... D
Dee, truer words were never spoken. It is like alchemy. Thank you for the clear phrasing of this sensation. Working through some underlying issues as we speak, and could not have seen this perspective without the sobriety.
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Good morning everyone, day 10 over here.
I had a great therapy/hynposis session last night and I only have one left next week (paid for 3). I am considering getting a part time job just so I can keep going, he is that amazing.

Feeling great and am very glad I got up before 6 this morning to avoid my cranky toddler waking me up. Did some morning salutations and that felt good but man I am stiff and my lower back is still sore (I think I hurt it at the gym 2 weeks ago). I would like to start doing more yoga, gotta add that to my weekly regimen.

Also considering checking out an AA meeting- there is a women's group on Sunday night. I haven't been to one since 2005 and I am not sure it is the route I want to go. But it would be nice to meet some other sober women my age, especially with kids. Need to talk myself into it!

Hope everyone is doing well, have a blessed, sober Friday!
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Originally Posted by SillyHuman View Post
I called Leslie tonight. I guess I will just start calling her my sponsor.

After hearing a bit about the last few years, she suggested I get a good therapist, in addition to working with her. That kinda surprised me. It is actually a really good idea, so I will go therapist shopping tomorrow, again. I have had a hard time finding one. They seem to want to be life coaches, and talk about hobbies, and meanwhile I struggle with a brain that just does not work right.

I bought some books. Any Brene Brown fans here?

Still not eating worth a darn, and smoking like steam train, but clean and sober and ready for bed.

Have a good night everyone.
I love Brene Brown's TED talks, she is something else. I've never read any of her books but I am sure they are great. Which one did you get?

Finding a great therapist can be a challenge. Have you ever used Psychology Today's website to find one? I love that you can read about about them, see a picture and find out their approach.
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Old 01-15-2016, 03:35 AM
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Originally Posted by Glb82 View Post
Morning all! Start of Day ten here. It's a Friday which is a challenge.

I've got to round about this point before and thought "I've just proved I can do it..". And sabotaged myself. Have to keep looking at the positives.
1. No hangovers
2. No bad, embarrassing digestive system
3. Less bloated face
4. I've saved about 150 euros
5. I haven't taken a pain pill. In ten days I'd have taken 20.
6. No cringeworthy moments falling over, I'm bruise free. Haven't been bruise free since 2006!
And much more...
You can do it. Maybe start a new Friday ritual, like going to the movies and getting some delicious popcorn! Or a bookstore evening with a cup of coffee. You can do this!
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Old 01-15-2016, 03:37 AM
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Hi all. I'm Billy from the class of 2012. 4 years dry this month.
You're an inspiration Billy. The longest I've made it my entire adult life is one year.

I made five months on my last try but fell of the wagon this month and went on a 7 day bender.

Today is my new day one and so far I've been 24 hours without sleep. I really thought withdrawal wouldn't be so difficult because I only drank for 7 days. Guess I was wrong.
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Old 01-15-2016, 04:03 AM
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do you have any ideas on a better recovery plan this time around tiredofme?

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Old 01-15-2016, 04:25 AM
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Originally Posted by Dee74 View Post
do you have any ideas on a better recovery plan this time around tiredofme?

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For now stay away from any situations where I would be tempted to drink. No entertaining for a good few weeks have builders starting Monday on damp in kitchen so used it as an excuse to take a break for a month.

I have also bought a book to start a journal and told a friend that i am quitting. I have never told anyone so was quite a big step.

Looking forward to a sober weekend and going to use it to get some serious reading done I have plenty of books including rational recovery which came a few days ago. Hope something will stick in this stupid brain of mine finally.

Oh and avoid all shops on way home from work that is definately a danger zone.
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Old 01-15-2016, 04:39 AM
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Dee, truer words were never spoken. It is like alchemy. Thank you for the clear phrasing of this sensation. Working through some underlying issues as we speak, and could not have seen this perspective without the sobriety.
True true TRUE.
I'm tired. Tired of yelling crying, screaming , sorrow. Tired of feelings of abandonment, and just pure misplaced vitriol coming from others. Glad to be back at work today. Lol. I've NEVER posted that on here ! Haha.
Glad to be away. Don't want to go back.
Praying for my attitude to change today.
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Day 7!!! I thought it would never get here Getting ready for a day of skiing and love with my family.

I've been sleeping great but that stupid anxiety is still following me, but it is not going to catch me 😀
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Morning! 6 am here in St Louis! Going to a new gym with my daughter in a couple hours. Can't wait. I've always worked out but have gotten awfully lazy about it as the alcohol problem picked up. My daughter referred to the "new me" the other day and how she doesn't know where this is coming from but she loves it! It's also helping my husband as he is on day 16 (he can turn it off tho) I've been reading a lot on SR but not posting a lot. Never was much of a talker ... doer but not big talker! I credit this run with a determination that I am not gonna live the rest of my life in a wine bottle, SR and mind-body relaxation.

Sunflower - can you expand on your sessions? I'm liking my hypnosis tape. I saw a hypnotist many years ago. I didn't listen to the tape at night tho. I'm older now and finding this very relaxing. I don't think the man I saw was very good tho. Same with a female therapist I went to. I think you mentioned a site to go to (or maybe it was Gib) where you can see the doctor, etc. What impresses you about this hypnotist ? How do you feel after a session?

Purple Butterfly (Tiredofme?). I really should take notes ! Anyway, bummer but just get back on the horse ! We can all relate to this.

Gib -love your list! Love that you are starting to work on yourself. I went to the dentist yesterday. I had canceled my appt last Sept (first time canceling and not rescheduling 6 month check up). My cholesterol has been creeping up. Going back to my primary doctor for blood test after starting new meds. Funny how things start to matter isn't it ?

We should add to your list.....

I know where I put my car keys and coat.
Way less anxiety and short tempered
I play lots of games with my granddaughter
Going back to the gym and ready to rock it.
Alcohol flush just about gone or is gone.
I actually feel like getting out of the house and doing things.
The money I'm saving I can pay for my daughter and myself to go to the gym.
Yada yada yada.

Have a nice weekend everybody. Stay safe!

Olivia

Watching the news .. Up next one of the Powerball winners. I don't think I'd ever come forward as a winner, especially this kind of money. I'd set up a corporation or something with some legal advice and lay low!
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Billy - 4 years! Wow! Impressive. Hope I can say that in four years.
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Morning all.

I am looking at counselors (thanks for the tip Sunflower). My sister has a master's in psychology, and she is one of the craziest, most destructive people I know. My stomach hurts from just looking at the ads. I am so flipping sick of the routine:

Work up hope that counseling will help.
Work up the courage to go.
Make appointment and wait.
Pay the flipping money.
And, nothing worthwhile happens.

At my one and only inpatient stay a year and a half ago, they messed up so bad that they were not allowed to charge me for the stay. Yep, $20,000+ I did not have to pay, and I got my money's worth!

I suspect therapy is just a money-making scam anyway.

I really, really do NOT want to do this.

Can anyone testify that they went to therapy and it was actually worth it?
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Sorry, Sunflower. I did not read all the way thru your posts. Thanks for talking about your experience with therapy.
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Hi Everyone

Day 20!
Last nite was an eye opener. I almost took a drink on autopilot. I was at work (bartender) and Lil John was screaming at me to do shots and I was discussing craft beers with the other bartender and he said try this one and put out the beer he was drinking. My hand was half way to it when I snapped out of it and said no thank you.

I wasn't thinking about getting drunk. I wasn't really thing at all just reacting. But my mind played the tape through for me in a split second. Some amazing change is happening in my thinking process!

Now to work harder on changing my profession so I don't need to put my self in situations like these.

I've worked to hard to let a sip ruin it.

Keep fighting everyone!
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Sorry you had a slip tiredofme, but you came back right away, that shows determination. It definitely isn’t worth it; realization of that fact is a step forward in the right direction.

Sunflower, your positive energy is uplifting today!

SillyHuman, I share your sentiments on counseling. I bit the bullet and went once, more than 30 years ago! First session was with a lady who must have been new to the profession; I never went back. However, after reading so many SR threads, it has obviously been helpful to many people. The trick is to find one that clicks with you.

I just recently watched several Ted talks, thanks to a thread here on SR, and Brene Brown is amazing, how could anyone not love her? Please update us on her book when you have finished it.

Bluedog, I hope you reconsider. Your journey is yours and yours only, it’s not a competition with anyone, and you don’t have to disclose your sobriety date with your sister. I sense that is one of your underlying issues. I come from a brood of 7, so I am familiar with family dynamics and dysfunctions.

Everyone else, have a safe and sober Friday!
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I would love to join this group if nobody has any objections. I'm on a new day 1. I'm a member of the August 2015 group but I succumbed to my AV on the 7th. Finally got back on the wagon!
Another Augustable! Yea! great to see you BBG!

So I made it through last night with flying colors. Went to an open bar event. Had my mind set right. Asked the bartender for a club soda with lime and she said, "Want a splash of cranberry?" What an awesome bar tender!!!
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illi1111, congratulations on day 20! You are much stronger than I am, there is no way I would be able to work in an establishment that served alcohol, much less be a bartender.
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Hi all,

I've been reading posts on SR for a few days as I tapered and today is my Day 2, so hello! I've been a heavy drinker, for the most part, since 18 (41 now) but usually the ability to scale down for chunks of time without much thought. In the past three years that has changed; I've been drinking more, fewer sober or light days, and except for a couple heath worries that spurred me to grit through 3-4 weeks of sobriety prior to testing rarely going more than 1 maybe 2 days without drinking.

Light beer is my drink of choice, probably averaging 6-8 daily with a couple of days each week going 12-18 beers. I quit smoking 5 months ago cold turkey and am feeling good and strong from that (and like I've gotten over the energy drains and willpower pulls from that at this point).

I tapered somewhat intentionally while visiting in-laws. Not cool to go through all the beer! Then got home and had a heavy night, light night, heavy night, then entered real quitting. I had three light beers Monday then one measured shot rum in a big gatorade both Tuesday and Wednesday evening (when HR and BP went up). And nothing last night.

I probably didn't need to taper - I haven't before and been fine and I was an evening drinker (with weekend drinking usually starting in evening too). However, I had a friend who died from electrolyte and fluid imbalance after quitting cold turkey and her death has me respectful about the possible dangers of quitting.

So far some agitation, a few headaches, and some rises in my HR And BP (which are both low baseline so not terribly concerning). I'm encouraged that I feel the same way as I did for my smoking quit: not filled with nervous resolve, rather feeling, simply, done with it.
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