Soberwolf

Had my check up all is well just had dinner & a bath, ready for sober friday night

SoberLeigh

^^^ Good news, sw!!!!

Soberwolf

Thanks Leigh

SoberLeigh

Goodnight, Julyers; see you tomorrow.

Croissant

Glad there's nothing to worry about, Wolfy.

Leshar. Hugs for you today.xx know you don't feel like posting, and that's ok, but want you to know you are in my thoughts.

lisatryingagain

Soberwolf I'm glad the dr s went well for you.

Croissant that's funny, were you tempted to send him back a score out of 10.

Hope everyone is having a good weekend.

Soberwolf

Thanks croiss & Lisa x

Have a great day/evening Julyers

Croissant

Just some random thoughts/questions here. Having moved back home, and my home city meaning you can just about trip over old friends without trying....what are your thoughts here? There are some old friends I have thoughts I'd like to reconnect with, not drinking buddies as such. Although some would have been in some occasional drinking events.

Should I leave the past in the past or, is it an opportunity to reconnect? What got me thinking about this, is this bloody dating site. An old friend has come up as a match for me...can you believe it? Now, I have no illusions on the romance thing...we touched on it years ago, but agreed we were best as friends. But it got me thinking, I wonder how he is, it would be nice to see him.

I guess I'm thinking "out loud" and maybe I should let sleeping dogs lie (I'm not feeling romantic toward him, but we have strong old work connections)...
I don't want to live in the past....but I also don't want to feel "disconnected"....or should I just move forward, make new friends and not reinvent old ones?

Dee74

I've reconnected with old friends and it's been good for me - most are sensible not really drinking family types now...a few of the muso guys are pretty much...musos....but my recovery's good

a few of the reconnection haven't worked and I've been glad to leave those back in the past now...it's pretty easy to do that cos the feelings pretty mutual

I'm not sure anyone can answer this in general Crois - either you want specific people back in your life or not, I think?

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Croissant

Thanks Dee. Yes, I was half pondering my thoughts, half asking advice, because it's happened with a few school friends after my reuinion, but I was wondering generally....if anyone thought this was a clear no no.

I guess it would be different if they were my party hard drinking buddies, although to be honest, most of my friends back then were social in many different settings and drinking wasn't a huge part of the interaction. These are pre lovely ex and pre drinking too much friends.

Dee74

I'm at the point now where I'm not bothered at all by others drinking or whatever around me so long as they're not obnoxious about it, but it was a real concern earlier on.

I think I was right to move away from temptation then.

Croissant

Well, that's what I was thinking, but I wanted to sanity check...you know, how sometimes we "kid" ourselves we are ok, but we're not? But I honestly don't feel left out or its a gap or anything anymore.

Soberwolf

Afternoon julyers, Croiss if its a healthy friendship imo its worth having I can be around drinkers but not really my old DJ mates or that for obvious reasons because thier fun is always drugs and that just ain't my thing no more

I've always thought of you as a wise person croiss and your showing it by just talking about it x

SoberLeigh

I am now exactly the same way.

While it was certainly out of the question in early times, I can now be around drinking friends, even go to a pub with food, and not be bothered.

I think that you will be okay, Croiss. Reconnect and see how it goes; if there is a basis for a renewed friendship, you will know; if not, nothing lost.

SoberLeigh

Thinking of you, Leshar.

SoberLeigh

Hello, Julyers.

Have a lovely day, all.

letitgo

Hey all. Hope your having or had a nice Saturday!

SoberLeigh

Hi'ya, let.

SoberLeigh

I am glad that we are walking this path together, dear Julyers.

letitgo

Had a nice lunch with my Grandmother. I wasn't going to visist but my wife insisted after those funerals. Time is a very precious thing with loved ones.

SoberLeigh, its great knowing we are together and not alone on this journey.