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Old 01-03-2016, 04:40 PM
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Hi squirrel & welcome Great job on day 3

Hi everyone, I am feeling relieved as my brother just left with the wine I thought he was going to pick up last night. It is getting close to when I usually start drinking and I am glad it is gone. Even though I am not drinking today, I am counting tomorrow as my day 1 as I drank after midnight last night. I haven't really had anything to drink today other than a soda early this morning so I think I will go make some tea.

Wishing everyone a happy & sober day tomorrow.
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Old 01-03-2016, 05:41 PM
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I'd like to join this class. I joined SR in March of last year. I made a few half-butt attempts to get sober. I never made it much past day four. I posted through a couple of them, but I never stopped lurking. I love this site. . Things are different now. I finally chose to accept that I cannot drink like a normal person, ever. One drink will always lead to misery, so I quit!! Today marks the end of day five, as Dec 29 the was my last drink. I'm looking forward to my future and being a part of this class.

Happy New Year Everyone.
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Old 01-03-2016, 05:49 PM
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Welcome Squirrel and Komplex

JL - I don't think there is any good time to quit.

When you drank for as many reasons as I did, there was always a reason to drink - and I'm not being flippant, I mean some really hard stuff & very valid crappy situations.

The point is tho - if you want change, at some stage you need to commit to getting through that hard stuff and those crappy situations sober.

I never thought I was strong enough - but I surprised myself.

I didn't automatically gain the problem solving skills of McGyver or the wisdom of Yoda...but I definitely got better with problems as I faced them. sober

I really believe you'll surprise yourself too

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Old 01-03-2016, 05:53 PM
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Machinist,
I was USMC 91-95.
It was an adjustment for sure. Miss that brotherhood. PTSD wasn't an issue for til I got older, for whatever reason, but also I keep forgettin HOW bad some stuff was. When I remember, it makes me thankful for these days now.

Squirrel I hear the " I need you" , and getting the cold shoulder. That feeling alone crap is for the birds ! I've made 90 days before and if I can do it, I think anyone can. I'm 1 down now, and it's sucking bad, but I want live better. You can too, I believe.
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Hello all, I am from August class, and have had a couple 30 day stints since. I caved on NYE so here I am. ((((JL))) does sound like withdrawals. Hang tough man, 2016 will be so much better without this crap we do to ourselves.

Looking forward to getting to know you all!
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Old 01-03-2016, 06:36 PM
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Heya Sadie !
I'm glad to hear from you. I'm hoping 2016 is our year of success. Today was one horrible excuse filled day, but if crawlings fighting, then I'm fighting.
Hugs -
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Old 01-03-2016, 06:41 PM
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Thanks Dee,
Change is on me. The pain of staying in this spot, is too much.
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Old 01-03-2016, 07:02 PM
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Emme99 im glad the booze is gone from your house. I wouldn't cope with any in mine today.

Welcome Komplex and Sadie, nice to meet you both.

JL2014 I like that you say crawling is fighting, makes me feel better about not getting much done today . Hope you are going ok.
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Old 01-03-2016, 07:08 PM
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I would like to join this group. Today is day three and it is going ok. I am just worried once the high of quitting ends I will think I have it beat. I know this to be un-true but the damaged mind is a terrible thing. This site helps me keep focused. Thank you!!!
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Old 01-03-2016, 07:10 PM
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You made it to six weeks? I hate you now!! Just kidding. That's actually going to be a big milestone for me. I don't know what exactly just yet, but I'm going to do something special (not involving the drink of course) for myself at 6 because that will officially be the longest time since I turned 21. We can do it duuuuuuuudette!
Ha ha - well if I can do 6 weeks once I can go on from there and so can you Machinist. We all can with a plan and commitment. I am working on my health this year - which obviously involved no drinking - and also looking to get fitter and loose some weight.
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Old 01-03-2016, 07:13 PM
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Hi! I'd like to join this class. I've been hanging around SR since last April! I, too, love this site.
It's been very, very helpful and eye opening. Thanks Dee and SR for all of your help!

So I've been sober, drunk, sober, drunk all last year. My last drink was Christmas Day. Well, not really I guess cause I had a couple wines on NYE. I felt like I had to have a drink on NYs. How dumb is that! All it did was give me a terrible headache and bad buzz! But, I haven't had a drink since! Yay!

Last summer I was having health issues so I took a break and told myself drinking is out of the question. Then I drank again. Lately I've had more health issues. I'm very afraid of serious complications resulting from alcohol. This time I'm very calm. I was drinking one bottle of wine a day (most days) and worked up to almost one BIG bottle of wine a day! I felt like I was constantly throwing bottles away.... Clang, clang, clang! So tired of the anxiety, irritability, etc.

On another note, I love the talk of meditation. I'm just starting to get into that myself. I bought a book called "I Want To Change My Life" by Steve Melemis. It talks about mind-body relaxation to relieve tension (tension causes addiction, depression and anxiety). He uses the stomach breathing approach. I like the book so far.

I also bought a self-hypnosis Stop Alcohol program which I downloaded on my MP3 player. It's not great but the more I listen, the more I'm getting out of it.

Anyway, looks like a good class is forming. I'd have nine days if I hadn't had two wines on NYE. That's ok, Jan 1 will be my start day. As I said, I'm very calm and ready to do this. I've spent enough of my life drinking. I'm really enjoying these dry days. My husband has joined me too. Of course, winters are our down times. Not so much stress! It's amazing how much more I can get done sober. And I'm a high-functioning alcoholic. It's just so much better already.

Emme, good to see you. How's your mom? My aunt is doing really good. And JL hang in there. It will get better. A couple other names rejoining in January. Good to see u too! Just drawing a blank!

And hello to all the newcomers. Happy New Years to everybody.

I only work on my phone so I tend to do more reading than posting. I will try to pick up on the posting.

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Old 01-03-2016, 09:19 PM
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Hello All! I am ending my 3rd day of sobriety. It has been three years since I have strung together this many sober days. In the past 12 years, I have been sober a few days here and a few days there. My longest stretches were for 9 months at a time. For the past two years, I have drank 7-8 beers nightly, every night. I feel I drink to escape from the past, to escape from stress, to escape my anxiety and worries, and to escape from life in general. Of course, we can run but we can not hide. In the morning, my problems are there to greet me once again, and I added bigger problems to them. I have to repeat the drinking again the next night. A vicious cycle of trying to escape instead of learn to cope.

This past month, I turned 40. This was a big deal to me, when I sat down and looked at my life. Even though I was "functioning", I felt like crap most of the time. Too young to feel this old....and my lifestyle was to blame. Even though I devised ways to lessen my hangovers (don't exceed X number of drinks, eat before bed, get at least 8 hrs of sleep...) I knew I was still killing myself with this behavior, and did not feel the best that I could or function as effectively. I was also missing out on so much of my kids' lives with this nightly drinking. In addition, looking back at those 40 years, I realized most of the past mistakes I wanted to escape from was a direct result of poor decision making when drinking. The very thing I use to escape is the very thing that is causing all my problems.

Three days in, my main withdrawal symptoms have been that voice constantly giving me excuses to drink (it is the loudest between 5 and 8 pm when I typically would pop that first beer), headaches, and pounding heart/anxiety. I have been sleeping good....maybe too much.

So, here I am. Ready to cope and stop hiding. Ready to take this journey with all you other January classmates!
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Old 01-03-2016, 10:32 PM
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Hi Olivia I am really glad to hear your aunt is doing good My mom made it home the Thursday before Christmas and we are very thankful for that. She is glad to be home and a little frustrated by the nurses and physical therapists that stop by almost every day but at least she is home

I saw my life coach in November and she mentioned meditation. I will look into that book you mention as meditation is definitely something I want to look into.
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welcome no turning back, Olivia and Slyn

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Day 4 here. Feeling confident to starting my sober journey here. I would love to be able to look back in Jan 2017 and say 'wow, I've done a year!'. So many of you have done it from much worse predicaments than me, and everyone's stories are very inspirational (and frightening!).

Good luck everyone!!!
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Hi Olivia I am really glad to hear your aunt is doing good My mom made it home the Thursday before Christmas and we are very thankful for that. She is glad to be home and a little frustrated by the nurses and physical therapists that stop by almost every day but at least she is home

I saw my life coach in November and she mentioned meditation. I will look into that book you mention as meditation is definitely something I want to look into.
When I've done my longest dry runs (usually 3-5 weeks) I get up early and do some exercise and meditate. If you get a chance read this book:

Mindfulness: a practical guide to finding peace in a frantic world (Mark Williams and Danny Penman). The book comes with some guided meditations that don't take long and really help with all aspects of your life.
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Hi guys

Wow I only missed yesterday and there's loads of newcomers and posts.

I'm doing good today. First day back in work, just sorted out my new year stuff which I should have done last week. Replaced the wine I took from my mums this morning and that was the last thing I need to sort after my binge last week. I have a key to her house and I'm tempted to give it back to her so I can't do it again but then on the flip side it makes me feel like a failure. Also it worries me that if it happens again and I get desperate for booze I'll try other means like going to the shop drunk to get more. Argghhh!

I'd like to make meditation part of my routine. I'm trying to change a few things this year. Less facebook - there's nothing interesting on there anyway! More time concentrating on the now instead of distracting myself with gadgets. I'm thinking of coming in work a bit later than I used to just because I want to be less tired in the evening. I get in around 6-6.30 currently but with the kids activities and stuff after work I'm shattered by 9. I'm thinking if I sleep in a bit later then I'll be less stressed because I won't be so tired at night getting everything organised. I work for myself so it isn't like I have to make up the extra hours and being as shiote as I am hardly have any clients anyway. I spend a lot of time in the office browsing the net - another thing I want to do less of. My plan is if I find myself doing it I'll go out for a quick walk and hopefully come back in a better frame of mind. Eating healthily to help with my mental health more than anything and training for a half marathon I promised I'd do with a friend are a couple of other things.

I know I'm going to be ok for a couple of months now as I don't drink regularly anymore. My next danger time I think will be around March when Easter and a few family birthdays come up.

Have a lovely day everyone and for those struggling - stay strong!!
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I'm glad your aunt and your mom are doing ok now Olivia and Emme

Hiya Charlie & Gerd

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Originally Posted by GerdMuller View Post
When I've done my longest dry runs (usually 3-5 weeks) I get up early and do some exercise and meditate. If you get a chance read this book:

Mindfulness: a practical guide to finding peace in a frantic world (Mark Williams and Danny Penman). The book comes with some guided meditations that don't take long and really help with all aspects of your life.
I will check out this book too, thanks GerdMuller

Thanks Dee

I am excited for my day one today. I am going to try hard to make it my last Have a great day everyone.
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Welcome all.

Just wanted to post quick sharing that I just watched Lipstick and Liquor - about the growing number of women abusing alcohol. Including Julie's story - the mother who went missing while intoxicated. It's on Amazon Video for anyone who has Prime.
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