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Old 01-22-2016, 08:03 PM
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hi Jenses I think we all have those moments, and actually they are the most dangerous for me. That one small cold beer when tired and "I deserve it" or just one innocent small glass of wine over lunch with friends or one small glass of champagne to celebrate something. It all sounds so innocent and nice, even healthy.

Its never just one sip or glass is it though? It is pain, puking, near death, letting other people and yourself down etc etc etc etc etc etc etc etc etc etc. That what I have remind myself of. That not your comfortable friend talking to you - its the devil himself.
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Miss P I know you have this under control right now. However, I know from reading the boards that many could not risk socialising with drinkers (albeit normal drinkers) too often, if at all. Their fear would be that 99% of times they will be strong and capable and confident but the 100th time the booze will win, and thats all it takes. I have also seen a lot of people talk about how the relapse didn't just happen....that over days or weeks they could feel their confidence kind of gently, subtly, convincing them that maybe one drink would not hurt too much. We know where that road leads. Personally I have decided to stay away from as many drinking occasions as possible for a few months and this means not seeing some of my friends for a little while. It means far more nights with Netflix than I would like. I just think I can't afford to take the risk right now. you really are doing a great job, just don't take on more risk than you need to. You could always arrive late for the brunch to cut the session short which might mean you are less likely to see it as a drinking occasion. Anyway, just my two cents.
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Originally Posted by leasha24 View Post
I have a love/hate relationship with Friday's ... Just finished work and heading home for the weekend. Have a 45 min commute home and this is when I used to stop and get a drink for the drive home.... And I would look forward to heading home and starting drinking before going out downtown.... It just feels like I have nothing to look forward to even though I know I do.. Ugh

Day 26 for me.
Yeah, Leasha I am with you on this. Seeing the office workers having their glasses of wine and cocktails at a nice bar after work on a Friday....sounds so appealing and healthy and positive and cool......if only life was a photo and not a movie that would be great. My movie ends in me almost dying if I have those drinks.
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Hey UB - thanks for your post. I had a good think about what you said.

I am in 100% agreement that socialising with drinkers is risky. I thought carefully about accepting both social invitations, and then how and when I would tell other people I wasn't drinking. Both dinner last night and tomorrow's brunch were/are with small groups for specific reasons. Yesterday was about seeing a friend who's in town and tomorrow is about farewelling another. I'm quite the introvert as I think I've said before, and these are amongst literally a handful of social events in my diary this month.

That said, complacency can be fatal. The problem being that by definition you don't realise you could already be in trouble. I have to leave brunch early tomorrow to go to the office anyway. But I will bear in mind what you're saying here when considering future social events. I also hope I didn't give the message that we should be making an effort to start socialising where drinking is involved.

I appreciate the post, UB. We have to keep each other on our toes. Thanks for making me think through it. And good work on the compliments you're getting!
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Old 01-23-2016, 05:15 AM
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Thank you all for addressing friends and drinking. While my friends would never force drinks on me, I do feel annoyed and envious that they are buzzed and happy but I am struggling. It's so hard because I love my friends and would hate to alienate them, but I would much rather be working on my SMART or in an AA room. The other problem is that my husband does not have a drinking problem, and acts like I am punishing him when I do not want to go out with our friends. I try to encourage him to go without me but he doesn't like to / feels embarrassed explaining my absence. So either I go and be anxious / miserable, or we fight. Could use some advice here...thanks 😔
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Old 01-23-2016, 05:28 AM
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Time for a new thread guys
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...15-pt-4-a.html

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