Upward2Enlightenment

How are you doing?

Angie247

Please keep warm! Right now I'm in California and wish I could send this weather to the people suffering from the colder temps. Thank you for talking to me.

Upward2Enlightenment

Thanks. At least it's snowing, hopefully we won't get any ice.

Angie247

I hope you Won't get any ice either!! I grew up in Georgia, the southern part of the state and I never liked ice.

Angie247

Thank you so much. I don't mean to keep you up any longer than you're planning but how are you?

Upward2Enlightenment

Well, it's quarter of 3 here so I'm going to try and get some sleep.

It was nice talking to you. I hope that you have a good night, get a good night's sleep and have a great day tomorrow.

Angie247

Goodnight and thank you so much.

gleefan

Hi Angie!

I thought when I got sober that Id lose 20 lbs and cruise along in life. Boy was I wrong. I gained another 40! I stopped being able to exercise strenuously due to the physical exhaustion of early recovery, and the absolute lack of motivation to do anything outside of my basic responsibilities!! I also took up eating sweets.

I found that if I switched my concentration from staying sober to diet and exercise, I had cravings. So, I stayed focused on sobriety, and kept my compass pointed toward choices that made me feel joyful, happy, and free. I'm almost 2 years sober, and only recently started reversing the weight gain, a teeny bit at a time.

When I feel lonely, have a craving, or am bursting from the seams with stress, it's effective for me to reach out to other alcoholics. I have a list of phone numbers I can call from women at AA meetings. It's not easy for me to call people when I'm stressed -- but every time I've done it, it works!

IMO your SIL crossed the line. You can accept that's the way she is and that you can't change her, but you don't have to let her tear you down, change the content of your FB posts, prevent you from reaching out with others through social media, or feel bad about your body.

For me, from an early time in recovery I found myself pulling away from some toxic acquaintances and relationships, and turning my focus to recovery friendships while I created and practiced my new, improved, healthier boundaries.

Soberpotamus

Angie, I see I just missed you last night. Pm me anytime. I was awake for a while last night myself.

Angie247

Doing ok. Strong urges the last couple of nights but I've gotten through them without drinking. I've charged up my Fitbit again so I'm gonna try to put forth more of an effort to get more walking in everyday.

Dee74

Glad you're getting through the urges Angie

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Soberpotamus

Yay, Angie!

Angie247

Oh mercy me the craving was bad again tonight. Didn't drink. I'll sure be glad when the cravings aren't this bad every night again.

Dee74

How do you get through them Ange?

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Angie247

I just go over in my mind what will happen if I do drink. All the bad stuff that has happened to me because of drinking and also I'll go over the next day where I'll feel horribly physically, emotionally and I always have such bad regret about it the next day. Then there's the most important that my son won't have a mom who still drinks. The feelings are intense and usually always start around quitting time at work. They usually last around 30 minutes but when I was sober for 7 months, they were not nearly as long. I just need to hold on and it will get better day by day.

Angie247

I've dealt with my ex husband being a jerk today. I have been a jerk back to him before but at least I never hit him like he did to me. I had a coworker one time that I confessed that he hit me multiple times and she's like were you egging him on in a question. I want to cry so badly but it's not possible. I don't know how to get through all this but I'm gonna be a good mom and I'm not going to drink. My son is asleep. I can cry silent tears but I don't want to upset my cat. This is so hard. My son didn't see anything. It was all through texts with his dad complaining about child support and threats. It was when he was in his room. I can't ever ever have my son In the middle of anything. He loves us both. Today was a good day because we got cable because of my 50 dollars a month raise. I let go the DVDs and just have Netflix streaming. We haven't had cable for two years. I don't know how to do this but I am going to strong for my son and I'm going to do this without drinking.

Dee74

I'm sorry you had asn abusive relationsahip and I'm very glad you're out of it.
If he's still threatening you in any way by text keep the texts Ange.

He's not justified to do whatever he wanted simply because you used to be a drinker.

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Upward2Enlightenment

I too am sorry that you were in an abusive relationship angie, a long time ago my stepsister was in one and to this day I regret not doing anything.
As to the coworker, they were wrong to suggest that it might be your fault.

As Dee said, if he's threatening you, keep those texts.

Best wishes.

Angie247

Thank you so much. He is threatening to take away child support and start taking our son two extra days which he can't legally. I'm talking to my lawyer that I had and I sent him screenshots of the texts. I won't be bullied by him and I don't want this to affect my sweet son.

Angie247

You can go through a very stressful day and not drink. I didn't drink through all of this and I'm so happy.