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Dee74 12-18-2015 04:39 PM

Class of November 2015 Part 7
 
last part here:

http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...rt-6-a-20.html

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ultradad 12-18-2015 04:43 PM

Don't listen to the lies Blackbird!

Fabat, you ROCK! Glad you didn't taste and spit : ) Crazy the things the AV will try and convince us to do!!!

Supertired 12-18-2015 05:15 PM

Hey all.
Happy Friday!
Been struggling this week a bit. Nicotine withdrawls are alcohol craving triggers for me apparently. Touch and go a bit, but successfully navigated thus far . Kept some nicotine gum on Hand just in case I'm about to snap but I'm not keen on using it and frankly just want to be done entirely with trying to regulate my moods etc by using ANYTHING.
Don't want to ruin my three hangover less weeks. The more days that add up the more I feel I have to lose by slipping. This is a good thing I think.. Whatever, it's working.
Feeling optomistic however a bit isolated.. It's just really hard to be out in the world right now .. Just gonna go about my business as best I can until things level out I guess.
Be well everyone! And I really hope everyone has a great Christmas week.

CristinaN 12-18-2015 05:30 PM

Oh BBF. I'm so sorry. :(. That's so hurtful

GoldenSands 12-18-2015 05:32 PM

Hey guys, haven't checked in for awhile! But saw a quote just now that I wanted to share here.

Healing doesn't mean the damage never existed. It means the damage no longer controls our lives.

Autumnlover19 12-18-2015 06:11 PM

I'm having headaches too. Skipped my work party. Not because of alcohol but didn't want to go without my OH, who is traveling back from his father's funeral.

I spent the day cleaning and hanging out with my little guy. I did have some fleeting thoughts of drinking...day off, nothing to do really, winter storm going on outside, cozy in my home. Why would alcohol make this better?? That's my AV for you!

Thanks everyone for this group. You are all great. I read all your posts and have many of the same feelings...depression, indecision, anger. This too shall pass.

bblackbirdflyy 12-18-2015 06:55 PM


Originally Posted by CristinaN (Post 5696496)
Oh BBF. I'm so sorry. :(. That's so hurtful

He wasn't being malicious. He just doesn't get it... the struggle of the addiction. As I defend him, I realize it was hurtful, even though he meant no harm. Find myself choked up a bit... Guess it's up to me too prove that I wont. :)

I was close to drinking today. As patricia said we need to be kind to ourselves. I have been down on myself all day... feeding frenzy for AV. I think I'm overwhelmed. I want so badly to be a better person but I'm stuck... running in place.

I work overnight, full time. I go to nursing school during the day full-time. Have a large family to take care of (two kids are mine, two are his) I've just volunteered (volunteered! I must be crazy) to host my extended family's Christmas in my small house so that my cousin's could attend. They are at the hospital in my hometown, as they've had premature twins a couple weeks ago. It was a high risk pregnamcy so they had to deliver in the larger city. Everyone else lives farther away. Our house is in no shape for company. It will be a lot of work. Sigh.

I've locked myself in the bathroom to post this... and fold laundry in peace.

♡bbf

SoberMarathon 12-18-2015 07:43 PM

Sober Friday night #4...it gets a little more 'normal' every week...

Closing out day 26. Will catch up on some posts and check back with everyone...

Peace everyone...

ultradad 12-18-2015 07:50 PM

I do know one thing and that is no matter what we're going through right now in our lives, taking that first drink will in no way make it better and more likely than not, it will only make the situation worse.

Goodnight, see you in the morning!

SwimKim12 12-18-2015 08:02 PM

Hey guys. Just finished at the retirement party. Didn't want to drink but for the first time got kind of harassed about it. It was annoying. I almost wanted to just yell at them I don't drink bc I'm an alcoholic!! Do you think it would be a good idea for me to drink??!! Phew. Just venting here. The party was fun it was just that instance. Glad everyone is hanging in there okay. I've got to do a little bit of Xmas shopping tonight but it's okay. Take care everyone!

canguy 12-18-2015 08:26 PM

Incredibly hot afternoon here....mid thirties. Tired, on my own, hacking away cleaning parts in workshop.....yeah, I could go buy beer right now.... easily just disappear into the afternoon.....just keep telling myself that its only the first couple that are good....then its all downhill from there.....I know all the cues are lining up.......just keep trying to think it ahead, not just the next 3 or 4 hours.....

One of those weekend moments......just have to ride it out, made a bit worse by the holiday buzz, weather etc etc.....

paul37 12-18-2015 08:33 PM

Day 21 now, so happy!

KiKi0615 12-18-2015 08:48 PM

Hi guys!
 
Just checking in! I hope everyone had a great day!!! I need to catch up on the posts!

patricia68 12-18-2015 08:51 PM


Originally Posted by canguy (Post 5696672)
Incredibly hot afternoon here....mid thirties. Tired, on my own, hacking away cleaning parts in workshop.....yeah, I could go buy beer right now.... easily just disappear into the afternoon.....just keep telling myself that its only the first couple that are good....then its all downhill from there.....I know all the cues are lining up.......just keep trying to think it ahead, not just the next 3 or 4 hours.....

One of those weekend moments......just have to ride it out, made a bit worse by the holiday buzz, weather etc etc.....

Summer afternoons are a huge trigger. Keep thinking about tomorrow. You don't want the hangover, the anxiety, the guilt. Do you have a favourite non-alcoholic drink that you can enjoy instead?

canguy 12-18-2015 09:10 PM

Fanged half a tub of greek yoghurt.....cold, creamy.....filling. Got plenty of cold soda water......I'll go sweat it out

Dee74 12-18-2015 09:41 PM

It's hot here too canguy - ice cold soda water does the trick :)

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SwimKim12 12-18-2015 10:31 PM

Canguy, glad you made it through the afternoon :) I think it just takes a little time for our brain to re-wire itself so that hot afternoon doesn't equal cold beer.

Blackbird, you sound very overwhelmed! That is a lot for one person to take on. Make sure to carve out a little time for yourself everyday. Even just to stop for a few minutes and take a few deep breathes and tell yourself you are doing a good job. Because you are :)

Paul, congratulations on three weeks! :)

Ultradad, SM, Christina, Goldensands, Kiki, Jemma, Supertired and Patricia have a great night! Way to make through another sober Friday :) Enjoy that hangover-free Saturday morning!

enfinthechange 12-19-2015 02:07 AM

Well I didn't drink, we talked a lot. I am very confused, very sad and full of remorse and shame again... I have really broken my husband and marriage by being an idiot. He is so hurt. .. I still couldn't explain properly how I felt... but it was a start. Maybe ... didn't drink over it.is could see that was not the answer!

enfinthechange 12-19-2015 02:09 AM

I also feel likening have a hangover. .. bad head and groggy as a bin bag..... urghhhh. .

Dee74 12-19-2015 02:45 AM

It's still very recent for you both enfin - and they were obviously some issues before then...

this is going to take a little time, patience and faith, I think?

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