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Old 12-19-2015, 04:34 AM
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Good Saturday morning all. Woke up at 6:00am feeling pretty good. Now I'm having my coffee by the fire with my 7 year old.

Good job everyone for getting through Friday!!!

BBF I second what swimkim said. Take some time for yourself each day. It's so important!!

Enfin you're doing great! Marriage is hard work. Great job staying sober through this.

Supertired, Jemma, Ultra, SoberMarathon, swimkim, Kiki, can guy, Paul, Patricia way to make it to the weekend!!! Keep it up. (Sorry if I forgot anyone. I'm on my phone)

I'll check in later.
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Old 12-19-2015, 04:45 AM
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Good morning...Cristina - we must be synced! I'm also up at 6am having my coffee, but my 7yr old (and 4yr old) are still out cold.

Feels surreal at times to have the whole weekend in front of me without being hungover or thinking about the drink. Almost too many possibilities with respect to things I could do today as a result of being sober. Still I prefer to lounge for a bit until the sun comes up and it warms up a bit at least.

My only real struggles so far are when people are drinking socially in front of me. Also, I find myself cringing (spelling?) when people say things like 'I owe you a beer' or 'let's do drinks' or 'did you hear we'll be able to buy wine at the supermarket soon' or 'you should go here they have the best craft beer selection'. I guess these things will bother me less as time goes on but all still a little too fresh for me.

My therapist told me that the first year of sobriety is a bit like the first year after someone close to you dies. There's a year of birthdays, anniversaries, Christmas, summer holidays - all of which you need to get used to being without that person or in our case, alcohol. If that's the case, I won't underestimate that this could be a really tough 12 months but I'm ready for it.

Look forward to reading your posts today everyone. I know I don't always comment much but I do get a lot from reading about your experiences as I hope you do mine!!
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Oh wow did did know I had my own November 2015 group. Just made it in, stop drinking November 30th....have 20 days....yeah! ok carry on...lets do this..
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Old 12-19-2015, 05:30 AM
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Welcome Soonerman. This is a great group.
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Old 12-19-2015, 05:52 AM
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SoberMarathon, this is brilliant and sooo true!!!
"My therapist told me that the first year of sobriety is a bit like the first year after someone close to you dies. There's a year of birthdays, anniversaries, Christmas, summer holidays - all of which you need to get used to being without that person or in our case, alcohol. If that's the case, I won't underestimate that this could be a really tough 12 months but I'm ready for it."

Welcome soonerman!

So made it through the night and enjoying my cup of coffee as well, feels good to wake up sober and not have a hangover and actually remember the night before! We made plans for today and tonight, plans that my drinking would destroy so I think I'm okay, plus...the quote from SM really spoke to me, it's so freaking true. I told my wife last night that I think the problem I'm having right now is that deep down I really don't want to stop drinking, what I want is to drink without negative consequences and this is just never going to happen for me. I have to make up my mind that sobriety is what I truly want and desire more than anything else and then the process will become easier. Until then I'm just biding my time and playing with fire! I hope I'm getting to that point...like you Canguy the weather, be it cold or hot, is always a trigger for me and yes, the cravings are there this morning, but I'm being proactive this weekend instead of just blindly ignoring reality and giving in to the AV.

Enfin, really heartbroken for you! My wife and I wen't through a similar situation and it took a long time for trust and healing to come, but it did...dare I say, our marriage is actually stronger due to the journey. Hang in there and above all...start the trust building process by showing you can keep your self promises by staying sober!

SM, Canguy, BBF. Supertired, Jemma, Enfin, SoberMarathon, Cristina, swimkim, Kiki, Paul, Dee, Patricia and soonerman and everyone else I hope you all have a blessed and sober day!
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Hey Guys, Ive been quiet for a while. I was sober for the most part until this week. I relapsed earlier this week and have been continuing all week. Im so lucky to not have gotten into trouble because I know me drinking can be dangerous. Im ready to start over and would like to stay in this class if you guys dont mind.
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Old 12-19-2015, 07:02 AM
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Originally Posted by FaithfulAndFree View Post
Hey Guys, Ive been quiet for a while. I was sober for the most part until this week. I relapsed earlier this week and have been continuing all week. Im so lucky to not have gotten into trouble because I know me drinking can be dangerous. Im ready to start over and would like to stay in this class if you guys dont mind.


Please stay. Glad you're back.
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Old 12-19-2015, 07:56 AM
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Originally Posted by FaithfulAndFree View Post
Hey Guys, Ive been quiet for a while. I was sober for the most part until this week. I relapsed earlier this week and have been continuing all week. Im so lucky to not have gotten into trouble because I know me drinking can be dangerous. Im ready to start over and would like to stay in this class if you guys dont mind.
Of course stay. Keep moving forward! Glad you posted and it only lasted a week
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Old 12-19-2015, 07:59 AM
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Relaxing by the fire sounds fantastic, Christina!

Ultradad, you have a great sober day too.

Enfin you are so strong to go through all of this so early in sobriety. It can only improve from here.

Hi sooner! Welcome

Swimkim, thank you. I took a bath last night... needed to just remove myself. I put myself at odds with the SO. Hed ask what was wrong, I'd respond with an irritated "Nothing". :/ what was wrong, I was fighting AV all day.
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Have I told you lately that I love you (class of November)
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Love you too, Supertired

Welcome Soonerman! And welcome back Faithful I'm glad that nothing bad happened. What can you do differently this time around?

Canguy, last night after I posted I realized I wished everyone a happy Saturday morning but you were close to Sunday morning - sorry! So I hope you are enjoying a hangover-free Sunday morning (I hope my timezone estimates aren't too far off!)

I've got a lot to do today: gym, packing, haircut, driving to my friends' for a party (2 hrs away), then party! Looking forward to it. No desire to drink. But I've got to get going! I hope you guys have a good day. Thank you for being here.
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Hi all! I hope everyone's doing well. Still here, just not posting as faithfully as I should
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Originally Posted by FaithfulAndFree View Post
Hey Guys, Ive been quiet for a while. I was sober for the most part until this week. I relapsed earlier this week and have been continuing all week. Im so lucky to not have gotten into trouble because I know me drinking can be dangerous. Im ready to start over and would like to stay in this class if you guys dont mind.
Glad you're here and please stay!!! Have you been able to stop for 24 hours yet? I hope so, I know that first sober day can be hard. We're here for you!
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I slipped up last night. I didn't get drunk, I am not hungover, I did not do anything stupid. So that's all on the plus side.

I dunno, I was so exhausted after work this week...not physically exhausted, but mentally exhausted. I had some frustrating days struggling with the new financial system that is to be in place by January 1st. Which is probably not going to happen. I have 3 working days until Xmas break and I don't think that is going to be enough time. I cant believe that this system does not have a manual, or a webinar, or even a help function...WTF? I am reliant on a very very busy man in the IT department across the country to help out. It's frustrating to have to wait for this man to find time to call me so I can ask a simple question that could easily be answered with a FAQ section.

The wine did nothing for me. I don't feel guilty, or ashamed really. I feel just mostly disappointed. I blew my 30 some days on nothing. I could have just as easily came home and drank tea, but I didnt.

Although, I was reminded of the crap sleep I get when I drink. I woke up at 1am, with heartburn and feeling a little shaky. I really detest that shaky feeling. I woke up SO thirsty several times....and no amount of water seems to make it go away. I had to get up and refill my water bottles, take something for the heartburn, and something for the anxiety I get from the shaky feeling. So I slept later than normal this morning and have accomplished nothing so far today.

So ok. Wine is not my friend. That's settled. I am sitting here wondering what exactly I did get out of it 30 some days ago? Cause all I got out of it last night was a crap sleep, dehydration, heartburn and the need to use one of my anxiety meds.
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Hi guys! Coming back around...fell into the same cycle...thought I could moderate. Did ok for a while but overdid it last night. Ugh!! Back to day 1 for me. Hope you are all doing well.
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Enfin, really heartbroken for you! My wife and I wen't through a similar situation and it took a long time for trust and healing to come, but it did...dare I say, our marriage is actually stronger due to the journey. Hang in there and above all...start the trust building process by showing you can keep your self promises by staying sober...

Thanks for sharing that... it means a.lot... I hope we have reached the bottom and can build up... I am keeping sober.

Today I was served prosecco at lunch but didn't pick up! I need to stay sober... I too am grieving for the loss of my buddy booze... but he was a crap friend really huh! X
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Originally Posted by bblackbirdflyy View Post
Relaxing by the fire sounds fantastic, Christina!

Ultradad, you have a great sober day too.

Enfin you are so strong to go through all of this so early in sobriety. It can only improve from here.

Hi sooner! Welcome

Swimkim, thank you. I took a bath last night... needed to just remove myself. I put myself at odds with the SO. Hed ask what was wrong, I'd respond with an irritated "Nothing". :/ what was wrong, I was fighting AV all day.
Thanks indeed... I want to make me better so I can make everything else better!!! Keep at it.. drink tea!!!!
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Today's hilarious alcohol gifts. ... a 3 pack of cocktail baubles. ...12 bottles of real ale from a good friend... 3 bottles of craft lager...AND served a glass of prosecco at lunch. Jeez.... it's like the world is a against my efforts! !!

However viewed positively, I now have plenty of gifts for over people. .
Cheeky I know....hahahah

I felt nothing when given these. Just didn't want to. Unusually. ... normally when give up I am so angry I can't drink. Eventually I crack. But now I don't care..... dare I hope this time it might work

Every anniversary of alcohol I can cross off like that bereavement. ..Bring it on!!!!

It's down to you guys.... thanks..so much!!!!
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