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Old 12-24-2015, 06:55 PM
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I think I'm overtired and a bit emotional. I miss my dad and my friends. My husband has been complaining about every silly little thing all day. And my boy had too much sugar.

Drinking won't solve anything. I just have to be strong. Drinking lots of herbal tea tonight.
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Old 12-24-2015, 07:12 PM
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Happy Christmas Eve everyone!!

Had a great day here in the mid-south. We went and saw the new Star Wars...was excellent, both kids made it through the whole film, thankfully.

Weird not drinking on these holidays. Just trying to get used to not having it around and in hand seems so foreign. Not craving it, just miss it a bit, if that makes any sense.

Sounds like everyone else is managing, despite life's challenges. Hang in there to anyone struggling, we're in this together and will get through it!! Waking up sober and headache free on Christmas morning will be totally worth it. Have spent so many Christmases drunk that I can't count them. My parents used to start us with Baileys in the coffee, mimosa's with breakfast, and then just cruise on beers the rest of the day, switch to wine at dinner, then some cognac...you get the picture.

Time to start some new traditions in this family!
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Old 12-24-2015, 07:27 PM
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Happy Christmas Eve everyone!!

Had a great day here in the mid-south. We went and saw the new Star Wars...was excellent, both kids made it through the whole film, thankfully.

Weird not drinking on these holidays. Just trying to get used to not having it around and in hand seems so foreign. Not craving it, just miss it a bit, if that makes any sense.

Sounds like everyone else is managing, despite life's challenges. Hang in there to anyone struggling, we're in this together and will get through it!! Waking up sober and headache free on Christmas morning will be totally worth it. Have spent so many Christmases drunk that I can't count them. My parents used to start us with Baileys in the coffee, mimosa's with breakfast, and then just cruise on beers the rest of the day, switch to wine at dinner, then some cognac...you get the picture.

Time to start some new traditions in this family!
Ahhhhh YES! New traditions, love it and excellent idea!!!

We're actually planning to let the kids open presents in the morning and then go hiking/camping for two days...new tradition possibly : ) Feels strange but surprisingly right to be sober this Christmas!

My kids are all jacked up on sugar too Patricia!
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Old 12-24-2015, 07:34 PM
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I'm exhausted... prepping for the celebrations. Merry Christmas all. Read posts now zzzzzzz
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Old 12-24-2015, 09:37 PM
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Hi! I literally just got back home and it's past midnight on Christmas Eve (so it's Christmas!) We were with family all day then went to the late mass at church. I'm exhausted! I had horrible cell service where we were today so I couldn't really read and post much here on SR. I'm doing well though...not great but still sober & hanging in there!

Canguy, are you ok? Why is it such a bad day? Come back here & tell us what's going on so we can help. I will pray for you tonight.

Merry Christmas everyone!
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Old 12-24-2015, 11:02 PM
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Hi, All. Headed to bed. Glad everyone made it through okay (and congrats to those who had a good day! I'm glad you did!). I felt much better this evening. Still a little irritable but not much else. Tomorrow we're going to my aunt's house. Luckily none of the family I'll be with tomorrow drinks (someone may have one glass with lunch - that doesn't count in my book!) so I'll be in a safe place. I'm grateful for that. I'm also grateful for a roof over my head and for a loving family and you all, my sober team. Merry Christmas!
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Old 12-24-2015, 11:51 PM
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Christmas is just too many ghosts... 5 years ago I was nervously awaiting a little baby boy, he was stillborn at 38 weeks.
Your life can change totally in just a few hours. A year later on Christmas day we're sitting in an airport departure lounge, she turns and says " I'm going to change my name". Divorce...

Every Christmas since it returns to haunt me....guilt, you wonder all the time what he would have been like....would be nearly five now. Would he have been a happy little guy?....tearing open his presents. Stillbirth is so strange....to the world around you it just never happened after a few months. She moved on fast, its all just wiped, gone, never happened. All that 'family' I had just instantly evaporated. All good christians.....dead baby is god's verdict. We puzzled over how anyone could accept a god that denied a child a life to punish the parents.

So Christmas is a sh*t day....I guess someone will tell me that drinking doesn't make it any better. But actually it does. Just for a while.
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Old 12-25-2015, 12:17 AM
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I'm sorry canguy. That must be terrible.

What I think is more terrible tho is you reliving it year after year...and that's what you're doing with drinking...

you're not dealing with that loss or processing those emotions and old wounds, you're simply pushing them to the side for maybe a little while.

You're not making anything better.

The more years you do that the harder it is to get any respite at all.

If it takes counselling to help you really get to grips with your loss and deal with it, then I'd do it.

It's got to be better than throwing booze at the pain and hopping you get some respite.

The most obscene thing about the AV is it will take genuine grief - and reduce it it into just another reason to drink.

That's disgusting - and I hope you agree with me, canguy.

I hope you can make this the last Xmas your AV gets to gorge itself on your pain.

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Sorry to hear that Canguy that must be awful to deal with and such a time to be reminded of it each year.

Ultradad you and me sound like peas in a pod - same goes with the binging to oblivion and the change that the wife doesn't like - I'm a much better person sober and clean and altho my wife like yours enjoys the company of me for a few hates what I turn into - no room for moderation / responsible drinking for us fella - no matter how much we want to its never ever gonna happen long term, I've accepted that and sounds like you have too.
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Merry Christmas from the UK!

This time last year I was already half pissed. This year I'm on day 51...

Lots of love, SV Xxx
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Old 12-25-2015, 03:21 AM
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Christmas is just too many ghosts... 5 years ago I was nervously awaiting a little baby boy, he was stillborn at 38 weeks.
Your life can change totally in just a few hours. A year later on Christmas day we're sitting in an airport departure lounge, she turns and says " I'm going to change my name". Divorce...

Every Christmas since it returns to haunt me....guilt, you wonder all the time what he would have been like....would be nearly five now. Would he have been a happy little guy?....tearing open his presents. Stillbirth is so strange....to the world around you it just never happened after a few months. She moved on fast, its all just wiped, gone, never happened. All that 'family' I had just instantly evaporated. All good christians.....dead baby is god's verdict. We puzzled over how anyone could accept a god that denied a child a life to punish the parents.

So Christmas is a sh*t day....I guess someone will tell me that drinking doesn't make it any better. But actually it does. Just for a while.
Im so sorry Canguy. That is heartbreaking and the pain you must feel is mind boggling. There isn't much that I can say, but know that my heart goes out to you and my prayers are with you.
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Christmas is just too many ghosts... 5 years ago I was nervously awaiting a little baby boy, he was stillborn at 38 weeks.
Your life can change totally in just a few hours. A year later on Christmas day we're sitting in an airport departure lounge, she turns and says " I'm going to change my name". Divorce...

Every Christmas since it returns to haunt me....guilt, you wonder all the time what he would have been like....would be nearly five now. Would he have been a happy little guy?....tearing open his presents. Stillbirth is so strange....to the world around you it just never happened after a few months. She moved on fast, its all just wiped, gone, never happened. All that 'family' I had just instantly evaporated. All good christians.....dead baby is god's verdict. We puzzled over how anyone could accept a god that denied a child a life to punish the parents.

So Christmas is a sh*t day....I guess someone will tell me that drinking doesn't make it any better. But actually it does. Just for a while.
Really sorry to hear that Canguy, that's really grim.

Easy for me to say but you can't rewrite those things but you can determine your future. Drinking won't be conducive to a happier future.
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Good morning all! Grateful to be waking up this morning not hungover! Another day of holiday cheer with my family (and my ex). My current husband is a saint!
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Good morning beautiful people! Not much sleep, guess that's what I get for drinking coffee at 7pm : ) But, I'm awake, sober, not hungover, I remember everything from last night and feel wonderful...very grateful!

Canguy, I feel you brother, drinking does seem to make it better for a moment, but I second everything Dee says...we need to find better coping skills other than alcohol. So sorry for your loss and couldn't imagine the pain. Just know there's no judgment here, in my opinion we're all just trying to make it through today. I could be drunk by sundown, I hope not, but I could...that's the disease. I hope today's a better day and you can move forward in your life and find that inner peace you so desperately need. Love you, man!
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Good morning everyone. Merry Christmas

John 3:16
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Hey canguy, I'm sorry your hurting.
I lost a parent around Christmas and I know how it feels to dread to season . Such an emotional time . You're worth forgiving yourself of the guilt and shame . You do not deserve those hurtful feelings.

Sending out all the love to you guys
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Merry Christmas SoberTeam!!!(we need a name).

Its hard to think of words,when life can be one big kick in the nuts.....but hang in there Canguy....the dark skies will give way.

Yesterday was the hardest day since the first week....this nut almost cracked a few times.Everything seemed so mundane but maybe there is serenity in there too.

If i get....I mean WHEN WE get thru today WE WILL BE STRONGER!!!!
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Getting ready to hit the road and then the trail! Be off the grid for next couple of days! Be safe and sober everyone!
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I am so sorry canguy. I am thinking of you. My heart hurts for you.
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Goid morning and Merry Christmas!
I hope you're feeling better Canguy!
Ultra-have a safe and fun trip. We will miss ya!
Everybody have fun and hang tough!
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