Class of December 2015 Pt 2
Hey BraCh. I remember u. I've been an on and off again class member of a few. Including this one but a on Day 2. I too have lost jobs including one I really liked (recent) I don't know how I was ever able to handle work hungover almost daily with out a problem but nowadays it's simply no joke. Binge drinking once or twice a month needs to stop. My body can't handle it anymore. I really gotta get serious. I don't know what that involves but I definitely need a plan. It's very comforting to be able to come to SR at times your world seems to be crumbling. Thank u all. And happy Sober Sunday.
Lots of great successes happening in this here thread!
Thanks a lot ubntubnt, yes I've been hear before also, with some sober time but after a period of time, I'd lost my firm resolution and motivation to remain sober. After time I crumbled. This time around I feel like remaining sober is the one essential thing in my life, I really need it if I want to live past 40 and have any sort of happy life in the meantime. I hope after how bad things have got that it will remain firmly embedded in my mind that sobriety/recovery is my number 1 priority. That said the alcoholic mind is mighty tricky and deceptive so I plan on posting here daily and attending AA meetings a few times a week to maintain momentum! :-)
I had such a great few days over Christmas and wasn't tempted to drink; I did have a few moments feeling a little uneasy and anxious being around people drinking, but it soon passed and I avoided it mostly. If I find myself getting anxious or even excitable I always take a step back to relax, meditate and bring my mind back to being more calm. I make much wiser decisions when I'm calm and balanced!
Have a great sober day guys, all the best!
Thanks a lot ubntubnt, yes I've been hear before also, with some sober time but after a period of time, I'd lost my firm resolution and motivation to remain sober. After time I crumbled. This time around I feel like remaining sober is the one essential thing in my life, I really need it if I want to live past 40 and have any sort of happy life in the meantime. I hope after how bad things have got that it will remain firmly embedded in my mind that sobriety/recovery is my number 1 priority. That said the alcoholic mind is mighty tricky and deceptive so I plan on posting here daily and attending AA meetings a few times a week to maintain momentum! :-)
I had such a great few days over Christmas and wasn't tempted to drink; I did have a few moments feeling a little uneasy and anxious being around people drinking, but it soon passed and I avoided it mostly. If I find myself getting anxious or even excitable I always take a step back to relax, meditate and bring my mind back to being more calm. I make much wiser decisions when I'm calm and balanced!
Have a great sober day guys, all the best!
Hey cute, sorry I missed your post there! I remember you also!
Happy to hear you're giving it another go. We can both do this if we want it! Binge drinking definitely becomes more intolerable as we get older hey. It will zap the life out you eventually. My binges got more frequent, drinking more and more each time, with the consequences getting more severe... I'm sure you can relate. I'd never felt worse about myself and life, the way things had been, there's definitely a reason we'd already tried to sober up and it just keeps getting worse if we drink.
Stick with it and I'll see you in this thread soon!
Happy to hear you're giving it another go. We can both do this if we want it! Binge drinking definitely becomes more intolerable as we get older hey. It will zap the life out you eventually. My binges got more frequent, drinking more and more each time, with the consequences getting more severe... I'm sure you can relate. I'd never felt worse about myself and life, the way things had been, there's definitely a reason we'd already tried to sober up and it just keeps getting worse if we drink.
Stick with it and I'll see you in this thread soon!
Hi All, I just want to check in for Day 1. I met up with an old drinking buddy last night as she's having problems with her marriage. I matched her drink for drink but she's got a much higher tolerance than I have now. I can't believe I was so silly to think I could meet up with her and my sobriety would stay intact. I feel dreadful now, so anxious worrying if the neighbours saw me staggering home from the local pub which I went to alone after I'd finished with my friend. Panicking cos I saw someone I knew in there and that will mean my dirty little secret may be out and everyone will find out I'm an alcoholic. When does the fear go? How can I ensure that it won't overwhelm me and make me fall off the wagon again?
Hi All, I just want to check in for Day 1. I met up with an old drinking buddy last night as she's having problems with her marriage. I matched her drink for drink but she's got a much higher tolerance than I have now. I can't believe I was so silly to think I could meet up with her and my sobriety would stay intact. I feel dreadful now, so anxious worrying if the neighbours saw me staggering home from the local pub which I went to alone after I'd finished with my friend. Panicking cos I saw someone I knew in there and that will mean my dirty little secret may be out and everyone will find out I'm an alcoholic. When does the fear go? How can I ensure that it won't overwhelm me and make me fall off the wagon again?
Hang in there.
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Day 7. Feeling pretty strong even though we are having christmas dinner with my Dad tonight (huge trigger) and I found 3 of hubby's beers. I'm lucky dinner will be a short ordeal, 2 hours tops. I pray that the urge to drink will not come after dinner.
I feel it is very doable to be sober into the new year. With 7 days I feel I have a bit of my groove back from this time last year when I had months sober.
Sorry this is just babble. I just wanted to get out what was in my head. Hope you all are having a great sober Sunday! I'll be back after dinner.
I feel it is very doable to be sober into the new year. With 7 days I feel I have a bit of my groove back from this time last year when I had months sober.
Sorry this is just babble. I just wanted to get out what was in my head. Hope you all are having a great sober Sunday! I'll be back after dinner.
feeling pretty blue today, remembering all the days wasted along the way. But a drink will not help and actually I have no urge to drink. Sticking to the path. It's dark here in Maine early, so I feel that's part of the problem also. Have a lovely evening all you Dec folks and all others!!!
So sorry to hear about your evening - that is tough. I only have 3 weeks under my belt so can only comment on my limited learning and experience. Biggest thing for me is putting myself first - I am ultimately in charge of my sobriety and my healing. That means sometimes making difficult choices for the bigger win (intentionally avoiding triggers) which may seem hurtful to others at times. It may sound cruel, but friend was not concerned regarding your recovery and chose to put herself first. Perhaps something to consider is how much you value that specific relationship if there is a blatant disregard for your wellbeing. I get that she didn't chose sobriety, but there should be a conscious effort to support you by not testing your limits and putting you in a trigger situation. I know a few people in the Dec class have written about friends and drinking so hopefully they can jump in here. In the meantime, day 1 is a good place to be - fresh start and a greater understanding of your triggers which you can use going forward. Hang in there.
Here is my simple way of looking at it that has worked for me so far. If I have. A friend that I have only seen when drinking (ie we don't do non drinking things together also) then they are a drinking buddy irrespective of how close I used to think we were. They need to go, if not permanently, at least for a while. They will gravitate to other drinkers soon enough. I have told them I am "off the beer" and busy. We chat on social media.
Friends that are "normal drinkers" I continue to see but mostly doing non drinking things together (I bring the family along). I think we get a little paranoid as alcoholics and think "my god, what will they think if I say I am not drinking?" Will they know I am an alcoholic, the shame!! Actually, they don't mind, don't care. The alcoholism is in our heads and not theirs. I simply told them I want to get a bit fitter, lose some weight and that I am trying to eat clean and have dropped the booze. That's it, no further issue from them.
What I absolutely certainly will not do is meet a drinker to catch up in a bar/pub. In my opinion in this early stage of recovery that is the same as taking the first sip. That's how the AV works...."hey what's the harm in meeting X? It's just catching up, you don't have to drink, you have not seen X in months, come on!" Whatever.
Day 28 here and eyeing Friday when I will have a month behind me. Yeah!
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I just want to check in and say you guys are doing great. I was in the June class and I'm happy to say I've got 200+ days under my belt by now. What you're doing is hard, but possible. The first month was difficult, but I can say life becomes normal. I am absolutely certain that I've had far fewer problems and difficulties since giving it up.
Best wishes to everyone, don't let life get you down. You can do it!
Best wishes to everyone, don't let life get you down. You can do it!
Finishing up day two. Made a big pot of healthy food to keep me going for the next few days of being busy with work - I know it will help to have it prepared. I will eat a good lunch at work from it, and have it easy to warm up when I get home from work. It was always to easy to just be starving by the time I finished work from not eating properly during the day, and thinking about how there was nothing 'easy' to eat for dinner, so I would just stop at the liquor store on the way home. A nice full stomach from a good meal always keeps me away from the booze, so I will really work on having lots of good healthy meals around. Plus some chocolate of course!
Thanks for being here!
Thanks for being here!
I just want to check in and say you guys are doing great. I was in the June class and I'm happy to say I've got 200+ days under my belt by now. What you're doing is hard, but possible. The first month was difficult, but I can say life becomes normal. I am absolutely certain that I've had far fewer problems and difficulties since giving it up. Best wishes to everyone, don't let life get you down. You can do it!
Finishing up day two. Made a big pot of healthy food to keep me going for the next few days of being busy with work - I know it will help to have it prepared. I will eat a good lunch at work from it, and have it easy to warm up when I get home from work. It was always to easy to just be starving by the time I finished work from not eating properly during the day, and thinking about how there was nothing 'easy' to eat for dinner, so I would just stop at the liquor store on the way home. A nice full stomach from a good meal always keeps me away from the booze, so I will really work on having lots of good healthy meals around. Plus some chocolate of course! Thanks for being here!
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I have been a pathological relapser. I dont know what to do. I feel helpless. I have joined plenty of classes here on SR. Im hoping and praying that this is my last join. Im feeling pretty helpless and worthless right now. The only thing that I know is that I will not stop attempting to rid myself of this disease. Joining you guys in this journey.
I have been a pathological relapser. I dont know what to do. I feel helpless. I have joined plenty of classes here on SR. Im hoping and praying that this is my last join. Im feeling pretty helpless and worthless right now. The only thing that I know is that I will not stop attempting to rid myself of this disease. Joining you guys in this journey.
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