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Dee74 11-29-2015 02:31 PM

Class of October 2014 Part 23
 
last part here

http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...t-22-a-20.html

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BrighterDayz 11-29-2015 03:04 PM

Thanks for all you do Dee!

Briar 11-29-2015 03:17 PM

Thanks Dee

Mark1014 11-29-2015 04:26 PM

Hi gang.

Hard to beat Hondas as far as bang for your buck and I'm all about that. Both of my driving kids have accord coupes.

Glad the turkey turned out well Arbor. Did the brine help it stay more moist?

A bit road weary here but content to have gotten home. Traffic was heavy but nothing like you dealt with BD.

Looks as though you're beginning to pull things together for your big day Conquest. Good stuff.

Phoebe, do your kiddos dread the return to school as much as mine? But another break for them in just about three weeks so I don't feel too bad for them!

Dee74 11-29-2015 04:44 PM

no worries guys :wave:

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Arbor 11-29-2015 05:58 PM

Yeah Mark. A LOT more moist and flavorful. I'd do it again.

How ya doin Vee?

Hey Briar. How was your holiday weekend?

venuscat 11-29-2015 06:16 PM

I'm OK....just frustrated. I was so fit, and now my body is a mess. :(
Working on it, just need to be patient, and I'm not today.

phoebe64 11-29-2015 07:29 PM

I am headed to be early gang. Feel like a bug may be coming on. :( Hope not...

Sorry you are still not well, V. I hope you mend. Are you still recovering from your surgery? That sort of thing can take time.

venuscat 11-29-2015 08:06 PM

I'm not unwell phoebes...just a mess. Unfit and chubby. And just in time for summer! :headbange
I need to work harder to get back in shape.

Nite love. :hug:

Mark1014 11-30-2015 07:35 AM

Hi gang and happy early week to you.

While away I realized the two major ways the addictive part of my personality still tries to assert itself. Of course there is the halt scenario. I can generally take care of that by eating or physical activity. I feel that some of that may be physiological and always be with me to some degree.....but very manageable.

The other came to me as we were walking about the little festive town Saturday night and I caught glimpses of tucked away courtyards all strung with lights. Folks were making merry.....all laughs and smiles with drink in hand. A thought that kept creeping in was to feel sorry for myself about how all that was over for me. It's funny how the AV wants us to believe that. I think this is more part of my psychology and I believe I can, with a little effort, change my thought process and eviscerate that part of my AV. All of the fun is there to be had. Better memories are there to be made....that's part of the whole zip line experience for me. To prove that point to myself. It'll be a work in progress, but I know it'll be worth the effort for any of us that have that old mindset at times.

Wishing each of you the best day.....gym time!

phoebe64 11-30-2015 08:08 AM

I have a hard time with that too, Mark. Sitting at a cafe in the summer moreso than Christmas cheer. But it generally can be done with an iced tea too. Or a hot fancy coffee or tea drink, right?

How did you like the zip lining? Did I miss the report? Was it fun?

V, I understand. The story of my life, actually. Being fit and trim has been an uphill struggle for me since childhood. I am not naturally athletic by any means, and was a chubby, well, fat, child. I did grow tall and slim for several years, but that trait is hard to shake off. I've had to be mindful of my weight for my entire life. Sometimes I do better than others.

Mark1014 11-30-2015 08:58 AM

The zip line adventure was fantastic phoebe! ....on many levels it was good for me. I put a couple of pics in my 'random stuff' album on my profile page and think that I have it set so that folks on my friend list have access. Of late that's the easiest way I've found to share photos. :)

My wife has to be very careful about everything that she eats. I regret that it's such a struggle for her. Accumulation of birthdays isn't forgiving in that area either.

Yes, the same, or better, fun can be had sober......just takes a major change of mindset to sink in (for me).

Arbor 11-30-2015 10:31 AM

Hey Mark. I bet it's a bit of both AV and personality. I meet lots of people all the time that don't feel half as bad about stuff as much as I do. So that's ingrained personality that I get to deal with on the regular. I get over it eventually just can't let it ever make me feel like I can drink.

So I get like you and where your coming from. I'm tired of letting it make me feel that way and just push onward with my decision to stay sober. I know it will get better. Those people you saw are dependent on a substance to enhance their time whether it be one drink or twenty. It doesn't matter. We are better off because we know and have faith in ourselves that we can enjoy those simple life pleasures for reals.

BOOM! How's that?! :)

Arbor 11-30-2015 10:37 AM


Originally Posted by venuscat (Post 5666991)
I'm OK....just frustrated. I was so fit, and now my body is a mess. :( Working on it, just need to be patient, and I'm not today.

All in good time V. You'll get there. I believe in you. :)

Mark1014 11-30-2015 11:21 AM


Originally Posted by Arbor (Post 5667797)
Hey Mark. I bet it's a bit of both AV and personality. I meet lots of people all the time that don't feel half as bad about stuff as much as I do. So that's ingrained personality that I get to deal with on the regular. I get over it eventually just can't let it ever make me feel like I can drink.

So I get like you and where your coming from. I'm tired of letting it make me feel that way and just push onward with my decision to stay sober. I know it will get better. Those people you saw are dependent on a substance to enhance their time whether it be one drink or twenty. It doesn't matter. We are better off because we know and have faith in ourselves that we can enjoy those simple life pleasures for reals.

BOOM! How's that?! :)

^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
That, my friend, is Good Stuff. :You_Rock_

SoberLeigh 11-30-2015 11:49 AM


Originally Posted by Mark1014 (Post 5667603)
Hi gang and happy early week to you.

While away I realized the two major ways the addictive part of my personality still tries to assert itself. Of course there is the halt scenario. I can generally take care of that by eating or physical activity. I feel that some of that may be physiological and always be with me to some degree.....but very manageable.

The other came to me as we were walking about the little festive town Saturday night and I caught glimpses of tucked away courtyards all strung with lights. Folks were making merry.....all laughs and smiles with drink in hand. A thought that kept creeping in was to feel sorry for myself about how all that was over for me. It's funny how the AV wants us to believe that. I think this is more part of my psychology and I believe I can, with a little effort, change my thought process and eviscerate that part of my AV. All of the fun is there to be had. Better memories are there to be made....that's part of the whole zip line experience for me. To prove that point to myself. It'll be a work in progress, but I know it'll be worth the effort for any of us that have that old mindset at times.

Wishing each of you the best day.....gym time!

I found those little hide-a-ways problematic for a while, too, Mark. Eventually, I saw them for what they are for me - just another way to romance the alcohol. Now I can truly enjoy them and remember what's important - time with family and friends.

It's great that you are thinking through those situations and scenarios.

SoberLeigh 11-30-2015 11:53 AM

Hi, dear Octsobers.

Have a great day, all.

SoberLeigh 11-30-2015 11:55 AM


Originally Posted by venuscat (Post 5666991)
I'm OK....just frustrated. I was so fit, and now my body is a mess. :(
Working on it, just need to be patient, and I'm not today.

Patience isn't one of my virtues either, v.

SoberLeigh 11-30-2015 11:56 AM


Originally Posted by phoebe64 (Post 5667091)
I am headed to be early gang. Feel like a bug may be coming on. :( Hope not...

Sorry you are still not well, V. I hope you mend. Are you still recovering from your surgery? That sort of thing can take time.

Nasty bugs!!!! How are you feeling, phoebe?

Mark1014 11-30-2015 12:01 PM


Originally Posted by SoberLeigh (Post 5667900)
I found those little hide-a-ways problematic for a while, too, Mark. Eventually, I saw them for what they are for me - just another way to romance the alcohol. Now I can truly enjoy them and remember what's important - time with family and friends.

It's great that you are thinking through those situations and scenarios.

Thanks Leigh....I'm learning. :)


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