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Old 11-29-2015, 03:58 PM
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Congrats can guy and thumbelina, those days are racking up!!
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Old 11-29-2015, 04:00 PM
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Originally Posted by SilentCinemaFan View Post
Glad everyone is doing well thus far today. It's day 3 for me and I'm still trying to get my sleep schedule back to normal. I ended up waking up at 11:30AM today so hopefully I can stay awake the whole day and become tired tonight.
The first week was the hardest for me. 2nd week has been easier. Hope your sleeps gets normal quickly good job getting to day 3!
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Old 11-29-2015, 04:06 PM
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Hope everyone is doing okay right now!
It's the evening over here..
Ended up taking a pre dinner walk with my husband, kids and dogs, which helped my mood a lot.
Talked to my husband to double check he was okay with not buying any alcohol with our money just because of me. And he assured me he is on board. So, that's good. He has a history of alcohol abuse but hasnt seemed to have a problem with it for almost a year now and doesn't drink excessively anymore, but in pretty normal amounts. Not sure what flip switched in him.
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Old 11-29-2015, 04:16 PM
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Originally Posted by enfinthechange View Post
I probably know that too...another addiction to thrills is lurking under the alcohol I reckon. .. lets see if the 2 go hand in hand.
In fact, I know you are right. But it's an itch....
If nothing else think about how you contacting the guy again may look to your husband, enfin?

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Sunday night check in for me.
Hope you all have a safe and sober week
I've only drank twice in November , and have learned and felt a LOAD of things because of this forum, good people who are struggling, and good people who care enough to share their experiences .. What a wonderful resource..
I feel so much closer to finally making this last
So seriously , thank you thank you, and thank you agajn
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Old 11-29-2015, 04:46 PM
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We made it through the weekend. I am feeling good. Setting some goals for myself..need to lose the 10 pounds I've gained in the last year. I am going to start tracking my calorie intake and am going to recommit to waking 11,000 steps every day. One thing that bothers me is that when I look at pictures I've taken at activities or events I usually have memories that pop up about having a binge and a resulting hangover. It makes me feel bad-so many memories. I thought of an idea.... Getting a cork board or some type of board where I can display pictures going forward of events and activities enjoyed sober with no regrets. That way I can see good times and memories rather than focusing on the old ones clouded by alcohol. What do you think?
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Old 11-29-2015, 04:53 PM
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Originally Posted by rah555 View Post
We made it through the weekend. I am feeling good. Setting some goals for myself..need to lose the 10 pounds I've gained in the last year. I am going to start tracking my calorie intake and am going to recommit to waking 11,000 steps every day. One thing that bothers me is that when I look at pictures I've taken at activities or events I usually have memories that pop up about having a binge and a resulting hangover. It makes me feel bad-so many memories. I thought of an idea.... Getting a cork board or some type of board where I can display pictures going forward of events and activities enjoyed sober with no regrets. That way I can see good times and memories rather than focusing on the old ones clouded by alcohol. What do you think?
I think that's a great idea rah!! You should start with a photo of yourself right now (in the beginning of your journey) and then take one on this date a year from now to compare. You can fill the months in between with happy sober memories! :-)
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I had another argument with my husband. This time I can't blame it on the alcohol. I didn't even want to drink. He has his own struggles, maybe a midlife crisis, maybe depression...all I know is that I can't do anything to help him or make him happy...and I refuse to take the blame for his unhappiness...I refuse to accept responsibility for his resentment...am I being selfish?
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I don't think that's selfish - just being realistic Patricia
Noone can really own someone else's problems.

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Old 11-29-2015, 05:03 PM
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Hi folks. I was referred to this forum by one of my best friends who I'm super proud of having about 40 days sober now. I'm on day 5. It's been a major test, and I'm fighting dizziness, and cramps, definitely the cravings, but I just had the best night's sleep I've had in so long I can't remember, and I felt like an actual human being when I woke up this morning. I'm nervous about the days and weeks ahead, and I'm trying to take each day as it comes, setting small goals. My next is the one week mark. I can't stand the thought of looking back on my life and wondering about all the things I missed out on because I was drunk, or busy isolating myself from my loved ones so they didn't see how much I was drinking. I'm scared but I'm hopeful.
welcome rich! You'll get lots of support and advice here from people experiencing similar issues...good luck!
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I don't think that's selfish - just being realistic Patricia
Noone can really own someone else's problems.

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Thank you so much Dee. I guess I'm just looking for reassurance.

Every argument we have ends up in him pointing fingers at me and making me feel inadequate and insecure. Making me feel that I'm not doing enough to make him happy.

But we can't rely on others to be happy...or blame others for our own unhappiness...
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Old 11-29-2015, 05:24 PM
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Day 7 check-in, check-out. Still going strong in this fight but today there was a lot of back and forth with my AV. I had to constantly remind myself that my drinking hurts people, hurts myself.

My recent passing out in a hotel hallway, not knowing how I got to my room, not remembering anything beyond 9pm that night, reminds me why I can't drink. The worst part is when I have had blackouts like that, I never saw them coming. One minute I'm there, being an ass but having a good time, next minute lights out and have no recollection of what I've done, who I've met, what Ive said. This is one of the main reasons I can't drink. Even if the blackouts were only 1/30 drinking nights, they're too dangerous and would have eventually ruined my life and possibly someone else's. So that's what I do to shut down my AV and it sobers me up rather quickly.

Good Sunday night folks...keep up the fight.
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Old 11-29-2015, 05:31 PM
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Originally Posted by rah555 View Post
We made it through the weekend. I am feeling good. Setting some goals for myself..need to lose the 10 pounds I've gained in the last year. I am going to start tracking my calorie intake and am going to recommit to waking 11,000 steps every day. One thing that bothers me is that when I look at pictures I've taken at activities or events I usually have memories that pop up about having a binge and a resulting hangover. It makes me feel bad-so many memories. I thought of an idea.... Getting a cork board or some type of board where I can display pictures going forward of events and activities enjoyed sober with no regrets. That way I can see good times and memories rather than focusing on the old ones clouded by alcohol. What do you think?
I love this idea!
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Old 11-29-2015, 05:34 PM
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Originally Posted by SoberMarathon View Post
Day 7 check-in, check-out. Still going strong in this fight but today there was a lot of back and forth with my AV. I had to constantly remind myself that my drinking hurts people, hurts myself.

My recent passing out in a hotel hallway, not knowing how I got to my room, not remembering anything beyond 9pm that night, reminds me why I can't drink. The worst part is when I have had blackouts like that, I never saw them coming. One minute I'm there, being an ass but having a good time, next minute lights out and have no recollection of what I've done, who I've met, what Ive said. This is one of the main reasons I can't drink. Even if the blackouts were only 1/30 drinking nights, they're too dangerous and would have eventually ruined my life and possibly someone else's. So that's what I do to shut down my AV and it sobers me up rather quickly.

Good Sunday night folks...keep up the fight.
Exactly, me too. I would black out almost every weekend before my now 15 days sober . About 30 minutes ago I could almost taste my favorite beer IPA taste... Seriously longing for one now just for the taste, but remembering the blackouts, I just cannot go back there. It kind of hit me- wow, I will never taste another IPA again. Gets me rather panicky thinking about it. But these 15 days have been far too good to jeopardize the sobriety I'm building.
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New to the group . 2 days sober ...... let's do this!
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New to the group . 2 days sober ...... let's do this!
Welcome tater! Love the enthusiasm.
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Originally Posted by KiKi0615 View Post

I also think it takes a while for our metabolism to reset. Alcohol slows the metabolism. :-( But we WILL lose it!!!

I have a free iPhone App called RECOVERY ELEVATOR that calculates how long since my last drink, drinks not consumed, how much money I have saved and how many calories saved.

Here are the results for 13 days!!!
Sober days: 13.75
Drinks not consumed: 53
Money saved: $342.04
Calories saved: 5,248
Kiki, I am downloading this tonight! I am down 4 pounds. Don't get too excited, I've got about 54 to go.
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Made it through another day 1. Still feel like I'm fighting a fight I can't win. Really want to make it longer than a week. It's gonna be hard with the holiday season coming up and all the events that go with it. I'm way better at being sober when I can hide away from the world. Ugh. Going to bed feeling sad and broken. I feel like being sober is just another thing to add to the list of things I won't ever do. Sorry for being a downer, but it still gets me somedays. Have struggled with depression and anxiety and am on meds that help a lot, but today is just not one of the days. I was feeling so positive and all of a sudden I feel awful. I can't eat healthy enough, I can't stop drinking, I'm not good at this, I'll never be that. I just want to feel like I'm in control and I want to be the person I see myself as.
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Sneaky AV (aka POS voice in my head) said "you can drink weds and thurs this week, husband is going out of town for work." I was sooooo proud of myself for making it through the night last night only to be greeted by that ugly thought.

He was very supportive of me and my sobriety last night. I've mentioned that he doesn't care too much if I want to drink.... and he doesn't get mad at me for drinking obscene amounts. Problem is that I don't want it, I just need it... to feed the beast.

It was apparent last night that he does care that I don't want to drink. If that makes any sense. He had my back, helped me stick to my word that I'm staying sober. I'm so grateful for his love and support. He gets it now... that I am struggling with addiction and he wants to see me in a better place. This, my friends, is what love is.

I will be staying close this week. I want to give this life all I've got.
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Made it through another day 1. Still feel like I'm fighting a fight I can't win. Really want to make it longer than a week. It's gonna be hard with the holiday season coming up and all the events that go with it. I'm way better at being sober when I can hide away from the world. Ugh. Going to bed feeling sad and broken. I feel like being sober is just another thing to add to the list of things I won't ever do. Sorry for being a downer, but it still gets me somedays. Have struggled with depression and anxiety and am on meds that help a lot, but today is just not one of the days. I was feeling so positive and all of a sudden I feel awful. I can't eat healthy enough, I can't stop drinking, I'm not good at this, I'll never be that. I just want to feel like I'm in control and I want to be the person I see myself as.
We are with you strangeangel. You keep coming back, that in itself shows perseverance. Don't stop reaching for who you want to be.
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