Class of November 2015 Part 3
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Originally Posted by Healthygoals 
Just in from the movies, came here to catch up and read about so many struggling today, I'm so sorry to see those posts. Please start over, we are here for you, no judgment.
Getting ready to call it a day, hand hurts from surgery, probably need more meds that I hate.
Tomorrow is day 11!
Getting ready to call it a day, hand hurts from surgery, probably need more meds that I hate.
Tomorrow is day 11!
Congrats on day 11 tomorrow!
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Guys please do not believe that lie that this is the festive season, and 'no one can stay sober in it'.
please do not believe that some of us are doomed, and can only hope for part time sobriety.
Please do not believe the BS that you can walk away from quitting, and then pick it up again after New Years....ask me how I know that's BS.
Each and everyone of you is capable of staying sober through December and January in 2016.
You may have to toughen up your plans, you may need to look at other things to add...you may have to accept that some days won't be great...
but no one ever said you have to get through this gracefully - just get through it
Stay sober...things can, do, and will get better.
I believe in everyone of you guys - we all arrived here at various times because we wanted to stop drinking.
Please don't forget that.
Don't let your inner addict dictate terms, or lead you to agree to any kind of compromise.
You all deserve amazing things - the kinds of things that happen when we stop drinking/drugging.
D
please do not believe that some of us are doomed, and can only hope for part time sobriety.
Please do not believe the BS that you can walk away from quitting, and then pick it up again after New Years....ask me how I know that's BS.
Each and everyone of you is capable of staying sober through December and January in 2016.
You may have to toughen up your plans, you may need to look at other things to add...you may have to accept that some days won't be great...
but no one ever said you have to get through this gracefully - just get through it
Stay sober...things can, do, and will get better.
I believe in everyone of you guys - we all arrived here at various times because we wanted to stop drinking.
Please don't forget that.
Don't let your inner addict dictate terms, or lead you to agree to any kind of compromise.
You all deserve amazing things - the kinds of things that happen when we stop drinking/drugging.
D
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Originally Posted by learntofly
Good morning everybody! Thanksgiving is tomorrow. Dun dun duuunn...what is everybody planning to do to stay sober? I'm bringing cider which I will sneak into a wine glass so I (hopefully) will not have to talk about my drinking. I'm not ready to talk to my extended family about that quite yet. The majority of them are heavy drinkers, so they will probably be half in the bag before I get there and hopefully will not notice that I'm not drinking. I'm a bit worried about going, but I am committed to staying strong and sober! I have faith that we can all get through this! Have a great Thanksgiving y'all! =)
BUT...I would never drink there anyway because I wouldn't be able to drink the.way I want to. The danger zone is usually the day AFTER so I will need to ramp up my recovery on Friday for sure!
You sound very committed to your sobriety so I'm sure you do great! Happy Thanksgiving!
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Originally Posted by Neverthought
Hi Kiki.....I'm a big day 1'er here.
Thanks for that list, it's wonderful that you take the time to do that for this class. Man, am I glad I'm here.
Thanks for that list, it's wonderful that you take the time to do that for this class. Man, am I glad I'm here.
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Originally Posted by Thumbelina
Hi all. Sorry I haven’t been around and posting much. Most of the time I just don’t want to be bothering you with my issues. Although it’s been a huge help to have somewhere to check in and have that sense of belonging in a way.
I have been sober for 26 days now. Its providing to be such an emotional roller coaster, I am really struggling to cope. The realisation that I had frozen my life for so long in this stinking alcohol camouflage has hit me harder than I expected. I look at myself and all I see is that nothing has really changed over the years, the life has gone on but I have remained the same (a few wrinkles aside that is!). I knew I had to change for a very long time, but it was just so easy to pour a glass and drink over it. Ironically, I’m not even craving the drink anymore; I’m just hoping that these emotions will subside and that I will not end up in a mental institution! It really is so overwhelming. I can now clearly see just how much damage has been done and how much I had concealed by my drinking.
I have been sober for 26 days now. Its providing to be such an emotional roller coaster, I am really struggling to cope. The realisation that I had frozen my life for so long in this stinking alcohol camouflage has hit me harder than I expected. I look at myself and all I see is that nothing has really changed over the years, the life has gone on but I have remained the same (a few wrinkles aside that is!). I knew I had to change for a very long time, but it was just so easy to pour a glass and drink over it. Ironically, I’m not even craving the drink anymore; I’m just hoping that these emotions will subside and that I will not end up in a mental institution! It really is so overwhelming. I can now clearly see just how much damage has been done and how much I had concealed by my drinking.
Your emotions will subside. Hang in there and forgive yourself. It could be worse, you could be 10 years older and still drinking. You (and I) have a chance to.stop it now and make happy memories for the future. Hang on!
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My wife saw me on SR tonight and said 'you're back on there again' meaning after being off of it for many months. I need to find the strength from this place because most of those around me just won't get it.
Thanks for the firm reminder to stay sober this season D.
Thanks for the firm reminder to stay sober this season D.
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Originally Posted by badger257
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Originally Posted by Dee74
Guys please do not believe that lie that this is the festive season, and 'no one can stay sober in it'.
please do not believe that some of us are doomed, and can only hope for part time sobriety.
Please do not believe the BS that you can walk away from quitting, and then pick it up again after New Years....ask me how I know that's BS.
Each and everyone of you is capable of staying sober through December and January in 2016.
You may have to toughen up your plans, you may need to look at other things to add...you may have to accept that some days won't be great...
but no one ever said you have to get through this gracefully - just get through it
Stay sober...things can, do, and will get better.
I believe in everyone of you guys - we all arrived here at various times because we wanted to stop drinking.
Please don't forget that.
Don't let your inner addict dictate terms, or lead you to agree to any kind of compromise.
You all deserve amazing things - the kinds of things that happen when we stop drinking/drugging.
D
please do not believe that some of us are doomed, and can only hope for part time sobriety.
Please do not believe the BS that you can walk away from quitting, and then pick it up again after New Years....ask me how I know that's BS.
Each and everyone of you is capable of staying sober through December and January in 2016.
You may have to toughen up your plans, you may need to look at other things to add...you may have to accept that some days won't be great...
but no one ever said you have to get through this gracefully - just get through it
Stay sober...things can, do, and will get better.
I believe in everyone of you guys - we all arrived here at various times because we wanted to stop drinking.
Please don't forget that.
Don't let your inner addict dictate terms, or lead you to agree to any kind of compromise.
You all deserve amazing things - the kinds of things that happen when we stop drinking/drugging.
D
My point? There will never be an ideal time to stop drinking. There will always be SOMETHING. So why not just end the misery now? Drinking isn't fun anymore anyway. Right?
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Originally Posted by SoberMarathon
My wife saw me on SR tonight and said 'you're back on there again' meaning after being off of it for many months. I need to find the strength from this place because most of those around me just won't get it.
Thanks for the firm reminder to stay sober this season D.
Thanks for the firm reminder to stay sober this season D.
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Originally Posted by patricia68
I know I shouldn't believe what others think about me...I live with a husband that points fingers at me for everything that goes wrong in our lives....I am not responsible for his unhappiness...but he keeps blaming me for all my faults...like cooking...I'm not a good cook, I don't try hard enough...I'm spoiled and lazy...it's just food for crying out loud!
I am in a toxic relationship and all I can think about is I'm not good enough...because that's what I've been listening for the past 15 years...He's not happy because of me, he resents me so much...I am happy with the simple little things in life like my son drawing a silly picture or a coffee at Starbucks....I don;t even know what he wants... I asked him and he said he doesn't know...
I lived for the past 15 years with a person that started "teasing" me...now it's a full blown attack at the way I am! Do I have to feel ashamed because I can't make gravy to his standards? He asked me to move in with him and leave my life behind...and now he's complaining about my idiosyncrasies?
I'm sorry I just need a good cry and I'll come back later...
I am in a toxic relationship and all I can think about is I'm not good enough...because that's what I've been listening for the past 15 years...He's not happy because of me, he resents me so much...I am happy with the simple little things in life like my son drawing a silly picture or a coffee at Starbucks....I don;t even know what he wants... I asked him and he said he doesn't know...
I lived for the past 15 years with a person that started "teasing" me...now it's a full blown attack at the way I am! Do I have to feel ashamed because I can't make gravy to his standards? He asked me to move in with him and leave my life behind...and now he's complaining about my idiosyncrasies?
I'm sorry I just need a good cry and I'll come back later...
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Originally Posted by strangeangel
So sorry to hear that many are struggling. I am too. I'm trying not to count days, but I'm back on day 1. I think I'm going to try marking days off in my calendar that I don't drink and look at total days each month, instead of consecutive. I know we're all shooting for abstinence, and I want to as well, but this time of year is so hard and being kinder to myself might help me improve. Hugs to everyone. also, if you are not familiar with the delicious sparkly water called LaCroix, it's amazing. Read an article about a woman who beat her addictions with this miracle water. It's a tasty alternative.
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Originally Posted by SoberMarathon
My wife saw me on SR tonight and said 'you're back on there again' meaning after being off of it for many months. I need to find the strength from this place because most of those around me just won't get it.
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Originally Posted by KiKi0615
Great to hear from you Angel! Whatever works for you is awesome! I will try that LaCroix! Is it really that good?
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Thank you all for the kind words. It feels so good to have support from those who know what I feel like.
Dee had made a great point awhile back when I had another slip: ultimately ANY thought of drinking is the AV, not me. A simple drink=bad. Here's what I did wrong last night: I let myself be convinced that I wanted to drink, not my AV. I thought of coming here to post and my AV told me it wasn't even worth it because I wanted to drink and would do so anyway. Posting on SR would just make it harder! Can you believe that! Arg. But I'm back. Because I want sobriety more than anything!
Dee had made a great point awhile back when I had another slip: ultimately ANY thought of drinking is the AV, not me. A simple drink=bad. Here's what I did wrong last night: I let myself be convinced that I wanted to drink, not my AV. I thought of coming here to post and my AV told me it wasn't even worth it because I wanted to drink and would do so anyway. Posting on SR would just make it harder! Can you believe that! Arg. But I'm back. Because I want sobriety more than anything!
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Originally Posted by SoberMarathon
In some ways I feel like quitting the quitting cycle and just 'embrace it' as someone once told me...but I know that attitude will eventually lead to disaster, I'll lose it all...
Only leads to dark and sad places with no friends or fond memories.
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End of Day 3
AV was tempting me - even had a friend change his family plans to have a drink with me after work and I had to disappoint him . . . so glad I did and now I am looking forward to Turkey Day with a clear conscience.
We can do this - to those who are restarting or having struggles - it will be worth it.
We can do this - to those who are restarting or having struggles - it will be worth it.
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Evenin all....
A lot to read here, a busy day. Swim Kim, Patricia, glad to see your still here, same to you strange angel. Understand it must be a difficult time for a lot of you right now.
HALT...is something I see here often. H and A not too much of a problem for me but L and T very much part of the scenery. Sleep still not so good...today at work with sore watering prickling eyes, frustrating work. Tired, even the relentless wind grated. Just the moment to drink, just drift off for a few hours.
But drinking is like filling yourself with a tide of alcohol.....like all tides it eventually turns and recedes leaving you stranded and stuck again. So i'll just sit it out, do the usual and look forward to tomorrow.
Just cold, tired and generally blahhed. It'll pass.....
Hope you guys have a good evening....
A lot to read here, a busy day. Swim Kim, Patricia, glad to see your still here, same to you strange angel. Understand it must be a difficult time for a lot of you right now.
HALT...is something I see here often. H and A not too much of a problem for me but L and T very much part of the scenery. Sleep still not so good...today at work with sore watering prickling eyes, frustrating work. Tired, even the relentless wind grated. Just the moment to drink, just drift off for a few hours.
But drinking is like filling yourself with a tide of alcohol.....like all tides it eventually turns and recedes leaving you stranded and stuck again. So i'll just sit it out, do the usual and look forward to tomorrow.
Just cold, tired and generally blahhed. It'll pass.....
Hope you guys have a good evening....
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