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Old 11-28-2015, 06:36 AM
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Morning lovelies! Hope everyone has a good Saturday! Nothing new to report. Emotions finally giving me a break so I'm taking it in while I can. ((Hug))!
Congrats Bob!
Happy birthday Key you are awesome happy birthday to you XO


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Old 11-28-2015, 07:11 AM
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Old 11-28-2015, 07:12 AM
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Old 11-28-2015, 07:18 AM
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Well guys, I've been slightly concerned on my (half) sisters drinking for a little while, (our other sister is a full blown alcoholic/rehab many times). But this one has got a fiancÚ, relatively ok life (minus her Mum now)....but yeah, there's been episodes (none I've seen), where she's said silly things out socialising, and a spate of family gatherings she was really hungover (physically sick) at.

Anyways, we went out last night for dinner, she relayed at seperate times that she's drunk too much at some work functions, and has been reminded gently by her boss she's representing the company at them, etc. etc.

Sooooo, I'm guessing there are some warning signs. I see her at the point I was at when my ex was gently trying to suggest I might be drinking too much (I do know her partner has spoken to her about drinking too much at parties sometimes). This has potentially been exacerbated by her Mum passing away also, the whole, "hey my Mum just died, I'm allowed to have a drink about it", attitude.

Here's the clincher. She's now told me she wants to leave her fiancÚ and is attracted to someone else. She's not sure the someone else is long-term, but feels her relationship is over with her fiancÚ. This came out after some drinking last night at dinner.

I feel she's about to do what I did. I did caution her, that I regretted leaving my ex. The real topic that needs discussing is perhaps her drinking, but I didn't want to touch on it while she was actually emotional and a bit drunk.

She kept pushing me to suggest what she should do, leave or stay, and of course I said that is her decision and suggested counselling etc, etc.

But guys....it's probably the drinking, yes? That's the root cause? I don't think I'm projecting, but my kids have told me of a few episodes where she's out and drinks a little too much too.

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Its sounds like its the drinking. I hope she can evaluate what her deep rooted problems are and go from there. We reach those moments when things arent working. Do we stay stagnant or take action? Thats one of the most confusing parts of life. Because then we second guess. I try to make the best decision I can with the information I have at the time. We can only learn and move on. I wish you both well. I think win the award with the best generic answer but thats all i got
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Old 11-28-2015, 09:28 AM
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Originally Posted by Croissant View Post

She kept pushing me to suggest what she should do, leave or stay, and of course I said that is her decision and suggested counselling etc, etc.

But guys....it's probably the drinking, yes? That's the root cause? I don't think I'm projecting, but my kids have told me of a few episodes where she's out and drinks a little too much too.

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Yes.
It's not fair of her to ask what she should do.
Perhaps her question would be best answered by sober thought, than just taking a poll of what others think.
Some of the biggest mistakes in life are made by actions done while under the influence.
In the end, whatever decision she makes, she'll have to live with.
And anytime alcohol is involved, that equals a very slippery slope.
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Old 11-28-2015, 09:32 AM
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Hey everybody, happy Sat here in the U.S.
I'm watching a marathon of Rocky movies as it's raining outside right now.
Suppose to clear up later.
I hope to take the pup for a walk later on.
Think I'll go make a turkey sandwich.
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Thanks letitgo...no, not generic at all! Thank you. That's kind of what I said to her, every big decision is hard like that, and you are always going to think "what if" you'd made the other choice. Not as a regret, necessarily, but life-changing choices always involve a "what if".

I also said relationships are hard, they have peaks and troughs.

Bob...oh yeah, I'm hearing you. I think because she had had a few drinks she didn't realise she was on repeat with the, "what should I do". I was pretty blunt at times (gently) and said it sounded like she'd already made up her mind. Which I do believe. I haven't really spent a lot of time with her partner because I've been away, so even if my opinion did matter, I don't have one in that regard. And I'd never flat out tell someone to leave a serious relationship, it's simply not my place - unless there was abuse of course.

Thanks so much guys. I think I will try and grab her after work this week and see if I can gently broach her drinking with her and the impact it may be having on her choices.
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Old 11-28-2015, 01:52 PM
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& good morning to the Australian contingent of the Julyers

Bob I loved all the rocky films esp the sixth have you heard about the spin off 'Creed' ? here's the trailer I can't wait for this expected very soon

https://youtu.be/Uv554B7YHk4
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Old 11-28-2015, 03:03 PM
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Congrats on 28 months Bob

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Old 11-28-2015, 04:55 PM
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Originally Posted by Croissant View Post
Bob...oh yeah, I'm hearing you. I think because she had had a few drinks she didn't realise she was on repeat with the, "what should I do". I was pretty blunt at times (gently) and said it sounded like she'd already made up her mind. Which I do believe. I haven't really spent a lot of time with her partner because I've been away, so even if my opinion did matter, I don't have one in that regard. And I'd never flat out tell someone to leave a serious relationship, it's simply not my place - unless there was abuse of course.

Thanks so much guys. I think I will try and grab her after work this week and see if I can gently broach her drinking with her and the impact it may be having on her choices.
I think no matter what happens she knows that you are a loving sister. I guess in many ways we have gained a sixth sense.
As you can see happening with your sister. I can see people in my life that still partake in drinking having issues they blame on everything else....but that darn drink.
I was amazed at how I drank because of so many worries and disappointments, only to find out that the drinking created a BIGGER allusion of my problems.

Glad you trust us enough to give you advice, Crois.
All of you are like brothers and sisters to me.
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Old 11-28-2015, 05:01 PM
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Croiss

& good morning to the Australian contingent of the Julyers

Bob I loved all the rocky films esp the sixth have you heard about the spin off 'Creed' ? here's the trailer I can't wait for this expected very soon

https://youtu.be/Uv554B7YHk4
I actually liked the first and second one. Placed in the late 70s first Rocky was 1976.
The gritty streets of Philly and the story of the underdog.
Even Pauly and his alcoholism. Adrian being so shy.
There's a lot to the movies.

I have heard that Creed is very good.Looks good.
How true is that the toughest opponent you'll ever face is the person in the mirror?
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Old 11-28-2015, 05:15 PM
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Hi Bob

I love rocky films I think the first boxing film I ever saw was 'The Champ' with Jon Voight I loved that movie I bet that could still bring a tear to my eye

Creed looks good its already released in the US & UK I think the 25th I havnt seen no adverts though

And tonight Tyson Fury caused a massive upset against Vladimir klitchko I didn't see it but it sent shockwaves across the boxing world there will be a rematch for sure
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I'm more of pulling for the underdog type of movie guy,SW.
And I must admit, kind of nostalgic about the cars in the older movies.
That black 1976 Pontiac Trans Am in the second Rocky was sweet.
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I love a underdog too Bob have you seen Cinderella man based on James Braddock I love that movie & it really happened
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Going to hit the sack staying up will only drain me

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Old 11-28-2015, 06:42 PM
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Sweet dreams, SW.
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enjoy your turkey sammich Bob.

Whatever advice you give this woman Crois , she's a lucky girl. Trust your instincts , you have helped me many a time x
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Old 11-28-2015, 08:09 PM
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