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Old 11-19-2015, 04:51 AM
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Phew! Close call, Mark! I'm glad the tornados stayed away. We had the same around here two days ago. But it's been gorgeous since.

(((Briar))) when do you see the specialist? And good luck with the strike. 7 years IS a long time. I'll be thinking of you.

This has been the busiest couple of days EVER. And tonight will be more of the same I think. We finally got Cowboy and Jr.'s suits for the wedding. It's in just three weeks! And I've been packing, tossing, moving, shuffling any chance I get. Now I'm looking forward to a few days off next week... They can't come fast enough. Lol

Have a great day everyone!


Oh! My vote is for cases of seltzer. I don't mind the grocery store brand cans and usually see them on sale for $2. Love the stuff!
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Old 11-19-2015, 06:33 AM
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Three weeks, Conquest!!!!!!! I am getting so excited for you.
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Old 11-19-2015, 06:34 AM
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Happy Thursday, Octsobers.

Have a great day.
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I can't believe it's only three weeks away, Conquest! So exciting!

I'm not much for soda myself, but I agree with Conquest on the cheap cans of seltzer (I get them from Safeway). I keep a case in the garage for company.

I haven't agreed to see the specialist yet. I still feel like I can kick this on my own...stupid maybe. Denial maybe.
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Old 11-19-2015, 06:50 AM
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Good morning, Briar!!!!!
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Old 11-19-2015, 07:07 AM
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Three weeks is close! Will y'all travel afterwards Conquest?
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Old 11-19-2015, 07:33 AM
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Morning guys. Getting so close Conquest! Very exciting times.

Id probably take your therapists advice Briar. If he/she recommended you see someone why not do that? It didn't work alone with alcohol why would it work alone now? I think you've gotten the attention your seeking so please help yourself. :hugs:
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Old 11-19-2015, 07:46 AM
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Good morning folks.

Conquest, how exciting! Busy, I know, but very exciting. So happy for you.

Briar, what's to lose by trying the professional? You've done pretty well after some professional help, right? I don't know what is the deeper issue, but I personally have a lot of control issues, but have come a long way with that. It is based in anxiety for me. But when my kids were very young, it was a rough time for me. It was when my drinking escalated dramatically. I had terrible anxiety, and was falling apart. My tidy little life was now run by the kids and my ailing father and my husband traveled so much. I had never realized all the little strategies I had in place to feel comfortable in life. I do think I have somehow learned to roll with it so much better, but I have more time to balance things. I do not have to juggle my career with it all. So, there is a huge and equal pull to all the rest. You have to put you first. You have done this before, with your rehab, and you can continue on with it. You are awesome and so strong.

I am not saying I have it all together now, because I don't! But I did have a lot of help at that time from my husband, when he was here, and a psychiatrist, and some meds, and my regular doctor. But ultimately, I had to let a lot go. So hard. But I just don't do everything I think I should do, or what others think I should do. I do what I can right now. Still trying to make progress. I think I have bounced too far in the "all about me" direction, and I need to get back to center with reaching outside of myself. I have sort of isolated and licked my wounds for awhile now. But taking care of myself needs to always be ahead of everything if I want to be there for the other people in my life.

Let the house be messy, let your dd have a bowl of cereal or oatmeal for dinner once in awhile. It will all be okay. They don't die from wearing mismatched or second day clothing either when life is insane.

Of course, now I have to go clean my messy house... But I know you can do this. You inspire me to be a better person because of your strength and drive.
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Old 11-19-2015, 07:58 AM
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Originally Posted by phoebe64 View Post

Let the house be messy, let your dd have a bowl of cereal or oatmeal for dinner once in awhile. It will all be okay. They don't die from wearing mismatched or second day clothing either when life is insane.

Of course, now I have to go clean my messy house... But I know you can do this. You inspire me to be a better person because of your strength and drive.
I totally agree. Don't sweat the small stuff (and, in the total scheme of life, housecleaning is very minor; there were times that if I had a clean bathroom and a clean kitchen, I was GOLDEN). A lot of things can be pushed to the side so that you can take care of yourself and enjoy the people around you.
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Old 11-19-2015, 01:04 PM
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Morning guys. Getting so close Conquest! Very exciting times.

Id probably take your therapists advice Briar. If he/she recommended you see someone why not do that? It didn't work alone with alcohol why would it work alone now? I think you've gotten the attention your seeking so please help yourself. :hugs:
Good morning lovely people!

Arbor said exactly what I was thinking, so I am being lazy.

(I don't drink any carbonated drinks at all...water, coffee...no smoothies or anything like that because I'm fructose intolerant).
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Old 11-19-2015, 01:06 PM
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phoebe ~ you are wonderful, and I haven't told you that for ages.
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Old 11-19-2015, 01:09 PM
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Hi, venuscat!!!!!
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Old 11-19-2015, 01:13 PM
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I was just writing you a message Leigh!! LOL!
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Old 11-19-2015, 02:15 PM
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Hi Venus, thank you! I am so glad somebody in this world thinks I am wonderful!!

And of course you are pretty amazing yourself!

Ugh, my AV is wide awake. Thursday evenings begin my biggest hurdles for the weekend. Just putting it out there. Been "dieting" pretty carefully this week, and that low carb hunger really contributes, but I really need to drop some weight I slowly gained over the last year or two.
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Ugh, my AV is wide awake. Thursday evenings begin my biggest hurdles for the weekend. Just putting it out there.
Me too phoebe.

I was thinking about the weekend issue re drinking for me, and I came up with something new last night. I get jealous of all of the people around me "partying". I have known that for a long time. But last night I realised that it isn't the drinking that I am jealous of...and it isn't the partying with friends thing that I want...

What drives me crazy and has for months and months now (but I didn't realise) is that I am completely furious that 'everyone' around me is happy. And that's not who I am....so I have been twisting myself into a knot.

Time to let go of the tough bits of this past year, the parts that have kept me angry and hurting. I give myself permission to be happy now. I have some work to do...pounds to lose and fitness to get back...that's OK.

Ramble over.
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Sometimes it's hard to watch the world spin merrily by while we are sad or lonely or grieving. Often it seems to be spinning so fast that it's difficult to jump back on. Just like recovery from alcoholism, we initially need to take baby steps before we're up and running.
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^^^That is so true, and such wonderful advice.
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Old 11-19-2015, 03:59 PM
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I love your ramble V and am glad you got that out.

Recovery takes a while. A long while. Not to get discouraging, but I totally see that. Just tonight a close friend said he was getting drinks with work people after he got off. My AV kinda went wild for a bit. I didn't like it.

Truth is though that I'm way over that. Have been for years. There's no opportunity there for me. I'm at a different point in my life than him.

Memories can haunt you, but I refuse to let them bring me down (or at least I try!).
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Old 11-19-2015, 04:01 PM
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I am so glad somebody in this world thinks I am wonderful!!
I think you are too Phoebe and am glad your here!
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Arbor, I think both you and Leigh mentioned recently that we are creating new memories now...
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