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Old 11-13-2015, 12:12 AM
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Morning, guys! We are closing in on the best, but most dangerous part of the week! So we must be smart and tactical here and make plans.

Tonight I will meet my sister who is just in town for the night and she has an early train to catch, so no drinking. I've made plans saturday morning to pick up my friend early and go looking for furniture for her new flat. Then I've suggested we make dinner together, and I will not go out even if she wants to.

Sunday morning (well morning for me, lunchtime for everyone else...I like to sleep in) I will make plans to have brunch with my mother. In the afternoon I will go to the gym to get ready for a new week.

What are your plans? They may be big or small or anything really...just think through what you think you need to do to get through the weekend sober.

We can do this!
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Old 11-13-2015, 12:32 AM
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Sry never posted yesterday was bz. However it is day 7 for me gotten past the withdrawals and now fighting the cravings but never mind I will keep going.

Hope u all are doing ok and have a good enough weekend x
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Old 11-13-2015, 12:42 AM
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some great milestones here

just keep plugging away day by day - you're not alone - y'all can do this

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Old 11-13-2015, 06:22 AM
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Originally Posted by Dallow View Post
Morning, guys! We are closing in on the best, but most dangerous part of the week! So we must be smart and tactical here and make plans.

Tonight I will meet my sister who is just in town for the night and she has an early train to catch, so no drinking. I've made plans saturday morning to pick up my friend early and go looking for furniture for her new flat. Then I've suggested we make dinner together, and I will not go out even if she wants to.

Sunday morning (well morning for me, lunchtime for everyone else...I like to sleep in) I will make plans to have brunch with my mother. In the afternoon I will go to the gym to get ready for a new week.

What are your plans? They may be big or small or anything really...just think through what you think you need to do to get through the weekend sober.

We can do this!
Dallow, that's a great plan! Keep on it!
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Old 11-13-2015, 06:31 AM
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Yesterday I had 3 drinks, a lot less than I used to, but still I did. I have a feeling I've picked a bad time to do this. I'm about 2 weeks off from when I should have started but I'll keep on lurking and working on not drinking until then. Full time job with milestones at work and un upcoming end of contract, a startup with a deadline in 2 weeks, little kids .. not sleeping and having my mind all-consumed with not drinking and over analysis and planning so I don't drink is a tough task on top of all that.I did not drink for 4 days but I also was unable to do anything else.

I am NOT giving up, but I had to come clean. I am proud of my 4 days and I will continue my journey. Now I know that:
- I don't need alcohol to get energized (one or a combination of working out, water and caffeine works just as well)
- I CAN do sober all the things I've been doing with alcohol (I have 4 days to prove it)
- kids are a big trigger (I need to work on calming myself down and reacting less; I need to stop going at 1000 mph around them)
- falling asleep is possible without alcohol (melatonin works well, breathing exercises wok well)

I also found a great community here. I am so proud of everyone and their milestones. You all give me hope not just for sobriety but also for human kind, given how supportive and open everyone is.

xo
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Old 11-13-2015, 06:45 AM
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Oh, and very aptly, my daily quote generator displayed this: “The future depends on what we do in the present.” Gandhi

Hope everyone has a great and easy day!
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Old 11-13-2015, 06:49 AM
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Hi all - day five for me. Just searching for the strength and resolve to get through this weekend...
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Old 11-13-2015, 06:57 AM
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Originally Posted by tootiesdad View Post
Hi all - day five for me. Just searching for the strength and resolve to get through this weekend...
I think Dallow has found the secret sauce. Schedule your every hour, get some goals going (finish project x, go to park with kids daily from 3-4, etc). Also keep yourself full of water and some simple sugars (juice, dark chocolate, etc).

Congrats on your day 5!

Good luck!
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Old 11-13-2015, 07:41 AM
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Originally Posted by lisa247 View Post
Yesterday I had 3 drinks, a lot less than I used to, but still I did. I have a feeling I've picked a bad time to do this. I'm about 2 weeks off from when I should have started but I'll keep on lurking and working on not drinking until then. Full time job with milestones at work and un upcoming end of contract, a startup with a deadline in 2 weeks, little kids .. not sleeping and having my mind all-consumed with not drinking and over analysis and planning so I don't drink is a tough task on top of all that.I did not drink for 4 days but I also was unable to do anything else.

I am NOT giving up, but I had to come clean. I am proud of my 4 days and I will continue my journey. Now I know that:
- I don't need alcohol to get energized (one or a combination of working out, water and caffeine works just as well)
- I CAN do sober all the things I've been doing with alcohol (I have 4 days to prove it)
- kids are a big trigger (I need to work on calming myself down and reacting less; I need to stop going at 1000 mph around them)
- falling asleep is possible without alcohol (melatonin works well, breathing exercises wok well)

I also found a great community here. I am so proud of everyone and their milestones. You all give me hope not just for sobriety but also for human kind, given how supportive and open everyone is.

xo
Lisa, it’s always good to admit. You took the sobriety challenge during tough times, and each day you succeed in such tough environment is a bigger victory over alcohol. All jobs / tasks are completely better under sobriety than under influence, and you already know that.
I am not as successful as many on this forum, but I have been trying harder every day since last Nov. I have been able to manage 15, 30, 45, 55 days few times in the last year, but then I would get into small periods of starting and then stopping. During days when I would drink it would be way - way less than in the past. But each time I missed, meant another day 1. Had more non-alcohol days this past year and I am proud of it.
During the sober days, I have been a better father, husband, an employee, a better person in general. I have felt healthier, slept better and more energized. And this better feeling is what keeps encouraging me to quit forever. Hoping someday I can have 3 months, then 6 months and then years. I will keep trying.
Don’t be disheartened, just keep trying. You have already seen the beauty of sobreity in just 4 days. Having a plan really helps. I slip only when I do not have a plan. There are some exercises and practices followed by many. Read their plan and approaches e.g. Dallow posted one for the weekend. Dee has something called urge surfing.
My plan for the weekend: after work today, play some tennis and a good nice dinner with family at home, with my choice of drink – Perrier Water. Tomorrow, some gym or tennis in the morning. Burgers for my boys for lunch, choice of drink ginger ale. Go out to a mall or pick another activity but away from home, choice of drink will be coffee. Sunday, groceries, cook for the week while watching football choice of drink some kind of smoothie, and hopefully weekend cleaning.
Hope you have a good weekend.
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Old 11-13-2015, 07:46 AM
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Hi friends, I am just checking in. Great idea planning the weekend Dallow! Lisa...don't worry; just pick yourself up & try to stay sober today. We all only have today anyway. I relate to the craziness of life with kids, job etc by the way. Maybe try to add a treat for yourself each day (that's not alcohol). ;-)

Sooooooo...here's where I am this morning: I am supposed to meet my sponsor at a meeting in a few hours & run a few errands and I am literally SCARED to leave my house because I'm afraid I will have a bad craving and anxiety attack and pull into the store for alcohol!!! I really want to go to the meeting but I feel so powerless and TERRIFIED over those cravings.

When I get one of those horrible craving I literally feel like someone or something is taking over my body and mind and forcing me to drink! Sound familiar??? All rational thoughts go out the window! It's true craziness!!!

I pray for another day of sobriety. God help me.
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Old 11-13-2015, 07:58 AM
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Kiki, hang in there! Glad you are here posting. Try to surf all the way through those urges: your AV may scream at you "Drink!!! Buy alcohol!!!!" but continue that thought through. Then what will happen when you do that? You'll drink it, perhaps feel buzzed/numb, but then you'll feel guilt. You'll know that you don't want to be drinking. Then you'll wake up tomorrow with a hangover, anxiety, guilt, you name it. That is what drinking will do and that's where it will take you. Focus on that. I hope you are able to get out to see your sponsor, but if you can't, are you able to call them? You can make it through this! It will get better.

No alcohol for me today. I'm at work, then an eye appointment, then home with Netflix and herbal tea. Take care, All!
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Old 11-13-2015, 08:17 AM
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Day13

Thanks Dee for the urge surfing articles,it sent me off on hours of reading.Get comfortable in the uncomfortable!

I think having plans for this weekend is a great idea...but dont be afraid to let go of plans and just chill.I think in early sobriety our energy levels are all over the map.

Hope everyone has a great and sober weekend!!!!!Cheers!!!!
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Old 11-13-2015, 08:47 AM
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Kiki, hang in there! Glad you are here posting. Try to surf all the way through those urges: your AV may scream at you "Drink!!! Buy alcohol!!!!" but continue that thought through. Then what will happen when you do that? You'll drink it, perhaps feel buzzed/numb, but then you'll feel guilt. You'll know that you don't want to be drinking. Then you'll wake up tomorrow with a hangover, anxiety, guilt, you name it. That is what drinking will do and that's where it will take you. Focus on that. I hope you are able to get out to see your sponsor, but if you can't, are you able to call them? You can make it through this! It will get better. No alcohol for me today. I'm at work, then an eye appointment, then home with Netflix and herbal tea. Take care, All!
Thanks SwimKim, your post really helped me! I've decided I am going to the meeting and nothing can "get me". I have this fear that alcohol has the ability to MAKE me drink it. Really crazy, huh? Here I go...I'm leaving my house as soon as I'm done typing this! Thanks and good luck to luck everyone!!!
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Old 11-13-2015, 09:08 AM
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Hey class first time I've had a chance to check in, I'm at work and I'm having fun passing out bonus checks to 90 employees.

It's Friday afternoon here, trying to fully plan the weekend but the man has thrown a wrench into it so working on plan b. I so enjoy my weekend nights out either having dinner and/or listening to live local music and drinking. Ugh. This is going to be a huge challenge for me.

Hang tight everyone. Don't have time to address each of you, work is cookoo today!
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Old 11-13-2015, 09:38 AM
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Checking in on day 14. Feeling pretty good!
Have a great weekend guys!
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Old 11-13-2015, 09:57 AM
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Posted this in another thread and looks like it needs to go here too!

Hang in there guys..you can do it! It's so hard but you got to fight with the devil to save yourself. You gotta want it so bad that nothing, and I mean nothing, is going to take it away. There's no way I'm giving in and going through AGAIN what I've been through thus far. No way in hell!
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Old 11-13-2015, 10:12 AM
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Good morning all! I'm at 20 days today. A couple of weeks ago, I was feeling great and clear headed.

Lately though, I'm feeling exhausted. I haven't been sleeping well and I don't seem to have the energy to do anything. ( Though it could be my depression talking.) I feel like crying all the time.

The good thing though is that I've come to realize what this "surrender" thing is that everyone talks about. It was so exhausting to constantly be thinking about alcohol day in and day out.

In the past, I realized that I had a huge problem with drinking but thought that I could fix it. I can't count the number of times that I decided I would cut back or try to not drink at all.

This time feels different. I realize now that I can't fix it. I have tried, I have given it my best, and I have failed every single time. I will never be able drink like a normal person. Alcohol will always lead me down a dark path of destruction.

With this surrender comes a sense of calmness and relief. I refuse to listen to my AV. I will not fail myself this time. I can't.

I hope you all are staying strong. Be proud of what you're trying to do for yourselves! Weekends are tough, but you guys can get through it!
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Have a happy safe and mindful Friday everyone : )
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Old 11-13-2015, 10:51 AM
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Geeze!!! I was doing fine & the second I pulled into the parking lot of the AA meeting I had a massive craving & anxiety attack. I forced myself to walk into the meeting, sat down, started taking deep breaths & praying. I'm sitting in here now and I'm feeling a little better. God please help me stay sober today...please....

I am terrified of alcohol!
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((Kiki)) surf through it...it'll be ok..stay strong!
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