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Old 11-08-2015, 09:11 AM
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Cycling

I just got back from a one hour cycling class at the Y. What an intense aerobic workout that is! I used to be a big cycler. It was a good way to get over a hangover in college, but that was over 35 years ago. This was the second class I've done in 4 years. Wasn't sure I was going to make it, but I did.

How's everyone else doing on this Sun?
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Old 11-08-2015, 09:41 AM
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Doing well over here. Enjoying the day with my wife and kids over at my parents house. The sun is out and the weather so nice for November.

Hope everyone has great rest of the weekend.
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Old 11-08-2015, 11:27 AM
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Hey Arbor, if you want to answer where in New England do you live? I grew up in Manchester, MA. My family moved away the summer I graduated from high school. Still miss the ocean and the mountains.
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Old 11-08-2015, 11:56 AM
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I'm in CT, Fairfield county jd. I have family in MA as well and went to school at UNH. Love it up there farther north. Different way of life for sure.
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Old 11-08-2015, 12:09 PM
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I'm from Massachusetts, too. Go Patriots!! (though I've been in the DC area for 25 years now )
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Old 11-08-2015, 11:05 PM
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You guys are doing really great...

Ok I'm back, day 1, thanks for the support, do my "moderation" idea of 1 bottle of wine a week (all being drunk on a Saturday night) failed spectacularly.

I've just drunk 6 bottles of wine in 5 nights. I've been pouring them into plastic water bottles and then driving out to dump the glass bottles so my husband wouldn't see the empties. I've been sneaking drinks from them in the hall, the kitchen, before tea, whilst cooking, it has truly been horrible alcoholic behaviour.

I've woken up every day to horrible feelings of dread as I realise what I did the night before...

I've dashed downstairs to clear up any evidence of the previous nights drinking.

Thank god the wine is finished, I'm done, I'm going to do this...
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Old 11-09-2015, 03:29 AM
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Foreverfuzzy - I'm sorry you're going through it again. Just concentrate on getting through the next few days and those feelings of shame and guilt will fade enough for you to face everything else.

I'm actually pretty good today. I have not drank and not really wanted to. I'm struggling to keep with the healthy eating though. I ate so much chocolate over the weekend. I'm almost feeling the same feelings of shame as I did with drinking but of course I've not affected anyone else. I went to the gym on friday morning and for the first time in ages had a really good session and felt great after. I need to get back into the routine of that! It's difficult though I'm so busy with work and the family especially with Christmas coming up it's hard to find a regular time. It doesn't help it getting dark so early. I'm going to try and go tonight though.

It was bonfire night here last week. We have always gone to a local firework display and in the past I have gone but been consumed with guilt about a recent binge or hungover from one - that's if I didn't miss it completely. My drinking has been much better the last few years (since my middle son was born) and I haven't missed a single one but going always brought back those painful emotions. This year was the first year I didn't have the flashbacks and bloody awful memories. It felt good just feeling like I was normal. I've come so far from those days when my drinking was really bad - I know I still have the odd binge now and again but back then it was a regular thing and I didn't go through a week without getting hammered and those weekend binges once a month or so would spill over into the week threatening my job. It made me think that although now I'm struggling with my weight and I can't imagine giving up my comfort foods, at one time I couldn't imagine going through a weekend without drinking and now I hardly think of it at all.

On that note I'm getting back to work. I'm pretty busy at the moment which is really good although my OH still isn't earning which puts a massive strain on things.

Have a lovely week everyone
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Old 11-09-2015, 04:52 AM
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Great to see you back here foreverfuzzy. You can do this!
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Old 11-09-2015, 05:51 AM
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Hey guys! (Hug) to you all!
I am glad to report I am finally feeling happy and whole again. Had a nice weekend with my husband and I needed it. Now my cup is full! Glad to see you all checking in..me N Arbor we wondering where everyone had went!
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Old 11-09-2015, 01:26 PM
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Glad things are good again Key

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Old 11-11-2015, 05:26 AM
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Well, gosh, I could hardly find the thread so let's bump it up. Still doing well. Today is day 59. Real close to another milestone.
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Old 11-11-2015, 05:33 AM
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You are close jd! Awesome work my friend. I'll be two months this Saturday as well. I really have no urges to drink, but I do find myself wanting a break of some sort. I feel like I'm always "on" if that makes any sense. That's the reality though when you have two kids, a wife, and a full time job.
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Old 11-11-2015, 05:55 AM
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That's great Arbor. When you say you feel always "on" and would like a break I'm hearing that you want a break from life? And you used to get that by drinking? I get that. I used to take a "break" everyday after work. Didn't do my wife and stepson any good. I'm really enjoying the sober life. But it doesn't make the stress of life go away. I'm learning, slowly, better ways to deal with that stress. I do have to say that so far the urge to drink has been minimal. It just isn't going to make my life any better.
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Old 11-11-2015, 06:00 AM
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Yes a break from life. I was a daily drinker too. That was what I considered my break or reward. Silly. Anyways, my kids are very little so there's so much hands on stuff right now. Would love to have some alone time to do something creative or just have dinner out with the wife.
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Old 11-11-2015, 07:08 AM
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Checking in! In. Training session fur work today...bleh! Lol
Seems like everyone is going well! Glad to keep up reading your posts!
I'm doing fine just plugging along! ((Hug))!
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Old 11-11-2015, 07:44 AM
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Yes a break from life. I was a daily drinker too. That was what I considered my break or reward. Silly. Anyways, my kids are very little so there's so much hands on stuff right now. Would love to have some alone time to do something creative or just have dinner out with the wife.
I remember those days. I have two daughters in their mid 20's from a previous marriage and an 18 year old stepson. So I'm pretty far away from the constant hands on stage. Now I never see them. The time goes by really fast so enjoy it while you can. Time also fads the memory so it's easy for me to say that, lol.
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Old 11-12-2015, 06:12 PM
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Yeah jd. Everyone says that it goes fast and I believe it, really. Hard for me to see that perspective of course when your in the thick of it all.
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Old 11-13-2015, 04:35 AM
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I hear you Arbor. When you look back at time it seemed to have gone so fast. When you're in the thick of it and looking into the future it seems it never gets here.

On a similar note, I got thru day 60 yesterday. It doesn't seem that long ago but it seems it took forever to get here.
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Old 11-13-2015, 07:04 AM
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Congrats on 60 days jd! That's a big deal. How you feeling?
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Old 11-13-2015, 07:27 AM
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Thanks Arbor. I'm feeling really great. I've had good days and bad days. But what I'm really looking forward to and excited about is the ability to work on myself. I've basically had 30 + years of going to work, coming home and drinking. That's not a way to live life.

What I'm working on is loving myself and finding passions in my life. There's been little room to do that in the past. I have no idea where that'll lead at this time but it feels really good just to have the ability to finally do that. So, yeah, I'm pretty excited about the journey I'm on right now.

And you have 60 days coming up this weekend?
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