One Year and Under Club Part 49
 

last part here:

http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...t-48-a-20.html

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Thanks Dee! Morning Undies!:grouphug:

thanks for the new part dee

woops, wrong thread, though no bigy!

keep up the good work unders

Morning all. Happy to be here. So glad ya'll are here, too.

Good morning. I finally got some clarity about the weekends at work. Starting the 24th and 25th of this month I will have off and then I will only have to work every fourth weekend. This is much fairer and I feel much better about that. It was difficult but I should have done this much sooner. I actually had to call the big boss this morning on my day off.to get this whole thing clarified.

Of course This whole thing brought all kinds of urges to get a bottle of wine and slug it down, but I fought it off and am still sober!

I most likely start posting on the weekender thread too now that I have a "real "weekend now LOL!!

I should have a nice day off today and hope everyone has a good day too. You guys are terrific and thanks again for the support and caring .

Hi I when I posted this I saw Dee snuck in a new thread on me and it was on the last thread so I'm copying and pasting it here.

Good morning. I finally got some clarity about the weekends at work. Starting the 24th and 25th of this month I will have off and then I will only have to work every fourth weekend. This is much fairer and I feel much better about that. It was difficult but I should have done this much sooner. I actually had to call the big boss this morning on my day off.to get this whole thing clarified.

Of course This whole thing brought all kinds of urges to get a bottle of wine and slug it down, but I fought it off and am still sober!

I most likely start posting on the weekender thread too now that I have a "real "weekend now LOL!!

I should have a nice day off today and hope everyone has a good day too. You guys are terrific and thanks again for the support and caring .

WTG WW.
I felt the urges when reading that. Wish I could find courage as easily available with booze. But without all the consequences that follow it.

Happy to hear that, WWS! It goes to show that sometimes we have more power over our lives than we think we did. Good for resisting the expected urges!

Have a great weekend everyone

Wayward - Well done for achieving your goal. You decided what you wanted, constructed a reasoned case and persuaded who you needed to agree to your plan. Fantastic!

And even better you dodged the expected curve ball from your AV telling you to celebrate with booze. That is huge.

Finally, you are already revising your plan for how to deal with these hard won weekends.

You are my inspiration for today as I implement my own mini plan to protect my sobriety this weekend.

It is spring time in this part of the world, and I am 18 weeks sober today. Thanks everyone. Each and every post I read helps me stay sober and happy.

Go well, friends

Fradley.

Fradley hahahahahahaha I am sorry for laughing but I just saw the bottom of your post and think your auto correct had the last laugh on you!!!! Hahaha :)

Have a great day everyone :grouphug:

Toots - yay - you are my favorite audience !

That was done on purpose. It took me three attempts on this phone to get it right. Ironically auto-correct refused to allow "auto carrot" , despite happily transforming every other word I write!

Morning good to see everyone! Made it through one wedding celebration night. Onto another one tonight. This will be the extra tough one tonight. Please pray for me. Have a wonderful day!

Well done Key!

Have an exit plan and don't be afraid to use it if you need to.

Best wishes

Fradley

Good morning everyone. It is back to work today but I'm going to the gym first. I do feel much calmer and better about going to work today.

Congratulations on 18 weeks Fradley . Staying sober that long is the inspiration for me!

You can get through it Key!!! Have fun tonight and stay sober!

Hey guys! Lost sight of you there for a little while with the new thread. Hope you're all having a good sober weekend!

Key good job getting thru the first event sober!

Wayward have a nice day at wompland.

Another day of womp for me then the next 2 days off. Back to my reg schedule now if no more womp on Mondays finally. That was really wearing my out

My dads coming over tonight to help me put together some shelves for the garage to organize some stuff. I want to just get off work and sleep but it's something he's wanted to come over and do for awhile now so finally just getting it over with.

I've felt a little down the past few days and just want some alone time at home. Looking forward to relaxing tomorrow and Monday.

BF, I hope you feel more chipper very soon (((hugs)))!

I have just told a good (old) friend that I will not see him while he is visiting.

Basically I am giving my sobriety priority at the real risk of losing a friend.

It is the right thing to do but I feel awful about doing it. I've obsessed about it all day.

The full story is in newcomer threads - "Help me avoid a potential 'wobble'" or something like that

This, on top of my first visit to AA last week, has left me emotionally drained.

Very hollow - almost grieving.

I think the potential change in relationship with this friend, together with the hopefully permanent change in relationship with my addiction, is making me realise that I am probably going to have to deal with a lot more of this sort of thing going forward.

I am so pleased I went to AA last week, and in a way pleased that I delayed going until I was certain I needed additional help.

Quite a week. - Thank you again.


Key of C - I'm rooting for you, keep checking in.

Wayward, BF - Loving the way you are digging in and protecting your sobriety :)

Amp - Good to see you checking in and tx for support - I keep forgetting to ask - has your music mojo returned yet ?

Fradley....you are really doing what it takes. Good for you. Sometimes we have to make difficult decisions. There just comes a point when we need to be #1 in our lives. We should be the most important person we know and we should do what's necessary to promote ourselves and live to our full potential.

It's not always easy at first. But in the long run, we'll be better off for it.

And of course you already know a good friend will be there for you.

You're doing an awesome job man. Really taking this seriously. After all, it IS a serious matter. IDK about you, but I've spent much of my life falling short of my full potential. I've held myself back from what could have been an awesome life so far. Lots of poor decisions and not following through.

No more.



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Fradley, I think your current situation is all about changes. This is a key point where you make value judgments about where in your priority list sobriety truly is. It sounds like you have wrestled with it and have conquered this one This will likely not be the last challenge you face but it is a giant step. I hope you keep getting the support you need as you figure out what you need to do and decide in order to be the person you want to be.

Have a good night, C! Hope it goes well!

I'm feeling a bit off too BF. I used to spend all my time in and around the music scene but now I don't. And, of course, I don't hang out with the guys in the bar anymore. I don't even pick up the phone unless I have to. Feeling kind of anti-social and realising that at the age of 44 I don't have any close friends. I was one of those guys that knew everyone. Turns out I don't really know anyone, but what is strange is that it doesn't bother me. I just want to be on my own. I'm not especially happy or sad. Just am. That seems like quite enough to be going on with.

Maybe there is a bit of adjustment going on here. Coming up to 6 months which feels like a proper amount of time. Maybe I'm just finding my feet now?

Had a weird drinking dream last night in which I got drunk on cider (a drink I've never much liked) except I only had one small bottle, but everyone assumed I was wasted and I managed to alienate everybody and cause a big scene. It was wierd. Very relieved to wake up sober and find out it wasn't real.

Anyway, sorry for just banging on like this. It's good for me though that there is a place like this where I can do that. Thank you all for bearing with me.

Take care!

Amp, we all bang on here :-). We all help each other. At 14 months I'm finally just beginning to feel "emotionally sober". Still changes going on. I'm finding it so helpful to both read and post here. It helps to clarify my thinking. It's a hard but very satisfying journey we are on.

Thanks Saskia ;)

Checking in...

Alcohol free...151 days...cravings are not an issue...they come...but they are not so strong as my desire to be a proud sober man.

Sitting in the Bellagio casino las vegas watching mostly sober people go by...it is only 230 pm...

I might have been buzzed right now....5 months and 1 day ago...

Was explaining to my wife I am different now..she has only known me as a drunk...

Feels like we are better than before...thank God..

In Control, Saskia,

Thank you for the continued encouragement. Focusing on #1 has always been priority #100 for me, and clearly the adjustment will take some getting used to.


Amp, sorry you are feeling flat and i hope it is a temporary thing. Y ou are doing fine and I have been drawing inspiration from your journey, being a couple of months behind you, so to speak.

I'm 48, and lost track of a lot of friends and associates over the last number of years. Part of this was due to moving to another country, leaving a long term career and getting divorced all in a short period ( not all at the same time and only 2 out of 3 were planned :) ).

The point is, while I sometimes reflect on the relatively small number of acquaintances I have, it doesn't bother me so much , as I have learned more about myself and who I really am. It sounds as if you are finding this out too.

Coincidentally, right now I have been preoccupied with which current buddies I shall drift away from as they realise my sobriety is permanent, but these worries are pointless - there is nothing I can do ( apart from hit the bars again ) to change what happens, so I just need to accept it.

It is no bad thing, I think, to have additional time for oneself.

Go well

Fradley.


PS - I have just remembered I deleted my facebook account at age 45.

No. Regrets. Whatsoever :)

Hey D122y,

One five one is a very cool number - congratulations on your achievement !

Midnight here, so I am done - nearly 20 years sinceI was in vegas but I can hear those slot machines right now :)

Congrats, D122y! Glad you are checking in :-)

Way to go, Fradley!

Key, how is it going?