Class of July 2013 Part 23
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Oh the politics of work, Snooz. Again thanks for your post....I needed so much to read another perspective. And yes, I need to leave it all there at work when I leave. I was doing that so well in my old job....I guess again under stress we revert to those bad worrying behaviours.
So back to my own advice too. Get home, have a shower, forget about it. Had a little chat to myself in the shower, lol (haven't done that in aaages!)
I found out for sure today, yes, there is resentment from this person that I'm getting all the attention, training tools etc. that they perhaps never got. I know what I said will get back to her, which was basically, how does persecuting me make it any better? How is it my fault they never got trained? I'm just a new person trying to understand their role. ( And all of this is total bs girly gossip, because if they got their facts straight, I didn't get trained at all. I got thrown a heap of problems and had to get off my butt and go fix them myself.)
See the other thing is, potentially I may have to manage this girl at some point, so I'm on second thought potentially creating a HR rod for my own back later on if I mishandle it. On the other hand, while we are "equals" it might be good to tell her to "back off", because I hold most of the cards as a new person, really. Starting gossip and being a cow on her end will not be looked upon favourably.
Hmm, am I thinking about work at home??
Hehe.
Anyway Snooz, just wanted to give your thoughtful response the attention it deserved, because I really appreciated what you said.thank you! Xx
So back to my own advice too. Get home, have a shower, forget about it. Had a little chat to myself in the shower, lol (haven't done that in aaages!)
I found out for sure today, yes, there is resentment from this person that I'm getting all the attention, training tools etc. that they perhaps never got. I know what I said will get back to her, which was basically, how does persecuting me make it any better? How is it my fault they never got trained? I'm just a new person trying to understand their role. ( And all of this is total bs girly gossip, because if they got their facts straight, I didn't get trained at all. I got thrown a heap of problems and had to get off my butt and go fix them myself.)
See the other thing is, potentially I may have to manage this girl at some point, so I'm on second thought potentially creating a HR rod for my own back later on if I mishandle it. On the other hand, while we are "equals" it might be good to tell her to "back off", because I hold most of the cards as a new person, really. Starting gossip and being a cow on her end will not be looked upon favourably.
Hmm, am I thinking about work at home??
Hehe.
Anyway Snooz, just wanted to give your thoughtful response the attention it deserved, because I really appreciated what you said.thank you! Xx
Croissant, and everyone, thanks for the welcome home!
Croissant, it sounds like you're working through this current work stress with aplomb. And why not buy some new shoes! A girl can never have too many pairs!
Croissant, it sounds like you're working through this current work stress with aplomb. And why not buy some new shoes! A girl can never have too many pairs!
Atta girl Crois , priorities very much in order hahaha :-)
Ps , your thinking process about her possibly working under you as boss, should keep her on notice. Some people just can't help themselves and don't have the sense to think of what may happen down the track.
I know some very stupid intelligent people. They are great at what they do, but when it comes to being logical with day to day problems & things we see as simple problems, they fail dramatically.
I think you are both intelligent and logical, so you are in a win,win situation in my book.
It is what it is. At the end of the day, it's a job. We do the best we can , but it's not our life.
Stick with this , if she can't learn to work with you or still harbours resentment , it's not going to go favourably for her.
Hang in there kiddo :-)))) ️xxx
Lesharrrrrrr , welcome home lovely xxxx
Hope everyone is doing great :-))))))
Hugs xxxx
Hey my peeps! Hope y'all are doing good. I have been a bit busier at work so it keeps me form posting much. My evenings, when my trucker is home he gets my undivided attention so I don't post much, but I do read up and stay close to you guys..you're so awesome to each other and I do appreciate you letting me intrude into your family...((Hug)) You're so kind and caring...I just like it so much!
PS I am doing well. I don't have issues right now so I just check in to let everyone know I am doing just fine. Working on me, sobriety, and recovery. That's what it's all about...
PS I am doing well. I don't have issues right now so I just check in to let everyone know I am doing just fine. Working on me, sobriety, and recovery. That's what it's all about...
Hey my peeps! Hope y'all are doing good. I have been a bit busier at work so it keeps me form posting much. My evenings, when my trucker is home he gets my undivided attention so I don't post much, but I do read up and stay close to you guys..you're so awesome to each other and I do appreciate you letting me intrude into your family...((Hug)) You're so kind and caring...I just like it so much!
PS I am doing well. I don't have issues right now so I just check in to let everyone know I am doing just fine. Working on me, sobriety, and recovery. That's what it's all about...
PS I am doing well. I don't have issues right now so I just check in to let everyone know I am doing just fine. Working on me, sobriety, and recovery. That's what it's all about...
Leshar I back up Leigh's comments 5000% were family I love all you guys I love Leigh's heart and I love this group this place really is a 2nd home
It's weird for me as when I watched the blind side I resonated with it a lot seriously defensive of family members really untrusting of men etc
And as luck would have it Julyers has a lot of females that I look up to Croiss, Snooz, Leshar, Leigh, Venus, Key, Let
The plus side is I trust men a lil more through D as his example is excellent I think
And Bob helps me with that too hi Bob
I miss Casey a lot I don't know if he reads this and decides not to post or if he's in pain and he don't want to let us in which is fine I just miss his posts its fair to say we all do
Really can't believe what I'm reading in the Alchemist as there is stuff I was looking at & then it came up in the book the emerald tablet being the first thing followed by other things
Reading the epilogue now goodnight Julyers
It's weird for me as when I watched the blind side I resonated with it a lot seriously defensive of family members really untrusting of men etc
And as luck would have it Julyers has a lot of females that I look up to Croiss, Snooz, Leshar, Leigh, Venus, Key, Let
The plus side is I trust men a lil more through D as his example is excellent I think
And Bob helps me with that too hi Bob
I miss Casey a lot I don't know if he reads this and decides not to post or if he's in pain and he don't want to let us in which is fine I just miss his posts its fair to say we all do
Really can't believe what I'm reading in the Alchemist as there is stuff I was looking at & then it came up in the book the emerald tablet being the first thing followed by other things
Reading the epilogue now goodnight Julyers
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